[Emitan]

I tried eHarmony once (lol) and no one really cared to message me. So I stopped giving them money, haha. DY, good luck with your sister. I hope she'll be okay. :(

I find that hard to believe, beautiful~

[RawPower]

Sure, POF is good if you want to open a gallery of random guys' dicks and stand their manchildren needy attitude. Why didn't you message me, why do you ignore me, where are you, please reply, it's been 20 minutes since you last messaged me! And I found ridiculous it didn't seem to acknowledge bisexual people. OKcupid is far from perfect, but at least someone put some thought into the page.

I'm pretty sure you're going to get that on every dating site, especially OKCupid. In fact, female friends have told me many horror stories about that site. I'll give you the "bisexuality" point though.

[The Anti-Monitor]

I'm pretty sure you're going to get that on every dating site, especially OKCupid. In fact, female friends have told me many horror stories about that site. I'll give you the "bisexuality" point though.

So... You want me to change my personal experience with them or...? I'm recommending based on my experiences, and OKcupid has less people, it's more manageable and I think with all the crap like questions and such she'll have an easier time to use it as a starting point.

[SRG01]

Sure, POF is good if you want to open a gallery of random guys' dicks and stand their manchildren needy attitude. Why didn't you message me, why do you ignore me, where are you, please reply, it's been 20 minutes since you last messaged me! And I found ridiculous it didn't seem to acknowledge bisexual people. OKcupid is far from perfect, but at least someone put some thought into the page.

I can say that both genders are equally messed up on POF. That, and POF is the only site that takes away features and moves them behind a paywall as times goes on.

So... You want me to change my personal experience with them or...? I'm recommending based on my experiences, and OKcupid has less people, it's more manageable and I think with all the crap like questions and such she'll have an easier time to use it as a starting point.

That, and OkCupid tends to be more "open" about the process than POF. I feel like I'm going in blind half the time on POF compared to OkC.

[RawPower]

So... You want me to change my personal experience with them or...?

What? That isn't what I said at all.

I'm recommending based on my experiences, and OKcupid has less people, it's more manageable and I think with all the crap like questions and such she'll have an easier time to use it as a starting point.

Right, and I was giving advice based on the experiences of my friends who had received boatloads of creepy messages there. And I believe this brings us to an impasse.

[Leeness]

You had to pay? I still would suggest OKcupid, at the very least as a mean to boost your confidence. And you can message people too you know :P

Yeh, eHarmony is lame haha. I messaged a couple guys and most ignored me. One, I went for a coffee with and after, he deleted me lol. I must have been super boring.

I might try sometime... Probably want to lose more weight and get a better job first though...

Billie, believe it bb. :p

[Femmeworth]

I tried to go on a date through Okcupid about two years ago. I got stood up. ;_;

[Emitan]

I tried to go on a date through Okcupid about two years ago. I got stood up. ;_;

;~;

That's my biggest fear of dating. That they weren't serious.

[Professor Beef]

I tried to go on a date through Okcupid about two years ago. I got stood up. ;_;

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I actually SAW the person I was going on a blind date with (since we sent each other pictures beforehand), and she kept right on walking. :|

[Emitan]

iknowthatfeel.jpg I actually SAW the person I was going on a blind date with (since we sent each other pictures beforehand), and she kept right on walking. :|

Oh, dear. That's not right :(

[Leeness]

iknowthatfeel.jpg I actually SAW the person I was going on a blind date with (since we sent each other pictures beforehand), and she kept right on walking. :|

WOW. Rude. :(

Sorry for the stand-ups, boos :( <3

[Emitan]

WOW. Rude. :( Sorry for the stand-ups, boos :( <3

So it was YOU!

>:|

[Leeness]

Haha. Aw :(

[BladeWorker]

I tried to go on a date through Okcupid about two years ago. I got stood up. ;_;

Everyone who's tried online dating has at least one horror story. It comes with the territory of actively looking through the giant haystack to find that shiny needle.

[Farooq]

This is random but I need advice from girl-gaf for my sister.

