[Man]

Random, tangential question: do you guys ever dream about having sex?

Fairly seldom actually when I think about it. I dream more about the chase part if anything, not the actual intercourse.

I guess this is counterbalanced by actually day-dreaming a lot about the sexy parts.

[jorma]

Lack of interest is apparently a common phase while the user "resets". From what I've read, the interest comes back stronger than ever...

Oh ok.

[AdventureRacing]

About day 12 for me. Pretty easy to stick to this and i feel like it kinda gets easier as time goes on. The first week was definitely the hardest. I don't really feel like looking at porn at all anymore, it reminds me of when i gave up on soft drinks lol.

Fairly seldom actually when I think about it. I dream more about the chase part if anything, not the actual intercourse. I guess this is counterbalanced by actually day-dreaming a lot about the sexy parts.

This is pretty much me.

[Etrian Oddity]

Random, tangential question: do you guys ever dream about having sex?

I've had more sex in my dreams than I've had in real life. :(

[mclaren777]

I'm 30 years old and I've never had sex in a dream, nor do I ever remember having a nocturnal emission.

[RatskyWatsky]

4 days in and I caved again. I'm so weak. ;_;

[Gazzawa]

4 days in and I caved again. I'm so weak. ;_;

Its not over yet!

[X-Frame]

Did everyone just quit cold turkey or did you gradually reduce how often?

For example when someone's been eating like shit to eating 100% pure healthy foods immediately is a psychological recipe for disaster but slowly introducing healthier foods over a few weeks is the best way for long term success.

Is it the same for this?

[Jonm1010]

So shitty.

I'm going out tonight with a friend and three single girls and after my relapse on Friday I am back to the point where I have no desire for sex at all.......I don't even feel like going or talking but I'm forcing myself because I know that it will hopefully pay off in a week when I get over this phase like last time and start looking for anything that's female and wiling.

[Ra1den]

Did everyone just quit cold turkey or did you gradually reduce how often? For example when someone's been eating like shit to eating 100% pure healthy foods immediately is a psychological recipe for disaster but slowly introducing healthier foods over a few weeks is the best way for long term success. Is it the same for this?

Strangely enough, I think cutting out porn cold turkey is easier than saying "I'll only check it every 3 days" or something to that effect. You get drawn back in.

You'll likely notice improved mood within a week of abstaining, that helps things along quite a bit.

So shitty. I'm going out tonight with a friend and three single girls and after my relapse on Friday I am back to the point where I have no desire for sex at all.......I don't even feel like going or talking but I'm forcing myself because I know that it will hopefully pay off in a week when I get over this phase like last time and start looking for anything that's female and wiling.

Don't sweat it, use this chance to work on your lines and dispassionately observe your behavior around dames. You may learn a few things in this situation, when you are more emotionally detached from the outcome of the evening.

[RatskyWatsky]

Did everyone just quit cold turkey or did you gradually reduce how often? For example when someone's been eating like shit to eating 100% pure healthy foods immediately is a psychological recipe for disaster but slowly introducing healthier foods over a few weeks is the best way for long term success. Is it the same for this?

I think everyone is quitting cold turkey.

[AdventureRacing]

Did everyone just quit cold turkey or did you gradually reduce how often? For example when someone's been eating like shit to eating 100% pure healthy foods immediately is a psychological recipe for disaster but slowly introducing healthier foods over a few weeks is the best way for long term success. Is it the same for this?

Cold turkey is much easier with this imo. Then again i was the same when i changed to a healthier diet so who knows.

[luckyboyceo]

So shitty. I'm going out tonight with a friend and three single girls and after my relapse on Friday I am back to the point where I have no desire for sex at all.......I don't even feel like going or talking but I'm forcing myself because I know that it will hopefully pay off in a week when I get over this phase like last time and start looking for anything that's female and wiling.

I know that feel, bro.

In fact, I remember that feeling anytime I get close to relapsing. It actually really helps, cause I know that while I may feel good in the short term, the long term ramifications suck. And of course, the girls always want to go out right after you relapsed lol.

Today is day 5 and I'm feeling pretty good. They key is just to stay busy. When I find myself with lots of free time is when I run into trouble.

[Sajjaja]

Ever since I relapsed after abstaining for 2 weeks... I haven't been able to recover..... I just found myself back at the habit again...... I mean... it's just so damn accessible, I can resist for about a day, then the thoughts just start haunting me again.... I did it 3 times today.... 3 fucking times..... I don't know what to do anymore.... I deleted all my collection before... and now it's slowly starting to build back up again....

[Ra1den]

Ever since I relapsed after abstaining for 2 weeks... I haven't been able to recover..... I just found myself back at the habit again...... I mean... it's just so damn accessible, I can resist for about a day, then the thoughts just start haunting me again.... I did it 3 times today.... 3 fucking times..... I don't know what to do anymore....

Just keep at it. Eventually your mind will realize that it is not a good idea to cave in, but you may have to "burn" yourself over and over before it happens.

[Dre3001]

Just started this and was looking for tips on how to fight the urge to watch porn at night.

