Baki
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Why would I?
I mean sure, but I don't date so...don't really count. Even though I adore most of your here and like being here. ❤️
Why don't you date 🤔
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Dating Age |OT$6| Just ask her out already
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Why don't you date 🤔
Tell them you met someone and want to focus on that relationship. Last girl I said that to remained friends with me and we spoke about it months later. She said it sucked to hear but she was happier with me just being honest.
always crazy bacon
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Not all a bad day then.
Subpar Scrub
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"Hey I met someone better than you, but if you don't mind chillin' on the backburner for a couple months to see if I need a side-bae or not, that'd be fully sick gurl."
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Megalosaro
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I had an awkward night last night, guys.
It was DND night. There was a decent amount of alcohol going around.
After the session, one of my players sat down beside me and started hanging out. She is my friends' little sister and really young.
Suddenly she started saying stuff about "how much she relates with me" and how much of a loser dick her boyfriend was.
Her brother started chiming in about how much of a "faggot" her boyfriend was. She started hugging me. I did my best to be polite but not encouraging that shit, but it was still annoying.
For the record, her boyfriend is a pretty cool dude and i like him a lot. Also, I really like the girl im seeing and could see this going long term.
Should I be careful around the friend's sister and try to make myself more detached so she knows I'm not interested, or should I just chalk it up to her being drunk as fuck.
It was DND night. There was a decent amount of alcohol going around.
After the session, one of my players sat down beside me and started hanging out. She is my friends' little sister and really young.
Suddenly she started saying stuff about "how much she relates with me" and how much of a loser dick her boyfriend was.
Her brother started chiming in about how much of a "faggot" her boyfriend was. She started hugging me. I did my best to be polite but not encouraging that shit, but it was still annoying.
For the record, her boyfriend is a pretty cool dude and i like him a lot. Also, I really like the girl im seeing and could see this going long term.
Should I be careful around the friend's sister and try to make myself more detached so she knows I'm not interested, or should I just chalk it up to her being drunk as fuck.
always crazy bacon
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Why is it that when you don't have a girlfriend, no girls seem to be interested. Yet as soon as you do other women start showing interest? One of life's mysteries.
Starlightmuse
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Your life is a porn movie confirmed.
I'd be careful with that, just show herself that you're not interested.
Fuck this is so true.
ZackieChan
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A porn movie without sex?
PancakeBurglar
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Any third date tips from some our veterans here? Went out with a woman last night for the second time, really want to continue going out with her. She told me she hasn't gone to zoo in a long time and wanted to go so we briefly discussed the idea of doing that. I guess my main concern is keeping the romantic and sensual aspects progressing naturally, we haven't had sex yet just kissed. Definitely want to see where this goes and want to make sure I don't do anything to lose any momentum we have.
Starlightmuse
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We haven't seen the full movie yet.
Just wait.
Just keep it cool man, go to the zoo and have a good time with her, things will flow naturally. It's all about have fun and be comfortable with each other, there's no need to think so much about all of it.
always crazy bacon
Banned
Easy, taker her to the zoo for the next date.
hydrophilic attack
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Megalosaro
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If she says she wants to do something, you should probably do it.
The zoo can be a pretty romantic date. Who c didn't like seeing cute animals? Walk around with your arm around her. That will set the tone.
The zoo can be a pretty romantic date. Who c didn't like seeing cute animals? Walk around with your arm around her. That will set the tone.
PancakeBurglar
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Thanks guys, I really just need to relax and take it easy, just let things naturally happen.
Messofanego
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Security and confidence is attractive, I guess. "I want what he's having"
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Agreed, lots of talking plus pauses to watch animals when there's no topic coming up. Be sure to choose a good zoo that's treating the animals well though.
SmackDaddy
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Had an incredible 24 hours with my girl, basically what I want life to be like to be like from here on out. We talked about plans, world travel, even about getting married in a year with smiles on our face while kissing post-coitus.
Talked serious about being boyfriend and girlfriend and... she needs time. Okay, I can understand. It got heavy for a second there. Right as I got up to leave, she told me she was disappointed that I "seduced her and distracted her from studying" for her BAR over the past day.
Texted her last night I can't do this anymore, and she knows where to find me if she changes her mind.
