[Luthair]

Well I suppose its my time to join the ranks of that strange people asking for advice about a relationship on a videogame forum full of strangers. But I feel this is the place the ask due to the fact those of you with relationships and videogame habits are best suited to help me.

My current girlfriend, that I love dearly, cannot and is not able to give me the slightest bit of space. I play those really long boring games like Civ 4 and GalCiv 2, games that often take up a huge chunk of ones time. The problem is, the girlfriend is around 24/7, she wont even walk to the mail box unless i'm next to her. Now to be honest I really enjoy being near her and I love her to death, it just seems like its too much, I mean how can girls always want to be next to a guy 24/7 without there own space and time to think or just hang out and play some games... She plays some games but only if im next to her playing co-op. She has blanketed my life so much my friends need to make plans months in advance before she will even think of releasing me a few hours. And she usally gets really upset and throws the guilt trip talk out.


So basicly I am asking you people these questions:

Is your girlfriends or a friends girlfriend anything like this?
What does he or you do to deal with this?
Do you think im being selfish?
Any advice or humor would be appreciated.

[SantaC]

weird problem. It's usually the opposite. Aka you want to be around the girl.

[castle007]

dude, that is fucking awesome. Go for it. You don't get that many chances to go to space. So what if your GF is afraid that you might turn gay by staying with a bunch of guys in space?? Go for it

[sprsk]

Nip it in the bud. Heaven forbid you get married, you'll tear each other to bits.

The key is phrasing it in a way that says "you drive me insane." People need their space. It's part of what makes relationships work.

[shagg_187]

dude, that is fucking awesome. Go for it. You don't get that many chances to go to space. So what if your GF is afraid that you might turn gay by staying with a bunch of guys in space?? Go for it

WTF! I love you GAF :lol

stealth EDIT FTW!

[SantaC]

People need their space. It's part of what makes relationships work.

yep being clingy = fail

[drohne]

women + space = hot interspecies lesbian action

[img]http://i12.************/6ewp92a.jpg[/img]

i like my equation better

edit: wow that picture's kinda big

[Propagandhim]

My friend had a girl like this. She was straight fucking crazy. I'm not trying to sound like a jerk, but check to see if your girl has family problems (her parents are assholes to her). That was the case with my friend's girlfriend.

[rakka]

why are you complaining? :lol

[amba]

Need to find her a hobby that doesn't involve you, where she enjoys her 'space' time rather than shadowing you like Yoko Ono.

[Luthair]

My friend had a girl like this. She was straight fucking crazy. I'm not trying to sound like a jerk, but check to see if your girl has family problems (her parents are assholes to her). That was the case with my friend's girlfriend.

Her father was a skizo maniac O.o and her mom still doesnt let her spend the night at other peoples houses.... shes 24 O.o What did you friend do about his gf?


castle007 : LOL! the sad thing is I thought you were rambling crazy, Took me way too long to notice what you did there >.<

[Laguna X]

Hmmm... this "girlfriend" wouldn't happen to be a conjoined twin, amirite?

[MC Safety]

Her father was a skizo maniac O.o and her mom still doesnt let her spend the night at other peoples houses.... shes 24 O.o What did you friend do about his gf? castle007 : LOL! the sad thing is I thought you were rambling crazy, Took me way too long to notice what you did there >.<

Is she reading this now?

Give the guy some space.

Problem solved.

[Luthair]

Is she reading this now? Give the guy some space. Problem solved.

Shes not here at the moment :-p I tried to get her to visit this place but she says we are scary O.o

[Propagandhim]

Her father was a skizo maniac O.o and her mom still doesnt let her spend the night at other peoples houses.... shes 24 O.o What did you friend do about his gf?

Well, since my friend is a giant pussy when it comes to relationships, he just waited 3 excruciating years until the thing fell apart. I would go over to his place, his gf obviously being there, and they would fight like the worst enemies ever. Screaming, cursing, etc. but they never broke it off with each other. She would constantly call him to check up on him if he was out with us (We're talking one phone call every 10 minutes - no exaggeration). He had to delete or hide females from his phone and buddy list. It was pathetic.

Then one day she cheated on him.


