[Omegasquash]

What are you guys doing for first dates that lead to this sex?

Do something social. Interact with their friends as well if you're out as a group, but understand that you're there with that other person and act as such. Confidence, comfort and being positive go a long way.

[Sgt.Pepper]

What this thread is telling me is that I need to step it the fuck up.

[demon]

I've never dated a girl I didn't have sex with the very first night. that's called fancy wordplay!

[Beer Monkey]

I don't believe in dating before sex, period.

The girl I'm seeing right now, our first date was the third time we had sex. The first two times were just hooking up.

Seriously, flip the script. When you meet a girl, instead of making dating her your goal, make sex the goal. Start dating if you are still getting along after hooking up a few times.

[depths20XX]

It's happened on my first night being with a girl but I wouldn't call those "dates". Honestly I don't really try for it, and it's not something I go into the date seeking. I really don't go on a lot of first dates though, some one night stands, fuckbuddies, and a few long term relationships, one of which I'm in now. We didn't have sex the first date but it got close.

[SillyEskimo]

Do something social.

This is the complete opposite of me. For a date, I always had 1 on 1 time. Dinner + activity was what I always did. That could be dinner and a movie, dinner and a carnival, dinner and anything. I usually met them at a neutral location. I also invited them back to my apartment to watch a movie. That was my version of "want to come up for a cup of coffee" since I don't drink coffee. Mixing with others is not really my idea of a date. I work better alone.

What worked for me was my sense of humor and I don't look like the elephant man. That's a killer combo in the dating world. Honestly, with most women all you needed was a decent job, your own car, and your own place. That shit is rare, especially for someone in their early 20's and it is an easy set up for the rest of the night. Confidence, the ability to follow and participate in pretty much any conversation with knowledge/enthusiasm, and being able to take charge when required to keep the date flowing. ie: None of that "Where do you want to eat? I don't know, where do you want to eat?" Ask and do, but always have a plan to avoid wishy washiness. I paid for everything, and I was physical when applicable and appropriate (ie: touching her arm, hair, sitting next to her whenever possible). If she was hot, I would let her know it. I was always open and honest, even when it was against the dating handbook. That ensured I was always striving for my best match, not trying to fit into someone else's ideals. read that body language. Make her genuinely laugh early and often. Eventually, my reward was my wife.

[kittens]

I've had sex on the first date twice. The sex was okay, but the relationships ended up being brief and turbulent. Those two things don't necessarily correlate, though.

[Bebpo]

Depends on the date imo.

If it's a coffee date...no. But I find those are usually awkward and don't lead to anything.

If it's a social evening date (aka, a concert, a dinner, a bar, the beach at night, icecream), if there's chemistry you tend to end up making out and more often than not in certain areas of the country that leads to sleeping together.

For me, about half the girls I've slept with on the first date have ended up in a continued relationship. Whereas about 5% of the girls I've not slept with on the first date have ended up in a continued relationship. If you have sex, it means that at least there's something compelling about this other person, even if it's just physical; whereas if you have a non-sex date you might not find anything compelling about the person at all.


I find it also depends A LOT on the other person. If they think they might want to have sex with you on the first date if things go well, they'll do an evening date that may lead to that. If they are the kind of person that wants to wait, they'll tend to push a daytime date like coffee for the first date. I find you can usually get a good vibe from the other person when setting up the date as to which they prefer and what kind of personality they have.


But I also agree with people who wait, because most of the relationships I've had that started with sex don't last that long as after a few months we/I realize there's no interest between us besides physical fun and that gets boring after a month or two.

[Esiquio]

Could you imagine a conversation between Dr.Eggman and MrOogieBoogie? It would just be one random question after another until the end of time!!!!!!

I used to have the one, but you know how it goes One day you're Dr Eggman, the next you're balls deep in your cousin

Hahahaha, wow. These are great. Dr. Eggman, c'mon man, you're GAFfing it up a little too much recently, bro.

[Future]

If you kiss at all that first date, it almost always leads to sex if you are generally attracted to each other. Especially the older you are. Everyone hates being frustrated, and in my experience would rather take the chance and have sex right away if the desire is there.

