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Very Berry Sunday
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(12-06-2017, 08:11 PM)
He won't pay you the additional $20. What would you do here?

Edit: My brain farted. I didn't lend money. I was promised $55 for driving my "friends'" kid home from school, 6 separate trips. Drive took about 30 minutes total, and another 15-30 minutes waiting for the kid to get ready. Gasoline prices being at least $3 per gallon doesn't help with cost.
cormack12
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(12-06-2017, 08:15 PM)
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How good of a friend is he/she? I'd be tempted to say it's just $20, but the losses and not lend money again if they're a good mate. Seems simple and fair?
EuropeOG
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(12-06-2017, 08:17 PM)
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Well... Did he give you 20 before or not?
Very Berry Sunday
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(12-06-2017, 08:19 PM)

Originally Posted by EuropeOG

Well... Did he give you 20 before or not?

No. He believed he did.
Rocket Number 22
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(12-06-2017, 08:27 PM)
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The real question is,

Do you think this "friend" is lying?

If it was me and I thought the friend was mistaken, i probably wouldnt make an issue out of 20 bucks and continue as usual...just no more lifts, paid or otherwise.

I i thought the friend was lying, distance them until they become an acquaintance at best, if they are prepared to lie over 20 bucks then....

You know them better than any of us so its really all up to you.
Kule
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(12-06-2017, 08:28 PM)
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I've had something similar happen before and it wasn't worth the effort. What I did in the end was just keep tab of the missing money and sponge it out of that friend slowly over time like asking for a drink at a bar or going to their place for dinner.
Very Berry Sunday
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(12-06-2017, 08:30 PM)

Originally Posted by Rocket Number 22

The real question is,

Do you think this "friend" is lying?

If it was me and I thought the friend was mistaken, i probably wouldnt make an issue out of 20 bucks and continue as usual...just no more lifts, paid or otherwise.

I i thought the friend was lying, distance them until they become an acquaintance at best, if they are prepared to lie over 20 bucks then....

You know them better than any of us so its really all up to you.

I don't think my "friend" is lying. I believe he believes he gave me $20 in cash, despite that he never gave me cash, only check. I also barely go to their place.

I do believe that my "friend" doesn't value me as a friend.
Rocket Number 22
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(12-06-2017, 08:33 PM)
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Originally Posted by Very Berry Sunday

I don't think my "friend" is lying. I believe he believes he gave me $20 in cash, despite that he never gave me cash, only check. I also barely go to their place.

I do believe that my "friend" doesn't value me.

Then just take this as a life lesson then, 20 dollars isnt worth the hassle and stress from some kind of drawn out argument which will boil down to he said she said drama.
Amputechture
(12-06-2017, 08:34 PM)
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Originally Posted by Very Berry Sunday

I don't think my "friend" is lying. I believe he believes he gave me $20 in cash, despite that he never gave me cash, only check. I also barely go to their place.

I do believe that my "friend" doesn't value me as a friend.

Chock it up as a loss but don't do him anymore favors like that. Especially if he doesn't value you as a friend.
MastAndo
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(12-06-2017, 08:35 PM)
A Bronx Tale - 20 Dollars
Very Berry Sunday
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(12-06-2017, 08:37 PM)

Originally Posted by Rocket Number 22

Then just take this as a life lesson then, 20 dollars isnt worth the hassle and stress from some kind of drawn out argument which will boil down to he said she said drama.

Noted.

Should've gotten the money before the pickup through Venmo.

$20 is s small price for a lesson of he said she said drama.
Beerman462
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(12-06-2017, 08:50 PM)
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Originally Posted by Very Berry Sunday

Noted.

Should've gotten the money before the pickup through Venmo.

$20 is s small price for a lesson of he said she said drama.

I know it's not lent anymore, but my old boss had a good way of looking at situations like this.

Like if he loaned someone $20 and they never paid him back he would say."I paid them $20 to never ask me for money again"
Sosokrates
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(12-06-2017, 09:21 PM)
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Tell the friend that you are 100% sure he has not paid you back.

If that dont work barrow some money of him like a month later, and say its $30, just give him $10 back and say the other $20 your keeping because he owes u it.
Nester99
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(12-06-2017, 09:23 PM)
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If your brain farted about "lending" the money, perhaps it "farted" when he handed you a $20?



