[Emitan]

I don't even know what we're talking about anymore ;~;

[Jinfash]

Here or there? It doesn't really matter I'll get it eventually if you want to go that route.

Oh, here. Check you inbox. Long PM incoming!

[TheSeks]

Oh, here. Check you inbox. Long PM incoming!

Got it. Replied, check your box babe.

>>I DON'T KNOW WHAT WE'RE YELLING ABOUT!? D:<<

Men stuff don't worry.

[MidnightScott]

Just checking in!

Lately I've just been hanging out with my best friend who I like who doesn't like me in that way (that I know of) and my boyfriend who knows about this but still wants to give us a try. *insert drama here*

My bf took this pic of me today after we saw Cabin in the Woods (that movie was seriously, jackiechanbrainfulloffuck.gif)
http://sphotos.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-...45559541_n.jpg

[BeesEight]

I don't even know what we're talking about anymore ;~;

I think this is a good summary of the previous Gay/Bi thread.

[Masamuna]

Oh, you can't explain it like that and run off. Now I'm probably going to have to make a trip to Atlanta to see this...

Just google "fort troff cocksling". NSFW but you'll definitely get the idea. I told my BF over the phone about my impressions tonight. His reaction? Now he wants one :P

[TheSeks]

Just google "fort troff cocksling". NSFW but you'll definitely get the idea. I told my BF over the phone about my impressions tonight. His reaction? Now he wants one :P

THAT DOESN'T GIVE ME THE IDEA OF FLACCID. GOD. DO I HAVE TO EXPLAIN EVERYTHING TO YOU PEOPLE!?

</caps!!!!!>

[Masamuna]

THAT DOESN'T GIVE ME THE IDEA OF FLACCID. GOD. DO I HAVE TO EXPLAIN EVERYTHING TO YOU PEOPLE!? </caps!!!!!>

What about it? If it doesn't want to stay in it won't.

[Emitan]

Men stuff don't worry.

Kay~

As a sophisticated young lady I shall avert my eyes from all of your cock sleeve shenanigans.

[TheSeks]

What about it? If it doesn't want to stay in it won't.

*sigh* I need pictures in explicit pornographic detail of this quote right here. Gawwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwd!

[Koomaster]

Hello new thread! ^___^ /

I don't post much on GAF in general, I like to read things, maybe post something and then run and hide somewhere. So don't think I'm snubbing anyone, it's just my nature.

[SpaceBridge]

I hope your creating an animal topiary from it. Sounds like guys can't keep their hands off you Replicant.

I had to look up the word topiary. You so literate. How's the novel coming btw?

[dragonlife]

I don't post much on GAF in general, I like to read things, maybe post something and then run and hide somewhere. So don't think I'm snubbing anyone, it's just my nature.

[Masamuna]

*sigh* I need pictures in explicit pornographic detail of this quote right here. Gawwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwd!

Not sure how I can help with that <.< >.>

[Replicant]

Just checking in! Lately I've just been hanging out with my best friend who I like who doesn't like me in that way (that I know of) and my boyfriend who knows about this but still wants to give us a try. *insert drama here* My bf took this pic of me today after we saw Cabin in the Woods (that movie was seriously, jackiechanbrainfulloffuck.gif) http://sphotos.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-...45559541_n.jpg

You don't always get what you want. So I'd suggest that you start appreciating what you have before you lose it.

[TheSeks]

Not sure how I can help with that <.< >.>

That's what the trip to Atlanta is for, see? Get the picture now?

In before "...you lost me."

You don't always get what you want. So I'd suggest that you start appreciating what you have before you lose it.

This. What the hell do you mean your boyfriend wants to continue to give it a try if you have the hots for the other dude? Uh, dude, you're in a relationship with your current boyfriend. Focus on that!

I had to look up the word topiary. You so literate. How's the novel coming btw?

Where have you been lately?

[MidnightScott]

You don't always get what you want. So I'd suggest that you start appreciating what you have before you lose it.

