I'm not really arguing for hitting kids.
I'm just saying what I've seen and experienced.
These guys in modern times are the best.
Guess what? If you were a parent 30-40 years ago, you would most likely be an ignorant piece of shit as well.
Now it had no affect on my brother. He still got in trouble, still smoked weed. Still got arrested for a DUI...etc...haha. So it's really incredibly random on how well it works in my small experience. .
Everyone has an anecdote. There's mine, but IMO, don't ever fucking physically discipline you're kid.
It worked on me 👍
If you deliberately hurt your children you failed as a parent.
People who say yes: "I was spanked and turned out ok"
People who say no: "here's research and studies"
You be the judge.
Or actions have consequences. I am not talking abiut physical abuse, but this recent trend of zero corporal punishment as the be all end all just doesn't work at times. There were a lot of kids I knew who didn't deserve to be hit, there were also a lot of kids who did tons of bad stuff becahse their parents didn't care, knew their punishment was nothing more than a stern talking to. I am not an expert for anything but spankings do work and have a place in disciplining your children. Again, I think people should worry more about their own lives than theoretical situations for others. I also think, as OP pointed out, you will see differences between white people and peoole of colour on this issue.
Russell Peters had a really good skit on this in his routine between him as a kid and his white friend in Ontario who was not disciplined.
This is where I stand and I'm Asian too. I'll yell, but never strike them. I'm not going to normalize abuse to my kids.
When we swore as kids we would have to sit with a bar of soap in our mouth or if we really pissed my mom off she when we swore she would sit on top of us and squeeze liquid soap in our mouths.
Meh, I turned out fine w/ a belt spanking every now and then.
I don't think it works. But I don't think trying to be a kids buddy works either. Every kid is different. Some need that whooping. Others will change behavior just telling them how disappointed you are in them. Other will with the correct incentives.
Meh, I turned out fine w/ a belt spanking every now and then.
I don't think it works. But I don't think trying to be a kids buddy works either. Every kid is different.
i see some people bringing this up in some ancedotal stuff in there past, but isnt yelling at a child also abusive (mental abuse or whatever?)
It's a frustrating reaction, people are not only convinced that because they have decided they are ok that it's therefore ok, they aren't even allowing the idea of what life would have been for them with the absence of violence in their upbringing.But the actual scientific data says...
Ah, forget it.
The best way is to think of it like this, If i cant do it to my partner in public chances are i shouldnt do it to a fucking child. (this is in response to seeing someone get hit and their hair pulled... like christ lets just imagine a boyfriend doing that to their girlfriend in a public setting and tell someone "Its alright, i'm hitting her to make her a better person", yet seeing grown adults do that to a child may seem fine to some *)
For non parents out there...
*nutshots cps agent*brb calling child services
Jeez this is really something for some of y'all.
Parents beat their kids in some parts of the world even in the good ole US of A, shocker!
It's as old as time disciplining your children. Get over it. There is straight up torture and then there's getting the belt for playing with fire and almost burning the house down (that was my cousin)
I'd argue that parents who verbally abuse their kids are worse than those who spank etc.
Jeez this is really something for some of y'all.
Parents beat their kids in some parts of the world even in the good ole US of A, shocker!
It's as old as time disciplining your children. Get over it. There is straight up torture and then there's getting the belt for playing with fire and almost burning the house down (that was my cousin)
I'd argue that parents who verbally abuse their kids are worse than those who spank etc.
Jeez this is really something for some of y'all.
Parents beat their kids in some parts of the world even in the good ole US of A, shocker!
It's as old as time disciplining your children. Get over it. There is straight up torture and then there's getting the belt for playing with fire and almost burning the house down (that was my cousin)
I'd argue that parents who verbally abuse their kids are worse than those who spank etc.
That's called a false equivocation. Just because some people are able to be worse to their kids without being violent, doesn't invalidate 20 years of research showing there's no positive outcome from physically hurting your children as a form of discipline.
You're also downplaying the issue, and you're cherry-picking. That's a good set of things to pack into such a short reply.
I've never laid a hand on my son, and he excels in school, is well adjusted, and has the kindest heart of anyone I know.
My father constantly whooped me, and the difference between my son and I in temperament is HUGE. I'm quick to blow my top (Not in front of him), get pretty confrontational, have trouble with anxiety in simple altercations while my son is far more rational. He's my fucking hero man.
Everyone has an anecdote. There's mine, but IMO, don't ever fucking physically discipline you're kid.
It worked for me and my brother. If we talked back to our parents we got slapped and it put our bratty asses right in place. We each had episodes of this and dropped our teenage attitudes pretty effectively
It worked for me and my brother. If we talked back to our parents we got slapped and it put our bratty asses right in place. We each had episodes of this and dropped our teenage attitudes pretty effectively
There are parents who believe in science and there are spankers who don't. Never the two shall mix.