[VICTORsaurio]

I find it very funny that here in Venezuela straight guys use the spanish word for gay (Marico) when they talk to each other. It's something like when you say "dude", well we use "marico". You only do it with people you're somewhat close to, it would be kind of rude to call an stranger that.

So there still can be a negative connotation to it if you want to but it's usually a very common word. It's kind of funny because I use it with my straight friends but not with the gay ones (not that I have many), somehow it's a very "straight" thing to do.

Girls use the term Marica a lot when talking to each other too.

[Bel Marduk]

I came out to my mom with my boyfriend a few weeks ago, but she didn't take it very well. Other family members supported me but my mom just didn't get it. When I'm with him I couldn't be any happier, but she really didn't want me to be with him. Last night he told me we had to be just friends for now because of her which pretty much tore me apart; I couldn't stop crying. I just don't what to do, I feel so empty.

Ugh.. that really sucks. Your mom will probably come around but I don't think that should be reason to end a relationship. How old are you?

[Bel Marduk]

If I hear "gay" to describe something stupid (and "fag"/"faggot") coming from someone's mouth, I immediately lose interest in anything they have to say and want nothing to do with them. Even more so if you know them or are acquainted, since it can be disappointing.

Does anybody still say that outside of 12 and 13 year old girls?

[krypt0nian]

SINCE YOU'RE HERE! *drops in from the ceiling* Why isn't this (and the Magic thread) in community like the other OT communities? It's really odd.

It's important that this thread is not squirreled away in the Community side just in case someone is gay/bi/questioning and needs support. We don't need to not be there in a a crisis situation.

[Mumei]

Does anybody still say that outside of 12 and 13 year old girls?

Sadly, yes.

Skim through this thread. I think you can make some educated guesses.

[Bel Marduk]

Sadly, yes. Skim through this thread. I think you can make some educated guesses.

Wow... that's really sad that an adult would say it although I'm not really surprised.

[G-Fex]

otter? that's a new one.

[Delio]

otter? that's a new one.

Term has been around for a while.

[G-Fex]

Term has been around for a while.

new to me.

I like it.

[_Isaac]

otter? that's a new one.

Not that new, but I guess it is compared to twinks and bears. It's a less common term.

[G-Fex]

Not that new, but I guess it is compared to twinks and bears. It's a less common term.

Yup I've heard bears and twinks.

Felt a little confusing hearing people talk about twinks on Warcraft.

[Mumei]

Yup I've heard bears and twinks. Felt a little confusing hearing people talk about twinks on Warcraft.

Twinking is the best!

[G-Fex]

Twinking is the best!

I tried it for a while, seemed like something I couldn't just get into :\

[RatskyWatsky]

The OP should have, like, a brief guide to bears, otters, twinks, etc. so people don't get so confused.

[Bel Marduk]

The OP should have, like, a brief guide to bears, otters, twinks, etc. so people don't get so confused.

and so we don't have to explain it once a page..

[Delio]

The OP should have, like, a brief guide to bears, otters, twinks, etc. so people don't get so confused.

Yeah I might have to toss it up there.

[TwizzlerScribble]

Ugh.. that really sucks. Your mom will probably come around but I don't think that should be reason to end a relationship. How old are you?

22

[Dany M]

Does anybody still say that outside of 12 and 13 year old girls?

Yeah, same with people saying that retarded or calling someone a faggot.

[_Isaac]

22

It looks like he's just using that as an excuse.

Yeah I might have to toss it up there.

it can't hurt, although I'm sure it'll get to a point where people won't read the OP.

[Bel Marduk]

22

Oh.. well you're probably on your own and shouldn't care about what she thinks to the point of letting it affect your relationships. Were you and your ex having problems to begin with? It just seems like such a ridiculous reason to break up.

[_Isaac]

Oh.. well you're probably on your own and shouldn't care about what she thinks to the point of letting it affect your relationships. Were you and your ex having problems to begin with? It just seems like such a ridiculous reason to break up.

That is quite an assumption. :p

[Bel Marduk]

That is quite an assumption. :p

Err yeah.. shouldn't have said that especially with the economy being such shit its pretty normal to stay with your parents even at 25+

[BeesEight]

I'm sort of jokingly sexist towards women. Anything sexist I say is either hyperbole or just a joke.

This is me too. I apologize if I offended anyone. Ultimately, emotions and relationships can make people do really strange or uncharacteristic things and I don't mean to denigrate any women with my comments.

As for the thread's openness and whether it's place is in OT or Community, it is ultimately a mod's decision. I, personally, know I wouldn't have found the other thread as soon as I did when I first joined if it were in Community so would lean to leaving it in OT.

[TwizzlerScribble]

It didn't bother me really, just him for some reason. Everything was fine until yesterday, It kinda came out of nowhere for him to say that.

