[Xun]

A girl seems incredibly into me on Facebook at the moment.

Even asked me if I wanted to go on a date with her...

Shit is cray.

[Cubsfan23]

A girl seems incredibly into me on Facebook at the moment. Even asked me if I wanted to go on a date with her... Shit is cray.

and the avalanche starts.....

[SlipperySlope]

I called Robin two days ago, didn't get a response. So I decided fuck it, and did a purge. Removed her from my contacts and messages... Even removed friends I was attracted to, took all of them out of Facebook (Robin never was in my Facebook).

Realized I can never be friends with someone I'm attracted to, so cutting all communication and ways to communicate.

I feel kind of nervous. Never deleted a contact before... Especially one I knew well... I feel sad, hesitated before deleting Robin...

Funny thing is if any of them contact me, my response will have to be "who is this?!?"

[Slayer-33]

A girl seems incredibly into me on Facebook at the moment. Even asked me if I wanted to go on a date with her... Shit is cray.

It has begun.

[waypoetic]

So i've tried this free datingsite for about a month now. I've met one girl and she was really boring in person and is pretty much the opposite of myself, so i'm not seeing her anymore. The other day i started talking to this other girl that's pretty cute, she has a cat and she's, uh, into spirits (no not liqour) and ghosts and stuff...? I don't know. We talked about comedy and stuff and i sent her a clip of Patrice O' Neal and she liked it. We've not talked about meeting up or anything. Too early for that.

But... This whole datingsite thing is ridiculous. I've had like 10 "emails" sent to me and two of 'em are from girls that i kind of find attractive and interesting - the rest are fat and not at all my type. I go onto their profiles, check their info and their photos and stuff and they do the same - but no one ever fucking sends an email or "flirts" (yeah you can click a button to flirt with someone...), they all just look at my profile and pictures and don't even bother to answer to my emails - not even if they're aimed to flirt or whatever with the them. I gave a girl a compliment the other day, i said that she had a nice style and i just wanted to tell her that... Not even a - "aw thanks! :)".

I'm gonna have to pick up chicks at the bar aren't i? I can't be single anymore.

[Tex117]

Things to do 1)buy new clothes. Something neutral since you have only one set and not into fashion apparently. When you will know what suits you better you can start experimenting 2)get a haircut 3)clean up your flat if it is not tidy When you are finished with this you can move to step 2 - socializing, dating sites and so on. And you don't have ANY friends? Like at all?

This right here.

And 28? Dude, thats prime time.

[krrrt]

So a few months ago I made a huge post in this thread telling my story. For those that don't remember it involved my girlfriend moving to China for a year and me succumbing to hard drugs whilst ignoring her and thus pushing her into another guy's arms. When I first posted my wall of text I had just gotten clean and re-initiated contact with her but still had trouble coming to terms with the fact someone else had been 'in the picture' so to speak.

Now for those who care for an update: since then I briefly relapsed but got clean again, my girlfriend came back to Belgium at the end of June and we've been happily together ever since. It's still kind of difficult for me to accept that there was someone else, even though it was only for a very short time and not a lot happened, but I'm trying my best to get over it and I love my girlfriend to death so I guess all is good in the end.

[Xun]

and the avalanche starts.....

It has begun.

To be honest, I'm not really sure how to feel about it...

[Tex117]

I called Robin two days ago, didn't get a response. So I decided fuck it, and did a purge. Removed her from my contacts and messages... Even removed friends I was attracted to, took all of them out of Facebook (Robin never was in my Facebook). Realized I can never be friends with someone I'm attracted to, so cutting all communication and ways to communicate. I feel kind of nervous. Never deleted a contact before... Especially one I knew well... I feel sad, hesitated before deleting Robin... Funny thing is if any of them contact me, my response will have to be "who is this?!?"

Well, I wont say we told you so...

But yes, GOOD!!!!!!!!! You must heal. You must go NO CONTACT.

You are going to get alot better faster when you aren't stringing yourself out with the "should I call, I called, Will I hear back" kinda game.

Its done.

(And be ready, give it two weeks to a month, and she will text you....This is where the men are men...You will still have feelings for her, but you have to be firm and either not respond, or be very curt and limited in your response).

