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Okcupid is not that bad. I already got a date!
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Meus Renaissance
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Just found someone who was a 99% match. Hope we're able to communicate.
By the way, this is my personality test so far
By the way, this is my personality test so far
Great job!
Attackthebase
Member
Fantastic news, man!
DR3AM
Member
this girl messaged me a few days ago and we talked ever since. we are a 91% match and her profile is basically the same as mine ( same major, interest, hobbies etc) but she doesn't have a profile pic. i asked if she had a pic she said no, i asked her if she had FB she said no. her "details" section is empty. wtf
Attackthebase
Member
Yeah, when a girl messages me without a picture, that's an automatic ignore. Don't care if we have a 100% match rate and a super similar profile (if that was the case, I would be creeped out and concern I had a stalker).
plasmasd
Member
Don't worry, you're in the 2012 social media remake of Primer.
http://www.heyimalex.com/okattractive/
Someone linked that in the other thread. You can see your star rating, pretty neat.
Someone linked that in the other thread. You can see your star rating, pretty neat.
Surface of Me
I'm not an NPC. And neither are we.
It's pretty fucking scary how many people put yes to the question about preferring their own race. I mean it's mostly white chicks and I'm white, but still a huge turn off and I'd rather not be around people like that.
Edit: What is a good score on that website, Pilgor?
Edit: What is a good score on that website, Pilgor?
Someone in the other thread said it was innaccurate. I looked myself up and only had one star....
The only thing is this doesn't take into account how many people rated you though. For all I know that could only be one person, or the entire Earth female population.
Isn't the question about preferred race for having children?
And I don't know what's a good score, but it does go up to 10,000.
Well it's accurate as to what your average score is I guess, even if unfortunately only one person rated you a one. It can only go up!
Meus Renaissance
Member
What is this based on exactly? I thought the site notified people you rated (stars)? What is the barometer of this though? It shows that I have one star but also cites a three digit number.
http://www.reddit.com/r/OkCupid/comments/qi8iw/understanding_okc_url_manipulation/
I guess scores range from 1-10,000, the highest being 5 stars.
I don't think many women use the quickmatch/rating feature regardless.
I guess scores range from 1-10,000, the highest being 5 stars.
I don't think many women use the quickmatch/rating feature regardless.
You have described my experience with a dating website and I live in another country. It just shows how people aren't that really different.
Meus Renaissance
Member
Ah ok, thanks.
I dont know if I'm happy or sad that my username was not found.
I think you have to be logged in for it to work. It only works with your own username.
I did it in a Chrome incognito window and it worked for me still.
logged in and getting the same message.
Mr. Enigma
Member
I didn't even know there was a rating feature...
KO Traveling Hobo
Member
Five stars, rating in the 8000s. :smugface:
I don't think it actually means much of anything.
Power Glove
Member
We should all rate each other 5 stars.
Rahxephon91
Banned
1 star me. Pretty disheartening.
Gaming the system >:3 I love it x3
KO Traveling Hobo
Member
Don't be disheartened, be inspired.
Ok, GAF. I'm posting my profile for critiques. http://www.okcupid.com/profile/Mr_Jax_City
Girls will message me usually saying how my profile gave them a nice laugh. Which is what I'm going for.
Girls will message me usually saying how my profile gave them a nice laugh. Which is what I'm going for.
Power Glove
Member
5 stars!
so this chick put me on her "Favorites" list and allowed the site to tell me that she did so. I know this little technique was to coax me into messaging her going "OMG THANKS FOR THAT"...
not gunna do it.
and I expect all of you not to stoop to her measures. Be better than that.
not gunna do it.
and I expect all of you not to stoop to her measures. Be better than that.
I'm guessing she wasn't hot/interesting at all?
she was cute, but if you wanna message me, message me. I'm not gunna bite (if they aren't asking for it).
Power Glove
Member
I got someone to come back on after a two month hiatus. They do receive an email when someone messages them, so it's not like they have to be on okcupid all the time to know if they're being contacted.
KO Traveling Hobo
Member
Yup. I stopped using it ages ago, but I still open the notification emails, and I'll pop back in to respond(with a polite rejection) to messages that are particularly nice/thought-out.
Shotgun Kiss
Member
I was supposed to have a date today with a girl from OKC, but she texted me saying the pipes in her house were leaking, so we'd need to reschedule.
I honestly don't know whether to believe her, as it seems like I'm putting in all the effort, and she's not reciprocating much at all. Twice now I've went ages without hearing from her, which prompted me to send her messages each time that basically came down to "are you still interested?". She assured me both times she was, and gave me her phone number the first time, as it's a better way of contacting her, but even when I do text her, she often doesn't reply.
She said that her life is super busy at the moment, and I do believe her there, but I'm getting tired of putting so much effort in and seeing next to little in return. Surely the occasional text wouldn't be too hard? She's still yet to send me the first one; it's only been replies. But at the same time, she's a fantastic person with not only the same interests, but also exactly the same career goals and aspirations as me. If she were just some random cute girl, I'd have given up on her by now, but I do really like her for who she is, and I can't remember the last time I spoke to somebody I relate to so well; even friends. We've had one super-long conversation on Steam that lasted a couple of hours, which went really well.
