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alterno69 · Feb 20, 2012

Hello gaf, i'm 32 and i have a drinking problem.

You might say my drinking habits are quite standard, i drink maybe twice a week at the most, almost never get drunk but hammered enough to behave in a way i normally wouldn't when sober.

Recently, i've been feeling quite bad the next day after having even just a few drinks, not physically but mentally. Like this guilt and regret that what i'm doing is just not right, i don't like the person i become when i drink too much, my wife hates it too.

I've decided that i want to quit drinking, it is something(drinking) that doesn't make me a better person, not drinking will, as it will allow me to be more focused 24/7 in the things that i care about the most which is my wife and children. I think i have the will power to quit it by myself but i'm going to join an AA group anyway or at least give it a shot and see how i feel there, hell i might even help me work on some other issues i have in my life.

So fellow gaffers, anyone here been through this or considering something like this?

jakncoke · Feb 20, 2012

Hell no

Deleted member 22576 · Feb 20, 2012

I've been toying with this as well. Considering what it would be like if I drank one of those spicy hurt your mouth but it feels good ginger brew things everytime I want a drink. I don't know. I've become really obsessive about health and nutrition lately and its really making feel "bad" when I drink.

alterno69 · Feb 20, 2012

I'm not trying to convinve anyone to do the same but i think it'd be fun to think about why we drink, i've realised many times we drink in order to have fun, would you enjoy going out with your friends and not drink? Why is that?

clearacell · Feb 20, 2012

WHAT?!?!?!??!??!

alterno69 said:
I'm not trying to convinve anyone to do the same but i think it'd be fun to think about why we drink, i've realised many times we drink in order to have fun, would you enjoy going out with your friends and not drink? Why is that?

We have fun, but the a a a a a alcohol just makes things funner. Maybe just don't drink as much?

Always-honest · Feb 20, 2012

Ad fundum

Dishwalla · Feb 20, 2012

*Takes sip from beer.

Nah, I'm good. But good luck to you.

ScOULaris · Feb 20, 2012

Nah. Drinking is fun, bruh. I only drink to the point of drunkenness maybe once or twice a month, though. Maybe even less than that, depending on the time of year.

sn00zer · Feb 20, 2012

Drinking relaxes me, get a bit anxious sometimes....I only drink in excess maybe two times a month, and never have more than 2 beers on the weekday

alterno69 · Feb 20, 2012

Like i said, i'm 32, i've been drinking since i was 15, went from getting totally wasted every time i drank to knowing when to stop but still being someone i don't like while drunk.

I think i've had enough.

KingHenrik30 · Feb 20, 2012

Nope.

Kave_Man · Feb 20, 2012

I'll give up this beer when you take it from my cold dead hands!

akira28 · Feb 20, 2012

I support your efforts to change. If you think that you're doing something too much, you might be right.
I'm willing to drink all your booze to assist you in your recovering your life.

lil smoke · Feb 20, 2012

alterno69 said:
I'm not trying to convinve anyone to do the same but i think it'd be fun to think about why we drink, i've realised many times we drink in order to have fun, would you enjoy going out with your friends and not drink? Why is that?

It's more do you drink to have fun, or do you drink to get drunk. Drinking to have fun does not mean that you cannot have fun without drinking, but drinking just to get drunk seems that you may lack the ability to have fun, and maybe trying to avoid that reality.

Imm0rt4l · Feb 20, 2012

I don't have a drinking problem, I drink socially and I'm disciplined enough that I won't drink to get shitfaced unless that's the goal.

Zoramon089 · Feb 20, 2012

Lol no. I'm good

.la1n · Feb 20, 2012

akira28 said:
I support your efforts to change. If you think that you're doing something too much, you might be right.

This.

Count of Monte Sawed-Off · Feb 20, 2012

Bruiserk · Feb 20, 2012

alterno69 said:
I'm not trying to convinve anyone to do the same but i think it'd be fun to think about why we drink, i've realised many times we drink in order to have fun, would you enjoy going out with your friends and not drink? Why is that?

I go out with friends and not drink quite often, most of the time it is because I enjoy being the responsible DD. Within my circle of friends we never turned to drugs or alcohol when the majority of people at our age did because we felt we didn't need it to have a good time.

sinxtanx · Feb 20, 2012

Done!

Granted, I never started, which can be construed as cheating.

smurfx · Feb 20, 2012

here's some advice.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g2jAwiq6YsE

j/k i don't drink or smoke so its never been a problem for me. i've also stopped drinking sodas as well. still addicted to chinese food and ice cream though. -_-

Verelios · Feb 20, 2012

No thanks. Some things can't be helped without a bottle; especially when shit hits the fan.

Kentpaul · Feb 20, 2012

I would give up but the pro's of drinking outweigh the cons.

for example you can't meet up with old friends and get hammered.

just cut back OP or mix/match your drugs of choice.

Kaladin · Feb 20, 2012

I've thought about quitting drinking caffeine or sodas maybe....but alcohol? Fuck that. I need a good buzz every now and then and I'm a mellow drunk.

AbortedWalrusFetus · Feb 20, 2012

If you don't like drinking, and you want to stop, more power to you. Gotta do what you think is best in life.

Anyway, something to consider; moderate drinking is associated with lower cholesterol and longer life expectancy.

ScOULaris · Feb 20, 2012

alterno69 said:
Like i said, i'm 32, i've been drinking since i was 15, went from getting totally wasted every time i drank to knowing when to stop but still being someone i don't like while drunk.

I think i've had enough.

Yeah. If you turn into an a-hole when you're drunk, you should probably stop drinking. You should also look inward to determine what is keeping you from being content and causing you to act negatively when drunk.