[Izick]

Holy shit do I feel like dogshit. Some friend asked me about how the girls are up at my college, and how it's going for me with them, and I lied. It just kind of made me feel pathetic as shit. Still feel shitty about it.

[Minamu]

But... This whole datingsite thing is ridiculous. I've had like 10 "emails" sent to me and two of 'em are from girls that i kind of find attractive and interesting - the rest are fat and not at all my type. I go onto their profiles, check their info and their photos and stuff and they do the same - but no one ever fucking sends an email or "flirts" (yeah you can click a button to flirt with someone...), they all just look at my profile and pictures and don't even bother to answer to my emails - not even if they're aimed to flirt or whatever with the them. I gave a girl a compliment the other day, i said that she had a nice style and i just wanted to tell her that... Not even a - "aw thanks! :)". I'm gonna have to pick up chicks at the bar aren't i? I can't be single anymore.

10 girls contacted you out of nowhere? You are not allowed to complain anymore :) For most guys, you'd be lucky to get one response in 10 to your own messages, let alone getting messages from girls directly. I have the same experience with them visiting my profile and just leaving without a word. Makes you wonder wtf I wrote that was so bad, but then you hopefully realize it's for the same reasons you dismiss some of them. They just don't fit what you are looking for.

As for them not answering your emails, yeah I think that's rude too. It can get very annoying but it's their loss, right? :) I can send flirts too, but I've only sent one to one of those visitors, but she didn't respond to that either. I would stop with the compliments, or at least wait until you meet her or something. How many of those do you think she gets per day? I tried going with original and custom-tailored messages for a while. Got absolutely nothing. This last week or so, I've been sending out "Hey there, how's the party summer been treating you?" sometimes even without an email subject. 60+% success rate. One sentence!

Izick: Stop talking about it and DO IT!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g9VFhVcr2IE

[JokerOfSpades]

Holy shit do I feel like dogshit. Some friend asked me about how the girls are up at my college, and how it's going for me with them, and I lied. It just kind of made me feel pathetic as shit. Still feel shitty about it.

Lesson learned?

[GringoLOCOo]

This is long so bear with me and part of this is from another thread on here but now it has a bit more detail.


I'm kinda in the same boat as you guys i absolutely can not talk to girls and it absolutely sucks.

Started a new job in a call centre couple weeks ago and there's this hot blonde who has a boyfriend , i see the blonde everyday and i've been getting all sorts of signs from her like
this from the past couple of weeks


she look's at me for like a minute then looks away but then she does it again and i even catch her looking at times.

Hell for some reason she's always putting her bag near my side of the table when she could put it on the other side and when ever she grabs something from it her head always goes near my legs or her face touch's my arm :/

And she randomly asks me the stupidest question's about work.



Then this week on Monday we started in a new bigger office and the team was told to wait till someone is free to see all us.

And she kept getting quick looks at me and then she thought it was a good idea to play truth or dare.

First she asks me i say no dont want to play then she asks me again and i say no, then at lunch she and everyone else plays truth or dare again and she says to me this time your playing with a smile

So i say fine i'll play and obviously i'm the first one that has to pick , so i pick truth and she says is it ok if there rude and i'm like go for it , then she says ARE YOU A VIRGIN :O lol

I then straight up say no and she smiles and someone walks in the room and the game stops.

then in the afternoon she keeps asking my opinion on random stuff , then i also hear her saying she would love a one night stand even though shes got a boyfriend WTF lol



Well today i was late to work and as soon as i walked in the room the blonde was at the back and she smiled at me but then looked at the wall , then she kept looking at me and i did the same but when she noticed me looking , her eyes quickly looked towards the right and at one point she looked at the floor when she caught me looking dont know if that means anything though.

Then during the day my team and the blonde were sat in a circle together talking about random work stuff and i was paired up with someone else and she was sitting right across from me still getting quick looks at me but then i made a joke to the person i was partnerd up with and the partner and me started laughing and she looked at me and had a big smile on her face and then i looked away but she still kept getting quick looks at me.