Yeah I know I enjoy the time we spend together but it's hard for us to be "intimate" at times and he is kind of afraid of PDA, although I have been trying to get him use to the idea. He lives with his family and is not out to them, but I assume they must suspect it since I'm over there late at night during the week sometimes...lol

I'm actually giving this a chance although all we ever do is go to movies together, we don't really do anything else. :/ (he's 29 by the way)

I live with my family and I'm only out to my mom and brother, and we live with my grandpa, I'm afraid I would be kicked out if I ever told them.

It's amazing how far I have come though, I remember how afraid I use to be of meeting people but now it's almost like second nature for me.

[TheSeks]

I'm actually giving this a chance although all we ever do is go to movies together, we don't really do anything else. :/

Then it's time to shake that up, eh? Invite him to your place for dinner and music instead of a movie.

(he's 29 by the way)

Honest question: What does his age have to do with your situation?

[Masamuna]

That's what the trip to Atlanta is for, see? Get the picture now? In before "...you lost me."

Fine, if a personal demonstration is in order to solve your mystery then so be it :P

[dragonlife]

Honest question: What does his age have to do with your situation?

I guess to juxtapose it to his aversion to PDA or something. Or not being out.

[TheSeks]

I guess to juxtapose it to his aversion to PDA or something. Or not being out.

If they're both not out and they both worry about their family then they have an issue of meeting more than PDA. I, for one, am not into PDA and that has nothing to do with me being "out" or the lack thereof, it has more to do with it being awkward to kiss in public to me. Maybe that's the same as Scott's man, who knows. PDA issues can be more than "in/out of the closet" for some people.

Scott: if neither of you have that privacy and you don't want to do hotels, then why not do a public dinner and a park or the mall or something? There is many things to do that aren't movies that isn't "private/bedroom/sex!!!!" and not everything has to lead to sex. Shocking concept for some people in this thread, I'm sure, but thems the facts.

[MidnightScott]

My best friend ended up texting this guy he met one time asking if he wanted to hang out at the club since he was in town. The guy never responded. We went to the club.

Then while we were at the club after a while dancing and drinking he said he saw the guy. He was so upset and wanted to leave so we left, and on the way home (he was driving) he was talking to me and I was rubbing his shoulders and stuff. Then we got back to my house, and while we were sitting there I ended up telling him the truth and I reached over and started kissing him. But he told me he just thinks of me as a close friend and nothing more. (However, we already made a pact that if we are both in our 40s and still single that we would end up together lol, he still mentions the fact to this day...so I think he might feel something for me...)

I ended up feeling really guilty about it and told my boyfriend about it after work on Monday night and he said he figured something happened because I didn't answer my phone when he called me that night, because I had written a facebook status "Why is life so confusing sometimes?" I told him everything. He asked me what I wanted to do and I told him that I think we need to spend more time together. He said that we could just be friends too if I wanted but I told him I still wanted to give it a try (not just because of the rejection, but because he is really sweet to me and I can tell he cares about me). He said that if it doesn't work out that we can just be friends. It's just really difficult because our schedules don't align right. He is off on Wednesday & Friday while I work all day and don't get off until 9 PM at night. While on Tuesday/Thursday he ends up working until like 10 PM.

It is true that I spend more time with my best friend then my boyfriend, but I guess I'm fine with him just being my best friend. I wanted both a best friend and a boyfriend and I got both but sometimes I always seem pessimistic always thinking "what if?" -_-;

[Replicant]

Yeah I know I enjoy the time we spend together but it's hard for us to be "intimate" at times and he is kind of afraid of PDA, although I have been trying to get him use to the idea. He lives with his family and is not out to them, but I assume they must suspect it since I'm over there late at night during the week sometimes...lol

I'd be careful with PDA. In fact, I wouldn't do anything much in public considering how homophobic the mass at large still are. I'd say that he has every reason to not want to do PDA.

I'm actually giving this a chance although all we ever do is go to movies together, we don't really do anything else. :/ (he's 29 by the way) I live with my family and I'm only out to my mom and brother, and we live with my grandpa, I'm afraid I would be kicked out if I ever told them. It's amazing how far I have come though, I remember how afraid I use to be of meeting people but now it's almost like second nature for me.

So have him stay over at your house during weekend. That way you'll have more time together. To me it sounds more like you are hesitant because you can't do couple stuff due to both of you still closeted. So either you move out and rent a house together or you use your weekend to your advantage. Ask him to come over to your house.