Az · Feb 20, 2012

Yea, this is awkward...
*slowly backs out*

Arjen · Feb 20, 2012

Good luck with your goal, but no thanks.
An ice cold beer on a hot summerday is one of the top 5 things in life.

Ferrio · Feb 20, 2012

I got wine waiting for me at home, hellll no.

alphaNoid · Feb 20, 2012

alterno69 said:
Hello gaf, i'm 32 and i have a drinking problem.

You might say my drinking habits are quite standard, i drink maybe twice a week at the most, almost never get drunk but hammered enough to behave in a way i normally wouldn't when sober.

Recently, i've been feeling quite bad the next day after having even just a few drinks, not physically but mentally. Like this guilt and regret that what i'm doing is just not right, i don't like the person i become when i drink too much, my wife hates it too.

I've decided that i want to quit drinking, it is something(drinking) that doesn't make me a better person, not drinking will, as it will allow me to be more focused 24/7 in the things that i care about the most which is my wife and children. I think i have the will power to quit it by myself but i'm going to join an AA group anyway or at least give it a shot and see how i feel there, hell i might even help me work on some other issues i have in my life.

So fellow gaffers, anyone here been through this or considering something like this?

I'm 32 also and feel similar. however I just drink wine now and its awesome. no more beer and occasional liquor when I'm with the boys.

drinking irresponcibly is something I'm leaving behind.

Kave_Man · Feb 20, 2012

alterno69 said:
I'm not trying to convinve anyone to do the same but i think it'd be fun to think about why we drink, i've realised many times we drink in order to have fun, would you enjoy going out with your friends and not drink? Why is that?

Serious answer, I don't drink that much to really need to quit. I have gone months without taking a single sip. I got absolutely hammered and blacked out end of January but before that I can honestly say I haven't been anywhere close to that drunk in years.

I'm usually the DD too. The only time I ever really crave a beer is on a Friday after work if I'm out.

alterno69 · Feb 20, 2012

I never drink to get drunk, it's just second nature with my family and friends, drinks are always implied in the stuff we do to have fun, like i said i'm not a drunk asshole but still.

ChuyMasta · Feb 20, 2012

You are on your own on this one, soldier. I will provide my moral support though. By drinking on your name. Cheers!

You can do it!

Salmonax · Feb 20, 2012

This is a pretty standard early-30s revelation, since hangovers naturally just get worse as your body gets less resilient. It's a pretty great natural governor. I think quitting altogether is a little extreme, but go with what your body is telling you to do.

Amory · Feb 20, 2012

alterno69 said:
almost never get drunk but hammered enough to behave in a way i normally wouldn't when sober.

What? Not drunk but hammered enough to act differently is...drunk.

I just drink beer, mostly. I like the taste more than hard liquor (except a good scotch, of course) and it helps control consumption too. I really should skip out on the beer too for a while though to help lose weight, but ehhh

ivysaur12 · Feb 20, 2012

jakncoke said:
Hell no

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DeathbyVolcano · Feb 20, 2012

Support you a 100%. I'm 22 and it's becoming an issue for me because I just find myself unmotivated during school now.

LeleSocho · Feb 20, 2012

Ok...

....

...Done. I won.

Always-honest · Feb 20, 2012

alterno69 said:
Like i said, i'm 32, i've been drinking since i was 15, went from getting totally wasted every time i drank to knowing when to stop but still being someone i don't like while drunk.

I think i've had enough.

It's you shortassed life man. If you feel bad drinking, stop.

Drinking isn't cool of anything and when you get older, you recovery takes longer. Before you know it you're tired all day.

FanTomasas · Feb 20, 2012

I don't drink but I lack overall motivation.

akira28 · Feb 20, 2012

My family never drinks, except for wine. It'd be weird to see them doing shots. That was always more of a school activity or among friends.

Anyway, I haven't had a beer in 2 months I think. I will go enjoy the high life tonight.

Lord Error · Feb 20, 2012

Considering that very, and I mean very few people I know who have kids, drink enough to get drunk multiple times a week (if your behavior changes, that means you're drunk, don't dance around that) I wouldn't say what you do is standard. It's for the best you decided to change.

umop_3pisdn · Feb 20, 2012

Yeah, I've mostly quit drinking myself (though for spiritual/religious reasons). I'll maybe have a glass of wine with a meal but that's it. I'm 23 though and sometimes I do miss the whole social bonding aspect, but it's not enough of a reason to continue.

Mononofu · Feb 20, 2012

Sorry about your problem but a drink is nice every once and a while. Never been drunk.

scoobs · Feb 20, 2012

ya, no thanks

DarkKyo · Feb 20, 2012

alterno69 said:
Like i said, i'm 32, i've been drinking since i was 15, went from getting totally wasted every time i drank to knowing when to stop but still being someone i don't like while drunk.

I think i've had enough.

You rack disciprine.

But I kind of like the message of this episode, about how if you completely stop what you like it's still an issue that owns who you are. You need to really work at that fine line between discipline and enjoyment. I'm not too sure how to go about this, though.

Edit: Also, judging by what you just said, if you like drinking but don't like how you are when you are drunk... the answer would be to not get drunk. You know when to stop? Apparently not if you don't like that level of drunk- try stopping a little before that level. Maybe just have a couple drinks for a buzz instead of a drunk.

DSN2K · Feb 20, 2012

good luck, one thing you will notice is how much money if left in your pocket after a night out!

Mr. B Natural · Feb 20, 2012

Gaf let's quit, drinking.

06nbarnhill · Feb 20, 2012

Way ahead of ya.

Was raised Mormon and while I ditched them a long time ago I am happy I never got into drinking and smoking.

Hypereides · Feb 20, 2012

Alcohol contains chemicals that draw depressive feelings which is probably why youre feeling like crap, drink far less and drink more water.

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