You should let this girl know that you two both need some personal space. After all, absence makes the heart grow fonder. See how she responds to it.

[Luthair]

Well, since my friend is a giant pussy when it comes to relationships, he just waited 3 excruciating years until the thing fell apart. I would go over to his place, his gf obviously being there, and they would fight like the worst enemies ever. Screaming, cursing, etc. but they never broke it off with each other. She would constantly call him to check up on him if he was out with us (We're talking one phone call every 10 minutes - no exaggeration). He had to delete or hide females from his phone and buddy list. It was pathetic. Then one day she cheated on him. You should let this girl know that you two both need some personal space. After all, absence makes the heart grow fonder. See how she responds to it.

My girlfriend does that call every 10 min thing too >.< and I be hiding all my female contacts *sigh* IM DOOOOOOMED!!! Now I just need her to hurry up and cheat >.<

[SantaC]

I tried to get her to visit this place but she says we are scary O.o

You don't want a gf anymore? If she reads this thread she would probably be very much upset.

[Propagandhim]

My girlfriend does that call every 10 min thing too >.< and I be hiding all my female contacts *sigh* IM DOOOOOOMED!!! Now I just need her to hurry up and cheat >.<

You need to talk to her. Seriously, man.

[Luthair]

You don't want a gf anymore? If she reads this thread she would probably be very much upset.

She very very rarely touches the internet, ands its only for school typically. The chances or her figuring out how to navigate a forum is about as slim and me hooking up with Nicole Kidman thankfully.

[ScientificNinja]

I've heard of clingy girlfriends, but none who do it 24/7. So does she squat down by your feet and wait while you take a dump?

[Rezbit]

Man up and say "Gimme some space, bitch."

If that doesn't work...uh.....do a runner?

[Luthair]

I've heard of clingy girlfriends, but none who do it 24/7. So does she squat down by your feet and wait while you take a dump?

she doesnt squat, just stands

[BuG]

After the first post I was going to say you're not the one being selfish, she is. After reading your last post there might be more to it than simple selfishness. Her mother sounds like a possessive, over-protective psycho and has passed on some of her possessive traits to her daughter. If you let it continue eventually she will become an over-protective psycho like her mother (at the moment she just sounds a little troubled, so I'm not having a go at your GF).

I'm really not sure what you can do with the current situation but I think your GF needs to get it through to her mother that she is a grown woman and shouldn't be treated like a child. Yes, she lives at home, but that doesn't mean she's a child and has to answer to her mother for gods sake. I wouldn't suggest getting involved in that unless she comes to you about it as it might make you seem like a trouble-maker and her mother will most definitely use the "he's trying to tear us apart" idea on your GF (and if you GF has contracted even the tiniest bit of her mother's psychosis she might turn on you). You can probably make subtle suggestions that her mother shouldn't have so much control over her life but it needs to be her who takes action. It seems as though she might already have a problem with not being able to stay at anyones house and has perhaps already brought it up with you, judging by the way you worded it, which could give you an in.

One thing I think your GF is to blame for though is running with the guilt trip. That's not fair on you and she needs to realise it or else that, along with no intergalactic travel, might be what tears you two apart. A little guilt trip here or there is fine, and even funny at times, but to get to the point where you refer to going out with friends as her "releasing you" (from her grip?) sounds like it's too much.

Besides her family issues you should probably suggest the need for space to her. She'll probably get real clingy but you'll have to do your best to reassure you it's only being suggested to save the relationship (although "save" might send her the wrong message, making her think it's over which might make her even more clingy, so grab the thesaurus and find something less intimidating).

Maybe this is all stupid advice but it's all a sort of stream of conciousness thing where I just started typing and kept going. If I'm not making sense or it all seems like ridonkulous advice feel free to disregard and ridicule.