Talked serious about being boyfriend and girlfriend and... she needs time. Okay, I can understand. It got heavy for a second there. Right as I got up to leave, she told me she was disappointed that I "seduced her and distracted her from studying" for her BAR over the past day.
Texted her last night I can't do this anymore, and she knows where to find me if she changes her mind.
Messofanego
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You're kidding me, right? You guys talk about getting married in a year and yet you can't even get to being exclusive? Then she guilt trips you about being a distraction from studies, was she forced to being distracted without consent? Where is this girl's accountability? lmao
SmackDaddy
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I know dude, I don't get it. I'm fuckin super sad about this. I realize that nobody is obligated to like me, but we were seemingly on a fast track to the rest of our lives: laughing, smiling, incredible sex, sharing music and things we love, talking about meeting families- the whole nine yards.
Part of me thinks I dodged a bullet. I'm really sensitive and emotionally in tune with myself, and this lets me know she's kinda cruel and possibly manipulative. Well, at least I'm eating grilled meat and drinking beer today.
Messofanego
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That kind of fluctuation is indeed worrying, she doesn't sound mature. Enjoy your grilled meat!
The zoo just makes me sad, I won't deny it's a nice date spot though. SF's is a nice area to walk around in.
It's when I'm drunk that Any Way You Want It / Take On Me etc. comes out haha.
Ha! That sounds great. I do really want to take a girl who is up for it to that place I mentioned.
Yeah I started with Soul To Squeeze. I know the cadence of my voice reasonably well and it fits that song so I don't have to worry too much about being drunk first.
It's when I'm drunk that Any Way You Want It / Take On Me etc. comes out haha.
There's nothing you can do while single that is as convincing as looking like you have your shit together by successfully being in a committed relationship. It plays into natural survival instincts I'm sure.
Don't worry, you did dodge a bullet.
Starlightmuse
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Lol you dodged a trillion bazooka bullets while escaping from a nuclear explosion riding a bike. That girl sounds like trouble, you did right.
SmackDaddy
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Lol, glad you guys think so. Speaking of... maybe i should ride my bike today
Megalosaro
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The weird thing was when she sat down she was like this:
"you gotta hear this song. It's such a great song. I know you like music alot. My boyfriend learned this song just for me. He's so sweet. I love the guy to death. I hear you're seeing someone too. That's really good. You're such a great guy. I'm sure your making her really happy. My boyfriend is a great guy too, but he's kind of a fucking idiot sometime. He needs to get his shit together. You know, I feel like I really relate with you, even though the age gap is v pretty big. There is so much that we can talk about. You're a really cool guy."
This went on like this for a bit, with her randomly getting distracted. I was like " okay. Yeah. Uh huh." She asked if I was circumcized at one point, which was really fucking odd.
Juke Joint Jezebel
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Wait what? That makes no sense whatsoever. The onus is on her to study for her BAR exam and not let herself get distracted. She should be dissapointed in herself for not managing her time properly, which is easily doable even in a relationship with good planning. Smells like a load of crock to me, like she's trying to guilt you for something she should've stayed on top of.
Bike, grill, beer, you got it made.
Just caught up to your post above mine and yeah that's a real weird reaction. Could have just been going along with the heat of the moment conversation/the good feelings of fun clouding judgement.
Though I agree it's a huge red flag and probably for the best you're finding out now before it's way worse.
Messofanego
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Wow, way to go 0-100! How is that in any way relevant?! What was your response to her circumcision Q? XD
Megalosaro
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It caught me off guard because it was pretty blatant. I told her the truth though.
I think it came up because we were listening to Foreskin by Boston.
I think it came up because we were listening to Foreskin by Boston.
LookAtMeGo
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If last night was any indication, moving on from lady was the right choice. Thanks fellas.
That's actually quite an interesting question. So far, the schedule of the protests have consisted of a protest day and then a free day. You usually do the leisure stuff on the free days, but obviously some unrest can still break out on the streets. So in my case, I attend to the protests on the protest days and on the free days I go out to do anything I have on my to-do list, but with precaution.
Basically, I take with me some protection against tear gas (like sodium bicarbonate mixed with water that your spray on a handkerchief so you don't suffocate), a helmet in case a bomb falls on my head and a first aid kit, all hidden inside a backpack. Of course, that means I have to be careful with the state police because something as simple as a helmet and handkerchief to resist the gas are seen as terrorist tools... And I'm not the only one who does this. I went out on a date with a girl and she had all this stuff on her too, so it's an interesting dynamic.