Now when me and my partner were standing up infront of everyone presenting work stuff i was told to be more nicer and less agressive , then the blonde said out loud I CAN BE NICE TO HIM with a smile.

And then the person that was incharge of us today let me know that we'll be fineshing work early today and i started smileing and the blonde says out loud look at him with that big smile then i started laughing for some reason lol.

then last but not least when there was an hour to go till end of work she says out loud that she's got butterflies in her stomach the last couple of days , and everyone in the room says its probably something shes thinking about and she says she is thinking about nothing and her face turns all red and the room start laughing that shes blushing lol

I just looked towards the floor lol.

forgot to add she also said before lunch break that she needs a massage out loud and i started smiling and laughing lol

at which point she did as well.

Been wanting to talk to her more today but dont want to get rejected and look like an idiot
I was sat near her today and she kept moving her legs towards me and hit my leg looked at me and i looked at her , she smiled at me i smiled at her and she smiled at me.

at which point i just melted lol

Now i'm seriously considering asking for her number but dont know if thats a good idea ?





Forgot to add she's been talking to me , asking me random questions about work stuff and other stuff

and i always come out with yes or thats nice or even yeah i did this , cant hold a conversation worth shitting on lol

I really really want to but just dont know what else to say or how to keep it flowing :/

any advice dating Gaf?

[The Skater]

I know I'm late but I'd also like to chime in on Crush's success. Not trying to sound harsh, but you posted some, ah, interesting stories in the dating age thread a couple of years ago but you seem to have overcome quite a few of those issues and now you've found success. Great job dude.

[Moneyhats2k5]

This is long so bear with me and part of this is from another thread on here but now it has a bit more detail. I'm kinda in the same boat as you guys i absolutely can not talk to girls and it absolutely sucks. Started a new job in a call centre couple weeks ago and there's this hot blonde who has a boyfriend , i see the blonde everyday and i've been getting all sorts of signs from her like this from the past couple of weeks she look's at me for like a minute then looks away but then she does it again and i even catch her looking at times. Hell for some reason she's always putting her bag near my side of the table when she could put it on the other side and when ever she grabs something from it her head always goes near my legs or her face touch's my arm :/ And she randomly asks me the stupidest question's about work. Then this week on Monday we started in a new bigger office and the team was told to wait till someone is free to see all us. And she kept getting quick looks at me and then she thought it was a good idea to play truth or dare. First she asks me i say no dont want to play then she asks me again and i say no, then at lunch she and everyone else plays truth or dare again and she says to me this time your playing with a smile So i say fine i'll play and obviously i'm the first one that has to pick , so i pick truth and she says is it ok if there rude and i'm like go for it , then she says ARE YOU A VIRGIN :O lol I then straight up say no and she smiles and someone walks in the room and the game stops. then in the afternoon she keeps asking my opinion on random stuff , then i also hear her saying she would love a one night stand even though shes got a boyfriend WTF lol Well today i was late to work and as soon as i walked in the room the blonde was at the back and she smiled at me but then looked at the wall , then she kept looking at me and i did the same but when she noticed me looking , her eyes quickly looked towards the right and at one point she looked at the floor when she caught me looking dont know if that means anything though. Then during the day my team and the blonde were sat in a circle together talking about random work stuff and i was paired up with someone else and she was sitting right across from me still getting quick looks at me but then i made a joke to the person i was partnerd up with and the partner and me started laughing and she looked at me and had a big smile on her face and then i looked away but she still kept getting quick looks at me. Now when me and my partner were standing up infront of everyone presenting work stuff i was told to be more nicer and less agressive , then the blonde said out loud I CAN BE NICE TO HIM with a smile. And then the person that was incharge of us today let me know that we'll be fineshing work early today and i started smileing and the blonde says out loud look at him with that big smile then i started laughing for some reason lol. then last but not least when there was an hour to go till end of work she says out loud that she's got butterflies in her stomach the last couple of days , and everyone in the room says its probably something shes thinking about and she says she is thinking about nothing and her face turns all red and the room start laughing that shes blushing lol I just looked towards the floor lol. forgot to add she also said before lunch break that she needs a massage out loud and i started smiling and laughing lol at which point she did as well. Been wanting to talk to her more today but dont want to get rejected and look like an idiot I was sat near her today and she kept moving her legs towards me and hit my leg looked at me and i looked at her , she smiled at me i smiled at her and she smiled at me. at which point i just melted lol Now i'm seriously considering asking for her number but dont know if thats a good idea ? Forgot to add she's been talking to me , asking me random questions about work stuff and other stuff and i always come out with yes or thats nice or even yeah i did this , cant hold a conversation worth shitting on lol I really really want to but just dont know what else to say or how to keep it flowing :/ any advice dating Gaf?

