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Dating Age |OT$6| Just ask her out already
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Hahaha
Yes.Pretty sure you can.
Hi, the guy that tells his friends not to get overinvested is overinvesting in a girl. I think. Met this gorgeous girl a couple of weeks back. Thought of her a couple of times. She left an impression on me, and honestly that rarely happens these days. I meet plenty of girls, but none seem to really interest me. Unfortunately.
So I saw this girl again friday night. Both not in the most sober of states. Barely 2 sentences after saying hello her lips graze mine. It was obvious she wanted to make out. So that happened. It was fun, both of us got riled up. She wanted to take me to the bathroom stalls but we got busted. We talked a little. She told me she found me attractive and that she had not forgotten about me since we met. Lots of hugs, pecks on the lips, drowning in eachother's eyes and all that. She asked for my number and we agreed that we should go out together some time. I wanted tot take her home, but her friend wanted to leave and took the girl with her. Fair enough. Had a great feeling about it all. I finish my beer and leave as well. 2 mins. later she telephones me asking me what I'm doing and saying she wanted to hear my voice again. I go to bed, satisfied and genuinely interested in this girl.
The day after, some flirty texting. We both decide to stay at home because we're both hung over and glued to our sofas. Yesterday noon, I ask her out. Haven't heard from her since then. Total silence. I'm probably overinvesting, right? She probably just wanted to schmang. I should probably try to relax. I feel like a headless chicken.
A bit late but I just want to chime in and say that this was my dating experience the first eight months or so of my dating career. I never had any experience with women before I hopped on Tinder, and well, cue eight months of short-lived dating streaks in all of which I put way too much effort in for what I was getting back. One girl that I dated for a few months even told me in the end that I came off as desperate and that I just wanted a girlfriend. She also said some other really spiteful things that probably contributed to me disregarding her "advice" (she called it that), but in the end that part was true.
names2hard4you
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She did, poor time management. She had to pick up her little brother and thought she'd be able to get ready in time. The fact that I told her I hadn't left my house yet (when I only said it just to be nice) 30mins prior to the actual date made her stop rushing and take her time which lead to that whole thing. At least she made up for it by rearranging our plans in the same day, that alone made me give her a second shot. It was worth it in the end lol.
Talk to them about it. I managed to gain 40 lbs within, like, 8 months of meeting my SO. He wasn't bothered by it, and it's likely the weight gain is from a medical condition, but it's important that if you have a problem with it to voice that opinion.
Of course, it's going to be a touchy subject, so going BITCH YOU'RE FAT STOP EATING CUPCAKES isn't going to work.
You'd think that's obvious, but that's exactly what my ex did... who also weighed a lot more than me, but enough complaining from me
If she refuses to change, or try to change, that's your sign to gtfo.
Why not just ask now, then? Or whenever it's a decent time, it might still be early in the morning where you live.
Yeah I guess I could, I'll ask her tonight. Just feels weak not to ask in person and do it "online".
Miles Quaritch
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How did he justify his being overweight while telling​ you you're fat? Did he think his blubber was unrealised potential or some shit?
ZackieChan
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How'd you ask the first time, then?
Get over this silly stuff. You'll be better off for it.
I've pretty much alienated myself from other women and I've made it so hard for me to even begin looking again.
Part of me wants to hold off until I move, but I want the rush of finding someone new.
Sadly, I'm still holding on with the woman that I've mentioned here. There's something there, but it just won't work, so I'm starting to break it off.
Part of me wants to hold off until I move, but I want the rush of finding someone new.
Sadly, I'm still holding on with the woman that I've mentioned here. There's something there, but it just won't work, so I'm starting to break it off.
Count Dookkake
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I challenge you to find anyone in this thread who has said anything resembling this.
EDIT: Oh you're responding to an anecdote from another poster. Phew.
Haha yeah I know you are right. Will do sir.
Ray Wonder
Founder of the Wounded Tagless Children
I was fat like a year and a half ago. I wish someone would've called me a fat piggy like 5 years ago, I'd have lost it ASAP.
What worked for you for weight loss?
Ray Wonder
Founder of the Wounded Tagless Children
I ate grilled chicken salad with a tiny bit of low fat dressing for lunch everyday, and like a quarter portion of the amount of dinner I'd normally eat. With baggies of fruit for snacking. Also, I ran everyday. Started out at 2 miles, within 3 months I was up to about 7-10 a day.
From the beginning of July, to mid October, 2015, I lost 55 lbs.
Now I'm back to being a lazy fuck, but my stomach has adjusted, and now eating half as much makes me full. So I haven't really gained anything back.
If I relapse, and have a single pizza roll, I'll binge and be fat in 4 days though. So I've cut them off completely.
Count Dookkake
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Nice work, Ray.
And what you say about that pizza roll is true. Like any addiction, once you've beaten it, you can never safely indulge.
And what you say about that pizza roll is true. Like any addiction, once you've beaten it, you can never safely indulge.
Miles Quaritch
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Yeah, good work but you should be able to treat yourself occasionally without gaining weight, or do you mean once you start you won't stop eating those things...