[windz]

Lost virginity when I was 20 - it was sex on the first date. If both parties are all for it - I say go for it. I never go in with the expectation of that happening though.

[Bebpo]

If you kiss at all that first date, it almost always leads to sex if you are generally attracted to each other. Especially the older you are. Everyone hates being frustrated, and in my experience would rather take the chance and have sex right away if the desire is there.

This too. When I was a teenager, I remember people waiting and waiting. My first relationship went 11 months before sex.

When you hit the late 20s and start the 30s though, people are past the stage of putting sex on the pedestal; they've all done it, most of them enjoy it, and hey, life is short, what else are you going to do at night that night? Just be safe and careful and if you like each other, have a good night.

[ReBurn]

People on average fuck like 100 times a year (unless you are in Japan or a Muslim country); so after only 5 yrs it will be 500 times; so if even 5% of them are fuck on the first date, that would amount to 25 times.

100 times in a year? Looking at how often I do it there's someone else out there doing it about 170 times a year.

[Fugu]

Occasionally. In fact, I had sex with the last girl I went on a date with and I don't even know her name. But as a general rule, no, because I usually date people I know and things get uncomfortable fast if you're that guy who wants to get in everyone's pants.

I lost my virginity when I was eighteen. Or nineteen. It was close to my birthday, and I don't remember the date.

[Eggman]

This thread depresses me.

[FStop7]

You guys fuck a lot.

We're not players, we just fuck a lot.

[The Anti-Monitor]

It's not a date if there's no sex.
And lost it at 16.

[TUSR]

"hey you want to go out for coffee now?"

ohhhhhh so thats what a coffee date is...

[Omegasquash]

This is the complete opposite of me. For a date, I always had 1 on 1 time. Dinner + activity was what I always did. That could be dinner and a movie, dinner and a carnival, dinner and anything. I usually met them at a neutral location. I also invited them back to my apartment to watch a movie. That was my version of "want to come up for a cup of coffee" since I don't drink coffee. Mixing with others is not really my idea of a date. I work better alone. What worked for me was my sense of humor and I don't look like the elephant man. That's a killer combo in the dating world. Honestly, with most women all you needed was a decent job, your own car, and your own place. That shit is rare, especially for someone in their early 20's and it is an easy set up for the rest of the night. Confidence, the ability to follow and participate in pretty much any conversation with knowledge/enthusiasm, and being able to take charge when required to keep the date flowing. ie: None of that "Where do you want to eat? I don't know, where do you want to eat?" Ask and do, but always have a plan to avoid wishy washiness. I paid for everything, and I was physical when applicable and appropriate (ie: touching her arm, hair, sitting next to her whenever possible). If she was hot, I would let her know it. I was always open and honest, even when it was against the dating handbook. That ensured I was always striving for my best match, not trying to fit into someone else's ideals. read that body language. Make her genuinely laugh early and often. Eventually, my reward was my wife.

Shit son...I think my game was just better on the social side. The 1:1 always works after the social engagement, but it was always easier to make someone feel a little special around others, win that bout, then really deliver on the 1:1.

And dude yeah...knowing how to make/take jokes is one of the best things you can have. It might even trump looking like the elephant man. I was about 110 lbs when I met my wife...skinny as fuck and damn sure not attractive. Dat sense of humor though (combined with my knowledge of classic rock and love of games)? That was like the Voltron of winning.

[bistromathics]

Not on a date. Fucked my friends mom one day. I was 16. Friend had to leave for baseball practice (coach was his real father), I stayed to finish playing MGS2 at the time. And the mom was being all seductive. All I remember is her ass and getting lost on that tank bunker.

Fuck, best day ever.

[SmackDaddy]

Dat combo of video games and sex. WC3 BJ. That dates my sexcapades pretty hardcore.

It's weird, boning is never on my mind until I hug/kiss them goodbye, then i beat myself up the rest of the night and go through all of the obvious signals they gave me. The first step in recovery is knowing you have a problem though

[SlaughterX]

Every time!