So yeah, you can say that this is an example of dating on times of civil unrest. And it's very peculiar now that you ask me lol
EDIT: the law does not say anything about the use of these tools, I am not doing anything that is illegal in my country. The government just does not like us protecting against suffocation.
Messofanego
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This sounds way more fascinating than any of the other dating stories here! Keep safe out there, and protest away.
Probably because you're not trying at all when you got a girl. Moral of the story: don't try. (Seriously)
NoctisVsStar
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After messing around with a girl for months, we went our separate ways distance was an issue for both of us (had to take a ferry and a train New Yorkers know what I'm talking about) we had our fun and grew together and I consider her a good friend. We both knew it but just the rode wave.
Back in the game now.. Started, talking with this girl about to move in for the kill and ask for a date. She's just my type of girl a goofball and thick ( I appreciate some pounds) plus she's cool as fuck.. you know them thicc ladies love the slim guys #blessed
Edit: thought she was white turns out she's Hispanic but can't speak spanish.. pa'lante mi gente.
Back in the game now.. Started, talking with this girl about to move in for the kill and ask for a date. She's just my type of girl a goofball and thick ( I appreciate some pounds) plus she's cool as fuck.. you know them thicc ladies love the slim guys #blessed
Edit: thought she was white turns out she's Hispanic but can't speak spanish.. pa'lante mi gente.
Since Ray Wonder requested one, here's the report on my movie date last night:
We watched Alien: Covenant, which I think was a good choice. We were regularly shooting each other glances during the movie based on what was going on in the plot. She definitely reacted a lot to the scary moments, like covering her face and gasping, though you could tell she was into the type of movie (it was her suggestion) and she's just very expressive. She had mentioned previously that on our first date I didn't really show enough affection and she thought I wasn't into her, so I tried to use the opportunity to touch her arm and comfort her, which I did a bit, but probably not as much as I should have. I would have liked to put my arm around her during some of the more intense moments, but the seats weren't close enough that I could have without being super uncomfortable.
I enjoyed the movie as well, though it was no Alien or Aliens. She liked it too, and totally called all of the plot twists while we were watching. We only really discussed the movie as we were walking out of the theater, and then barely mentioned it for the rest of the night.
The heat was unbearable walking out of the theater, so she suggested we immediately get in her car (she parked closer) and turn the air conditioning on. We discussed where we wanted to eat (we hadn't picked this out previously since we had to replan this date at the last minute around the weather some family stuff she was doing earlier that day), but neither of us were especially hungry. We tried to think of something else to do before we ate, but the heat limited our options and made it hard to think, and then we got sidetracked into talking about random things. Eventually we just decided to go eat since we couldn't come up with anything.
Unfortunately, the restaurant we went to had live music, which wasn't a bad thing, but it was very loud and hard to talk, so we didn't stick around very long after we finished eating. It was 9 PM at this point, so we thought it might be cool enough that we could go for a walk and see if we could find something to do. It seemed to be fine for a while, but after about 10 minutes we had both had enough and went back to her car to sit in the air conditioning. We made a half-hearted attempt to come up with somewhere else we could go, but we both decided that anywhere we picked was going to be hotter and louder, and I really just wanted to spend time with her. So we sat in her car and talked for a couple of hours, and eventually reclined the seats all the way back so we could lay down. We didn't do anything physical, or even kiss, but there was a lot of playful (chaste) touching, and just laying there looking into her eyes and talking to her felt pretty intimate in it's own way. Eventually though, she started having a hard time staying awake, and I had a long drive home, so she drove me back to my car. Before I left we both indicated we had a lot of fun and that we wanted to go out again soon, but that we would plan better next time. When I got home, we texted a bit more before finally going to bed.
Today she texts me and says I should invite her over sometime. Now I have a lot of cleaning to do.
We watched Alien: Covenant, which I think was a good choice. We were regularly shooting each other glances during the movie based on what was going on in the plot. She definitely reacted a lot to the scary moments, like covering her face and gasping, though you could tell she was into the type of movie (it was her suggestion) and she's just very expressive. She had mentioned previously that on our first date I didn't really show enough affection and she thought I wasn't into her, so I tried to use the opportunity to touch her arm and comfort her, which I did a bit, but probably not as much as I should have. I would have liked to put my arm around her during some of the more intense moments, but the seats weren't close enough that I could have without being super uncomfortable.