Just arrange a outing after work, to gauge interest. For food or at a bar. Simple guy!

[Eggman]

Hey guys, I recently broke up with my first girlfriend of 4 years, and I'm single to mingle. Already contacted one of my friends that liked me in the past, and we might go out this weekend. What's a good, easy first date?

[Minamu]

Gringo, she's sending you basically all the signals in the hand book.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u15BUoioCZw
But in reverse, of course.

Hey guys, I recently broke up with my first girlfriend of 4 years, and I'm single to mingle. Already contacted one of my friends that liked me in the past, and we might go out this weekend. What's a good, easy first date?

Rebound? Either way, make dinner at your/her place. It's different and unique.

[Izick]

Lesson learned?

By who? What lesson? I should have said "no, I'm a loser" and lose face?

[Cubsfan23]

"if you wanna hook up with me, just come right out say it"


you'll know by her response if she's just playing with you or not.

[low-G]

Hey guys, I recently broke up with my first girlfriend of 4 years, and I'm single to mingle. Already contacted one of my friends that liked me in the past, and we might go out this weekend. What's a good, easy first date?

Personally I'm a dinner person. Some people suggest bars & coffee shops, which aren't bad picks either, really. If the girl likes you any of these choices will be decent, and they're safe.

[JokerOfSpades]

By who? What lesson? I should have said "no, I'm a loser" and lose face?

I thought you felt bad. Lesson not learned then?

(And you don't have to say that, you could just say "working on it/them")

[Izick]

I thought you felt bad. Lesson not learned then? (And you don't have to say that, you could just say "working on it/them")

Not sure I quite follow. I do feel like shit that I lied about that, but I don't really think there was a lesson there. It's just something that happened.

[Eggman]

Not a rebound or a fling. I don't really know what it is, just a date for now. So movies is a bad idea? I'm very rusty so please excuse my bad suggestions.

[low-G]

Not a rebound or a fling. I don't really know what it is, just a date for now. So movies is a bad idea? I'm very rusty so please excuse my bad suggestions.

Yeah it's been discussed before but movies are hard on a first date because you can't talk and you don't know how to feel each other out because you're watching the movie.

[Izick]

I wish you the best of luck, Eggman. Try bowling.

[Minamu]

"if you wanna hook up with me, just come right out say it" you'll know by her response if she's just playing with you or not.

Seems like an exceptional moment to say this, yeah.

Not sure I quite follow. I do feel like shit that I lied about that, but I don't really think there was a lesson there. It's just something that happened.

You need to get off GAF and start doing things, man. I assume you do not enjoy feeling like shit.

Not a rebound or a fling. I don't really know what it is, just a date for now. So movies is a bad idea? I'm very rusty so please excuse my bad suggestions.

Movies are rarely good. You want to talk to the person, right? So do something where you can do this. Drinks or food is a good place to start at. I'd suggest inviting her to your place for either of those things.

[Eggman]

Thanks. She really used to like me when I was with my ex, but never got the chance to show her much I liked her

[JokerOfSpades]

Not sure I quite follow. I do feel like shit that I lied about that, but I don't really think there was a lesson there. It's just something that happened.

The lesson was not to lie again if you felt like shit over it. That's what I meant. But again, there are different things to say if a friend asks you about girls. You don't have to lie.

[Anastacio]

Just a general question to people out of curiousity. Would you in general let your girlfriend be good friends with her ex? (were thinking about it reading that other thread of a dude thinking his relationship is ending today).

I'm just thinking (mostly cause people have said I'm naive) that my gf is mentioning her last ex frequently.

