[J. M. Romeo]

So yesterday I was chatting to this woman that I met with for pretty much just sex at two different points in my life. Last one was like a year and a bunch ago. And not two words after hello she told me:

Hey! I want to have a baby. Would you get me pregnant?

Just like that. Out of the blue. I tried to laugh it off, but she insisted. She was dead serious.

Then she went on and on about how I would never need to see the baby, how it all would be hassle-free on my side, she will never tell the kid nothing unless I wanted to and blah blah blah. When I asked "and why would you think of me for that?" she replied something along the lines of:

Well, you are tall and handsome and intelligent, so why not?

Now this is not a "what should I do, GAF?" type of thread. I've got my life, I've got my loving girlfriend, I've got no desire to have kids at this point (I would say never, but you never say never). Nothing like that. I already told her, politely, that I'm not really interested in ghost-fathering children -specially with my own family history-.

Nah. This is more about how can people be such fucking wackos. We are talking about a 36 year old woman with a stable job working museums and something on the side creating/selling art. She should probably act a bit more reasonable.

[SmokyDave]

Dat biological clock.

[Jake.]

yeah, this isn't that rare for women 30+.

[Eggman]

Stealth bragging your intelligence.

[RadioHeadAche]

Somehow I doubt it would be "hassle-free" at some point.

[Hylian7]

You already said no, you did the right thing. If she gives you any more crap about it, then just ignore her/block her on Facebook/phone/whatever.

[SmokyDave]

Stealth bragging your intelligence.

Romeo doesn't need to create a topic to brag. His status as a 'master specimen' is scientific fact.

[xbhaskarx]

An ex-girlfriend contacted me, and after a few conversations, asked me if I would get her pregnant.

I told her I had a vasectomy.

[JaseC]

Stealth 'I just didn't have sex' brag thread. :p

[Chuckpebble]

Direct deposit or sperm bank?

Sorry, read the OP, just couldn't pass on the opportunity. Hyuk hyuk. There, outta my system.

[fna84]

Tell her to use her brain and adopt.

[daviyoung]

Do it. You should be the Genghis Khan for the 21st Century.

[Eggman]

It's all a scheme for custody.

[Cereal KiIIer]

Don't be dumb.

[J. M. Romeo]

Dat biological clock.

I've never quite fully understood or believed those biological clock theories/thingies or how much of that is peer pressure rather than genetics kicking in but yeah, dat clock indeed.

yeah, this isn't that rare for women 30+.

Attempting to get preggers by random dudes? I'll start looking more, because it's the first time I see something like this.

Stealth bragging your intelligence.

I can't honestly think of any man who would say yes to something like this. In my personal circles at least. You would have to be very naive or dumb to believe something like hassle-free children, because

Somehow I doubt it would be "hassle-free" at some point.

[spiderman123]

Sounds like she got some diseases she wants to spread. Hey, it's up to you if you want to some Crab with that sausage.

[onken]

Yeah that sounds like the worst idea ever. It would be great years later when the kid needs braces and she shows up expecting you to pay.

[_tetsuo_]

lol@ hassle-free

[onken]

posting a picture of her is a fucking dick move Romeo

The important thing is, I saw it.

[Meadows]

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posting a picture of her is a fucking dick move Romeo

[Oblivion]

I dunno. Even if I was in such a situation where I just need to get the chick pregnant without taking responsibility for the kid, I don't think I could go through with it. Because in the end, the kid is still MY kid, and after growing up with a shithead of a father, I'd never want to bail on my kids.


edit:

saw the pic.

wouldn't. :/

[Eggman]

Just by that picture you can tell she's a fucking psycho.

[spiderman123]

posting a picture of her is a fucking dick move Romeo

Stole my post.

[Steelrain]

Wow what an asshole move OP

[J. M. Romeo]

Romeo doesn't need to create a topic to brag. His status as a 'master specimen' is scientific fact.

Why, thanks <3

You already said no, you did the right thing. If she gives you any more crap about it, then just ignore her/block her on Facebook/phone/whatever.

In fact, she just gave me a passing mention of it again, like it's just a trifling matter and telling me that "I've got time to think about it, she's thinking about it as well".