She has someone who has feelings for her, but she clearly doesn't and just wants to remain friends with the guy.

She has already conveyed this to him, but he is not getting the message. My sister is the type of person who has very little experience dating, and is entirely focused on her education (post-grad).

She also has a very hard time telling guys who are interested in her, to back off when she is not interested.

What advice can you give to my sister?

I already told her to be upfront and honest, and she has done that, and the guy is not getting the message. She would like to remain friends with the dude, because she likes to discuss topics dealing with science and she thinks he is nice.

So she wants to avoid cutting off the relationship completely. Personally I don't think it is possible for their friendship to remain intact, so that is why I am asking you guys.

[Femmeworth]

This is random but I need advice from girl-gaf for my sister. She has someone who has feelings for her, but she clearly doesn't and just wants to remain friends with the guy. She has already conveyed this to him, but he is not getting the message. My sister is the type of person who has very little experience dating, and is entirely focused on her education (post-grad). She also has a very hard time telling guys who are interested in her, to back off when she is not interested. What advice can you give to my sister? I already told her to be upfront and honest, and she has done that, and the guy is not getting the message. She would like to remain friends with the dude, because she likes to discuss topics dealing with science and she thinks he is nice. So she wants to avoid cutting off the relationship completely. Personally I don't think it is possible for their friendship to remain intact, so that is why I am asking you guys.

If he hasn't gotten the message by now, she needs to cut him loose.

She would like to remain friends with the dude, because she likes to discuss topics dealing with science and she thinks he is nice.

That's very naive of her.

[Emitan]

Sounds like the problem is with him, not your sister.

If he honestly can't get the message, then he's not going to be content with staying friends.

[timetokill]

She would like to remain friends with the dude, because she likes to discuss topics dealing with science and she thinks he is nice. So she wants to avoid cutting off the relationship completely. Personally I don't think it is possible for their friendship to remain intact, so that is why I am asking you guys.

Not gonna happen. If he's into her, he's into her for the attraction, not for the conversation. I'm gonna guess he's not going to be okay with the "oh, it's cool, I'm super attracted to you but yeah, let's talk about SCIENCE" situation she's hoping for.

She has two options:

a) String him along so that she can get the benefits she wants out of the relationship (talking about science, sharing her feelings). She'll have to deal with constantly having to "reject" him without him thinking he's been rejected. Which honestly doesn't seem like it will be too hard if he hasn't gotten the message so far. Also known as "friendzoning him." She may luck out if he ends up getting attracted to another girl that actually reciprocates, but generally the longer he spends in this mode the more attached he'll get, leading to a painful, messy problem later.

b) Do the right thing, tell him she's not interested and that it would be best if they didn't hang out together anymore. She'll lose a science buddy and it will hurt his feelings, but it will be the best thing to do in the long run.

[Devolution]

I realize we're easy to find here but can any future questions please be in

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=445417

this thread so it gets bumped and this doesn't become the de facto ask girls stuff again.

[Farooq]

I realize we're easy to find here but can any future questions please be in http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=445417 this thread so it gets bumped and this doesn't become the de facto ask girls stuff again.

I apologize, I thought since it was advice for my sister, it would be okay.


Anyway, I will tell her what she needs to hear. Thanks everyone.

[Devolution]

I apologize, I thought since it was advice for my sister, it would be okay. Anyway, I will tell her what she needs to hear. Thanks everyone.

Nah it's cool, I don't mind the sis questions actually. But we're bound to get other kinds of questions is all.

[The Anti-Monitor]

At my cousin's wedding now. Nothing like hearing from all the ultra-conservative family how they want me to get married as soon as possible and leave the "slut-phase" behind.

Can't wait till the part where it's socially acceptable to get drunk.

[DY_nasty]

I thought I was good after I talked to my sister. Then this dude started crying on Skype.

I think... I'm gonna have to **** ***.

[Al-ibn Kermit]

If, like you say, the thing she gets from the relationship is giving pity/sympathy, then it could be a bad idea to get physically involved.