Also telling another ex that she is reminded of him everytime she look at me.

[JokerOfSpades]

Just a general question to people out of curiousity. Would you in general let your girlfriend be good friends with her ex? I'm just thinking (mostly cause people have said I'm naive) that my gf is mentioning her last ex frequently. And telling another ex that she is reminded of him everytime she look at me.

Usually that's a dating faux pas. You're not supposed to mention your ex that much (at all), and having them as a friend is a dangerous game as is.

[Minamu]

Just a general question to people out of curiousity. Would you in general let your girlfriend be good friends with her ex? (were thinking about it reading that other thread of a dude thinking his relationship is ending today). I'm just thinking (mostly cause people have said I'm naive) that my gf is mentioning her last ex frequently. Also telling another ex that she is reminded of him everytime she look at me.

Being friends is one thing, what you're talking about are red flags indeed.

[Xun]

To be honest, I'm not really sure how to feel about it...

I agreed to going on a date with her tomorrow, but I really am having doubts about it.

She's not really my type, but at the same time I feel I could do with the experience. That and I'm not really looking for a relationship at the moment, so instead I'd rather have something a bit more casual.

Funny how all of this just comes out of nowhere, eh? :/

[Anastacio]

I haven't been too much bothered by it. But I asked her in the kitchen if she still likes him as she were talking about him and yeah she likes him as a good friend but explained he were such a jealous guy. Yet while we had an argument a month ago she said she miss him but I think that came out of frustration rather.

We had an argument in the first place because she had told her other ex the other night that she had to sleep or else her feelings might come back and that she still probably loves him but he is getting married.

All these mentions of exes are just so blah and not of my interest but I haven't let it bother me too much thinking genuinely that it's just a good friendship.

Also, what do one do if you don't like most of your gf's network of friends? Or at least, don't fancy going out with them every week?

[Minamu]

I agreed to going on a date with her tomorrow, but I really am having doubts about it. She's not really my type, but at the same time I feel I could do with the experience. That and I'm not really looking for a relationship at the moment, so instead I'd rather have something a bit more casual. Funny how all of this just comes out of nowhere, eh? :/

Yeah go man! Who knows, you might have a good time too :) Maybe she'll change your mind about her. You've got nothing to lose really.

I haven't been too much bothered by it. But I asked her in the kitchen if she still likes him as she were talking about him and yeah she likes him as a good friend but explained he were such a jealous guy. Yet while we had an argument a month ago she said she miss him but I think that came out of frustration rather. We had an argument in the first place because she had told her other ex the other night that she had to sleep or else her feelings might come back and that she still probably loves him but he is getting married. All these mentions of exes are just so blah and not of my interest but I haven't let it bother me too much thinking genuinely that it's just a good friendship. Also, what do one do if you don't like most of your gf's network of friends? Or at least, don't fancy going out with them every week?

This is not sounding very good at all imho. You haven't been with her very long, have you? Arguments about exes are never a good thing, but especially not this early. Maybe you should have another *talk* about it, and tell her how it doesn't interest you to hear about them. As for her friends, you're not dating them :) Other than that, I've got nothing :S

[Sinistral]

I want to start off by saying thanks for the replies. I was just frustrated enough to actually post something last night.... Which could be an issue itself.

You must realize that there are girls out there that put in their share (or more!) of work in the relationship. The hard part for some if finding that girl. It's not a good idea to think that you (the male) has to be the provider and do all the work. A good relationship will have both working together. Fuck the girls that want to be chased!

Yes, I do realize that. I mostly put chase in quotes mostly as a generalization. I've just yet to meet anyone who seems to put in an equal effort.

Most of them will chase you if you're interesting enough and let them do it. Anything else is just excuses.

Do you always have the problems with conversation? As an introvert I'm always the quiet guy in groups, but when I'm in a one on one situation that's far less of a problem. Do you have trouble talking with friends as well? As someone that had serious social issues in the past, it seemed that at a certain point I kinda grew over it. Big part of it was just throwing myself in situations where I meet new people, so you pretty much have to. Second part is self acceptance. Reading your post, you seem to know your good points which means that you're at the very least on the right path. Once I got comfortable with myself talking also got a lot easier for me. Anyway, don't think you're too late. Personally didn't even get my first kiss till I was 27 and now on my 29th it seems like I might actually be moving towards my first serious relationship (which is both exciting and somewhat scary to me).