An ex-girlfriend contacted me, and after a few conversations, asked me if I would get her pregnant. I told her I had a vasectomy.

See, that sounds more reasonable to me. Being an ex-girlfriend, with whom you've had a meaningful relationship and depending on the terms of the breakup. I can come up with a few scenarios in my mind where that story can play out decently.

Yeah that sounds like the worst idea ever. It would be great years later when the kid needs braces and she shows up expecting you to pay.

Thing is, she makes much more than I do. I doubt it's about money. And she doesn't even wanna hear about adoption. Which makes it even more creepy.

[onken]

Thing is, she makes much more than I do. I doubt it's about money. And she doesn't even wanna hear about adoption. Which makes it even more creepy.

Maybe she does now, how about 5-10 years time?

[J. M. Romeo]

posting a picture of her is a fucking dick move Romeo

That pic wasn't her, that's a work related picture (a casting for an ad we are making) and I pasted it on the post because I was copypasting a bunch of quotes. My bad, and that's why I removed it.

So if any of you are interested in the woman in that picture, she is trying to break into the world of acting :P

Maybe she does now, how about 5-10 years time?

Well, I would hope that in 5 or 10 years I would make much more money!

I dunno. Even if I was in such a situation where I just need to get the chick pregnant without taking responsibility for the kid, I don't think I could go through with it. Because in the end, the kid is still MY kid, and after growing up with a shithead of a father, I'd never want to bail on my kids. edit: saw the pic. wouldn't. :/

I've grown in a pretty messed up family environment, and that's a crapshoot. Sometimes kids turn out good, sometimes they turn out fucking awful.

If life thrusts you into such circumstances you must stick with it, never bail out and try your best. But in this case, the thrusting would be the other way. And that's not cool. Nobody should take chances when it comes to other people's lives.

[Jake.]

Attempting to get preggers by random dudes? I'll start looking more, because it's the first time I see something like this.

you aren't a random dude.

[onken]

So if any of you are interested in the woman in that picture, she is trying to break into the world of acting :P

If they make a new Mortal Kombat movie then she could be Mileena any day.

[Monocle]

Tell her to go visit a sperm bank. If you get her preggers she will own you. The law will be on her side if she decides to ask for support.

[DeathNote]

You have a relationship and you'd legally be the father. It's meaningless to claim you'd never be bothered down the road.

They have sperm banks for this do they not?

[hiro4]

Attempting to get preggers by random dudes? I'll start looking more, because it's the first time I see something like this.

Well you aren't a random dude or did you met her only twice?
Apparently she "thought" about it, a little bit.

But perhaps a sperm bank is better for her.

Also: hassle free?!
Aren't their laws that prevent this sort of stuff? where the biological father is always responsible in a way?

[Bulbo Urethral Baggins]

Just fuck her you moran.

[Jason Raize '75 - '04]

I've been in this situation before, except I was never in a relationship with the person in question. The suggestion isn't surprising when you consider her 'biological clock'. What does surprise me, however, is how anyone would want to have a child with a man who was willing to take up an agreement where he'd never have to know, meet, support or care for the child.

Blows my mind

[akira28]

Eh this is the age where women feel they don't need men. Usually after a life time of not being to have a good long term relationship with one. But there are single moms who do it without dad, so many women are deciding screw trying to find a man they're compatible with, they'll just get the kid which is all they really wanted anyway. I am on the fence over this.

It sucks for the kid to have to grow up single parent. But it also sucks just as much to be some dude married to a crazy person who only married you so you could give her the children she needs.

I am for fewer crazy people breeding. But if she pays the sociological price, then she's paid the price.

She probably figured since you were a wham-bam, that you might have a kid with no strings and just sign over legal responsonsibilties. That doesn't say she couldn't hit you for child support ever.

[J. M. Romeo]

you aren't a random dude.

Well you aren't a random dude or did you met her only twice? Apparently she "thought" about it, a little bit. But perhaps a sperm bank is better for her. Also: hassle free?! Aren't their laws that prevent this sort of stuff? where the biological father is always responsible in a way?

True. Poor wording on my part. I guess I am not really "random". Not close enough for a father, then.

