I've been cheated on twice and as far as I knew it was all just sex stuff. Anything else I saw was closer to an argument in nature than anything meaningful, like the guy not giving a shit and being cold and the girl being all like "tell me how you really feel about me!!"...all that kind of drama basically. I kind of sympathise with the guys in a way - all they want is to do is get their dicks wet; they don't want all that baggage and shit for some side action.
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So GAF, what do you and your side-chick (or side-guy) text/email/ chat about?
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I was going to reply but I realize this is a thread about cheating? I thought like side-guy was just someone you were having sex with but weren't actually dating; like a friends with benefits. But judging by the posts it's a 2nd person you're dating without the first knowing I guess?
Not really down with that personally; although I have definitely been someone's side-guy before. Wasn't the best situation.
Not really down with that personally; although I have definitely been someone's side-guy before. Wasn't the best situation.
Falchion
Member
This is too perfect.
lol I don't feel bad for anyone that has drama because they're cheating on their SO.
Shy Fingers
Banned
Usually just venting about work to one another. We have different political ideologies, so there's some light political banter in there. Share soundbites of the projects we're working on. Just little stuff.
Anything more heavy or serious is discussed in person.
Anything more heavy or serious is discussed in person.
Generalpsyduck
Banned
You're a scumbag.
the concept side guys seems so alien to me. Were they in the know?
SmackDaddy
Member
When I date people I respect and like them a lot. Don't really have room in my head for a side piece.
I've been cheated on before, feels pretty bad.
I've been cheated on before, feels pretty bad.
John Kowalski
Banned
blame space
Banned
neogaf is my side chick
Vermillion
Banned
Zing.
Angry Grimace
Two cannibals are eating a clown. One turns to the other and says "does something taste funny to you?"
A thread can't backfire when its the intent.
Talking to them is not wise. The point of the relationship is to have sex, like I can be bothered with their incessant, vapid banter. In my experience, most people who cheat on their spouses without their knowledge are fucking miserable. Dishonest scumbags who are good for nothing other than taking dick. It's rare I find someone who is there with the full knowledge of their significant other. (Full disclosure, my wife and I are in an open relationship.)
Nice not-so-stealthy brag, by the way. Are you drunk?
Nice not-so-stealthy brag, by the way. Are you drunk?
blame space
Banned
how do you decide which is your real life and which is your side life?
You're the only one who knows the answer to that, space.
Hmm, another universe maybe I would understand.
In the UK as a teen, some relationships lasted an evening...
Same. Do you think we're seeing the same side-chick?
Attack You
Member
Friend of mine once asked me why I wasn't chasing after a girl I work with.
Me: "She has a fiancée."
Him: "That doesn't mean anything."
As he broke up with his previous girlfriend of nearly a decade for cheating on him (with another girl), I kinda wanted to slap the mess out of him, even if he was joking. It makes my shit itch how easily people rationalize cheating.
Me: "She has a fiancée."
Him: "That doesn't mean anything."
As he broke up with his previous girlfriend of nearly a decade for cheating on him (with another girl), I kinda wanted to slap the mess out of him, even if he was joking. It makes my shit itch how easily people rationalize cheating.
When I got married a guy I worked with told me I would cheat on my wife. He was on his second marriage and he said as guys, we just can't help ourselves sometimes. I told him I wouldn't have gotten married if I wasn't planning on staying faithful.
A few years later I found out he went to prison for molesting a 12 year old girl. It really cast that conversation in a disturbing light.
A few years later I found out he went to prison for molesting a 12 year old girl. It really cast that conversation in a disturbing light.
This guy gets it....
Horse Detective
Why the long case?
Fuck cheaters
shnurgleton
Member
Dibs
ZombiePlatypus
Member
Fucking up and cheating is bad enough, but it's crazy for me to see people casually talk about it as if it's some ongoing, viable lifestyle. Wtf.
lightskintwin
Banned
For most of my friends it is a viable lifestyle.
Horse Detective
Why the long case?
When your brain is hardwired to your cock its hard to have room left up there for morals
Ugh I agree, it is completely disgusting in my eyes.
My boyfriend's roommate has a girlfriend, but he is constantly talking to chicks on the side. It's like he is waiting for them to want to date him so he can get dump his girlfriend. He loves the idea of having a girlfriend but hates the commitment and lack of "freedom".
Warm Machine
Member
Depends how mainline the other person is. I knew girls who dated around. Usually one main person and other appetizers while it was happening. To that point there wasn't any commitment. It struck me as callous but that is when I had the "If I had a girlfriend I'd treat her like a princess!" mentality which I think is pretty poisonous itself.
Should be on a shirt.
I mean, more than a third of marriages have one partner admit cheating, so you'd be naive to think it's not a usual occurrence. I'd figure the real numbers are at least at 40%. And that's not even counting the less serious relationships that most people are talking about.
It's not something I'd do, because I'm mature enough to have a conversation about exclusivity, but for a pretty sizable chunk of the population infidelity is just a part of life.
There's plenty of guys who are the ones to bring drama to a situation like that; this post is rather sexist.
blame space
Banned
on a long enough timeline everything turns to shit
esmith08734
Member
Lmao
Messofanego
Banned
blame space
Banned
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Earthbound64
Banned
"Cheating in a marriage" != "Having a side chick/dick"
Cheating in a marriage can be a step to moving on to a relationship with that other person, it can be a one-time thing where you never see the person again, or any number of other possibilities. Not everyone who cheats "keeps one primary and another side."
Also, I wouldn't trust "cheating statistics" from a website trying to sell private investigator services.
What are they going to say? "Everything's fine and no one cheats. By the way, pay for our services to see if your partner is cheating."
SuperStiltzkin
Member
Why not just be upfront with wanting an open relationship instead of lying and disrespecting their partners and putting them at additional risk of STDs and HPVs without their knowledge?
Horse Detective
Why the long case?
Let me guess:
If side chicks had more to offer they would be primary chicks, and never have to worry about anything.
Massive Duck. C.M.
Banned
This has got to be one of the corniest threads on record lol
Escape Goat
Member
You make less sense than the OP.
lightskintwin
Banned
Man, most of my friends are married now. Perhaps it's from being raised in a hyper masculine environment, and/or the ease of access to attracting woman and maintaining their interest, but I believe most of my friends operate on having a wife/girlfriend who they love, take care of, and treat right as a source of stability while having a side chick or two to reinforce their ego and sexual desires.
Really having your cake and eat it too.
I'm guilty of it myself.
Too much stress; find a girl who is down with side chicks. Problem solved.
Prophaniti
Banned
I'm fucking dying.