[Parn]

Doesn't everything? I've just never been a fan. The more casual it sounds, the worse it comes off to me. Then again, I also lose interest in people that inject foul language when speaking normally. I've always believed that one could get their point across without having to resort to foul language, but maybe that's just me. Oh, but believe me, I say a lot of bad words--especially when gaming/gaming with friends. Insults everywhere. It goes back to the tone and intention of the words.

So in a nutshell, cussing is perfectly OK so long as it's used in a situation or habitat comfortable for you. At other parts of the day, you get to be judgmental towards others about it.

[_Isaac]

It didn't bother me really, just him for some reason. Everything was fine until yesterday, It kinda came out of nowhere for him to say that.

Yeah. Definitely iffy. Did you guys have other problems that were harming the relationship?

[TheSeks]

Does anybody still say that outside of 12 and 13 year old girls?

Some fringe aspects of the FGC does. "No homo" being popular there as well (but that's used jokingly, granted). But let's not start a FGC derailment here. Short disclosure though: I really don't like the FGC.

[Emitan]

Some fringe aspects of the FGC does. "No homo" being popular there as well. But let's not start a FGC derailment here. Short disclosure though: I really don't like the FGC.

Don't want to derail but someone actually couldn't figure out why the FGC makes me uncomfortable. When they're aware I'm a transwoman. Like, seriously?

[TwizzlerScribble]

Yeah. Definitely iffy. Did you guys have other problems that were harming the relationship?

Not at all.

[_Isaac]

Am I the only one that doesn't know what FGC means?

[Emitan]

Am I the only one that doesn't know what FGC means?

Fighting game community

[dragonlife]

So in a nutshell, cussing is perfectly OK so long as it's used in a situation or habitat comfortable for you. At other parts of the day, you get to be judgmental towards others about it.

The cussing part's more of a first impressions thing. Ever been in a conversation with someone you've just met and most of the words coming out of their mouths are expletives? I have, and I don't find it appealing. Now, if we just met and we happened to play something (hypothetically) and they curse when something bad happens to them--and if it's funny and good-natured--then that's okay to me because I can relate.

If we're friends already, I don't give a fuck how much you cuss.

Some fringe aspects of the FGC does. "No homo" being popular there as well (but that's used jokingly, granted). But let's not start a FGC derailment here. Short disclosure though: I really don't like the FGC.

Do you like anything? :P

[Mumei]

Do you like anything? :P

The sex, presumably.

[Bel Marduk]

Some fringe aspects of the FGC does. "No homo" being popular there as well (but that's used jokingly, granted). But let's not start a FGC derailment here. Short disclosure though: I really don't like the FGC.

There's a lot of homophobia in there but its 12 and 13 year old guys instead of girls.. not really worth getting upset about its just a bunch of dumb kids

[Dead Man]

SINCE YOU'RE HERE! *drops in from the ceiling* Why isn't this (and the Magic thread) in community like the other OT communities? It's really odd.

I hope since there is now a dedicated Community forum if this is too megathready it can just get moved there.

On an unrelated note, my general experience as a bi guy is that most of the "oh women so crazy" stuff is half motivated by misogyny, half "everyone is a little crazy in relationships and you just don't notice it on your side of the fence." My relationships with guys haven't been any more uncomplicated than mine with women.

[Miutsu]

I find it very funny that here in Venezuela straight guys use the spanish word for gay (Marico) when they talk to each other. It's something like when you say "dude", well we use "marico". You only do it with people you're somewhat close to, it would be kind of rude to call an stranger that. So there still can be a negative connotation to it if you want to but it's usually a very common word. It's kind of funny because I use it with my straight friends but not with the gay ones (not that I have many), somehow it's a very "straight" thing to do. Girls use the term Marica a lot when talking to each other too.

* Venezuelan high five*

I've never liked calling any of my friends like that :/ never liked the sound of the word

[Amibguous Cad]

There's a lot of homophobia in there but its 12 and 13 year old guys instead of girls.. not really worth getting upset about its just a bunch of dumb kids

Tyranny of low expectations. The sooner we start holding the 12 and 13 year olds accountable for their jerkass behavior, the sooner we'll see a better world. It's not like racism is completely eradicated among that cohort, but the level of overt racism and racial slurs among them are significantly less than sexism or homophobia. That's largely because we've drawn a pretty bright line and said that such behavior will not be hand waved as youthful indiscretions.

[red_13th]

The OP should have, like, a brief guide to bears, otters, twinks, etc. so people don't get so confused.

Didn't someone post in the old thread a test to find out if you were a bear, a cub, an otter etc. I think it was made by ekigyuu.

Fake edit: googled it and found it: http://www.studiomoh.com/fun/census/results.php

[Dead Man]

Didn't someone post in the old thread a test to find out if you were a bear, a cub, an otter etc. I think it was made by ekigyuu. Fake edit: googled it and found it: http://www.studiomoh.com/fun/census/results.php

Apparently I am a muscle bear. I don't feel like a muscle bear, I feel like a chub.

