Height is arguably more important than any criteria on that list
Tell me about it.
Height is arguably more important than any criteria on that list
I know that feeling too.Tell me about it.
His word choice isn't just because he's an asshole. Hence you missing the point.
I know that feeling too.
*sigh* He picks a word that has been used against women in the past, and it is because he is an asshole.
What is the big point that I'm missing that means that friends shouldn't use it in passing as a joke?
I would argue there are a lot of solid looking people (not great). Just dress decently, keep yourself clean. You'll probably looks pretty nice.Are people really surprised to find out it is difficult to match two people together who think one another are attractive AND like eachother as people? 1.) Most people aren't all that great looking. 2.) Everyone has different tastes in personality of which there are millions of variations.
The odds just aren't with you. All you can do is try and improve your chances by being a moderately interesting person and trying to do the best you can/are willing to do to be attractive. A lot of it is luck though.
Not just in the past now. The double standard surrounding female promiscuity still plagues so called liberal and progressive circles, otherwise the response about the Sandra Fluke bullying wouldn't have been about how she's not a slut she's an educated respectable woman, it would have been "what if she is, who the fuck cares." But there is still a stigma against women fucking all they please and enjoying it, and that's embodied in the word slut. So excuse me if I couldn't give a fuck less about people using it in their smaller inner circles as a joke, as that's not really a signal to me that the word is losing its power. I'm not saying they can't either just that I don't consider it much of a gauge on the word honestly when you still have incidents like this.
So long as other women continue to call friends sluts (slut-shaming without the shame), I don't see the problem. You'll see I feel the same about many things.
I would argue there are a lot of solid looking people (not great). Just dress decently, keep yourself clean. You'll probably looks pretty nice.
Cracked said:So yeah, while your average shallow frat boy is ogling boobs and butts, your average shallow strumpet is eyeing guys that wear red, flash some green, work out, and, uh, have wide penises. Don't take notes. Neither group is worth catering to. Don't get me wrong -- we probably all care about that stuff to some degree, but for most of us, it's lower down on our lists.
I'm 5'6. My experience has led me to believe that confidence is a far more pervasive factor than height, and that there is a tendency for us short people to convey ourselves with less confidence. Don't let it bother you and it probably won't bother them.Tell me about it.
Wasn't trying to gauge the power of the word. I just don't see the problem with its existence in circles.
I have no idea what shadow is saying, but I'm not following him or even giving an opinion on his opinion. My comment was separate.
Chauvinists have been pointing out for YEARS that women are attracted to power.
You and your friends can call each other the c, n or f word for all the rest of the universe cares, doesn't mean their widespread usage is okay.
The problem is that "slut" is a derogative term, used to insult whenever you are promiscuous, or fuck even just a bit sexually active. And shadowsdarknes knows it is, otherwise he wouldn't be all like "I would never call that to their faces though". And as long as being a slut carries the negative connotations it currently does, of course you're not gonna see many women being open about sex.
Not a native English speaker so I'm just treating "slut" like the spanish equivalent
It is without a doubt.Height is arguably more important than any criteria on that list
I think status trumps all, and maybe confidence communicates status on some level. Maybe height does too. Tall people are overrepresented in management.I didn't particularly enjoy this article until the end:
I'm 5'6. My experience has led me to believe that confidence is a far more pervasive factor than height, and that there is a tendency for us short people to convey ourselves with less confidence. Don't let it bother you and it probably won't bother them.
I think status trumps all, and maybe confidence communicates status on some level. Maybe height does too. Tall people are overrepresented in management.
How does the slut tangent relate to the article? I'm missing the connection because shallowness doesn't necessarily imply sluttiness.
Got off on a tangent about how we get shit when we talk about dick preferences.
you mean you actually do that?
you mean you actually do that?
Got off on a tangent about how we get shit when we talk about dick preferences.
Devolution said:I haven't seen enough dicks outside of porn to really talk about them personally.
haha I thought it was obvious that I wasn't serious because.. well come on that would just be ridiculous right?
But now i'm starting to wonder...
(not talk about it, i mean get shit about it)
Haha. But seriously I think I'd have more of a preference about it if I had fucked more guys. Looks kind of don't mean shit if it's just going to be inside of me anyway.
makes sense, but I feel like a lot of girls would want it to actually look... nice isn't the right word.. good? and maybe that would make them feel a little more comfortable. Because there IS such thing as an ugly dick.
True. I've seen them in tinychat.
Close friends don't mind, everyone else is likely to give you a bad lookI've always heard that women talk about a bunch of sexual things together, and always gleaned that women talk about EVERYTHING when it comes to sex (some claimed that they're worse than guys in that regard), so I never really linked it to deviant behavior. From whom do you get shit - I wouldn't expect other women, so men?
I don't think I followhaha I thought it was obvious that I wasn't serious because.. well come on that would just be ridiculous right?