[Luthair]

After the first post I was going to say you're not the one being selfish, she is. After reading your last post there might be more to it than simple selfishness. Her mother sounds like a possessive, over-protective psycho and has passed on some of her possessive traits to her daughter. If you let it continue eventually she will become an over-protective psycho like her mother (at the moment she just sounds a little troubled, so I'm not having a go at your GF). I'm really not sure what you can do with the current situation but I think your GF needs to get it through to her mother that she is a grown woman and shouldn't be treated like a child. Yes, she lives at home, but that doesn't mean she's a child and has to answer to her mother for gods sake. I wouldn't suggest getting involved in that unless she comes to you about it as it might make you seem like a trouble-maker and her mother will most definitely use the "he's trying to tear us apart" idea on your GF (and if you GF has contracted even the tiniest bit of her mother's psychosis she might turn on you). You can probably make subtle suggestions that her mother shouldn't have so much control over her life but it needs to be her who takes action. It seems as though she might already have a problem with not being able to stay at anyones house and has perhaps already brought it up with you, judging by the way you worded it, which could give you an in. One thing I think your GF is to blame for though is running with the guilt trip. That's not fair on you and she needs to realise it or else that, along with no intergalactic travel, might be what tears you two apart. A little guilt trip here or there is fine, and even funny at times, but to get to the point where you refer to going out with friends as her "releasing you" (from her grip?) sounds like it's too much. Besides her family issues you should probably suggest the need for space to her. She'll probably get real clingy but you'll have to do your best to reassure you it's only being suggested to save the relationship (although "save" might send her the wrong message, making her think it's over which might make her even more clingy, so grab the thesaurus and find something less intimidating). Maybe this is all stupid advice but it's all a sort of stream of conciousness thing where I just started typing and kept going. If I'm not making sense or it all seems like ridonkulous advice feel free to disregard and ridicule.

Thanks for the insight ^_^ much appreciated.

[Dynamite Shikoku]

pretty weird. id break up with her. and by that i mean stop answering her calls and mails until she gives up cause im spineless.

[MobiusPigeon]

:lol @ those asking why he's complaining. needy women SUCK. plain and simple. Something i've figured out over the past 2-3 years is that YOU MUST, wether you are a man or woman BE HAPPY WITH YOURSELF. If you rely on someone else for your happiness you will have a miserable life as its just natural for other humans to disappoint you in some way.

If shes needing you 24 fucking 7 THERES A PROBLEM. F that. she needs go grow up. She needs to find out how to make herself happy. If she doesnt you will be in an annoying hell for the rest of your life.

[Dice]

she doesnt squat, just stands

:lol You might become your avatar soon.

[ghst]

I seem to end up in this situation way too often, maybe not to this extent, but i like todo alot of things on my own so the affect is exaggerated.

Even if i'm totally into a girl i'll end up making them feel crazy insecure just because of the way I do things. These aren't atall needy girls to start with, they are always crazy hot and confident when I first meet them.

[BocoDragon]

weird problem. It's usually the opposite. Aka you want to be around the girl.

No it isn't. Both guys and girls can be clingy.

[BuG]

Thanks for the insight ^_^ much appreciated.

Well, it's not so much "insight" in the sense that I haven't been in the situation before. I just read your post and ran with it. Also:

My girlfriend does that call every 10 min thing too >.< and I be hiding all my female contacts *sigh* IM DOOOOOOMED!!! Now I just need her to hurry up and cheat >.<

It sounds like you like the idea of being madly in love with her but in reality you're not. If that's the case everything I posted can be changed to "drop her". But be nice about it because she sounds like she has other issues affecting her mental wellbeing.

[UltraMarioMan]

Doomed I tell you.

[Luthair]

Basically....

Me = Pansy

GF = Insane woman

I guess Ill have to have a bit of a talk with her :-\

[thetrin]

why are you complaining? :lol

I'm going to go ahead and guess youve never had a girlfriend

[SRG01]

The OP is lucky. I pretty much have to fend off several needy women because I'm that "nice guy" who gives them affirmation or something. I hate vapid, needy women with a passion. That's why I try to only associate with independent women who has a level head.

[Scullibundo]

Just do stuff that makes her want some space away from you? Has nobody learn from that Just Shoot Me with Mark Hamill?

You say she won't play videogames without you? Well next time you both sit down to play a game together, do stuff that's incredibly annoying. Act like a sex hound. Every time she comes to sit next to you while you're playing games, start lowering her head into your lap as if that's why you think she's there. She'll learn that the price of your time, every time, is a quick BJ. You can't lose.