Also, you can do other things other than going to movies for date. Go to harbor/beach together, go shopping, take either language/cooking class together. That way you have more time to see each other.

[BeesEight]

I had to look up the word topiary. You so literate. How's the novel coming btw?

Sixth draft! Awww yeeeaaah.

In actual good news though, there's some forward momentum towards the move to Toronto.

And I'm assuming that's a yes on the chest topiary.

Then while we were at the club after a while dancing and drinking he said he saw the guy. He was so upset and wanted to leave so we left, and on the way home (he was driving) he was talking to me and I was rubbing his shoulders and stuff. Then we got back to my house, and while we were sitting there I ended up telling him the truth and I reached over and started kissing him. But he told me he just thinks of me as a close friend and nothing more. (However, we already made a pact that if we are both in our 40s and still single that we would end up together lol, he still mentions the fact to this day...so I think he might feel something for me...) I ended up feeling really guilty about it and told my boyfriend about it after work on Monday night and he said he figured something happened because I didn't answer my phone when he called me that night, because I had written a facebook status "Why is life so confusing sometimes?" I told him everything. He asked me what I wanted to do and I told him that I think we need to spend more time together. He said that we could just be friends too if I wanted but I told him I still wanted to give it a try (not just because of the rejection, but because he is really sweet to me and I can tell he cares about me). He said that if it doesn't work out that we can just be friends. It's just really difficult because our schedules don't align right. He is off on Wednesday & Friday while I work all day and don't get off until 9 PM at night. While on Tuesday/Thursday he ends up working until like 10 PM. It is true that I spend more time with my best friend then my boyfriend, but I guess I'm fine with him just being my best friend. I wanted both a best friend and a boyfriend and I got both but sometimes I always seem pessimistic always thinking "what if?" -_-;

Serious question - but do you even really want it to work with your boyfriend? Because your actions really don't seem to suggest that. I don't really know your life, but from what you're describing you're taking a very casual approach to this relationship. Not to mention your boyfriend is sounding really passive in all this.

Edit - and it's really not a good idea to make out with your best friend in my humble opinion.

[MidnightScott]

Sixth draft! Awww yeeeaaah. In actual good news though, there's some forward momentum towards the move to Toronto. And I'm assuming that's a yes on the chest topiary. Serious question - but do you even really want it to work with your boyfriend? Because your actions really don't seem to suggest that. I don't really know your life, but from what you're describing you're taking a very casual approach to this relationship. Not to mention your boyfriend is sounding really passive in all this.

I just really want to give it a try and see where it can go. Today after we saw the movie we drove downtown and he showed me buildings and parks and restaurants that we can try sometime. We are kind of taking it slow I guess...maybe I'm always just trying to rush everything?

[BeesEight]

I just really want to give it a try and see where it can go. Today after we saw the movie we drove downtown and he showed me buildings and parks and restaurants that we can try sometime. We are kind of taking it slow I guess...maybe I'm always just trying to rush everything?

Well, like I said I really don't know you or your situation very well. Just your last post really raised some red flags for me.

At the end of the day, relationships take work and I think it's important to remember that. They're not going to be perfect and there are going to be some issues but with some dedication and communication you can often overcome the challenges. It strikes me as a little strange that you'd be rubbing your best friend on the drive home (not necessarily anything given the type of relationship but certainly a problem with the later part of your paragraph). Obviously, you have some feelings for him but it was completely inappropriate for you to be trying to get close to him while you're seeing someone.

It seems like you're more hung up on him than you are about the guy you're seeing now.

If you're constantly thinking if things can be better or how things might be with other guys, you're essentially sabotaging what you have right now. If you really don't want to be with him then it's best that you end it instead of putting yourself in situations where you'll do something you'll regret and contaminate the relationship further.

But if you do want to make it work with the guy then you need to focus more on that. Look for what attracted you to him in the first place. Remember the things you like about him. So your schedules aren't 100% compatible doesn't mean that things are over. I was in a 3 year long distance relationship with a guy from another country so while seeing him every day is certainly nice, you can still make things work with limited time and schedules.

But, also, I'm not really running on a lot of information here. So my take home message would be if you want to try and make things work with this guy stop kissing other men.