But now i'm starting to wonder...
(not talk about it, i mean get shit about it)
Not a big deal, but when it has a weird shape, well, you gotta do some stuff differentlyHaha. But seriously I think I'd have more of a preference about it if I had fucked more guys. Looks kind of don't mean shit if it's just going to be inside of me anyway.
I don't think I follow
Not a big deal, but when it has a weird shape, well, you gotta do some stuff differently
Looks kind of don't mean shit if it's just going to be inside of me anyway.
Devo totally using the paper bag solution
Close friends don't mind, everyone else is likely to give you a bad look
I don't think I follow
Not a big deal, but when it has a weird shape, well, you gotta do some stuff differently
Somewhat true, as you can certainly be a hell of a lot more charming than most if you simply try, but a small anecdote from a slim 5'7" guy:I'm 5'6. My experience has led me to believe that confidence is a far more pervasive factor than height, and that there is a tendency for us short people to convey ourselves with less confidence. Don't let it bother you and it probably won't bother them.
You guys got off on that? That's a little TMI.Got off on a tangent about how we get shit when we talk about dick preferences.
You guys got off on that? That's a little TMI.
I don't think anyone from Gen Y really cares if women dish about dongs. But some people might pretend to be offended if they think it makes them look good.
Well, are we talking about women pointing at a guy's crotch and giggling or is it just general cock talk? Most guys believe that they're packing a pretty presentable penis, so it would be abnormal to get defensive at the mere mention of dick.Actually we established it's more dudes being butthurt about their own peens or something.
Well then that's leaving me with a bad image!That's what I mean by not screwing enough guys to know which kinds of dicks (even visually being cued in) are harder (lol) to deal with.
More like awkward. Like, is he even aware they're not supposed to bend like that?I didn't think girls got shit for talking about preference & such
that just sounds unpleasant..
Well, are we talking about women pointing at a guy's crotch and giggling or is it just general cock talk? Most guys believe that they're packing a pretty presentable penis, so it would be abnormal to get defensive at the mere mention of dick.
I think most of the backlash and discomfort over the issue comes from the old idea that women aren't supposed to enjoy sex as much as men do.
Somewhat true, as you can certainly be a hell of a lot more charming than most if you simply try, but a small anecdote from a slim 5'7" guy:
There have been many times that a girl was having trouble with something heavy and I tried to be a gentleman and offer my assistance. They seem somewhat concerned because the shit is apparently so heavy but then I just pick it up and handle it perfectly fine and they go "oh.. okay" in a surprised/impressed tone. This has happened many, many times.
Can you honestly tell me that'd happen if I were 6'? I do have a light build, but I don't think that's it at all. There is a height-related subconscious estimation going on there, and it's more influential than you might think. There have been plenty of studies on the issue and the results are always very clear. A shorter man simply has to "earn his way" more than a taller man.
But if that was the case, wouldn't guys in general feel too threatened to watch porn starring well endowed actors? And even if that were true, confident guys would think that they're a good enough cocksmith to make up the difference. No criticism will stick. They're Teflon dongs.I think it's because if there are preferences, some dicks are better. If that happens, his dick might be inferior to someone else's. And he doesn' even want to consider that
But if that was the case, wouldn't guys in general feel too threatened to watch porn starring well endowed actors? And even if that were true, confident guys would think that they're a good enough cocksmith to make up the difference. No criticism will stick. They're Teflon dongs.
There's great discomfort among certain demographics about females talking about sex in general, and the Threatened Dick Theorem isn't broad enough to cover the full spectrum. It's a character judgement, and, to try to tie it into the article, it may seem shallow to the people being offended.
So you're saying strap a sausage to each side of my penis and I'll be the ultimate sex machine.
Thats all fine and dandy. However, if you're 150kg in weight, don't dress very well (or take care of yourself) you have no right to be complaining as much as you do about 'why girls don't like me' when you only approach hot girls and get rejected by them. He has had normal looking girls approahc him, or want to get to know him plenty of times but they're 'too fat' or 'have freckles' or finds some crazy excuse to put himself off them, unless they're young, hot and fit looking.
That's absolutely insane.
How could anyone not like freckles?
That article conveniently forgot to mention that height can also be a factor to women regarding men. And I am completely fucked on that end...
There is hope yet! Its easier to have sex standing up etc if you are around the same height, so tall guys lose out on that one. Its also nice to be able to hold hands, kiss, dance with your partner without causing them back strain. You shorter guys have it fair easier in that regard.
lol. Why so much hostility towards people that are overweight? Were you bullied by a fat kid or something?
More importantly can you dunk?I have never dated a woman that was over 5'6" and being 6'4" the challenges of little things like kissing/dancing are annoying. It's actually made me not like dancing so much in a traditional slow dance style because by the end of a couple of songs both mine and her necks are aching.
But at least I can reach stuff.