EatinOlives
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You're prepared to lose a good friend to a stupid argument. Who's the idiot here? What's the matter with you?
The same can apply to the friend.
You're prepared to lose a good friend to a stupid argument. Who's the idiot here? What's the matter with you?
But you should listen to cyberheater and try to maintain that relationship. You're just being unreasonable. She didn't mean to insult you!If someone told me I only have autism because of vaccines and also told me this is some horrible fate they wouldn't wish upon their children, yeah, I'd drop them like a brick.
This is not just a personal opinion. Not only are you endangering people, that is a legitimate very personal insult.
Science isn't infallible and has been wrong many times so I'd say you do have to believe in it.You. Don't. Believe. In. Science.
You fucking accept it.
If you really cared about her, this wouldn't have fazed you.
But since it did, it's not a healthy relationship. Take a breather for a couple of days and see how you feel.
For the record, I've cut out several people in my life as their opinions and stances just aggravated me so much that I couldn't be around them without being annoyed. Pretty heavy things though, like believing in chemtrails, 9/11 truthing, moon landing being faked, and so on.
So yeah maybe not opinions, more just lack of research/a willingness to believe conspiracies.
Science isn't infallible and has been wrong many times so I'd say you do have to believe in it.
Science isn't infallible and has been wrong many times so I'd say you do have to believe in it.
She's an anti-vaxxer. She believes a tiny chance of a child being autistic is worse than the alternative, a very possible death. The OP is autistic.
There's no mutual respect here. That's treating someone as less than dirt. Do you think anyone should be friends with anyone that thinks their personal mental afflictions are worse than death?
Because I sure don't.
Science isn't infallible and has been wrong many times so I'd say you do have to believe in it.
If that stupid shit literally kills people it's a big fucking reason not to be friends
Like, jesus christ, I'll just link this here:
http://edition.cnn.com/2017/05/08/health/measles-minnesota-somali-anti-vaccine-bn/
And I swear to god that I'll call everyone in this thread who still says that it's "just an opinion" after watching/reading this a fucking idiot
Science isn't infallible and has been wrong many times so I'd say you do have to believe in it.
I would bring this up with her. This is shitty. This is what costs friendships. You deserve an apology.Then she followed by doubling down on the vaccines cause autism thing and saying that I obviously hadn't looked into how autism works. I have autism, for context, to which she replied that I probably hadn't done enough research, and that she would never let her kids suffer as cruel of a fate as autism (I took it personally, which may be my interpretation of course, but I still found it hurtful in this situation.
Fine, change the word "opinion" for "belief".
But calm the fuck down. People will choose how to deal with dynamics in certain relationships. I've don't have any anti-vaxxer friends so I can't say what I would do or how I would react. I dont know how deep their anti-vax beliefs are. It depends on a lot of things.
Okay, let me change that.
You fucking accept science that has been proven over and over and where there's really no (sane) reason to believe that it's flawed.
I wouldn't call it a relationship when one person in the dynamic believes that having autism is worse than polio, for example, and didn't vaccinate their kids,Fine, change the word "opinion" for "belief".
But calm the fuck down. People will choose how to deal with dynamics in certain relationships. I've don't have any anti-vaxxer friends so I can't say what I would do or how I would react. I dont know how deep their anti-vax beliefs are. It depends on a lot of things.
Sometimes I have to be in certain situations to understand fully, but I've been born and raised in liberal communities. Also I'm not that confrontational.
Isn't this apart of the problem though? It's not as if people see the science with their own eyes most of the time. They get the info passed through other sources which is where the problem comes in. It becomes easy to inject false information into the mix. The "what if?" is so strong that it scares the shit out of a person.
For the record, I'm not saying these people shouldn't be more responsible, but "believing in science" is not the problem here. The problem is getting the science thoroughly from reliable sources.
EXCEPT IT LITERALLY IS
We had people in the other thread who would die if others don't vaccinate their kids properly ffs
YES IT IS
...vaccines cause autism thing and saying that I obviously hadn't looked into how autism works. I have autism, for context, to which she replied that I probably hadn't done enough research
The conversation ended with her stating that I always need to be right, and that she doesn't get why I don't believe in some stuff, like God for example and that I didn't respect her opinion, to which I asked why I need to believe in God, but my opinion on that matter suddenly doesn't matter, to which she said that I shouldn't take stuff too literally (it's an oddly specific example, especially in they context.)
Putting off a vaccination while in a argument isn't going to have the same impact of dropping this friend and leaving them in their stupidity.
It's a judgement call. I've vaccinated both my kids but I wouldn't be prepared to lose a friendship if someone I knew didn't believe in it.
I'd never drop a friend over something like this. Yes it's dumb. Yes it's harmful. But good friends, people who help you out when you need it, are incredibly hard to come by.
No becauseI dunno if this is worth losing q best friends over, man. It's a dumb opinion for sure. But there are worse things to disagree over.
.Fuck anti-vaxxers. Quite literally putting people in danger out of nothing but incredible stupidity.
Seems like it isn't much of a loss.
I'd never drop a friend over something like this. Yes it's dumb. Yes it's harmful. But good friends, people who help you out when you need it, are incredibly hard to come by.
If I found out a friend didn't believe in gay marriage or global warming I would absolutely cut ties with them. How is ending a friendship over someone being an anti-vaxxer any different?
Fundamental value differences are totally valid reasons to distance yourself in a relationship. If someone is actively hurting the world with their ignorant beliefs, I'm not gonna validate them with my friendship.
She's an anti-vaxxer. She believes a tiny chance of a child being autistic is worse than the alternative, a very possible death. The OP is autistic.
There's no mutual respect here. That's treating someone as less than dirt. Do you think anyone should be friends with anyone that thinks their personal mental afflictions are worse than death?
Because I sure don't.
Someone is saying they're willing to risk death over autism. To an autistic person.
From my point of view this doesn't seem like the kind of argument you should be losing friends over.
I'm sure insulting him directly will change his mind.yshadsrhgx<gaSEhys<gh
Your point of view is fucking stupid.
Dead children are certainly less important than your friendships.From my point of view this doesn't seem like the kind of argument you should be losing friends over.
If it's a calculated move to end the friendship in the hopes to ultimately open her eyes, I can agree with that, even if it's a little convoluted TV sitcom solution. But if that's what it takes to get through to a conspiracy theorist then so be it, he knows her better than us.Just ignoring it and continuing to be friends with that person won't solve anything.
If he's able to convince her after a little while, fine.
If he isn't, ending the friendship will at least make her consider that her "opinion" may be SO bad that it's worth ending a friendship over.
The OP from ending up with a deadly disease. Maybe getting the friend to think twice about this anti-vax thing if she values the friendship.And cutting this person out will prevent what exactly?
I'm sure insulting him directly will change his mind.
If it's a calculated move to end the friendship in the hopes to ultimately open her eyes, I can agree with that, even if it's a little convoluted TV sitcom solution. But if that's what it takes to get through to a conspiracy theorist then so be it, he knows her better than us.
Ending a friendship over a conspiracy theory that can be easily disproved with a little effort is asinine just as ignoring it would be.
From my point of view this doesn't seem like the kind of argument you should be losing friends over.
"Have you ever seen an Amish person with autism?"
That's probably one of the weakest arguments I've ever heard considering you live in Holland.