The Anti-Monitor
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Just spank back harder.
This is good out of the blue when the other person doesn't have a good rythm, you just remind them this isn't some stupid X-Art thing. I consider it more normal than fantasy tbh.
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Women's sexual fantasies less depraved than men's
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Just spank back harder.
This is good out of the blue when the other person doesn't have a good rythm, you just remind them this isn't some stupid X-Art thing. I consider it more normal than fantasy tbh.
Femmeworth
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I was referring to cutting and burning.
The Technomancer
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Dare I ask?
Featheredkitten
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Devolution
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If anything it's just more sensation to go along with everything else someone is feeling for a complete sensory overload.
Go on.
Personally, I guess I'm pretty boring. My ideal time is spending all day in some large bed just fucking around (everything between intense and passionate), eating, sleeping, having some laughs.
At my 'wildest' I'm pretty content with pulling some hair or pinning someone down.
disappeared
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I think the most "depraved" fantasy I can remember having is banging my friend's mom. I'm pretty tame by most, I suppose.
It's just a different way to experience the type of pain that gives them pleasure, it's not a self-flaggelation thing or a expression of a need for attention, it's for pleasure.
That doesn't qualify as a mental disorder to me, the fact that they recognize what gives them what they want seems pretty healthy.
FallingEdge
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agressive sex is the best sex <3
Devolution
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My wife is the one with the submission fantasies, unfortunately. That sort of stuff is negative for me. I don't fantasize about it much, and it almost borderline turns me off. I do fantasize about swinging and orgies and stuff a bit, though, but then again so does she. Still, overall I tend to have the pleasant fantasies, and she has the violent ones 
Featheredkitten
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Mpreg is by FAR creepier.
Necromanti
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Experiencing pain as pleasure tends to be a self-defense mechanism that forms in response to (recurrent) exposure to trauma/abuse, especially when it is taken to such an extreme level. It makes sense, really. But that is, of course, not always the case.
Zaraki_Kenpachi
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I don't ever remember having dreams. I just wake up, there's no memory of a dream ever happening so I have less than one a year but I'm not sure how normal that is.
The Technomancer
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That transcends anything I'm capable of comprehending. At that point I stick the fetish firmly in the "just wired that way arbitrarily" category.
You sound like you're speaking with some kind of authority, but in my personal anecdotal experience is far less ominous then you are making it sound and WAY more people are into pain play then you'd imagine.
Vermillion
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Kitsunebaby
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I didn't think the article was about sex dreams, just fantasies.
Honestly, my sex dreams might be even weirder than my fantasies.
Devolution
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Sometimes they remain fantasies because you can't fulfill them.
The Anti-Monitor
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Well, he's talking about extreme stuff, I'd guess. Nothing wrong with spanking or choking.
Just gimme ten guys like Khal Drogo and Hemsworth, plz.
Zaraki_Kenpachi
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I wish I had sex dreams... I've had probably one my entire life. Normally the dreams end before the actual sex starts. It's so depressing.
Vermillion
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True. Some do end up... rather impossible.
Kitsunebaby
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Or would make you feel shitty/depressed after it's over and you're no longer turned on?
ReturnOfTheRAT
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Visa doesn't think so.
And rather less than what you dreamed.
BlueTsunami
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Ever felt a blade against your skin? A non-serrated one. Feels like one long strip of the thinnest piece of ice tracing a line across your body. The deft balance somewhere between too much pressure and not enough. The sensual touch from the razor could just as easily turn to pain.
In other news I don't get the whole popping balloons with girls crotches thing. Its just too wacky-doodle.
In other news I don't get the whole popping balloons with girls crotches thing. Its just too wacky-doodle.
The Anti-Monitor
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What is incredibly morally wrong?
But no. I get off to the idea of how that would actually be like.
My sex dreams are more unrealizable than the fantasies, though, but they're not necessarily stuff I'd want to do.
Devolution
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I haven't.
I reckon common answers to that are incest and bestiality.
Devolution
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The Technomancer
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Not particularly. Maybe sex outdoors would violate some kind of indecency law? I don't think its what you're talking about though
Omegasquash
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That's not bad at all, man. Not. At. All.
Twisted? How is someone being with a blind or deaf twisted?
Noticed that too, some avatars combined with the text... just golden.
BlueTsunami
there is joy in sucking dick
Probably twisted if the person is only interested in people with these features for purely sexual purposes. As a fetish.
Ah. Makes sense.
And now we're in territory were fetishes are arbitary categorized as twisted and normal. Are we?
Devolution
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There's people who are into people in wheelchairs. It takes all kinds.
The Anti-Monitor
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This whole "kink meme" thing I don't understand. Like, at all. What it means.
Why can't we just call things what they are.
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The thing is that these are fantasies that were self reported as unpleasant. Could it be that the content of the fantasies were basically at the same level of depravity (if you could even come up with some objective measure of depravity) but men more just more squeamish about the content of them?
The report even said that the most unpleasant fantasy for men was a homosexual fantasy, which given the societal pressures against gay male sex is completely understandable.
Not shocking, Sex is(at least for men, not a woman so I dunno about that side of things) a physical need, and that's it really. For men it's basically a pressure that needs to be relieved occasionally or we go crazy, it's not something that substantially improves your life otherwise. The feeling of being loved is something that does improve your life during the 99% of the time you are not fucking though..
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Yeah, I must be out of touch. I don't even know what a "kink meme" is.
Kitsunebaby
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I had a sex dream once where a dude was fucking a hole in my forehead and each thrust made my spine tingle. 'Twas an odd dream.
The Technomancer
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I wonder how many fetishes develop during life based on association, i.e encountering something non-sexual or bizarre juxtaposed with sex and developing a link between the two.
I've tried to self develop kinks this way, but it's never worked. I always felt that it should be the way to consciously develop a kink.
Alligatorjandro
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women be some freaks
Ya, I think the study just proves that men find homosexual fantasies to be depraved.
I think it mostly starts as novelty seeking behavior. People want new sensory experiences all the time.
The weird part is the people who get stuck on one particular thing and they need that one thing to get off, and this is probably the unhealthy part. It seems like obsessive compulsive behavior, I wonder how many of these people are diagnosed as OCD.
Omegasquash
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You'd think, but no. Well, sometimes. Maybe. Not universally.
I guess it just has to hit you. I can't see forcing it being a viable method, as Marrec noted.
Edit: And not hit you like that.
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I'm amused when men are shocked women can be as horny as men. They just generally hide it better.
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