Sorry to hear that. Do you have any leads on other jobs potentially? I have done some temp work when in between long term jobs before that allowed me to find more long term jobs, pick up some new skills, and make new connections. I kind of liked that especially for crappy jobs. I could do them but didn't have to worry about staying there too long.
Good luck on the doctor's appointment. HOpefully it's nothing too serious.
You should give yourself a little more credit. You got groceries and you walked your dog. If thats all you can manage thats OK. Thats good. Just being outside is a good thing. Just keep doing as much as you can.
As for the weightloss stuff. If it makes you feel bad, then set a boundary. You deserve positive people in your life who make you feel like you want to be the best version of yourself. If people who are close to you are making you feel bad, then set a hard boundary on this specific issue. Nobody has a perfect body. If you want to improve your body/fitness level then you should do it. Liking the person you see in the mirror helps with that "Self Love" process.
Just remember to apply some of the steps in the other post. Ask yourself a few questions
1. Does doing this activity make me feel good?
2. Does this activity surround me with people who accept me?
3. Does this activity encourage me and positively reinforce the good behavior i am trying so hard to do?
There are lots of different ways a person can get healthy, be it cooking/eating better (Better doesn't mean perfect), and almost any form of exercise. There are lots to choose from.
Ps. Try not to focus on weight loss. If you are regularly exercising and eating well it will just happen. Set positive goals IE. By the time Mario Odyssey releases i want to be able to do 10 Push ups ect.
PPS. Support groups can be great, especially as safety nets for when things get bad. definitely go if you find something that you want to attend. Just remember that sometimes its good to have people who don't know your past and only care about your present/future. So try and get around people like that as often as you can manage (I know it won't be easy)
Thanks for continuing to reply to me. I've really appreciated the feedback. And a lot of lines up with what I discuss in therapy. It's good to hear this from multiple sources that want to help me.
My counselor mentioned boundaries, as well. Doing some more reading on what I went through when I was younger I might have some codependency issues. I definitely identified seeking others approval and not trusting my own judgement when making decisions and that sort of thing. I thing I tend to seek the approval of women the I did with my mom, and that's when I am not setting up boundaries and let people say some rather negative and discouraging things.
I think my friends genuinely want to help me, but they sometimes say some harsh or negative things that leave me feeling like crap. My counselor suggested I work on setting up boundaries with them. I think a good start is not oversharing and seeking their approval on what I am doing.
It will be hard work, but I can now see that I need to worry about making my own decisions and don't need the approval of others. Thinking back on it, my first instinct when trying something new is that I can't do it, but I always manage my way through it just fine.
Weight is a big one for me. I think the more I come out of depression, the more I realize how much I let myself go. I will work on healthy activities that and being around positive people like you said. There is a walk group that I used to go to that is full of positive people that want to see each other succeed. I work during some of their meetings, but my boss is pretty flexible about those things.
The other group is a 12 step group for adults that grew up in dysfunctional families. I'm a bit leery of 12 step groups, but I have a friend who has pushed me to go to one that was very successful with AA. My counselor also likes the idea of attending one.
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