[Ostinatto]

"What’s gonna happen if I lie? Nothing! Nothing happens if you lie! Unless you get caught and that’s a whole different story".

from which movie is this from??

mmmmmm

almost got this

help

edit1: george carlin ??

[Al-ibn Kermit]

Just don't live a double life. Be true to yourself and honest to others. That's what I do.

What the hell do you get out of that?

[CliqWriter]

From my experience. Don't get caught and you'll be fine.

[jaxword]

What the hell do you get out of that?

Geez, dude, what a negative approach. You should always be a good a person as possible simply BECAUSE you should be as good a person as possible.

The world's already a terrible place full of lying assholes who will do any horrible act to help themselves; the least you can do is try to not be one of them, and that includes being honest and truthful.

[Gustav]

What the hell do you get out of that?

Because there's even less value in lying, cheating, deceiving and being stressed out all day because somebody might find something out.

[abusori]

Just don't care. Aloof is the key word. Tell them lies if you have to, and as soon as you don't need their money anymore, disappear like the wind.

You might be temped to blow up on them, give them a piece of your mind, but consider they aren't worth so much of your life spent waiting 'til that moment. Just let go, and when you get to leave, just do it. Don't say a word. It isn't worth it, and they might be useful for something in the future, even if that's only inheritance.

And if you're one of those guilt-ridden, moral-fiber types, well then good luck to ya.

[jorma]

If breaking your cellphone is how your father handles a morality argument with his son, you should just lie. It's the easy way. The fact that you tried to tell them and they just would not listen is what allows you to keep the moral superiority once you get caught in these lies.

[Zekes!]

I have a hard enough time living a single life

[Always-honest]

Life is so much easier when your honest and when people know you're honest.
You will only have to live one life. ^ And that's hard enough

[Roland Deschain]

you become a superhero

The obvious answer. Unless you prefer just telling the truth.

[T.O.P]

Been someone else to the eyes of the people i've met since like 10 years ago lol

I seriously think that i still have to meet a person with whom i can be totally myself

and yeah, it sucks so bad :(

[Kreunt]

learn to be comfortable with yourself and your actions before you expect them to be. once you are in a position in life where you are fully independant, they wont have any option other than to accept you or lose you.

[V_Arnold]

A few things. Totally subjective matter, of course, so take what resonates, leave the rest.

First: We are capable of maintaining as many faces as we want. But it is heavy. It literally has weight on our existence. Therefore it will usually mean that you will face more and more inconveniences due to living a "double life" (being expected to do things or behave in a way that is not "you" anymore), which will either introduce a chronic dis-ease or two into your life or you will need to deal with it in a manner that is a sort of coming-out. The sooner you do it, the lighter the situation will be

Second: I have it "easy" - beside living in Europe, our family was as varied as possible. My father is more of a believer in the pagan, non-Church ways, and my mother was a borderline atheist for a long time, and now have found herself the Bhagavad-Gita, while I explored almost everything in my younger years religion-wise, to turn into a man of math, then a man of literature, then a man of hm....well, you could not describe it. New Age is a light word for that. Anyways, we had some heated discussions about this, mostly because she had issues with me "digesting" any information that came from "nowhere", not from the names such as Krisna, etc. But this was a lesson for me, after all: all I needed to do is to not be bothered if my ways are considered suboptimal, and all heat dissolved from our discussions. Nowadays everything is harmonious, no issues, no arguments where the goal is to make one side right and the other wrong.

Third: I wish you good luck in finding the balance when you decide to take that double life off from your shoulders. You can storm in and leave the digesting for your parents, but that usually ends up in situations where families break. Sometimes it is better to give yourself out in small doses. Let them stretch, let them get used to changing what they view in you. In most cases, the usual parents do not want to acknowledge that their sons and girls are NOT their projected self who should follow the same goals as they did when they were young. In many cases ,this is the base issue. Adults, grown bitter and tired fail to recognize that they cannot just give their full life (including beliefs, preferences, career goals) to their children and expect them to follow it strictly. That is not how life works. But this is a hard pill to swallow.

[ChiTownBuffalo]

This is not a double life.

You're 18 OP. You and your folks will figure it out.

[Spanish Wrath]

I'm 18... they'd start trying to control my life as best as they could.

You're still a kid for your parents.

Give it a couple of years. Man up in college and get some perspective. Begin to take your own little decisions. Your parents will eventually see that you're a grown up and will release you of their parenthood control.

[Dr Frasier Crane]

You're 18 not 15. If it bothers you that much move out. I'm so glad I did at 18 then I could fuck up without stigma.

People need to move out sooner, it embarrasses me hearing of any 21 or older living at their parents!

[The Anti-Monitor]

You're 18 not 15. If it bothers you that much move out. I'm so glad I did at 18 then I could fuck up without stigma. People need to move out sooner, it embarrasses me hearing of any 21 or older living at their parents!

Yeah, what with all these free houses being given out.