[Moz La Punk]

I don't know, I just like sex more when I'm really into someone, and usually that's not on the first date.

The girl I'm currently with, when we started dating we waited some time. She also wanted that, and I actually respected her for that. I think its classy.

I'm not judging anyone that has sex on the first date, but its not for me and it isn't for the person I'm seeing. So it all works out.

[out0v0rder]

I met her mom on the first date.

[evilromero]

I feel like this is par for the course.

[Truant]

Done it a few times, only really "went for it" once.

Also, 18.

[deejay8595]

I don't believe in dating before sex, period. The girl I'm seeing right now, our first date was the third time we had sex. The first two times were just hooking up. Seriously, flip the script. When you meet a girl, instead of making dating her your goal, make sex the goal. Start dating if you are still getting along after hooking up a few times.

Please...lol

[Soneet]

I'm too emotional involved to ever consider that, thus I only play the dating game, never the flirting game. I also don't know what to do with woman who do play that game, I always make it awkward. I sometimes worry in hindsight if I appear to be gay to them. My goal is waifu.

[deejay8595]

This is the complete opposite of me. For a date, I always had 1 on 1 time. Dinner + activity was what I always did. That could be dinner and a movie, dinner and a carnival, dinner and anything. I usually met them at a neutral location. I also invited them back to my apartment to watch a movie. That was my version of "want to come up for a cup of coffee" since I don't drink coffee. Mixing with others is not really my idea of a date. I work better alone. What worked for me was my sense of humor and I don't look like the elephant man. That's a killer combo in the dating world. Honestly, with most women all you needed was a decent job, your own car, and your own place. That shit is rare, especially for someone in their early 20's and it is an easy set up for the rest of the night. Confidence, the ability to follow and participate in pretty much any conversation with knowledge/enthusiasm, and being able to take charge when required to keep the date flowing. ie: None of that "Where do you want to eat? I don't know, where do you want to eat?" Ask and do, but always have a plan to avoid wishy washiness. I paid for everything, and I was physical when applicable and appropriate (ie: touching her arm, hair, sitting next to her whenever possible). If she was hot, I would let her know it. I was always open and honest, even when it was against the dating handbook. That ensured I was always striving for my best match, not trying to fit into someone else's ideals. read that body language. Make her genuinely laugh early and often. Eventually, my reward was my wife.

Listen to this man Gaf!........

[WyndhamPrice]

I never have on the first date (I probably would, I'm very physical), but I've only had 2 relationships and one of them was 5 years starting at the beginning of high school.

I was 16 the first time.

Since the last relationship ended (back in September) it's been a string of consistently hooking up/sleeping with a few different people which is fun but I do kind of miss being in a real relationship sometimes.

[Beer Monkey]

Please...lol

Laugh if you want. This shit works.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=snW8gtuTLZI

[nel e nel]

People on average fuck like 100 times a year (unless you are in Japan or a Muslim country); so after only 5 yrs it will be 500 times; so if even 5% of them are fuck on the first date, that would amount to 25 times.

Try not talking out of your ass:

http://www.kinseyinstitute.org/resou...html#frequency

[dark_chris]

I almost all the time get sex on the second date.
All the other times vary.

[Rash]

I think going for it on the first date is a questionable move if you want to be in a meaningful relationship. Seems much more appropriate to take things really slow and develop an emotional connection first, so sex is passionate and emotionally (as well as physically) satisfying. Sex on the first date, to me, sounds forced and animalistic; I can't imagine most "first date" encounters to end well since intercourse is not the best foundation for a loving relationship.

If you're just in it for sexual stimulation and nothing more, I guess there isn't an issue.

Lost it at 21.

[Tenks]

I have but the issue is you pretty much have to wrap up. Most times I can give myself a better jizz than banging with a condom on.

[Omegasquash]

I think going for it on the first date is a questionable move if you want to be in a meaningful relationship. Seems much more appropriate to take things really slow and develop an emotional connection first, so sex is passionate and emotionally (as well as physically) satisfying. Sex on the first date, to me, sounds forced and animalistic; I can't imagine most "first date" encounters to end well since intercourse is not the best foundation for a loving relationship. Lost it at 21.