Seriously during the day its easy to find something else to do to take your mind off porn.

At night its a different story, there literally is nothing to do. I only started this experiment 2 days ago and am already struggling.

[RatskyWatsky]

Just started this and was looking for tips on how to fight the urge to watch porn at night. Seriously during the day its easy to find something else to do to take your mind off porn. At night its a different story, there literally is nothing to do. I only started this experiment 2 days ago and am already struggling.

Hulu, Netflix, Gutenberg Project, TED, Khan Academy. Go forth and entertain yourself.

[Douglas Quaid]

Hey guys, just checking in here. A little over 50 days. Went through a strange flat-line phase for about two weeks, then had two weird wet dreams a couple days after each other, which seem to have re-awakened an urge, but it's not really about porn anymore. You really have to despise porn and over sexualized stuff, at least for a while. Keep on truckin'.

BTW I've heard you're most likely to look at porn when you're bored or upset (emotional tranquilizer)... or even low on blood-sugar:

see: Ego Depletion, Wikipedia

AND

Don’t make big decisions on an empty stomach. The glucose in your bloodstream is part of what fuels the energy source of willpower, and it comes from any food you eat that contains carbohydrates. Exercising self-control depletes relatively large amounts of this glucose, and when glucose goes down, so does your willpower. No food=no glucose=no willpower=risk aversion and poor decisions.

[Jintor]

So low-carb depletes willpower? NooOooOoOoooo!

Anyway, I find it hard to climb back on the wagon... or fall off the wagon... or whatever part of the metaphor is sticking to the plan... once I've, uh, interacted badly with it. Haven't started again properly yet :|

I'll restart today, I swear!

[Plywood]

Yesterday I rubbed one out while driving... o_O I've never done that before, I blame this experiment. Day 14 with no porn.

...Dude.

[Lord Ghirahim]

glucose etc

Is that a real thing?

[cnizzle06]

I think I'm gonna give this a shot: day 1.

Can I still have sex though?

[Ra1den]

Ego Depletion, Wikipedia

That's really interesting info. Especially that stuff about being on an empty stomach.

[TruskyMX]

Challenge accepted. Day 1. Porn is cut off. Sex only.

[Ra1den]

I think I'm gonna give this a shot: day 1. Can I still have sex though?

It's up to you how you want to do it. Some are allowing sex, others are cutting even that out. The most important thing is to cut out the porn though.

[Sanky Panky]

Ok I will try a modified version of this. Me and the girlfriend enjoy watching porn every other week while having sex, so I won't say no to that, but I'll cut it out completely on my alone time.

The benefits will outweigh everything else. Tomorrow is Day 1.

[subversus]

At night its a different story, there literally is nothing to do. I only started this experiment 2 days ago and am already struggling.

you can start with sleeping

[Keavy_Rain]

...Dude.

My first thought was the listener story about the guy jerking it to the lesbians on Howard Stern from his book "Private Parts."

Also, I find cold turkey is the only way to go. I'm also going cold turkey on fast food and junk food, but there are some things I can't completely quit, like soda, but I'm cutting back to one can per day.

My doctor thinks I'm crazy making so many changes so quickly, but I told him "I'm just tired of not really having a life outside of work and sitting on the couch." NoFap has helped clear my mind and the no fast food, no junk food, more exercise thing will help my body.

The one part of this "Self improvement" thing I've totally quit is dating. I decided I need to get through the 90 day challenge and complete my 60 day juicing fast before I even consider socializing.

[Jintor]

I actually think soda is really easy to cold turkey on. After about a week of only drinking water I actually found the taste somewhat repellent.

lol I was already cold turkey on dating ;___;

[Booya]

I actually think soda is really easy to cold turkey on. After about a week of only drinking water I actually found the taste somewhat repellent. lol I was already cold turkey on dating ;___;

I was quite addicted to soda and switched to (coca cola) zero (lost a nice amound of weight down to 64kg im at now). but i find it very hard to stop with the zero. Its 90% of what i drink throughout the day. Still, after this experiment is completed in 13 days ill stop the coke zero.

[RatskyWatsky]

My doctor thinks I'm crazy making so many changes so quickly, but I told him "I'm just tired of not really having a life outside of work and sitting on the couch." NoFap has helped clear my mind and the no fast food, no junk food, more exercise thing will help my body.

You told your doctor about NoFap?

[BeesEight]

I don't think I'll be going the full 90 days. This challenge has taken far too great a toll on my daily sleep.

[Gazzawa]

I don't think I'll be going the full 90 days. This challenge has taken far too great a toll on my daily sleep.

im hoping it will get easier. i think its the first few weeks your body just struggles from the lack of stimuli. needs the dopamine hit.

[Ra1den]

I don't think I'll be going the full 90 days. This challenge has taken far too great a toll on my daily sleep.

Isn't that a benefit? Gives you more time during the day to get stuff done.

[Napoleonthechimp]

Does anyone have any good recommendations for web filters and porn blockers for OSX?

