Originally Posted by Kikirin
ABV here, entire life pretty much spent in the Midwest so far. Unfortunately, my career / hobbies / mannerisms do little to dispel the Asian stereotype.
It's okay. Sometimes I feel this way about being a girl (I love makeup, shopping, sparkly things, squealing, and says "totes").. but then I remind myself there's nothing inferior about liking those things, just like there's nothing inferior about any of the things that make up the Asian stereotype.
Originally Posted by leonidas.
Could you elaborate more on that? What makes people see Asian Men less desirable in comparison to Asian women? I have read blogs of Asian American LGBT activists pointing out to a certain degree of racism in the queer community, but I'm curious as to where you're coming from.
Hollywood emasculates Asian men and uses them as points of comedy.
Also, the Hollywood archetype for hot male = tall and buff. Asian people tend to be on the smaller and slimmer side.. which is okay for women (minus all the "I like boobs on my women"), but not okay for male.
Originally Posted by jasonng
Don't fight genetics, bro. Just be happy being the fun violin playing mathematical genius doctor that you are.
Is it weird I would find that person 10000x more attractive on paper than a cornfed football jock? lol :p
Originally Posted by CapNBritain
I only seem to hang around poor and/or Americanized Asians, so this rarely happens. But one time my stepmom barged behind the counter to snatch my credit card out of the waitress' hand. I was buying boba for the family, so like $40 max. Was ridiculous.
It's a weird stereotype that might be true in a small number of cases, but generally just ends up occurring due to numbers. And many Asian girls only date guys of their ethnicity. One ex would only date Taiwanese guys. She also had a "must be older" clause, but gave that up once the pickings became slim. Personally I think that this is a bigger problem than the Asian girls only date white guys thing, which isn't true most of the time.
There's also the perception that Asian men aren't desirable. In the past, I just kind of assumed non-Asian girls weren't interested in me. When white girls hit one me I was either oblivious or confused.
Shit, maybe we dated each other.
On paying- the older always pays for the younger, so I have to really fight some of my friends that are only one or two years older than me for the bill. They love using that argument against me, but TBH it's more of a generation thing. I would never fight an older generation (parents-age) if they tried, and usually you don't fight if they are an older gen.. but you're supposed to fight if it's the same gen? & it's assumed you pay for the younger gen. Again, just my understanding of how this works culturally.
Also, TBH, I prefer dating Asian men that speak Mandarin, and my preference has always been men that speak Chinese with the Taiwanese accent. I also prefer my age or older. I also only want kinky partners.
For me, that last requirement has made pickings slim... I've never had a problem finding Chinese-speaking boyfriends. The first three are to satisfy my parents, and the last two are for me.
I hesitate to say I "only" date Asians that are older than me, because I'm sure I'd date any interesting guy that piqued my interest (and I have dated nonChinese, and nonAsian men), but I've never really had a problem finding my preferred type, so I never needed to consider other ethnicities/backgrounds, if that makes sense.
Something about a guy that speaks Mandarin with a Taiwanese accent is just comforting to me. Makes me feel secure.
(Not to mention, I think Asian features are the most attractive, objectively speaking.)