Miles Quaritch
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How have you alienated every single woman around you or are you using that as a made up excuse?
Well done Ray
Ray Wonder
Founder of the Wounded Tagless Children
I know myself, and I don't trust myself. So I won't enable the behavior in any form.
I'm saying if I have a bag of 45 pizza rolls in my house, they're going to be gone that day. I have no self control when it comes to pizza rolls. Especially if I have a few drinks that night. I'll wake up next to a plate with crumbs and remnants of ranch/hotsauce mixed together and pizza sauce on my chin.
Miles Quaritch
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Ah, I get you now. Keep up the good work.
But, to be clear, they are called calzones.
But, to be clear, they are called calzones.
Ray Wonder
Founder of the Wounded Tagless Children
Miles Quaritch
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Yeah, those are calzones. Calling them pizza rolls doesn't change the fact they are calzones.
This is all that's wrong with society. Dumbing shit down. Calzones​ motherfuckers. Calzones.
Say it with me Ray. Calzones.
This is all that's wrong with society. Dumbing shit down. Calzones​ motherfuckers. Calzones.
Say it with me Ray. Calzones.
Count Dookkake
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TIL: "Pizza roll" is Miles Quaritch's "quadrilogy."
Miles Quaritch
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They are calzones though. I don't care what the stupid ass box says, they are calzones and anyone who says otherwise best be ready to throw hands.
Motherfuckers out here dumbing shit down is why we got Trump. If anyone calls those pizza rolls, I'm throwing you in with Trump supporters.
Count Dookkake
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Yeah, and "quadrilogy" is a word for idiots, created by a marketing department.
The real word is tetralogy.
The real word is tetralogy.
I never asked, but the question was always in the back of my mind, LOL
Congrats on the weight loss! I feel you on the pizza rolls thing >.> I can't eat those and a few other things, I'd weigh 300 lbs in a week's time if I let one touch my tastebuds lolol
Okay Ben Wyatt, calm down
I hope I can become friends with this guy, though I don't think we would be friends outside of work. But maybe...
And no, I don't. At least not to this extent. Maybe two in my life like this.
Imma fight this guy for you. And I can relate (kind of). The two high school guys that treated me like shit always called me a waste or that I'd "never be anything", "like look at you" and would tell me I was just a retail worker...at 16...when they had no jobs themselves.
But I was always the "stepping stone on the way to greatness" and the "just holding back my potential".
And Ray, congrats on the weight loss! I lost about 40lbs a couple of years ago and have kept it (relatively) off.
Ray Wonder
Founder of the Wounded Tagless Children
You've lost me, I don't even know how to pronounce that word.
You need to use some emojis, I can't tell if you're angry or not.
It's hard work, if someone wanted to sabotage my life, they could just put a box of them in the fridge.
Thanks!
And Ray, congrats on the weight loss! I lost about 40lbs a couple of years ago and have kept it (relatively) off.
Congrats! I feel you on "relatively" I've gained like 4-5 in a year and a half.
Johnny Cage In The Shower
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Hi Lads, just dropping in to say things have been going well with the lady for the past three weeks...I'm at work now, but I have quite a few (while dating) questions, I want to keep this good thing going as smoothly as possible.
If one advice I could give is try to plan a date with a Tinder (online dating) date as soon as you can, don;t get caught up telling your life story via text messages for two-three weeks...More often than not, leads to disappointments and dead ends.
Nothing is certain unless a girl is comfortable around you physically, and all the smooth chatting via text isn't going to do anything for you on that regard.
So get out there and talk to her, face to face, eye to eye, tit to tit!
If one advice I could give is try to plan a date with a Tinder (online dating) date as soon as you can, don;t get caught up telling your life story via text messages for two-three weeks...More often than not, leads to disappointments and dead ends.
Nothing is certain unless a girl is comfortable around you physically, and all the smooth chatting via text isn't going to do anything for you on that regard.
So get out there and talk to her, face to face, eye to eye, tit to tit!
Dear GAF-man,
I've fallen for this incredible girl. But I'm too much of a coward to kiss her. It's a bit complicated, since this came out of a friendship and we have a project together. She also gives me confusing signals sometimes.
I've been to an all-you-can-eat sushi today, which she couldn't come to and was jealous about. I grabbed a fortune cookie for her and plan to give it to her tomorrow. I got the message out and want to put in a custom one: "Kiss the one who gave you the cookie" or something. Is that romantic or totally embarrassing?
I just don't know anymore :S
I've fallen for this incredible girl. But I'm too much of a coward to kiss her. It's a bit complicated, since this came out of a friendship and we have a project together. She also gives me confusing signals sometimes.
I've been to an all-you-can-eat sushi today, which she couldn't come to and was jealous about. I grabbed a fortune cookie for her and plan to give it to her tomorrow. I got the message out and want to put in a custom one: "Kiss the one who gave you the cookie" or something. Is that romantic or totally embarrassing?
I just don't know anymore :S
Count Dookkake
Member
Do not do that. Ever.
Just make your move.
Just make your move.
