[_Isaac]

Who here has become sexually active and NOT barebacked? It seems like a lot of people have.

[mantidor]

Who here has become sexually active and NOT barebacked? It seems like a lot of people have.

Barebacking is just wrong, even discarding STDs, theres bacteria in the anus that can cause nasty infections... however I've had unprotected oral sex....

[Fantastical]

Does anyone actually have protected oral sex? I've just never really heard of that honestly, but again I'm a virgin. Is it common?

[The Abominable Snowman]

Does anyone actually have protected oral sex? I've just never really heard of that honestly, but again I'm a virgin. Is it common?

Just use Listerine before and after. You'll be OK.

BTW you guys should stop giving Mystic Theurge so much flack. He was the top, so going unprotected he's OK.

[Fantastical]

Nevermind, lol.

[DR2K]

BTW you guys should stop giving Mystic Theurge so much flack. He was the top, so going unprotected he's OK.

It doesn't matter what position you play on the field, if you don't wear your helmet you're prone to injury.

[The Abominable Snowman]

It doesn't matter what position you play on the field, if you don't wear your helmet you're prone to injury.

I guess if you hit it at the wrong angle or something you can injure yourself. Not sure what this has to do with STDs. And if you meant STDs would be akin to injuries, its a bad analogy.

[DR2K]

I guess if you hit it at the wrong angle or something you can injure yourself. Not sure what this has to do with STDs. And if you meant STDs would be akin to injuries, its a bad analogy.

The risk of specific types of STDS may differ with position, but the risks are still there. It's a pretty fitting analogy.

[BeesEight]

Who here has become sexually active and NOT barebacked? It seems like a lot of people have.

I haven't. I'm not sure I'd want to enter that territory without some cover.

[Mystic Theurge]

That's not how STDs work though.

What?

If two people are clean, they can't get infected.

[GothPunk]

Who here has become sexually active and NOT barebacked? It seems like a lot of people have.

Well my first time with a guy we didn't use condoms, and my ex fiance and I never once used condoms in our 9 years together (she didn't like them). I've never used a condom when giving/recieving head either. I got myself tested soon after my first guy and after every new guy, as even if we used protection when having sex I still left myself exposed via oral. Sometimes you can trust a guy but most of the time you can't I guess and that's how STIs spread.

Barebacking is one of the many benefits of a LTR it has to be said. :f

[sphinx]

Who here has become sexually active and NOT barebacked? It seems like a lot of people have.

I sure have and it's like the biggest pleasure but I did that only in commited relationships after months of using condom and building up trust and confidence. After that, you can either trust the guy's behaviour and/or his background (at your risk) and leave the condoms or go and have both tests for STD, which is the only right thing to do, if you ask me.

if we all people would only bareback in commited, serious, long relatipnships and used condoms for everything else, we would live in a healthier place...

[i_am_ben]

get thee to a nunnery

[Sofo]

I sure have and it's like the biggest pleasure but I did that only in commited relationships after months of using condom and building up trust and confidence. After that, you can either trust the guy's behaviour and/or his background (at your risk) and leave the condoms or go and have both tests for STD, which is the only right thing to do, if you ask me. if we all people would only bareback in commited, serious, long relatipnships and used condoms for everything else, we would live in a healthier place...

Same deal for me. Condoms for anal unless you're in a long-term relationship and know him well, there's trust, etc. It's just common sense, people.

[Dead Man]

What? If two people are clean, they can't get infected.

I think it is more about being able to 'know' that someone is clean. Very difficult to get certainty on.

[beje]

I think I've fallen in love with one of my fuck buddies. Shit sucks.

[Mumei]

get thee to a nunnery

I keep meaning to reread / watch that.

[Phonomezer]

I've come to the conclusion that Louis Theroux is super fine

[The Abominable Snowman]

I think I've fallen in love with one of my fuck buddies. Shit sucks.

Then next time, you run over there, look him dead in the eye and go "Today I want you to fuck me.... In my heart"

[Bel Marduk]

Who here has become sexually active and NOT barebacked? It seems like a lot of people have.

Very true.. but its never a good idea... and if its someone's first time then they need to be reminded that its a very risky thing to do.

[Bel Marduk]

What? If two people are clean, they can't get infected.

You don't KNOW that though. People will lie to get into your pants. These are facts.

[Magnus]

BTW you guys should stop giving Mystic Theurge so much flack. He was the top, so going unprotected he's OK.

What? Hope this is a joke post.

Who here has become sexually active and NOT barebacked? It seems like a lot of people have.

I have, and haven't BB'd. No thanks. Doubt I ever will.

[Lear]

I think I've fallen in love with one of my fuck buddies. Shit sucks.