[M3wThr33]

With my ex, I had this problem. I'd get home from school, boot up a game console and get a phone call.
"Would you rather play Beatmania or hang out with me?"

Trust me. It's a TRICK QUESTION.

Every fucking day.

She'd bitch and moan when I would spend one Saturday night a month out on my own with other friends.

At E3, I had to be her E3 Buddy, following her around, even though our taste in games was diametrically opposed.

New GF is 1000x better. I was able to attend E 4 All while she spent the day shopping with my mom.

Trust me, if you're getting the clingy girlfriend, just end it now. It will never get any more tolerable.

[taku]

Just do stuff that makes her want some space away from you? Has nobody learn from that Just Shoot Me with Mark Hamill? You say she won't play videogames without you? Well next time you both sit down to play a game together, do stuff that's incredibly annoying. Act like a sex hound. Every time she comes to sit next to you while you're playing games, start lowering her head into your lap as if that's why you think she's there. She'll learn that the price of your time, every time, is a quick BJ. You can't lose.

Worst advice ever.

Communication is key. Just sit down and have a long talk (explain how you feel), and if that doesn't work, talk some more (let her explain how she feels).

[Scullibundo]

Worst advice ever. Communication is key. Just sit down and have a long talk (explain how you feel), and if that doesn't work, talk some more (let her explain how she feels).

Pfft, your advice will lead to her feeling shitty and thinking he doesn't want her around. My advice will either solve the problem with her being none the wiser, or up the amount of blowjobs our friend here is getting. It's fullproof!

[Spainkiller]

Well I suppose its my time to join the ranks of that strange people asking for advice about a relationship on a videogame forum full of strangers. But I feel this is the place the ask due to the fact those of you with relationships and videogame habits are best suited to help me. My current girlfriend, that I love dearly, cannot and is not able to give me the slightest bit of space. I play those really long boring games like Civ 4 and GalCiv 2, games that often take up a huge chunk of ones time. The problem is, the girlfriend is around 24/7, she wont even walk to the mail box unless i'm next to her. Now to be honest I really enjoy being near her and I love her to death, it just seems like its too much, I mean how can girls always want to be next to a guy 24/7 without there own space and time to think or just hang out and play some games... She plays some games but only if im next to her playing co-op. She has blanketed my life so much my friends need to make plans months in advance before she will even think of releasing me a few hours. And she usally gets really upset and throws the guilt trip talk out. So basicly I am asking you people these questions: Is your girlfriends or a friends girlfriend anything like this? What does he or you do to deal with this? Do you think im being selfish? Any advice or humor would be appreciated.

My friend has a girlfriend like this, and it drives him crazy. She holds off going to the toilet for as long as possible, just because she hates to be away from him for even a few minutes. The other weekend he stayed around mine and left his mobile phone off because we wanted to just get a bit fucked and watch films, and by Monday she was in tears, hysterical, saying 'she'd never felt so worthless.'

She won't let him do anything other than be with her or work. If she finds out he's with somebody else, she says that he should work because otherwise, he's eating into time that should be spent with her.

They nearly split up over this last week, and probably (hopefully - am I a bad friend?) will do when it happens again. So yeah, it does happen and if it's pissing you off, you're only going to get more and more annoyed with her, and eventually, snap. And of course, it'll be your fault for not saying anything sooner. Her wanting to spent 24/7 with you is a positive feeling on her part, you don't want to turn that into something negative.

The problem with girls IME is that they take everything unbelievably personally. Is your girlfriend like this? Either way, you're going to have to say something to her. More so because you say that you love her, and it would be a shame for a relationship to blow up because of love rather than hate.

[BuG]

It's fullproof!

So full of foolproofability that it becomes fullproof!

(hopefully - am I a bad friend?)

Quite the opposite. Holding off going to the fucking toilet?! :lol

[Wii]

Smack her!

[J2 Cool]

Pfft, your advice will lead to her feeling shitty and thinking he doesn't want her around. My advice will either solve the problem with her being none the wiser, or up the amount of blowjobs our friend here is getting. It's fullproof!

Foolproof. Anyway, there's a slight possibility of it ending in a breakup, but it's near foolproof.

