She's above the age of consent. If you feel she's immature and that's what makes you uncomfortable about the relationship, that's something to seriously consider. If it's just the age gap by itself, you shouldn't worry too much about it, much less ask GAF what to do. (To which the correct response will always be, "Feed it pizza.")
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Age difference and you (well, me)
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bengraven
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Truant: I was in the same situation.
Twenty-seven and started hooking up with a 20 year old college girl. It helped that she was more mature for her age thanks to a dark childhood and I am really immature for my age thanks to a dark childhood.
We ended up married with children and our fifth anniversary (of meeting each other) was on V-day. So five years isn't bad.
Twenty-seven and started hooking up with a 20 year old college girl. It helped that she was more mature for her age thanks to a dark childhood and I am really immature for my age thanks to a dark childhood.
We ended up married with children and our fifth anniversary (of meeting each other) was on V-day. So five years isn't bad.
Escape Goat
Member
Maybe its different for straight people since its easier to find potential mates than it is for gay people, but I wouldn't want to deal with a bf that young. Finding a guy to date pretty much means online or referral from a friend, but when you hit 21 you have a whole new arena to enter - the bar. Couple that with legally able to buy and drink alcohol, urge to experiment sexually and you have a person not ideally suited for long term relationship. I've seen it so many times and so many guys go through the slut phase. Its all part of growing up.
And I wouldn't expect her to be the same person in 2 years. She is at that age where people typically adopt the identity they want to stick with for their adult years.
Is it creepy? No, not really. Do I think you'll find true love and be together for the long term? Not from my experience.
And I wouldn't expect her to be the same person in 2 years. She is at that age where people typically adopt the identity they want to stick with for their adult years.
Is it creepy? No, not really. Do I think you'll find true love and be together for the long term? Not from my experience.
Should we tell her there is a post history on GAF?
Liquidsnake
Banned
I met my chick when I was 31 and she was 22. It was a bomb ass time. Perfect age gap!
Still together.
Still together.
scar tissue
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ChuyMasta
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I do have an age difference with my fiance that does not sit well with my immediate family. But i reached a point where i dont care what even my folks think (let alone friends) when it comes to my personal life. Gatherings have interesting dynamics, and my fiance is completely aware of the situation. In fact sometimes i think she is more insecure than i am.
What bothered me before was how i was justifying my doubts about previous relationships so i would find any excuse to end it.
Ohh she has kids, dump her!
Ohh she is not a us citizen, so she will use me to gain citizenchip, dump her!
Ohh, she doesnt have a college degree, dump her!
She is not hot enough, what will my friends think? That i am not good enough to keep a hot girl around?
Now i just ask myself this question: am i happy? If the answer is yes, i go for it and do everything i can to keep that happiness.
What bothered me before was how i was justifying my doubts about previous relationships so i would find any excuse to end it.
Ohh she has kids, dump her!
Ohh she is not a us citizen, so she will use me to gain citizenchip, dump her!
Ohh, she doesnt have a college degree, dump her!
She is not hot enough, what will my friends think? That i am not good enough to keep a hot girl around?
Now i just ask myself this question: am i happy? If the answer is yes, i go for it and do everything i can to keep that happiness.
Lionheart1337
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Have you seen what some of the losers on this forum defend?
19 and 26 is way too young?
What you are doing is legal for a reason, it's not bad and you shouldn't feel bad for it. If your friends are going to be offended they are shitty friends.
Word.
Emerson
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Obviously age gaps get less weird the older you get, but do you guys think there's a gap that's always too much?
Example: My mom and step-dad are 18 years apart. That means when she was coming out of my grandmom's vagina, he was in Vietnam fighting a war. I don't think I could ever get past that personally.
Example: My mom and step-dad are 18 years apart. That means when she was coming out of my grandmom's vagina, he was in Vietnam fighting a war. I don't think I could ever get past that personally.
Joe Shlabotnik
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Haha I can't even imagine a dude who would be offended by a friend hooking up with a 19-year-old.
I think once someone is well out of their confusing teenage years (early to mid 20s), it's believable they could make a real, adult connection with anyone.
I think once someone is well out of their confusing teenage years (early to mid 20s), it's believable they could make a real, adult connection with anyone.
"God's Beard!"
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I'm 23 and my girlfriend's 18. My grandparents were over 20 years apart.
Karak
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Hmmm. I have had an even larger disparity in age than that. I really don't let others impact my own happiness. If I am enjoying myself and so is she I personally just mute out if anyone said anything. In fact I never remember if anyone ever mentioned it or said anything during the times it was occurring.
The people I hang with and surround myself with are far more into having a good life than worrying about those that are unhappy and try offloading their own emotional issues onto others.
Or as the saying goes, "There are really issues in the world. I don't have time for the purely cosmetic ones."
Facism
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there's an 8 year gap between my parents. I wouldn't worry about what other dickheads think. If she's a decent girl and you like her what's the big whoop, not as if she's 15 years old.