Edit - I'm also tired and should probably go to bed since I'm rambling at this point.

[MidnightScott]

Well, like I said I really don't know you or your situation very well. Just your last post really raised some red flags for me. At the end of the day, relationships take work and I think it's important to remember that. They're not going to be perfect and there are going to be some issues but with some dedication and communication you can often overcome the challenges. It strikes me as a little strange that you'd be rubbing your best friend on the drive home (not necessarily anything given the type of relationship but certainly a problem with the later part of your paragraph). Obviously, you have some feelings for him but it was completely inappropriate for you to be trying to get close to him while you're seeing someone. It seems like you're more hung up on him than you are about the guy you're seeing now. If you're constantly thinking if things can be better or how things might be with other guys, you're essentially sabotaging what you have right now. If you really don't want to be with him then it's best that you end it instead of putting yourself in situations where you'll do something you'll regret and contaminate the relationship further. But if you do want to make it work with the guy then you need to focus more on that. Look for what attracted you to him in the first place. Remember the things you like about him. So your schedules aren't 100% compatible doesn't mean that things are over. I was in a 3 year long distance relationship with a guy from another country so while seeing him every day is certainly nice, you can still make things work with limited time and schedules. But, also, I'm not really running on a lot of information here. So my take home message would be if you want to try and make things work with this guy stop kissing other men. Edit - I'm also tired and should probably go to bed since I'm rambling at this point.

I haven't done anything of the sort since that night, I think the alcohol made me more brave into doing that because in my sane mind I was always hesitant to make a move on my friend in the past.

But yeah thanks for the advice, I just don't know how relationships work since I have never been in a real one before. I just can't think of what to do since our scheduling really sucks. That's why I go to his place sometimes after I get off work but like I said you can't really do anything at night during the week. I just really want to give it a try though.

Ugh I'm gonna go to bed now too, long day ahead <_>

[RatskyWatsky]

Groping, one guy that I met in Japan always liked to grope me in the nuts. His excuse was "that's how guys play with each other in Switzerland", which earned eye-rolling from other Switzerland people I met while I was there. One girl actually told me to be careful with him, which made me grin and asked "Why?". It's not like he's gonna rape me or anything and he was dating a girl back then.

Why did she say that? Did he try to rape her at some point or something?

Another guy, this is back in Australia, is an amateur rugby player. I think I've told this story many times now. He likes to demonstrate how he tackles his opponents in his game. And for some reason, he always likes to use my body to do so. He'd put his arms around my waist and push me to the floor (or almost to the floor before he catched me). Other time, he'd told me to push his chest and he'd grab my arm and pulled me close towards him before tackling me down. The most homoerotic stuff I've done with straight guys. At least with the guy above it was more like juvenile joke. This one was borderline embarrassing at times because sometimes he'd do it slowly and it looks more like a hug instead. Funnily enough, he never did this with his other friends, who he actually knows better.

I LOVE that kind of physicality. <3 Obviously it's better when the other person wants to fuck, but that platonic kind of roughhousing is so fun. (and hot)

If i'm flaccid my dick will pop out of the shaft portion when I walk. Of course the sling doesnt go anywhere because its also on your balls.

I assume you have to put it on when flaccid? I'd probably be hard to get it in any other way. So do you just put it on right before sex or do you keep it on during the day?

[Replicant]

Why did she say that? Did he try to rape her at some point or something?

LOL no. But she was 10-15 yrs older than us and a bit traditional in mindset. I assume she didn't approve that kind of man on man physical interaction.

I LOVE that kind of physicality. <3 Obviously it's better when the other person wants to fuck, but that platonic kind of roughhousing is so fun. (and hot)

Well, I admit I liked/enjoyed the attention. :P

[Sofo]

Oh, new thread! Hi everyone! Still here and eager to move in with my partner! Situation at home with my parents is not so well, but I'll talk about it in a better time.

Hope everyone is happy and safe!

[dragonlife]

Anyone else find this strangely arousing?



Something about his expression makes me wanna jump on him.

[Emitan]

*lights the Lesbian Bat Signal*

Please save me, please!