[Spainkiller]

Quite the opposite. Holding off going to the fucking toilet?! :lol

Just one example of many. Pathetic, isn't it? It's gotten to the stage where I'm lying to my best friend about where I a am/what I'm doing, just to avoid his girlfriend. We're supposed to see a band at the end of the month, but she muscled in while I was talking to him on the phone, so I might say they've sold out and go with somebody else. :( How has it got to this?

When he finally announces that the relationship is over, I might just hug him. I don't even hug my mum.

OP: be warned! It'll turn your friends away too!

[M3wThr33]

Yeah. It was amazing how a clingy gf can keep away friends. By choice or just because you're always 'busy' with her.
One friend I hadn't seen in so long had lost 75 lbs. He lives NEXT DOOR TO ME.

[Jamesfrom818]

Well I suppose its my time to join the ranks of that strange people asking for advice about a relationship on a videogame forum full of strangers. But I feel this is the place the ask due to the fact those of you with relationships and videogame habits are best suited to help me. My current girlfriend, that I love dearly, cannot and is not able to give me the slightest bit of space. I play those really long boring games like Civ 4 and GalCiv 2, games that often take up a huge chunk of ones time. The problem is, the girlfriend is around 24/7, she wont even walk to the mail box unless i'm next to her. Now to be honest I really enjoy being near her and I love her to death, it just seems like its too much, I mean how can girls always want to be next to a guy 24/7 without there own space and time to think or just hang out and play some games... She plays some games but only if im next to her playing co-op. She has blanketed my life so much my friends need to make plans months in advance before she will even think of releasing me a few hours. And she usally gets really upset and throws the guilt trip talk out. So basicly I am asking you people these questions: Is your girlfriends or a friends girlfriend anything like this? What does he or you do to deal with this? Do you think im being selfish? Any advice or humor would be appreciated.

[MickeyKnox]

Pick a pair of these:




Then talk with her like an adult would and sort the fucking situation out.

[Luthair]

My friend has a girlfriend like this, and it drives him crazy. She holds off going to the toilet for as long as possible, just because she hates to be away from him for even a few minutes. The other weekend he stayed around mine and left his mobile phone off because we wanted to just get a bit fucked and watch films, and by Monday she was in tears, hysterical, saying 'she'd never felt so worthless.' She won't let him do anything other than be with her or work. If she finds out he's with somebody else, she says that he should work because otherwise, he's eating into time that should be spent with her. They nearly split up over this last week, and probably (hopefully - am I a bad friend?) will do when it happens again. So yeah, it does happen and if it's pissing you off, you're only going to get more and more annoyed with her, and eventually, snap. And of course, it'll be your fault for not saying anything sooner. Her wanting to spent 24/7 with you is a positive feeling on her part, you don't want to turn that into something negative. The problem with girls IME is that they take everything unbelievably personally. Is your girlfriend like this? Either way, you're going to have to say something to her. More so because you say that you love her, and it would be a shame for a relationship to blow up because of love rather than hate.

She does take everything very personally and is a very emotional girl O.o The hardest part is that shes clingy cause she loves me and its not like a evil agenda but I dont think girls understand guys like there personal time. I brought it up with her once and she pulled the "Why dont you want to be with me" speech. Girls are freaking insane. Thats all there is to it I suppose.

[Luthair]

Pick a pair of these: Then talk with her like an adult would and sort the fucking situation out.

Im more of these:

[Rezbit]

She does take everything very personally and is a very emotional girl O.o The hardest part is that shes clingy cause she loves me and its not like a evil agenda but I dont think girls understand guys like there personal time. I brought it up with her once and she pulled the "Why dont you want to be with me" speech. Girls are freaking insane. Thats all there is to it I suppose.

Fuck man, BAIL OUT.

<----YOU

[Spainkiller]

She does take everything very personally and is a very emotional girl O.o The hardest part is that shes clingy cause she loves me and its not like a evil agenda but I dont think girls understand guys like there personal time. I brought it up with her once and she pulled the "Why dont you want to be with me" speech. Girls are freaking insane. Thats all there is to it I suppose.

You're gonna have to say it again, and stick by your convictions. If she doesn't understand it now, what'll it be like in 3 years? You just have to lay it down and tell her to deal with it.