You should really be careful about telling her how you feel ... That's not really different than the mother telling the daughter how she feels. When it comes to someone else's self-esteem, how you feel is irrelevant. Ask her how she feels. Let her talk about her decisions and let her come to her own conclusions. Try to understand why this is important to her ... Her talking about these things may illuminate issues for herself.
The OP isn't Chinese though. Non-Chinese people don't see it as making the person more attractive at all (from my experience).
This. Cant say much more. I agree with your perspective OP but the only thing you can do is support her.I know your heart is in the right place but it's really her decision. I mean definitely talk to her and make sure she's going into this knowing everything and is sure but ultimately it's her body.
What is this crap? If he not happy about it he can tell her and not support her and she should understand why.She's your girlfriend not your property.
What she chooses to do you should support her.
Plastic surgery doesn't fix poor self-esteem. Hopefully she knows that.
Voice your concerns, but don't try to guilt her into not doing it or anything. Just explain where you're coming from as best you can. If she chooses to go through with it, it's her decision. It's not major so there shouldn't be any health issues that could come from it, so that's always a good thing.
I've got tiny ass eyes - I should get this surgery done. Talk me out of it GAF
She's your girlfriend not your property.
What she chooses to do you should support her.
Unless standards of beauty are completely eradicated from human culture, we are just perpetuating the notion that because someone is unhappy with an aspect of their body, they should just accept it while other people are born with the features they idealize.
Is she Chinese or Chinese american? Was she born here or abroad? I'd the latter, how long has she been in the states? Is she or her family Cantonese, or from the mainland? Is she the oldest daughter? How old is she?
These seem like answers you'd need, to even begin making so definite a statement.
Oh wow! Your not just moving the goalposts your surrounding the pitch with them.
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Im not even going to engage you on this one.
In another thread after I told someone asking the nationality of an acquaintances girlfriend (she was Chinese) someone said she must have been a golddigger....
surgery likely won't fix the issues with her mother and self esteem.
Say you'll help pay if she gets her titties done too. If she's gonna do it anyway, you may as well get something out of it too.
Say you'll help pay if she gets her titties done too. If she's gonna do it anyway, you may as well get something out of it too.
Yes.
BS. Only to some arbitrarily propped up beauty "standard".
To me personally, plastic surgery is a huge turnoff. It means you care so much about your looks that you are willing to pay a ton of money, go under general anesthesia, and cut up your face to change your face. Your face.
It's definitely an issue in many countries, but in places like korea and china it's worse because of increased sexism (womens appearance much more valued over other things) and standards of beauty that are much more quantified and homogenized.
Double eyelid is not the most major surgery, but it can still be botched and it still changes your face.every time you see her face you will be reminded.
You can support her, but you are not forced to be with someone who doesn't share your values. Of course we are all a product of our environment, so in a sense the fact the she feels she needs this might not entirely be a choice. Regardless of cultural upbringing, I value people with some sense of self awareness. Plastic surgery is fixing mental insecurities with a physical bandaid.
Isn't this a 'good' surgery in that case her vision gets better or something like that?
Yeah sure, that's not objectifying behavior at all... these double standards in here sometimes.Her choice! But make sure to always let her know she's beautiful anyway
It's her body and her decision, you have nothing to say, like really.