I enjoyed the movie as well, though it was no Alien or Aliens. She liked it too, and totally called all of the plot twists while we were watching. We only really discussed the movie as we were walking out of the theater, and then barely mentioned it for the rest of the night.
The heat was unbearable walking out of the theater, so she suggested we immediately get in her car (she parked closer) and turn the air conditioning on. We discussed where we wanted to eat (we hadn't picked this out previously since we had to replan this date at the last minute around the weather some family stuff she was doing earlier that day), but neither of us were especially hungry. We tried to think of something else to do before we ate, but the heat limited our options and made it hard to think, and then we got sidetracked into talking about random things. Eventually we just decided to go eat since we couldn't come up with anything.
Unfortunately, the restaurant we went to had live music, which wasn't a bad thing, but it was very loud and hard to talk, so we didn't stick around very long after we finished eating. It was 9 PM at this point, so we thought it might be cool enough that we could go for a walk and see if we could find something to do. It seemed to be fine for a while, but after about 10 minutes we had both had enough and went back to her car to sit in the air conditioning. We made a half-hearted attempt to come up with somewhere else we could go, but we both decided that anywhere we picked was going to be hotter and louder, and I really just wanted to spend time with her. So we sat in her car and talked for a couple of hours, and eventually reclined the seats all the way back so we could lay down. We didn't do anything physical, or even kiss, but there was a lot of playful (chaste) touching, and just laying there looking into her eyes and talking to her felt pretty intimate in it's own way. Eventually though, she started having a hard time staying awake, and I had a long drive home, so she drove me back to my car. Before I left we both indicated we had a lot of fun and that we wanted to go out again soon, but that we would plan better next time. When I got home, we texted a bit more before finally going to bed.
Today she texts me and says I should invite her over sometime. Now I have a lot of cleaning to do.
Starlightmuse
Member
what the FUCK
I think you should speak with your girl about all of this if you haven't already. Better sooner than later.
After messing around with a girl for months, we went our separate ways distance was an issue for both of us (had to take a ferry and a train New Yorkers know what I'm talking about) we had our fun and grew together and I consider her a good friend. We both knew it but just the rode wave.
Back in the game now.. Started, talking with this girl about to move in for the kill and ask for a date. She's just my type of girl a goofball and thick ( I appreciate some pounds) plus she's cool as fuck.. you know them thicc ladies love the slim guys #blessed
Edit: thought she was white turns out she's Hispanic but can't speak spanish.. pa'lante mi gente.
As I told to some guy yesterday in gaming forum, people usually think that spaniards have brown skin a la south americans or mexicans but nope, we are as white as any caucasian, specially those who live in the north of the country, where it's cloudy most of the year. It's fine because thanks to that we can avoid racism in places like England or the USA, as most racists are so stupid that they think we are basically mexicans.
Buena suerte con tu cita.
They are by and large awesome women and I'd like to remain on speaking terms with all of them, but I'm afraid we'll just stop speaking once I tell them the news. I guess it's ultimately their call on that.
A mix of confidence, a potential for drama, and that forbidden fruit aspect makes a magic recipes for the basic biatches to congregate~
It's fascinating, but also annoying as hell if your man is surrounded by ladies like that lol
Shit stirrers are straight up the worst, thankfully I only have to deal with them professionally
Miles Quaritch
Member
It's a mix of confidence, dressing better and looking better because your girlfriend actually cares about how you look and if someone likes you enough to date you, chances are you're a somewhat decent guy who knows how to treat someone properly...
Milly Osworth
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Older guys, mid 20s, limited options.. wat
Megalosaro
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What the fuck is this shit. To answer your question... its harder in that you have to go out of your way to meet people. But you still have access to the same pool
Because you're not desperate anymore, happy and full of confidence.
Count Dookkake
Member
There's guys in our 40s here and we're dating the same girls you are.
The limits are only in your mind.
Killing myself, brb
always crazy bacon
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She's not trying to guilt trip him, she's using him as an excuse to herself for not studying. A sign of lack of responsibility.
always crazy bacon
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Now keep the momentum and get out there looking.
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