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Jokergrin · (09-18-2009, 01:44 AM)

I find that even though some of my friends I would consider to be really good friends of mine (guys), it can sometimes be awkward to get comfortable with making gestures of friendly physical contact with them, such as man hugs, pats on the backs, handshakes, etc. The only one that is ok alright the manly handshake. What are some ways to make physical contact between bros be more natural and less awkward?

LCfiner · (09-18-2009, 01:45 AM)

FHUTA

theignoramus · (09-18-2009, 01:45 AM)

:lol :lol
Are you an American?

Undeux · (09-18-2009, 01:45 AM)

Just don't overthink it? It's not a big deal.

disillusion386 · (09-18-2009, 01:46 AM)

Are you that uncomfortable with your sexuality?

Dipper145 · (09-18-2009, 01:46 AM)

Get drunk and then share the bro love.

StuBurns · (09-18-2009, 01:46 AM)

Brave thread.

Some of my friends are very bromancy, JD/Turk style. Most aren't though. I don't see why not being like that is concerning you though. It's not as if it negates the friendship or anything.

Phantast2k · (09-18-2009, 01:46 AM)

GAY GAY GAY GAY GAY GAY GAY GAY GAY GAY GAY GAY GAY

JBuccCP · (09-18-2009, 01:46 AM)

piggy-back rides

Phobophile · (09-18-2009, 01:46 AM)

Pfft, man hugs?

I give my bros bear hugs.

Dax01 · (09-18-2009, 01:46 AM)

Originally Posted by Jokergrin:

I find that even though some of my friends I would consider to be really good friends of mine (guys), it can sometimes be awkward to get comfortable with making gestures of friendly physical contact with them, such as man hugs, pats on the backs, handshakes, etc. The only one that is ok alright the manly handshake. What are some ways to make physical contact between bros be more natural and less awkward?

evil solrac v3.0 · (09-18-2009, 01:46 AM)

lick their earlobes....

entrement · (09-18-2009, 01:46 AM)

Wow, man. It's not the serious. We get it you're straight.

Magypsy23 · (09-18-2009, 01:47 AM)

Therapy.

Hootie · (09-18-2009, 01:48 AM)

Smear feces on your walls and call 911

numble · (09-18-2009, 01:48 AM)

The beast with two backs.

nilbog21 · (09-18-2009, 01:48 AM)

You guys make fun of him but this is like 90% of american men

Medalion · (09-18-2009, 01:48 AM)

Homophobic thread = gay curious-age.

Calcaneus · (09-18-2009, 01:48 AM)

You feel awkward with handshakes? I somewhat get hugs, but handshakes?

Johnny Ryall · (09-18-2009, 01:48 AM)

DON'T TOUCH ME

Topher · (09-18-2009, 01:49 AM)

You're making an issue out of nothing.

DY_nasty · (09-18-2009, 01:49 AM)

Originally Posted by CM McPunk:

DON'T TOUCH ME BRO

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disillusion386 · (09-18-2009, 01:49 AM)

Originally Posted by nilbog21:

You guys make fun of him but this is like 90% of american men

I didn't know 90% of American men were afraid of shaking hands or patting each other on the back.

Skittleguy · (09-18-2009, 01:50 AM)

A little buttpoke between friends is always nice.

KHarvey16 · (09-18-2009, 01:50 AM)

There was a corn hole painting thread somewhere around here before. You should check that out.

entrement · (09-18-2009, 01:50 AM)

Originally Posted by nilbog21:

You guys make fun of him but this is like 90% of american men

I'm American and feeling awkward to shake hands and pat other men on the back is just strange. I've never met anyone with that issue. No offense, OP.

Anasui Kishibe · (09-18-2009, 01:51 AM)

Persona7 · (09-18-2009, 01:51 AM)

I read an article where they performed a study and the most homophobic people turn out to be the gayest.

Thunder Monkey · (09-18-2009, 01:51 AM)

First it's a handshake, then it's a hug, the next thing you know you're bumfucking one another and Satan rules the world!

subrock · (09-18-2009, 01:52 AM)

this thread makes me uncomfortable

RefigeKru · (09-18-2009, 01:53 AM)

There's nothing wrong with anything you posted. Yesterday at a party my friend pinned me up against a wall and mimicked screwing me, earlier during the night he slapped my groin too. All guy fun. Kicking it with the bro's.

One of my friends DOES take it too far, rubbing my back, side of my body and stuff while being nice over stuff I'm not even depressed about (For example, I'm detailing daddy issues, and he's rubbing me all over). Rubbing my neck, tickling the lobe of my ear. Too "sensual" for my liking.