[Ra1den]

Effed up yesterday on day 9 and I'm not even mad. I'm learning all about the little tricks my mind tries to play on me. Starting day one again, stronger than ever.

[cacophony]

I'm on day 2 and I'm about to say fuck this lol. Not seeing the point.. it seems like it would only start to have positive effects after like a month+ and i could not make it that long

[Wiggum2007]

I haven't jerked off all weekend

[Plywood]

I haven't jerked off all weekend

So 2 days.

[luckyboyceo]

I'm on day 2 and I'm about to say fuck this lol. Not seeing the point.. it seems like it would only start to have positive effects after like a month+ and i could not make it that long

It gets better. The first few days are the hardest. Breaking a habit is never easy.


Day 8 today. A little worried about next week since I'm going to have a lot of free time, that's when I run into trouble. Looks like I'll just have to come up with some things to occupy it.

[Sklorenz]

Ha, I had always been meaning to check this thread but only just now did. I'm actually on day 4 or 5 myself, but I quit in an effort to perk up my weak libido. I live with my fiance, so I am also doing no masturbating, sex only. Even in just a couple of days it has helped. I'd often use porn whenever she was at work and I was at home like four or five times per week. Already cutting that out has been helping quite a bit :D We were always wondering why our libidos seemed so out of sync, even though I loved sex and whatnot. I'd often just rather go to bed at night than go to the effort of having sex since I wasn't usually ever aroused (and my fiance's super gorgeous. Need to post her in that thread one day), and I usually wasn't in the mood for random sex mid-day... whenever I we would have sex, even if I wasn't in the mood to, I'd always love it and think "man, we need to keep having sex all the time!". But it just wouldn't ever happen. So we'd only have sex 1-2 times per week, despite her wanting to have sex much more regularly. We thought maybe I just had low testosterone or something for a bit there.

Anyway, I'm personally loving the results right now. Although I'm sure it'll keep rising, my libido already feels a lot better. Thought I'd share my initial impressions for relationship-GAF out there that might have similar issues.

[Keavy_Rain]

I'm on day 2 and I'm about to say fuck this lol. Not seeing the point.. it seems like it would only start to have positive effects after like a month+ and i could not make it that long

I'm almost six weeks in and I can tell you the first month is rough, but that vacation from thoughts of sex is so amazing and it is so worth it.

[RevoDS]

Does anyone have any good recommendations for web filters and porn blockers for OSX?

Honestly, I don't think there's any truly effective porn blocker. I currently have K9 Web Protection (which is a piece of shit, by the way) set to block a half dozen categories and keywords, on an e-mail address I don't know the password to. If I visit more than 5 blocked pages within a 15 minute period, internet access is blocked altogether for 2 hours. There is no way I can change the settings or uninstall it without formatting my computer.

Yet, I'm relapsing more than I did before I installed it because I use it as a crutch, a replacement for my true willpower (I currently struggle to last a week, and I went through a 69-day period back in december). But the thing is, if you ever so slightly know your way around the internet, it's incredibly easy to bypass. Ultimately, the solution has to come from within, you have to willingly give it up and stick to your guns.

It's tough, but there's no program that can ever substitute your own willpower. In this, your willpower is your best and only friend.

Speaking of which, I'm back to day one, too.

[Invisible Man]

Started today. Had my last wank last night to a vid on xhamster.

Here's to breaking this habit!

[Ra1den]

Yet, I'm relapsing more than I did before I installed it because I use it as a crutch, a replacement for my true willpower (I currently struggle to last a week, and I went through a 69-day period back in december). But the thing is, if you ever so slightly know your way around the internet, it's incredibly easy to bypass. Ultimately, the solution has to come from within, you have to willingly give it up and stick to your guns. It's tough, but there's no program that can ever substitute your own willpower. In this, your willpower is your best and only friend.

That was beautiful, man. What I've seen of web blockers leads me to think that they can indeed be disabled rather easily(with the exception of editing your host file or whatever it is called on your hard drive, that is kind a of a hassle to undo, but not really).

[Plumbob]

Long thread. Are most people here doing 3 months of no porn or 3 months of no porn + no masturbation?

[subversus]

Long thread. Are most people here doing 3 months of no porn or 3 months of no porn + no masturbation?

3 months of no porn, no sex, no masturbation. Some people have sex though.

[MrGame&Watch]

So I just graduated college yesterday. I had been boning a girl every other day for two weeks. The problem is I could only cum half the time and I think it relates to my porn usage in the past.

Over the years its taken me longer and longer to get off to porn. I need to go through several videos looking for the perfect scene. So it'll take me sometimes 30 minutes to get off.

I think this translates to sex. All of our sessions lasted around 30 minutes to an hour with me being unable to cum like I said half the time.

So because of sex I haven't had te desire to jerk off, but now I'm going home and won't see the girl again. Do you think going cold turkey on my viewing habits will bring some of my game back?

[Minamu]

What's going on in this thread? I'm only on page 10 and about 8 days into a "contest". Is this a support thread or what? :D

[Naked Snake]

Do you think going cold turkey on my viewing habits will bring some of my game back?

Yes.