Not trying to detract from your values, but sometimes animalistic is fun, especially if you're not looking for a relationship. And if you ARE looking for a relationship, it's one hell of an ice breaker.

[Tenks]

I think going for it on the first date is a questionable move if you want to be in a meaningful relationship. Seems much more appropriate to take things really slow and develop an emotional connection first, so sex is passionate and emotionally (as well as physically) satisfying. Sex on the first date, to me, sounds forced and animalistic; I can't imagine most "first date" encounters to end well since intercourse is not the best foundation for a loving relationship. If you're just in it for sexual stimulation and nothing more, I guess there isn't an issue. Lost it at 21.

[The Anti-Monitor]

Animalistic is the most fun.

[Cubsfan23]

date?

[ChuyMasta]

I wonder how many people in here is willing to share HOW they did it. And I mean real specifics. None of that "we just clicked" "It happened" crap.

Anything from how you said things, where you were and what were you thinking.


It's far more interesting to read those stories than just going through a tally list.

[Boozeroony]

Animalistic is the most fun.

Mad plowing.

[speculawyer]

Most of my dates first dates end in sex.

But not the ones that involve you?

[Cubsfan23]

I wonder how many people in here is willing to share HOW they did it. And I mean real specifics. None of that "we just clicked" "It happened" crap. Anything from how you said things, where you were and what were you thinking. It's far more interesting to read those stories than just going through a tally list.

I showed up.

It's only complicated if you think it is.

[mj1108]

Never on an actual date. The closest was with a woman who I've known online for quite awhile. I was 15 when we first started talking online (she was 18). We kept in touch semi-regularly over the years, but had never actually met...until she happened to fly out here for work for a few days about 5 or 6 years ago. We met up, talked for a couple of hours and she made the move on me. About a year later she came back out here on business again. If she wasn't working we were basically having sex. We still keep in contact here and there as we are on opposite coasts. Last time I talked to her she made it clear she still wants me after all this time. Next year I will have known her online for 20 years.

[GungHo]

Yes. A few times. Including the chick I'm married to. It really doesn't drive how the relationship "goes" unless you get creepy about it.

I wonder how many people in here is willing to share HOW they did it. And I mean real specifics.

Yeah, this is the NeoGAF forums. The Penthouse forums are over there.

[The Anti-Monitor]

I wonder how many people in here is willing to share HOW they did it. And I mean real specifics. None of that "we just clicked" "It happened" crap. Anything from how you said things, where you were and what were you thinking. It's far more interesting to read those stories than just going through a tally list.

"I want to do you in the toilet"

Then again I'm a girl and good looking so it might not be aplicable for everyone.

[Immortal_Daemon]

Lost virginity at 18.

I'm not entirely sure how many girls I've slept with, but all of the sex I've had has been either a one-night stand, or a few-night stand. I've never slept with one girl more than maybe 10 times.


I find that girls who don't put out on the first date make for better girlfriends in the long run.

[Omegasquash]

I wonder how many people in here is willing to share HOW they did it. And I mean real specifics. None of that "we just clicked" "It happened" crap.

We both had a good time together and, being adults, we were sexually attracted to one another. So we fucked. Not going to sit here and say I "tried." All I did was follow signals and return signals. Not saying that it happens on every first date either. Far from it. When it happens though, roll with it.

[Rash]

I understand how being animalistic is "fun." I sometimes let my wild side take over when I have sex with my girlfriend.

There's no problem with having fun. When I think of "first date" I happen to think more of trying to establish an actual caring relationship, to fill an emotional void. But if we're talking sex just for the enjoyment and physical satisfaction of it, I see no issue with trying to make quick work of somebody on day 1. Getting both parties on the same page is the tough part of that approach.

It probably depends on what your definitions of "date" or "dating" are, though. That's all.

[Slayer-33]

What this thread is telling me is that I need to step it the fuck up.

Tell me about it, wtf is the norm? I'm not even sure anymore lol.. Maybe my standards are too damning for my sake.