Desperado · (09-18-2009, 01:54 AM)

Hugs are cool.

riskVSreward · (09-18-2009, 01:54 AM)

Sounds like you aren't drunk enough.

SpacLock · (09-18-2009, 01:55 AM)

Originally Posted by nilbog21:

You guys make fun of him but this is like 90% of american men

This.

Me and my friends shake hands on the norm and give out the occasional hug if we haven't seen each other in a while.

If we haven't seen each other for over a year, we bang each other with the caboose giving the reach around.

Undeux · (09-18-2009, 01:55 AM)

Originally Posted by Persona7:

I read an article where they performed a study and the most homophobic people turn out to be the gayest.

I honestly don't think this reaction comes from homophobia or anything like it, I think it's just a heightened concern over personal space that is kind of strangely present in a lot of Americans.

fistfulofmetal · (09-18-2009, 01:56 AM)

just be cool man. get a gamecube and some smash bros and mayhaps bro out? maybe.

WyndhamPrice · (09-18-2009, 01:56 AM)

Mumei · (09-18-2009, 01:56 AM)

Originally Posted by Undeux:

I honestly don't think this reaction comes from homophobia or anything like it, I think it's just a heightened concern over personal space that is kind of strangely present in a lot of Americans.

If he's not experiencing the same discomfort when women do it to him, then it's not just about personal space, though.

TC?

heliosRAzi · (09-18-2009, 01:56 AM)

Thank him for the napkins and hospitality

StuBurns · (09-18-2009, 01:56 AM)

Originally Posted by RefigeKru:

One of my friends DOES take it too far, rubbing my back, side of my body and stuff while being nice over stuff I'm not even depressed about (For example, I'm detailing daddy issues, and he's rubbing me all over). Rubbing my neck, tickling the lobe of my ear. Too "sensual" for my liking.

Hawt

Inferno313 · (09-18-2009, 01:57 AM)

Originally Posted by Thunder Monkey:

First it's a handshake, then it's a hug, the next thing you know you're bumfucking one another and Satan rules the world!

Thunder Monkey
FIGS IN MY RECTUM
Post #29 - Today, 08:51 PM

heliosRAzi · (09-18-2009, 01:57 AM)

Originally Posted by Mumei:

If he's not experiencing the same discomfort when women do it to him, then it's not just about personal space, though.

TC?

I think it depends on the attractiveness of the woman.

RevenantKioku · (09-18-2009, 01:58 AM)

I've noticed its less weird, well actually not at all, with friends that I've had since childhood than friends I've made in my adult life. To say, I'd never randomly hop on the back of any of the friends I have made in the past few years, but me and my good friends from gradeschool do that kind of shit all the time. Our wives/girlfriends sometimes ask if we need to get a room, haha.

SaskBoy · (09-18-2009, 02:00 AM)

My one friend is always touching my butt and rubbing my leg. Its weird.

Fafnir · (09-18-2009, 02:00 AM)

Thunder Monkey · (09-18-2009, 02:01 AM)

Originally Posted by Undeux:

I honestly don't think this reaction comes from homophobia or anything like it, I think it's just a heightened concern over personal space that is kind of strangely present in a lot of Americans.

I actually have a theory that these intimacy issues are a large reason why it's so hard to get something like Universal Healthcare in the US without a huge fit.

There's little to no sense of camaraderie, or shared future in this country.

Originally Posted by Inferno313:

Thunder Monkey
FIGS IN MY RECTUM
Post #29 - Today, 08:51 PM

For the last time!

Those figs are there so the hamster doesn't starve!

StuBurns · (09-18-2009, 02:01 AM)

Originally Posted by SaskBoy:

My one friend is always touching my butt and rubbing my leg. Its weird.

Physical contact with gay friends

Blueblur1 · (09-18-2009, 02:02 AM)

Originally Posted by Undeux:

Just don't overthink it? It's not a big deal.

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rhfb · (09-18-2009, 02:02 AM)

High fives, fist bumps, and maybe jumping shoulder bumps... beyond that... no

Troidal · (09-18-2009, 02:03 AM)

Handshakes, hugging, pats, gestures of friendship are fine.

However, I find teasing like light jabs, poking armpits or any ticklish area, pretending to play boxing...these kinds of thing are immature. College environment, or with friends at a drunken ass party, sure it's tolerable. But we get these in our office and it just seems unprofessional and uncomfortable especially with co-workers I hardly know.