Deified Data
Banned
Not wrong. If she knows what she's doing, you're good.
KO Traveling Hobo
Member
Stop hitting yourself.
Holy Order Sol
Member
No. You're both adults. Keep in mind that she's young (as in, don't expect her to act any older than she is, she's likely to do some really dumb shit, then again who isn't), but you're not doing anything wrong.
That's fantastic! 'tis a hard thing to come by let me tell you. Seen plenty of sharp knees in my day.
For me, the reason why age difference can be creepy is because depending on the size of the difference the question of how you two met becomes more significant than it otherwise would be. I mean, generally speaking, people in their 30's aren't regularly hanging out with people in their teens.
I've discussed this topic with my mom a couple of times and her only advice to me is to avoid marrying a woman older than me because "men age more gracefully than women."
victreeb3l
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are you paying her tuition?
Obligatory...
If you don't know who these people are, watch this. She makes some awesome faces mid-interview @ about 4:45. Always good for a laugh.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iBSFrKJR4JQ
If you don't know who these people are, watch this. She makes some awesome faces mid-interview @ about 4:45. Always good for a laugh.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iBSFrKJR4JQ
Obligatory...
haha..
I've done a 13 year gap before, honestly age is really in the mind. She was very mature for her age. As long as you feel good, continue to burubhub the beehive..?
She was 40 & I was 27.
POWERSPHERE
Banned
Wait till she's older, kids are fucking annoying.
I dated an 18 year old over the summer (i was 21 at the time) and it got weird. Her opinions on many things were either very ignorant or nonexistent. She was beautiful, but it was very difficult for me to hold a conversation with her that interested the both of us. I'll admit however, that i did attempt to 'dumb' it down for a good week for no reason other than the prospect of making sweet, sweet love. Its difficult dating someone still in their teens because they have such little experience in the real world, that really unless its booze or music, there is nothing to talk about.
Deified Data
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Allow me to play devil's advocate: "What if she's a really mature 14?"
Age gap is one thing, culture another. Sure I think it's weird if age differences exceed 4 years, but that's me. If you date someone from another generation and mindset, it's going to be weird.
A co-worker of mine was dating a girl 16 years younger than him. They had nothing in common besides attraction to one another. He would bring up bands he liked, she had no clue who they were and vice-versa. She had her teenage/early twenty problems, he was nearing midlife crisis mode. There are plenty of gaps that just can't be jumped comfortably.
But to each their own. If you want to date a girl who's been legal to you for less than two years and can't even drink go for it.
A co-worker of mine was dating a girl 16 years younger than him. They had nothing in common besides attraction to one another. He would bring up bands he liked, she had no clue who they were and vice-versa. She had her teenage/early twenty problems, he was nearing midlife crisis mode. There are plenty of gaps that just can't be jumped comfortably.
But to each their own. If you want to date a girl who's been legal to you for less than two years and can't even drink go for it.
Well that's not legal, so that's out of the question anyway XD I would say wait for her! (if she was that special, haha)
Roger Sterling
Banned
That there dude is living the dream. Business owner and boning hot, young, tight snatch. Good bless him.
On topic, your age difference is nothing. I'm older than my girl by 6 years. Meet her in her late teens. It's all good dude. Enjoy life's gift to you.
"India's age of consent for heterosexual sex is 16 except in Manipur, where it is 14. If the partners are married then a lower age of consent applies (13 in Manipur and 15 elsewhere). A law banning "carnal intercourse against the order of nature" was overruled in a Delhi High Court ruling, meaning that consensual homosexual activities between adults are now legal. A full copy of the descision can be found on the Naz Foundation"
Sorry googled age of consent 14 , this is what I got. Looks like you got to move to Manipur.
BocoDragon
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I don't think 19 and 26 is inappropriate at all. It's definitely not inappropriate in a creepy way... I just worry about having things in common, because 19 year old girls are often dumb
Vigilant Walrus
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OP - Your lucky. You met a hot young chick! That is very Japanese mans dream!
I was 25 when I met my girlfriend who was 18. We've been together for almost 10 years and are about to have a child together. We've always shared similar tastes in music, movies, tv, games etc and make each other laugh. It can totally work, don't get hung up on age. Unless she's just a typical 19-year-old idiot
fierrotlepou
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Maybe you need to make sure that your definition of 'mature' is correct before you even consider the possibility of a 14 year old being mature.
And 19 - 26 is fine!
Devolution
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If they're mature enough what's the problem.
Jill Sandwich
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Last Christmas I had a fun ONS with a friend of a friend. She was 18 and if she lived her life again she'd have reached my age.
Realising that I was like
But then I was like
Glad it was just for fun though, young girls are cray.
Realising that I was like
But then I was like
Glad it was just for fun though, young girls are cray.
Deified Data
Banned
Just probing GAF's standards. Don't mind me.
Just curious to see how the "age ain't no thang" position can go before it totally retreats upon itself.
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