Do people consider it sexist that I open my girlfriend's car door for her, hold the door open and let her walk in and out of a building first, carry her bags when we are leaving the store and so on?
I mean.. kinda. I used to do it more, but as I've become more conscious of it, started to question it and talked about it with my wife, now my wife does it for me too and it's a lot more equal. Mind you, I'm far stronger physically than she is so it's reasonable that I do the physical things (such as carrying shopping bags) more than she does, but she's also plenty capable (obviously) and can do it just fine too, so it would be kind of lame if I did it every time. As if she was so weak that she can't do it.
Why were you drunk driving op?
I'm glad someone else noticed.
OP and his friend weren't shitfaced obviously, but driving under influence isn't cool regardless. Drinking "a few high ABV" beers does affect your driving capability and decision making.
Nope, it's not. Sexism is not about considering that women are different from men but that they are inferior. Treating women with special consideration is not sexist. If a see two men fighting i would probably not intervene, but i would definitely do so if a see a man hitting a woman.
And yes, men in my family would always take the heaviest bags. Why ? Because men (generally) have more physical force. It would be totally unfair to not take that into consideration.
But almost nobody who does something sexist actually consciously thinks women are inferior. I assume you think it's fair to question why one is giving special consideration to one gender right? Now, you know people have all kinds of various biases, so don't you think there's at least a fairly reasonable possibility that you might actually subconsciously think of them as inferior? As if that they can't handle it.
Should the most capable person always do the thing that they're most capable in? Don't you think that's a little silly? Does the best cook in your family handle the cooking every time? Does the person who's the fastest at washing dishes handle the dishes every time? Like, my wife is way more efficient and fast at cleaning than I am, but that doesn't mean she should do it all the time. Hell, she's way more efficient at doing pretty much any housework, but that doesn't mean she should be doing it all every time. To be honest, I'm a lazy bum and I hate it and doing housework makes me miserable, but I still try to do my part because it's not fair for her otherwise.
It's fair to take into account who's the most capable - like my wife still does the housework more than I do - but that doesn't mean they should be the only one who do it. My wife doing all of the housework would be pretty nasty towards her and it would also be pretty condescending for me - as if I was so weak that I can't do any of it (and well, I am weak indeed but not that weak). Men being generally physically stronger doesn't mean women aren't also well capable of carrying their bags at times.
I think it's also fair to ask the question, if you had a man who doesn't do pretty much anything physical and a woman who goes to gym and in general does a lot of physical activities and might well be stronger than the man is, would you assume that she carries the bags then? Correct me if I'm wrong but I'd guess not, and that kind of alludes to that you're just trying to rationalize your sexist idea of chivalry doesn't it? If that sounds condescending or mockery I do apologize as that really isn't the intent - I know you as a poster and I really do think that you're a good person. But that doesn't mean that you can't have unconscious biases too (I know I certainly have those) and it might heavily affect your thinking here.