[dragonlife]

*lights the Lesbian Bat Signal* Please save me, please!

Did I mention I wouldn't even mind/notice the latex?

[Femmeworth]

*lights the Lesbian Bat Signal* Please save me, please!

*gets out of bed* You rang? Surely you knew what this thread would be like.

[RadioHeadAche]

I was wondering why no one posted in the other thread for a while.

[Delio]

Well this thread has been on the front page for ages now :O

So this guy messages me back on Okcupid. I'm like finally someone does it. Turns out he is doing it since I put myself out there and he has someone he met through okcupid. n my head im like "WELL change your profile to reflect the change!" but i was happy someone atleast took the time to message back.

[Icicle]

http://prospect.org/article/my-so-called-ex-gay-life This is an extraordinarily insightful piece. I'll be thinking about this for some time yet.

[hateradio]

Anyone else find this strangely arousing? https://s3.amazonaws.com/data.tumblr...1wmjo2_250.gif Something about his expression makes me wanna jump on him.

Jump into what?

He has a really asymmetrical face.

*gets out of bed* You rang? Surely you knew what this thread would be like.

Stereotyping, eh? You should try to be apart of it instead of bailing. ;_;

http://i.imgur.com/FPcZJ.gif

All I remember about that show now is that guy's line: Semen everywhere.

It was such a weird line. My mind, it's never been the same since.

[beje]

Anyone else find this strangely arousing? Something about his expression makes me wanna jump on him.

Yep, it's the classic "pervert smirk" I love so much.

[neojubei]

Well this thread has been on the front page for ages now :O So this guy messages me back on Okcupid. I'm like finally someone does it. Turns out he is doing it since I put myself out there and he has someone he met through okcupid. n my head im like "WELL change your profile to reflect the change!" but i was happy someone atleast took the time to message back.

Some good news in this thread. Hope it works out for you?

[i_am_ben]

with the influx of lesbians into the gaythread, Ja'mie King just wants you to know that:

[Delio]

Some good news in this thread. Hope it works out for you?

Yeah good news that he even bothered to message and say hey" He was a cute asian guy as well neo :/

[Phonomezer]

Ja'mie King

Omg you're the best poster on GAF.

[AceBandage]

Yeah good news that he even bothered to message and say hey" He was a cute asian guy as well neo :/

Hey, better than me. I only get responses from 40 years olds with kids.
=/

[Bel Marduk]

I'm too embarrassed. I'll just jog on the treadmill instead.

Too embarrassed to swim?? Why? At least you'd be under water and nobody would notice you. Not like the treadmill.. everyone seems to look pretty stupid on one of those.

[Bel Marduk]

Yeah I know I enjoy the time we spend together but it's hard for us to be "intimate" at times and he is kind of afraid of PDA, although I have been trying to get him use to the idea. He lives with his family and is not out to them, but I assume they must suspect it since I'm over there late at night during the week sometimes...lol I'm actually giving this a chance although all we ever do is go to movies together, we don't really do anything else. :/ (he's 29 by the way) I live with my family and I'm only out to my mom and brother, and we live with my grandpa, I'm afraid I would be kicked out if I ever told them. It's amazing how far I have come though, I remember how afraid I use to be of meeting people but now it's almost like second nature for me.

He's 29 and not out yet?? Dump him and never look back. Closet cases are the worst.

[Coppertracks]

Omg you're the best poster on GAF.

Agreed. All other posters are just try-hards.

[GothPunk]

He's 29 and not out yet?? Dump him and never look back. Closet cases are the worst.

I've never understood this sentiment. Surely everyone deserves a chance. I would think that meeting the right person is what drives many people to come out in the first place. They're not going to get that chance by being shunned.

Besides, you don't have to be closeted to find PDA uncomfortable. Personally I love some lovey dovey shit from time to time - but I think you should respect your partner if they themselves don't care for it, or are afraid of being attacked etc.

[Delio]

I remember my first date. The guy I was with wanted to hold hands but I was so scared of what people might think. (I live in texas I think I should be scared.) But I finally went "fuck it" and held his hand as we walked. It felt really right holding his hand and walking with him without a care. Ah memories.

[TheSeks]

Dragonlife, you're coming to PS3 in two weeks right?