I don't know how or even if I should properly address this to her; I really want to give her the benefit of the doubt and assume that she's just nervous (she said she's only ever been on two dates before, and said that the thought of going on dates in general makes her nervous), and maybe that's why she flaked today, but I don't know. I've only ever been on one date myself, so it's not as if I'm not nervous.
I'm getting quite irritated, but I like her too much to just cast her aside. And I feel like if I say something, it will come out wrong.
Oh yeah, and I move house in about a month or so. We currently live an hour's drive apart (she doesn't drive, but I do), but afterwards, it'll be three hours. I really wanted to get the ball rolling before then, as if things go welll, I'll know it would be worth it.
I honestly don't know whether to believe her, as it seems like I'm putting in all the effort, and she's not reciprocating much at all. Twice now I've went ages without hearing from her, which prompted me to send her messages each time that basically came down to "are you still interested?". She assured me both times she was, and gave me her phone number the first time, as it's a better way of contacting her, but even when I do text her, she often doesn't reply.
She said that her life is super busy at the moment, and I do believe her there, but I'm getting tired of putting so much effort in and seeing next to little in return. Surely the occasional text wouldn't be too hard? She's still yet to send me the first one; it's only been replies. But at the same time, she's a fantastic person with not only the same interests, but also exactly the same career goals and aspirations as me. If she were just some random cute girl, I'd have given up on her by now, but I do really like her for who she is, and I can't remember the last time I spoke to somebody I relate to so well; even friends. We've had one super-long conversation on Steam that lasted a couple of hours, which went really well.
I don't know how or even if I should properly address this to her; I really want to give her the benefit of the doubt and assume that she's just nervous (she said she's only ever been on two dates before, and said that the thought of going on dates in general makes her nervous), and maybe that's why she flaked today, but I don't know. I've only ever been on one date myself, so it's not as if I'm not nervous.
I'm getting quite irritated, but I like her too much to just cast her aside. And I feel like if I say something, it will come out wrong.
Oh yeah, and I move house in about a month or so. We currently live an hour's drive apart (she doesn't drive, but I do), but afterwards, it'll be three hours. I really wanted to get the ball rolling before then, as if things go welll, I'll know it would be worth it.
Here's the thing. If she was into you, even if she WAS busy, she would still make time for you in some way. Whether it's texting you, msging you first online or not flaking at all. I know we like to give them the benefit of the doubt, but in this case it seems clear to me.
Just think about what you would do in her situation and that should be the answer you need. I know for me, if I have a date, nothing is going to stop me from going to that date save for my house burning down.
She may be slightly interested, or she may have been interested in the past and not anymore, or she could have just felt bad and said she was interested... whatever the case it may be, just stop contacting her.
She'll msg you if she truly is interested.
Kano on the Phone
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At the point where you've sent an "are you still interested?" message, you've already lost. Time to move on, and try to be less needy next time.
sixteen-bit
Member
from my twitter feed
is it really like that?
deejay8595
my posts are "MEH"
It's a wrap my man. No matter how busy one is, they can take time out their day to text or call to see how you are doing. Move on.
KO Traveling Hobo
Member
I think you're too quick to judge. Generally speaking, yes, that kind of message is a bad move, but there are exceptions to every rule. That "are you still interested?" message got him her number.
from my twitter feed
is it really like that?
I feel better about my messages now.
hmm 4 stars, but i only made an account 3 days ago. I thought if someone rated you 4 stars you were informed though?
Shotgun Kiss
Member
Following on from my post just above, I sent her a text earlier asking if she could meet up on Wednesday or Thursday. She just replied back saying she's not sure at the moment, as her pregnant friend is 2 days late (she told me that her friend was due March 6th back at the beginning of February, so I don't doubt her there). I replied back saying that since she's often busy, I'd leave it to her to let me know when/if she wants to arrange something, and contact me.
I won't contact her again for a fair while, and see what happens.
I won't contact her again for a fair while, and see what happens.
Jason's Ultimatum
Member
Of course someone with one star would say this...
Dude, ARE YOU KIDDING ME? She's making up excuses, and isn't interested in you.
I think you are jumping the gun a bit. I wouldn't date an obese woman but that doesn't mean I hate all fat people. I wouldn't rule someone out till you find out the whole story.
Definitely an excuse. Just don't contact her again ever. Even IF her story is true, she would have made plans with you with the caveat that she might have to cancel because of situation highlighted above. And even then I would be a little skeptical. She really is just too afraid to say no.
That's your answer right there. I know a lot of asian guys and girls that would prefer to date someone their own race. And it's not a racist thing.. but a lot of it have to do with culture. I see it as the same as people of the same religion not wanting to date outside of their faith.Surface of Me said:
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