I do have trouble carrying conversations with friends as well. I see my friends easily talk and re-tell stories of experiences they've had. With full well worded thoughts and coherent sentences. Seamlessly bridging one story to the next. They seem much more interesting, least they have more common interests and recollections, where as mine are quite niche, obscure and fragmented. Often, I'll find something to add to a conversation but when the thought comes to my head the conversation has moved onto something else entirely.

Example being a movie, TDKR, people will quote Deckard Bain endlessly but all I remember are sights, visuals and overarching thematics... I'm fine with that, I have accepted who I am and humbly relish in my uniqueness. I prefer doing, more than talking, actions speak louder than words type of thing. The problem being that no females I've talked to seem to care, or their interest falls fast. Of course it's never too late, but my own urges are waning.

Societal pressure shouldn't bother you. Who gives a fuck about that. Do what makes you happy.

Societal pressures used to bother me, it was past tense when I wrote it, I don't care now. I really do enjoy where I am going in my life. Just this one female factor eludes me.

Anyway... It all boils down to conversation skills I suppose, something I've always struggled with. I remember some posts in the other OT where people said to just start talking to people randomly. And I did when I read those, but perhaps I'm not pushing that concept enough. Always a work in progress. Thanks all.

[Anastacio]

Yeah go man! Who knows, you might have a good time too :) Maybe she'll change your mind about her. You've got nothing to lose really. This is not sounding very good at all imho. You haven't been with her very long, have you? Arguments about exes are never a good thing, but especially not this early. Maybe you should have another *talk* about it, and tell her how it doesn't interest you to hear about them. As for her friends, you're not dating them :) Other than that, I've got nothing :S

I guess it would be rude telling her I don't fancy being with her friends when she always wanna be with her friends.

Btw, we had a talk since then and I kind of directly told her I don't care about her exes but they do still get mentioned here and there. Like a week ago when she needed me to know I wear the same pants and shoes as her ex lol. And when her other ex teached her guitar and that he were professional, so she absolutely knows and have to state my guitar is not good hehe.

[vctor182]

I haven't been too much bothered by it. But I asked her in the kitchen if she still likes him as she were talking about him and yeah she likes him as a good friend but explained he were such a jealous guy. Yet while we had an argument a month ago she said she miss him but I think that came out of frustration rather. We had an argument in the first place because she had told her other ex the other night that she had to sleep or else her feelings might come back and that she still probably loves him but he is getting married. All these mentions of exes are just so blah and not of my interest but I haven't let it bother me too much thinking genuinely that it's just a good friendship. Also, what do one do if you don't like most of your gf's network of friends? Or at least, don't fancy going out with them every week?

It all depends on how was their relationship, how did they broke up and what is her ex doing.

For example, I have no issues when she talks with her ex from 12 years ago over facebook but I do have them when her last ex is brought up when she's telling me something about her past because this guy was going to try and steal her.

[Anilx3]

Sorry if this has been answered in this thread, just stumbled across it and it already so large.

When you guys say you need to work on yourself before anyone can be attracted to you, in what ways to you mean? Fitness? Hygiene? Being more well traveled? Having lots of friends?

[Xun]

Yeah go man! Who knows, you might have a good time too :) Maybe she'll change your mind about her. You've got nothing to lose really.

True.

I just doubt I'd really want to deal with the baggage of anything too serious at the moment.

[Anastacio]

It all depends on how was their relationship, how did they broke up and what is her ex doing. For example, I have no issues when she talks with her ex from 12 years ago over facebook but I do have them when her last ex is brought up when she's telling me something about her past because this guy was going to try and steal her.

Well, the one ex who is living in Asia and is getting married I don't have an issue with. I can understand their friendship after being in a relationship for 6 years. The other ex she is still SMS'ing and having contact with which is fine as their friends but it just doesn't feel nice when she says that of course she likes him, he's sweet just jealous and mention a piece about him here and there. He clearly also is keeping an eye on my gf's status. I think they broke up sometime last December or something.