Yeah, that right there is a real bitch. My relationship with a friend of mine went friends => friends with benefits => (probably) unrequited love. I'm still at the latter stage and it's not fun.

[Fantastical]

Then next time, you run over there, look him dead in the eye and go "Today I want you to fuck me.... In my heart"

Fuck my heart hole.

[Magnus]

What? If two people are clean, they can't get infected.

Listen, I know it's shitty to have a billion people in the thread come down hard on you, but this is enormously naive dude.

Imagine your dude having that attitude with someone else. And that person having the same attitude with a fourth person, and so on. All it takes is one person along that chain to lie, or even be uncertain of their sexual status, and bam, something (and not necessarily HIV but one of any number of other STDs, many asymptomatic in some cases) to get passed along.

I know some people might be wary of being overly paranoid, but I always view it as "when I sleep with a dude, I'm sleeping with everyone he's ever slept with". One good orgasm ain't worth irreversible infection.

You don't KNOW that though. People will lie to get into your pants. These are facts.

. This this this. Do you trust everyone your partner has ever trusted?

[beje]

Yeah, that right there is a real bitch. My relationship with a friend of mine went friends => friends with benefits => (probably) unrequited love. I'm still at the latter stage and it's not fun.

The worst part is that we know each other for like 2 years already, so we're both fuckbuddy-zoned (as in friend-zoned). Well, even if we weren't, I kinda don't want to start dating somebody 15 years older AGAIN and this time with very incompatible schedules and lifestyles (office rat vs. freelance musician). Well, I kinda DO want to be with him but... argh *headbanging on the desk* and meeting him will make things worse *keeps headbanging*

[Lear]

The worst part is that we know each other for like 2 years already, so we're both fuckbuddy-zoned (as in friend-zoned). Well, even if we weren't, I kinda don't want to start dating somebody 15 years older AGAIN and this time with very incompatible schedules and lifestyles (office rat vs. freelance musician). Well, I kinda DO want to be with him but... argh *headbanging on the desk* and meeting him will make things worse *keeps headbanging*

I feel your pain. :(

I've been fuckbuddy-zoned with my guy too. I think I missed my chance to make it something more. It's just a bit of a mess. He was in a long-distance open relationship when we met. He was in his final year of uni when I started. We hit it off, became friends, then fuckbuddies. But I couldn't make anything more of it at that point because I didn't want to be the home wrecking ho that ruined his 5-year relationship (turned out his douche of a bf did a pretty good job of that himself) . He and his bf broke up about a year ago and I've just been leaving it because you dont want to jump in before the body is even cold, y'know? It would never work anyway because we're both in different cities and we're at different stages of our lives - he's working, i'm going to be doing a Masters - but there's still a part of me that holds out hope that it'll all work out fine.

Emotions are a pain in the ass. :(

[beje]

I feel your pain. :( I've been fuckbuddy-zoned with my guy too. I think I missed my chance to make it something more. It's just a bit of a mess. He was in a long-distance open relationship when we met. He was in his final year of uni when I started. We hit it off, became friends, then fuckbuddies. But I couldn't make anything more of it at that point because I didn't want to be the home wrecking ho that ruined his 5-year relationship (turned out his douche of a bf did a pretty good job of that himself) . He and his bf broke up about a year ago and I've just been leaving it because you dont want to jump in before the body is even cold, y'know? It would never work anyway because we're both in different cities and we're at different stages of our lives - he's working, i'm going to be doing a Masters - but there's still a part of me that holds out hope that it'll all work out fine. Emotions are a pain in the ass. :(

Especially when you're not used to them. I've been spending this last year pretty much insensitive since my last attempt at a relationship became a trainwreck, I don't know why the fuck my brain is acting up again.

Edit: seeing him at the "recently connected" area of Gayromeo is not helping either. I need a cold shower.

[The Abominable Snowman]

What? Hope this is a joke post. .

Everything I say is serious. A bitch like me doesn't joke.

[Alcoori]

Just use Listerine before and after. You'll be OK. BTW you guys should stop giving Mystic Theurge so much flack. He was the top, so going unprotected he's OK.

Lol, are you for real?

[DR2K]

What? If two people are clean, they can't get infected.

You aren't clean because you say or feel that you are. If that's how STDs worked then condoms would be a thing of the past.

[Mystic Theurge]

You don't KNOW that though. People will lie to get into your pants. These are facts.

Listen, I know it's shitty to have a billion people in the thread come down hard on you, but this is enormously naive dude. Imagine your dude having that attitude with someone else. And that person having the same attitude with a fourth person, and so on. All it takes is one person along that chain to lie, or even be uncertain of their sexual status, and bam, something (and not necessarily HIV but one of any number of other STDs, many asymptomatic in some cases) to get passed along. I know some people might be wary of being overly paranoid, but I always view it as "when I sleep with a dude, I'm sleeping with everyone he's ever slept with". One good orgasm ain't worth irreversible infection. . This this this. Do you trust everyone your partner has ever trusted?