[moozoom]

Apparently I am a muscle bear. I don't feel like a muscle bear, I feel like a chub.

Some people just fit the mold, but I can't find none of these little boxes that suit me.

Too old to be a cub, not hairy enough to be a bear, too thin to be a chub but too fat to be an otter... Augh... Also I don't have a single grey hair yet, so the daddy term is awkward too.

And I thought the bear community was the solution to my self-estime problems.

[kitchenmotors]

Term has been around for a while.

Hmm, I'm not sure what I would be.

[GasProblem]

So, went to my first gay party last night. Came home at 8 am, and just woke up at 15:45 haha. There were around 500-600 people there. I never really danced before so in the beginning I was kind of worried about that. But I had a small Jack Daniels, a beer, and then everyone started going to the dancefloor, and I was thinking to myself oh god, oh god. I started dancing, and after 5 minutes I didn't give a fuck anymore and I danced for 5-6 hours straight with some people I know. I need some more moves though, hahaha.

Still felt like I kind of stood out though. Most of the guys there were good looking, clean shaven, and well dressed and here I am, a 6"6 guy with a beard awkwardly dancing and singing along to the Spice Girls.

Had a good time regardless :P

[BeesEight]

Too old to be a cub, not hairy enough to be a bear, too thin to be a chub but too fat to be an otter... Augh... Also I don't have a single grey hair yet, so the daddy term is awkward too.

I took the test and came out Average. :/

So, went to my first gay party last night. Came home at 8 am, and just woke up at 15:45 haha. There were around 500-600 people there. I never really danced before so in the beginning I was kind of worried about that. But I had a small Jack Daniels, a beer, and then everyone started going to the dancefloor, and I was thinking to myself oh god, oh god. I started dancing, and after 5 minutes I didn't give a fuck anymore and I danced for 5-6 hours straight with some people I know. I need some more moves though, hahaha. Still felt like I kind of stood out though. Most of the guys there were good looking, clean shaven, and well dressed and here I am, a 6"6 guy with a beard awkwardly dancing and singing along to the Spice Girls. Had a good time regardless :P

They have their own parties? Or... like was this a dance club? Because 500-600 people sounds like a lot for a party.

Sounds like it was a good time though. Glad to hear it.

[Parn]

The cussing part's more of a first impressions thing. Ever been in a conversation with someone you've just met and most of the words coming out of their mouths are expletives? I have, and I don't find it appealing. Now, if we just met and we happened to play something (hypothetically) and they curse when something bad happens to them--and if it's funny and good-natured--then that's okay to me because I can relate. If we're friends already, I don't give a fuck how much you cuss.

The clarification helps a lot... the prior post just came off as contradictory to me. At any rate, I can relate to what you're saying. The line that crosses into too much cussing is not easily defined through a forum post.

[Coppertracks]

Sounds like a good time! Any flirting?

I don't fit any the boxes I think. I guess otter would be it if I put on some more weight. Which I have no desire to do :D

I was out last night, me and a taller guy were playfully flirting. At one point on the dancefloor he came up behind me, wrapped his arms around my chest, pulled me to him and slowly moved his mouth up my neck so I could feel his hot breath. Very mmmmmm. I felt like melting.

[GasProblem]

I took the test and came out Average. :/ They have their own parties? Or... like was this a dance club? Because 500-600 people sounds like a lot for a party. Sounds like it was a good time though. Glad to hear it.

It was a club, yeah. They had a timed ticket system, because they didn't want any lines. We had the earliest tickets. When we got there, there were only 3 people. Was fun to see a party go from nothing to 500 people dancing. It got hotter as time progressed as well. It was like a fucking sauna. We went to the afterparty as well, the dancefloor there was way too crowded though, you could barely move your arms.

And I did spot a couple of nice looking guys, especially one in particular, but no flirting. Maybe next time ;)

[Yoshiya]

New thread? Huh.

Life has changed over here. I'm not single now: the world is strange.

[TheSeks]

There's a lot of homophobia in there but its 12 and 13 year old guys instead of girls.. not really worth getting upset about its just a bunch of dumb kids

You're kidding, right? Have you ever been to a FGC meet-up? Most of these dudes are 18-30 and should know better.

Do you like anything? :P

...No. Not really. But the FGC rubs me the wrong way every time I give them a chance.

[i_am_ben]

New thread? Huh. Life has changed over here. I'm not single now: the world is strange.

Let me just say: I told you so.

[red_13th]

Apparently I am a muscle bear. I don't feel like a muscle bear, I feel like a chub.

My boyfriend was a bear cub even though he's completely hairless (Asian).
First time I took it I was an otter, now I'm an AVERAGE, so exciting.