I lost a "friend" in high school over $5. Best $5 I ever spent.
Rourkey
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(12-06-2017, 09:24 PM)
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Id take the hit and never speak to them again, the cream always rises to the top best to cut the crap out
Night Angel
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(12-06-2017, 09:25 PM)
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Eat the loss, never get in a situation where they owe you again. Deny their requests and tell them it's because you don't think they'll pay you back. Take payment up front.


I never lend friends money. I'll spot them without expecting payback for small things (they usually surprise me by paying me back anyway).

It's not worth blowing up a friendship over, but use it as a reminder to not lend money to friends in the future. In the age of Venmo you should always send a request right away.
oliander
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(12-06-2017, 09:34 PM)
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$20 is not worth the grief, and this is coming from someone that lives paycheck to paycheck. Better off just letting it go.
AndrewPL
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(12-06-2017, 10:12 PM)
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If you don't feel like they value you as a friend....they probably don't.
Northeastmonk
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(12-06-2017, 10:27 PM)
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You pick a date and say, "I want my money by XX/XX and if you don't I'm taking you to small claims court". Leave it at that and don't talk to them because they'll try and pick a fight with you. You need to stay silent.
SmokinGunZ1981
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(12-07-2017, 12:27 AM)
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Originally Posted by Northeastmonk

You pick a date and say, "I want my money by XX/XX and if you don't I'm taking you to small claims court". Leave it at that and don't talk to them because they'll try and pick a fight with you. You need to stay silent.

Lol, over $20? Forget it and move on.
///PATRIOT
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(12-07-2017, 01:11 AM)
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I only lend money if they pay me back up front.
oxrock
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(12-07-2017, 01:54 AM)
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$20 is not worth the drama and NEVER lend friends money. $20 is a really small price to pay for learning that lesson.
nush
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(12-07-2017, 03:55 AM)
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Not worth the drama, just avoid any money lending owing with this friend in the future.
Bleepey
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(12-07-2017, 07:31 AM)
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Originally Posted by MastAndo

A Bronx Tale - 20 Dollars

Came for this.
Lucumo
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(12-07-2017, 07:59 AM)
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Originally Posted by oxrock

$20 is not worth the drama and NEVER lend friends money. $20 is a really small price to pay for learning that lesson.

Pretty much this. Unless it's your best buddy that you have known for years, when money is involved, people can become really difficult to deal with. The amount doesn't even matter.
ssolitare
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(12-07-2017, 02:11 PM)
Normally people don't pay you back at all OP, let the $20 go.
Croatoan
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(12-07-2017, 04:05 PM)
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Oh cool, you are friends with the US government too?
Dunki
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(12-07-2017, 04:18 PM)
Just go with the "Lets all forgets this while you invite me to a few drinks approach^^
Relativ9
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(12-07-2017, 04:28 PM)
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Originally Posted by Sosokrates

Tell the friend that you are 100% sure he has not paid you back.

If that dont work barrow some money of him like a month later, and say its $30, just give him $10 back and say the other $20 your keeping because he owes u it.

This is horrible advice and a surefire way of looking like a vindictive and asshole. There could be all kinds of reasons your friend thinks he gave you that money, it's a friend, let it go.
NahaNago
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(12-07-2017, 07:18 PM)
Just take it as a lesson to never lend that person any money ever again.
Maximus P
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(12-07-2017, 07:32 PM)
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Originally Posted by NahaNago

Just take it as a lesson to never lend that person any money ever again.

This.

Iv'e done favours before and been stung.

Take a hit on the $20 and refuse to give him any help again. At least it was only $20 and you found early that he was a cheap bastard, it could have been a whole lot worse.
Froli
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(12-08-2017, 11:08 AM)
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I'm gonna say this once.

Money breaks family and friendships
autolesbona
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(12-08-2017, 04:16 PM)

Originally Posted by Froli

I'm gonna say this once.

Money breaks family and friendships

I agree with this statement. My dad owes me 15,000 and another friend 1,800. I don't see either anymore.

Be glad it only cost you $20 to learn your friend is a tight bastard.
Dunki
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(12-08-2017, 05:21 PM)
I think it is pretty sad to see how people just want to throw away a friendship because of stupid 20$. For either one there is nothing to gain and I do not believe that someone would lie about such a small number.

Its most likely just a misunderstanding. But if you already think your friendship is over because of 20$ maybe it was not even wot that much to begin with.

I agree that money can break friendships and family relations. But not such a little amount.

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