If they make a new Mortal Kombat movie then she could be Mileena any day.

Yeah, I know. She could eat you and spit the bones out clean. And I'm afraid that those fangs are going to be dealbreakers because it's a commercial for toothpaste and the client probably won't like them.

I've been in this situation before, except I was never in a relationship with the person in question. The suggestion isn't surprising when you consider her 'biological clock'. What does surprise me, however, is how anyone would want to have a child with a man who was willing to take up an agreement where he'd never have to know, meet, support or care for the child. Blows my mind

Yeah. But it makes sense in a way, if the mother in question really just wants to be a mother by herself. Although once again, adoption and sperm banks.

I guess there is something about "picking your mate" that it's lost when you mate with a test tube.

[DeathNote]

Aren't their laws that prevent this sort of stuff? where the biological father is always responsible in a way?

I guess she could say she doesn't know who the father is. If she got pissed and emo one day she could go to court and they could decide if he needs to pay child support. I don't know if a contract them signing saying he isn't liable would hold any weight.

Even after being told to pay child support, the parent who has custody can choose to let it slide. Like... my mom hasn't paid shit for 80% of my childhood and my Dad just said screw it because she was largely barely making enough for rent.

I don't know what would happen if my Dad got pissed and went to court. I don't know if willing letting it slide for many years would negate everything.

[akira28]

aww I like pictures...I didn't get to see it. :\

[J. M. Romeo]

aww I like pictures...I didn't get to see it. :\

Just a random woman with a vampirey smile. If she makes the cuts and ends up on air I'll PM you the toothpaste ad. Can't really discuss the brand or any more details, though :P

I guess she could say she doesn't know who the father is. If she got pissed and emo one day she could go to court and they could decide if he needs to pay child support. I don't know if a contract them signing saying he isn't liable would hold any weight. Even after being told to pay child support, the parent who has custody can choose to let it slide. Like... my mom hasn't paid shit for 80% of my childhood and my Dad just said screw it because she was largely barely making enough for rent. I don't know what would happen if my Dad got pissed and went to court. I don't know if willing letting it slide for many years would negate everything.

My knowledge of the law comes from growing in a lawyers' home, so as you can see, I'm an expert.

And a non-written agreement about a hassle-free parenthood sounds like the kind of stuff that wouldn't fly so much in a Spanish court. Talk about shooting yourself in the foot.

[Megalodactyl]

Yeah no, the whole thing sounds dodgy.

[Bulbo Urethral Baggins]

Yeah no, the whole thing sounds dodgy.

All it says to me is that women aren't good at pickup lines. Talk about overdoing things...

[J. M. Romeo]

All it says to me is that women aren't good at pickup lines. Talk about overdoing things...

See, I should try this one night. Go all over the club, asking every other girl something like "hey, I just wanna have a kid. Wonder if you would be my mate?"

But what if they said yes. Then I would be so screwed.

[Orayn]

If that's really all she wants, you are on a collision course with becoming The Dude.

[J. M. Romeo]

If that's really all she wants, you are on a collision course with becoming The Dude.

Holy shit. And she is a painter too.

And I just tried weed for the first time a couple of months ago.

Now everything makes sense.

[RadioHeadAche]

Well, I suppose that wraps up everything in a neat, little package.

[J. M. Romeo]

Well, I suppose that wraps up everything in a neat, little package.

Like this?

[plasmasd]

Holy shit. And she is a painter too. And I just tried weed for the first time a couple of months ago. Now everything makes sense.

Dude, she's a painter? Watch out for the Nihlists coming for your Johnson.

[Pachterballs]

then she sues you for paternity fees + upkeep

I say stay away.

[electroshockwave]

Would it be possible to have some kind of contract where you don't have to pay child support or anything as long as you don't see the child?

I'm guessing no since guys have still had to pay in paternity fraud cases but I thought I would ask.

[Pachterballs]

Would it be possible to have some kind of contract where you don't have to pay child support or anything as long as you don't see the child? I'm guessing know since guys have still had to pay in paternity fraud cases but I thought I would ask.

there was a case where this was signed, the woman, then sued to overturn the agreement, won and the man is now stuck paying fees til the kid is an adult.