Joker, my mother was pretty conservative (nothing compared to yours) and I basically just not talked to her. It's not worth it trying to change that people, because they won't. I didn't tell her anything as to not to hurt her but I wouldn't lie. Whenever she spewed bullshit I'd just shut up and nod. It's something you'll only have to deal with for as long as you live with them, but don't change your life for them.

[JGS]

Honestly, I don't know how people live a double life. Seems stressful especially when it's about religion or the lack of it. In particular, I never get when an atheist has clear dislike for the religion of their parents/family/friends but lacks the guts to tell the people who are closest to them (Not talking about the OP since he indicated that's not a particular issue).

At the same time, from both the parent and kid standpoint, no one wants to know each others life story, but if it comes up, tell the truth.

I guess it would be a good idea to prepare though. If my future adult kids start doing things contrary to house rules, they ain't staying there.

[Kinyou]

Wait, the thread title would imply that he's already living a double life and already is a superhero. So why would he become a superhero if he already is one?

Because a triple life is much easier to handle, duh.

[NervousXtian]

They already know. They just won't admit it to themselves.

We like to pretend our parents our morons who can't see the obvious.

They can.

[JokerOfSpades]

I guess you guys are right... I'll try not to break it to them until I'm older, but... I'd be lying if I said it wouldn't be difficult to let them keep believing what they do about me.

[nVidiot_Whore]

I didn't really do the "double life" thing with my parents. Was almost brutally honest with them.

My brother? Not so much.

Caused some pretty wild variance in "reality vs. what my parents thought of us."

Almost comical how it all turned out.. with the brother who was dishonest about their debauchery ending up with serious drug and legal problems later in life.

[Nemo]

Thought this was about having another family somewhere

They already know. They just won't admit it to themselves. We like to pretend our parents our morons who can't see the obvious. They can.

So true

[dark_chris]

I was able to live a double life very easily. I had no troubles keeping it to myself and never felt bad about it, it never boggled my mind nor bothered me. I always worked best with the times i had. Since then, I haven't looked back and I see no reason to tell others about it.

Overall, you can either do what i do and not let it get to you or you can tell them.

[FairyD]

Leading a double life is easy. It's the triple and quadruple lives that screw with you.

[Copernicus]

Double lives are fucking grueling. Every single day I was fucking around I was just hoping for shit to break loose so I didn't have to deal with having two separate daily agendas.

[CiSTM]

Just keep at it, lying will eventually become second nature and won't bother you anymore.

[dojokun]

I recall making a thread about how to block Twitter followers in a manner that they don't know they are blocked (meaning they still think they are following you and think that they can still see your tweets) because my mom started following me on Twitter, and You-Must-Be-Some-Criminal-If-You-Can't-Let-Your-Mom-Know-What-You-Tweet GAF came out of the woodwork.

[worldrevolution]

This is not a double life. You're 18 OP. You and your folks will figure it out.

Indeed. This is less a double life thread, more a how to escape bein brainwashed by my zealot parents thread.

They already know. They just won't admit it to themselves. We like to pretend our parents our morons who can't see the obvious. They can.

Very true. Assuming they're not the who have never seem MTV.

[Patrick Bateman]

I tried to be honest, but it seems that nobody cares and has mistaken me for someone else.

[Takuan]

Ask an Asian-American friend/classmate.

[gibut]

This is a very hard question for a community to answer. Everyone in here comes from different backgrounds and has different relationships with their parents.

I hear a lot of people saying just be honest, but from what the OP posted doesn't seem like that would a be a good idea for him. He still in college and financially dependent on his parents.


When i first moved out of my house and got my own apartment my mom told me that if i ever brought home a girl who wasn't the same ethnicity and religion as our family she would shoot me and then herself.

[PastorOfMuppets]

How the fuck do you guys have double lives? Are some of you spies or something? Most of the posts so far here just involve hiding stuff from your parents.

[kaioshade]

I wouldn't say i lead a double life or anything, but most see me as the happy cheery person.

Couldn't be farther from the truth.

After a while, hiding things about yourself just become second nature.

[Nyoro SF]

These parents in question are zealots. I remember my parents saying they would disown me if I married a non-Christian. That's some serious stuff, that's how double lives are made.

[Autumn Wind]

I don't. I used to lie and then I just said to myself one day "Who are they again?" on a few issues, disappointment was brief but its been brushed over.

[Mejilan]

I guess I'm lucky.
My parents now know how much of a failure I am. I'm sure they're disappointed, compared to how I stack up against my brother and sister; but at least they're sensitive enough to be supportive.

[Deified Data]

First and foremost, don't build relationships around false pretenses. That's a disaster waiting to happen.

As has already been stated, honestly is the best policy.

[RSLAEV]

First and foremost, don't build relationships around false pretenses. That's a disaster waiting to happen. As has already been stated, honestly is the best policy.

What? this is horrible advice. Lie to your parents until you don't rely on them anymore *This is the only answer*

Just because they're your parents that doesn't mean they have your best interests in mind.

[Kers]