Welcome to GirlGAF OT 3. This thread has been revamped before OT2 reached post limit in order to wipe the slate clean and start fresh. Anyone is welcome to post here and there are no off limit topics but please do not bombard GirlGAF with questions or general douchy behavior. In fact, if you have questions for women on GAF, you can check out the new GAQ (Girls Answer Questions) thread.
This OT owes much to Devolution's OT 2, though I have made some updates.
If you're curious about the subtitle: it's a twofold reference: first, stop moving your guy posts in here! (see below), but also, we renamed "goalposts" in conversations "guyposts." You're welcome.
Read these rule guidelines before posting!
This kind of question should be asked in GAQ or of people you know or on reddit or something - it doesn't belong in the GirlGaf OT:
First, women are not a monolith; there's no one true woman answer that will address this in every situation. Second, it's devoid of context. Mostly, it's just here to take our space and time. Ask it in GAQ. Let us have our community thread. We're here to discuss random things in our community, not to serve as armchair therapists, relationship guides, or life coaches.
hey i have a question females:
if you found out a dude was a massage therapist would that be weird? like would you assume his intentions are one way or the other?
Now, this old post by ronito was considered a pretty good fit for real conversation in GirlGAF (and it's a good conversation starter) but even now, in the post-GAQ era, think about where posts should go! We're not trying to be exclusive. We're just putting some mild boundaries around our community thread.
And this mild bit of innuendo, while also relatively innocuous-seeming, could be construed as the douchy behavior we'd like to avoid:
Guys, popping in to let us know how sexy you think a piece of discussed lingerie is is not only unnecessary, it can also cross the line from contributory posting (which, in a community thread, is loosely defined to begin with) into "generally douchy" behavior by drawing attention to the fact that there are male posters who hang around here with no particular perspective on feminine issues besides hot-or-not. If we're talking about lingerie, it's for us, not your potential boner.
If the cosplay looks anything like the lingerie being posted on this page i'm sure that will be real hard :p.
Edit: I might recommend that to my GF.
Beyond that, for those who aren't toeing any particular line but are not a girl/woman/lady/female/fembot/femputer, I ask only that you try to avoid bombarding the thread with too much fluff chatter with no reference to the perspective of women beyond the occasional "my girlfriend thinks..." because again, while likely subconscious and unintentional, this behaviour is conspicuous and we do notice it. Posts consisting of nothing more than "hey girlz!" are a particularly egregious drive-by manifestation of this phenomenon.
In other words, we're not trying to tell you not to post here. We're just asking that you think about it before you do, just as you would with other community OT.
Thanks for reading! We appreciate your efforts to respect our OT.
Now onto topics, links and such. Brace yourself for a long and link heavy OP. (NOTE: again, much of this is from Devolution, but I did add some things and I removed all the dead links, I think. RIP old links.)
eShakti (customize everything!)
Premme (new and awesome plus size line)
Check out this Buzzfeed online retailer roundup for global flair
Second Hand Shops
Crossroads Trading Co (CA/Portland/Seattle)
Go Fug Yourself
The Budget Fashionista
Bobby Pin Blog (vintage looks)
Cosmetic Breakdown by Arsenic Yellow
Cruelty Free Perfume (with vegan options)
The subreddit A Bra That Fits is full of great information on bras and sizing and more!
Originally Posted by Lissar
Okay, here's one great site that has you measure yourself and then gives a variety of bras that might fit you well: Bratabase. It's nice since it goes beyond just general bra size as they've taken the exact measurements of each bra as well as breast shape into consideration when recommending you a bra.
How To Measure Your Bra Size Correctly
Another site giving specifics of bra measurements as well as clothing advice for those people who have wider bust/hip measurements.
Also might be interesting to post is the normal breast gallery (NSFW): http://www.007b.com/breast_gallery.php
It's a great site since it shows lots of different sizes and shapes of breasts in a non-sexualized way. (NSFW images of D and G-cups)
Blogs and Sites
Stop Street Harassment
Camels with Hammers, Almost Diamonds, Butterflies and Wheels, Blag Hag, Crommunist, Pharyngula, Lousy Canuck, Greta Christina's Blog, Sincerely, Natalie Reed, No Country for Women
NYMG (feminism and video games)
American Manhood and Violence Against Women
Sexism in Nerdy Communities
Compulsive Heterosexuality and Rape Culture
Feminist Hypersensitivity or Male Obtuseness?
Rape in America: Justice Denied (Video)
Gender Equity: What Men Have to Do
Schrödinger’s Rapist: or a guy’s guide to approaching strange women without being maced
The Smurfette Principle
If Childcare and Housekeeping Were Important Men Would Do Them
Liberating the Chicana Feminist
Gender and Race Roles Broken Down Into Difficulty Levels
The Artifice of Femininity
Why Are Teen Moms Poor
The Myth About Marriage
Feminism for Men
Intersectional Feminism 101
Gender Trouble: Feminism and the Subversion of Identity by Judith Butler
Marriage, a History: How Love Conquered Marriage by Stephanie Coontz
For Her Own Good: Two Centuries of the Experts' Advice to Women by Barbara Ehrenreich
Sexing the Body: Gender Politics and the Construction of Sexuality by Anne Fausto-Sterling
Yes Means Yes!: Visions of Female Sexual Power and A World Without Rape by Jaclyn Friedman
Sexual Violence and American Manhood by T. Walter Herbert
Ain't I a Woman: Black Women and Feminism by bell hooks
Feminism is for Everybody: Passionate Politics by bell hooks
Feminism: From Margin to Center by bell hooks
Talking Back: Thinking Feminist, Thinking Black by bell hooks
The Gendered Society by Michael S. Kimmel
Dude, You're A Fag: Masculinity and Sexuality in High School by CJ Pascoe
Hey, Shorty!: A Guide to Combating Sexual Harassment and Violence in Schools and on the Streets by Joanne Smith
Sexual Harassment and Bullying: A Guide to Keeping Kids Safe and Holding Schools Accountable by Susan Strauss
Men and Feminism: Seal Studies by Shira Tarrant
The Second Sex by Simone de Beauvoir
Guyland by Michael S. Kimmel
Delusions of Gender by Cordelia Fine The Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity Is Hurting Young Women by Jessica Valenti
Sex and Punishment by Eric Berkowitz
Great British Baking Show
Nutella Mug Cake
Porn (Food) and Recipe Sites
Joy the Baker
The Full Helping (vegan)
Nom Nom Paleo
If you wish to add something interesting to the OP don't hesitate to suggest it! On with the discussion.