But I'm actually not too bothered, just wanted to hear what others think of their gf being friends with her exes.

It also wasn't nice hearing, that she dreamt that she were cheating me lol, but of course it were just a dream, stupid dreams haha.

[Empowe]

Will this be your first date, Xun?

If so, good luck!

[Minamu]

Sorry if this has been answered in this thread, just stumbled across it and it already so large. When you guys say you need to work on yourself before anyone can be attracted to you, in what ways to you mean? Fitness? Hygiene? Being more well traveled? Having lots of friends?

That all depends on who is giving the advice, and to who, and where that person is in life. It could be all of those things but in the end it's about creating a happy life for yourself and no one else. It's about becoming a great person. Fix the problems in your own life instead of bringing more problems to someone else's plate. Being happy with yourself, being confident and being in a stable position is more important in the long run than getting a kiss from THAT girl you have your eyes on, something that usually is a short term goal.

[Cubsfan23]

True. I just doubt I'd really want to deal with the baggage of anything too serious at the moment.

say this if she brings it up........don't say anything if she doesn't


and don't see her more than once a week if you do decide to keep seeing her and want to keep it casual

[DTLIONS1013]

Alright dating-age, I come to you for the first time, my 9 month relationship with my girlfriend has been mostly perfect, hit a snag a couple days ago.

I'm currently on vacation, coming back Sunday, we talked about making plans for Monday, then she found out that an unnamed athlete that she(and every other girl) finds attractive, from the same college as us goes to a restaurant by her house every Monday. She told me that I couldn't come over Monday because she was gonna go to the restaurant and try to see him. Naturally, I got upset, and she got mad at me for it, calling me whiny and annoying. She ignored me all day, then said she didn't want to break up, but we can't talk while I'm gone and when I get back we need to have a serious conversation about what we want out of the relationship.

My questions are: Is she lying and she really plans to break up with me? Do I stand my ground and wait for an apology? Do I apologize more even though I did nothing wrong?(I did a couple times). I'm just really lost at how to approach this

[mjc]

Question for dating-age. I just got done with a first date and things went pretty well, until the end. I said I'd like to see her again and she agreed. Went in for a light hug and she cowered back, she's not into touching. So then she went for a high five but pulled that back before I could even do that. I sent her a text apologizing if I made her uncomfortable. Its not a total loss since the food was good but its a weird situation I never ran into before.

[Eggman]

She doesn't wanna date me, fuck this shit.

[NihonTiger90]

Just a general question to people out of curiousity. Would you in general let your girlfriend be good friends with her ex? (were thinking about it reading that other thread of a dude thinking his relationship is ending today). I'm just thinking (mostly cause people have said I'm naive) that my gf is mentioning her last ex frequently. Also telling another ex that she is reminded of him everytime she look at me.

Depends on the situation, but this blew up in my face in my first relationship because I got lied to. I don't like to talk about it much, but she ended up back with him.

[manipulate]

Alright dating-age, I come to you for the first time, my 9 month relationship with my girlfriend has been mostly perfect, hit a snag a couple days ago. I'm currently on vacation, coming back Sunday, we talked about making plans for Monday, then she found out that an unnamed athlete that she(and every other girl) finds attractive, from the same college as us goes to a restaurant by her house every Monday. She told me that I couldn't come over Monday because she was gonna go to the restaurant and try to see him. Naturally, I got upset, and she got mad at me for it, calling me whiny and annoying. She ignored me all day, then said she didn't want to break up, but we can't talk while I'm gone and when I get back we need to have a serious conversation about what we want out of the relationship. My questions are: Is she lying and she really plans to break up with me? Do I stand my ground and wait for an apology? Do I apologize more even though I did nothing wrong?(I did a couple times). I'm just really lost at how to approach this

Uh, from the way you described that, she sounds like an insensitive bitch dude.

[DTLIONS1013]

Uh, from the way you described that, she sounds like an insensitive bitch dude.

Yeah it kinda does sound that way :/ the past 9 months have been incredible though

[Minamu]

She doesn't wanna date me, fuck this shit.

What happened?