FFS.

Listen, I appreciate the concern, but before you respond to my post, read it.

If you two people are clean, they can't infect each other.

Is this a true statement?

Yes, it's a true statement.

DR2K did not say "But you don't know if he's clean." He said: "That's not how STDs work though" If he meant "But you don't know if he's clean." then he is, of course, right, but that's not what he said.

God damn, people. This is not a lifetime special, and I am not ingenue.

[_Isaac]

So why did you do it, Mystic Theurge? I'm just curious.

[Mystic Theurge]

So why did you do it, Mystic Theurge? I'm just curious.

No real reason.

[Rez]

So why did you do it, Mystic Theurge? I'm just curious.

L O L !

[Dead Man]

So... anyone ever watch a tv show, see a character they thought was ugly as hell, then see the actor outside the show and think they are fine as hell?

Just watched Season 3 of Underbelly (Aus crime show) and damn, the guy that plays Danny Karam is hot. Ugly when in character though.

[DR2K]

DR2K did not say "But you don't know if he's clean." He said: "That's not how STDs work though" If he meant "But you don't know if he's clean." then he is, of course, right, but that's not what he said. God damn, people. This is not a lifetime special, and I am not ingenue.

I meant that you don't know and neither does he. Just think about next time.

[BeesEight]

Page 6? This thread has died guys.

Well, I'm procrastinating and was reading the Marriage Last Name tradition thread and someone asked about homosexuals. So to those who are married (probably not many in here) and those who have thought about marriage - what would you do about your last name? Would you keep yours, take his, combine them, hyphenate them or get rid of them altogether?

[Nohar]

Before I answer : BeesEight, your avatar is grossing me out :'(

This is a highly hypothetical situation... Hmmm... I don't know. Sometimes it's better to avoid combining names. I don't know if I could let go mine... Oh well.

[BeesEight]

Before I answer : BeesEight, your avatar is grossing me out :'(

You don't like eyes? Granted, I'm more partial to green myself.

[Masamuna]

I'm technically going in for my 6 months screening next month buuuut I may delay it till August so that it'll be 6 months since me and Andy got together aka if all goes well maybe a bareback birthday would occur. We kinda talked about it last night during post sex cuddle. We're both wary about it but once we get the go ahead.....awww yeah.

Outside of situations like monogamy its very risky and discussed already in this thread. Some guy's will say ANYTHING to get into your pants and to go raw. Hell, there are a myriad of guys in ATL that have a reputation of being infected and still do without. Then there's that nice niche of guys that purposely infect others. You just can't be too careful.

[Rocket Punch]

Best safe sex is self-sex.

I'm so ronree ;_;

[CHEEZMO™]

Best safe sex is self-sex. I'm so ronree ;_;

[Fantastical]

Oh my God... OK Cupid allows me to see pretty much all the guys that I've thought were probably gay at my university. This is awesome. Now I can fantasize about any of these guys actually being interested in me. :P

[BeesEight]

Best safe sex is self-sex. I'm so ronree ;_;

Quoted for truth. :(

[Mystic Theurge]

Page 6? This thread has died guys. Well, I'm procrastinating and was reading the Marriage Last Name tradition thread and someone asked about homosexuals. So to those who are married (probably not many in here) and those who have thought about marriage - what would you do about your last name? Would you keep yours, take his, combine them, hyphenate them or get rid of them altogether?

I would want to separate from family, so I'd probably create a new name.

[Scythe27]

I'm not really into the whole "taking names" tradition so I would probably keep mine, he would keep his. But if having children were to come up, it would be a tough call. Not sure how I would handle that. Give them hyphenated names maybe?

[Sai-kun]

Page 6? This thread has died guys. Well, I'm procrastinating and was reading the Marriage Last Name tradition thread and someone asked about homosexuals. So to those who are married (probably not many in here) and those who have thought about marriage - what would you do about your last name? Would you keep yours, take his, combine them, hyphenate them or get rid of them altogether?

Hyphenation is the best! :)

[Bel Marduk]

Page 6? This thread has died guys. Well, I'm procrastinating and was reading the Marriage Last Name tradition thread and someone asked about homosexuals. So to those who are married (probably not many in here) and those who have thought about marriage - what would you do about your last name? Would you keep yours, take his, combine them, hyphenate them or get rid of them altogether?

Well, my husband hyphenated his last names. Its automatically done in New York but in our shithole state, we had to pay a bunch of fees and sign a bunch of documents because we're not legally married :(

[hateradio]

Hyphenation is the best! :)

Bi-kun-chan