Does the boy have no friends to shame him for acting like such a douche?

[DY_nasty]

I'll just buy her a puppy. She'll forgive me eventually.

[Kazerei]

So ... how did Devo get banned? :(

[Femmeworth]

So ... how did Devo get banned? :(

Probably for something in the "Rape Capital" thread. :\ Hopefully it's not for long.

[Platy]

Her first ban ='/
I knew her since I was a lurker ...

This is history on neogaf !

[Professor Beef]

Her first ban ='/ I knew her since I was a lurker ... This is history on neogaf !

Her first ban? I thought she had been banned before?

[RawPower]

Her ban was probably inevitable. She can be way too aggressive sometimes, even if her reasons for it are perfectly valid. Dealing with ignorant people can seriously fray one's nerves, after a while.

[Femmeworth]

Her first ban? I thought she had been banned before?

I believe she has before.

Her ban was probably inevitable. She can be way too aggressive sometimes, even if her reasons for it are perfectly valid. Dealing with ignorant people can seriously fray one's nerves, after a while.

Definitely. Her ferocity is one of the things I like about her. <3

[RawPower]

I believe she has before. Definitely. Her ferocity is one of the things I like about her. <3

The Israel thread is proof that even I have a little bit of that untamed animal in me. Rawr.

[shanshan310]

Oh no :( Devo...

[RawPower]

Oh no :( Devo...

No worries. I'm sure it isn't permanent.

[XiaNaphryz]

Her first ban? I thought she had been banned before?

She's definitely had her share of bannage in the past.

[Platy]

Her first ban? I thought she had been banned before?

I believe she has before. Definitely. Her ferocity is one of the things I like about her. <3

She's definitely had her share of bannage in the past.

Not what I understood from here

0 bans just means youre boring! I'm sure a lot of people would consider me all kinds of things but not boring.

[RawPower]

Her first ban.....wow.

I haven't been banned yet, but then again I've only been here since late January.

[Femmeworth]

Not what I understood from here

Oh yeah. Well, I guess this post is relevant now. http://neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=473877 Enjoy the outside world for us, Devolution. :(

[Leeness]

Farewell sweet Devo. :(

Return to us soon~~

[RawPower]

Ha, looks like I'm just as insecure as Leeness, judging from how I reacted after posting photos of myself in the Pictures thread.

[Boogie]

Oh no :( Devo...

Took her long enough. Anyway, she can probably be found sticking to just one thread on a spinoff forum...... ;P

edit: saw the post that apparently got her banned. I'm not a fan of Devo, but that's a bullshit reason for a ban, imo.

[Femmeworth]

Took her long enough. Anyway, she can probably be found sticking to just one thread on a spinoff forum...... ;P edit: saw the post that apparently got her banned. I'm not a fan of Devo, but that's a bullshit reason for a ban, imo.

Why would she go post at that dump? :|

[Boogie]

Why would she go post at that dump?

dump?!

You cut us deep, Femmeworth, you cut us deep.... :(

[Femmeworth]

dump?! You cut us deep, Femmeworth, you cut us deep.... :(

Sorry, I'm still bitter over the whole TransGAF incident two years ago.

[Emitan]

NeoGAF >>>>>>>>>> Any forum that's not NeoGAF

[Boogie]

Sorry, I'm still bitter over the whole TransGAF incident two years ago.

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NeoGAF >>>>>>>>>> Any forum that's not NeoGAF

aww, I love this place, but that's cute.

[Femmeworth]

idontknowwhatthatmeans.jpeg

I was wrong, I mixed up that forum with another one.

[RawPower]

Yeah, they're totally jealous of my hair.

[shanshan310]

Yeah, they're totally jealous of my hair.

I'm totally jealous of your hair. Avatar or otherwise.

[Inanna]

Sorry, I'm still bitter over the whole TransGAF incident two years ago.

Yeah, I went there for a bit when GAF was down eons ago, and its just not the same. Tbh, I don't even post on GAF that often and mostly stick to gaming now a days.