Ray Wonder
Founder of the Wounded Tagless Children
First off, don't do this. Holy shit, it's the cringiest thing I've ever heard, and I'm corny as fuck.
I need clarifications:
Have you been on dates with this girl?
What are these confusing signals?
Why not just... ask her out on a date...?
No, not hanging out, a date. He has to make it clear, saying 'hanging out' is a friend thing. Nothing will get anywhere if he isn't clear with his intentions.
always crazy bacon
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You like her, and you think the way to find out is to kiss her and not ask her on a date? I suspect the "signals" are just her being friendly. You're going to have to give us more of the story.
That shit only works in movies, you should cringe you even had to ask. Don't do anything like that, ask her for a date and you'll have your answer.
Gotdatmoney
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Count Dookkake
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High-level play:
"This ain't the only cookie getting eaten today."
"This ain't the only cookie getting eaten today."
Ray Wonder
Founder of the Wounded Tagless Children
While working on the project, after she's laughing at something you said or you're talking about something, just ask. Like "Hey, do you want to go out on a date sometime?" Don't overthink the question, or think about how romantic it is.
Oh, fuck yes. I'm doing this.
1. Some people are incredibly good at actually living life and not responding to every text they get, sometimes for hours or days. Just leave it.
2. Asking out by text is generally a mistake. Everything important, ever, in a relationship, has to happen face to face. It's about the real genuine connection.
Just drop the conversation entirely and if you see her again, chat, ask how she's doing, etc.
If you made an impression on her, hopefully she's not averse to it, but your text ask-out probably put her on the back foot.
names2hard4you
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Goodness. My man, just ask her out.
Miles Quaritch
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I still haven't bought the Alien movies on blu-ray because of this. Fuck you Fox and your catering to syphilitic minds.
And I see you trying to trigger me Ray. Keep it up and I'll come down there and play you like a marionette using your loose skin.
I wish someone who was like seriously overweight would say to be that their partner is gaining a lot of weight just so I can some insight into what's going through mind that they see how fat their partner is but not themselves.
This is literally the wurst idea I've seen in any dating thread and we had Ray writing songs for someone.
I mean, does she know you like her? Does she like you? Have y'all even dated? You have to date and shit before you get the kissing stage.
Okay guys, backstory time.
I've known her since end of 2015. We've been acquainted and friends. She split up with her ex in December... because he didn't want to have kids. We started to see each other more often since then, mainly because we have this uni project together. She started to use tinder back then and she super-liked me. We matched, had a laugh about it. At the same time she asked me out to see a play at the theater with me. I started to develop feelings but I had the impression she used me as a distraction. She whined constantly, how she missed her ex.
We started to see each other more regularly. I started to ask her out on dates (ice skating, made dinner several times, walks, clubbing). Most amazing dates I've ever had. She enjoyed them too, i guess. We did a lot of crazy things together. We cuddle a lot, massage each other, holding hands even. But she never engages in that longer eye contact thing before a kiss. Ever.
She actively contacts me and wants to do stuff. We've seen each other every day the last two weeks now... I'm not a kissing virgin and kissed before, but I just can't engage with her and I don't know why. I'm paralyzed when I'm with her. She just doesn't give me those "I want you" vibes. She's talking about how she kissed random strangers at clubs or how she had kissing orgies with her friends a lot, which makes me fucking rage and also very confused. I feel like the only idiot who just can't manage to kiss her.
TLDR: I've been on 20+ incredible big and small dates with her. We're also friends and work colleagues. She's amazing. I'm more physical with her than with any other romance. Factually, we're a match made in heaven. I just can't seem to find a way to engage her in a kiss.
I've known her since end of 2015. We've been acquainted and friends. She split up with her ex in December... because he didn't want to have kids. We started to see each other more often since then, mainly because we have this uni project together. She started to use tinder back then and she super-liked me. We matched, had a laugh about it. At the same time she asked me out to see a play at the theater with me. I started to develop feelings but I had the impression she used me as a distraction. She whined constantly, how she missed her ex.
We started to see each other more regularly. I started to ask her out on dates (ice skating, made dinner several times, walks, clubbing). Most amazing dates I've ever had. She enjoyed them too, i guess. We did a lot of crazy things together. We cuddle a lot, massage each other, holding hands even. But she never engages in that longer eye contact thing before a kiss. Ever.
She actively contacts me and wants to do stuff. We've seen each other every day the last two weeks now... I'm not a kissing virgin and kissed before, but I just can't engage with her and I don't know why. I'm paralyzed when I'm with her. She just doesn't give me those "I want you" vibes. She's talking about how she kissed random strangers at clubs or how she had kissing orgies with her friends a lot, which makes me fucking rage and also very confused. I feel like the only idiot who just can't manage to kiss her.
TLDR: I've been on 20+ incredible big and small dates with her. We're also friends and work colleagues. She's amazing. I'm more physical with her than with any other romance. Factually, we're a match made in heaven. I just can't seem to find a way to engage her in a kiss.
Yeah, basically. I need to get back into eating better again though so that I can keep everything off.
No. No. No.
Count Dookkake
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