[icarus-daedelus]

You know, stargazing is probably the thing I miss most about my hometown. Here in California, you can't see the stars unless you're in the middle of nowhere...it's a little eerie to me, coming from a city where you could look up and see the sky blanketed in stars every night sans telescope.

I'm sorry, that's such a random thing to post in here. I guess I'm just in a wistful mood.

[Emitan]

You know, stargazing is probably the thing I miss most about my hometown. Here in California, you can't see the stars unless you're in the middle of nowhere...it's a little eerie to me, coming from a city where you could look up and see the sky blanketed in stars every night sans telescope. I'm sorry, that's such a random thing to post in here. I guess I'm just in a wistful mood.

I can't really see the stars here. Was never really a stargazer but I've always been fascinated by space.

[Devolution]

You know, stargazing is probably the thing I miss most about my hometown. Here in California, you can't see the stars unless you're in the middle of nowhere...it's a little eerie to me, coming from a city where you could look up and see the sky blanketed in stars every night sans telescope. I'm sorry, that's such a random thing to post in here. I guess I'm just in a wistful mood.

What? Where are you in Cali?

[icarus-daedelus]

What? Where are you in Cali?

Monterey.

Actually, it could have just been that it's so damn misty here all the time.

[Devolution]

Monterey. Actually, it could have just been that it's so damn misty here all the time.

Monterrey is almost always foggy and overcast. If you want to see stars you need to be further inland but not in the the central valley since they get all of the smog from the cities.

[fireside]

You know, stargazing is probably the thing I miss most about my hometown. Here in California, you can't see the stars unless you're in the middle of nowhere...it's a little eerie to me, coming from a city where you could look up and see the sky blanketed in stars every night sans telescope. I'm sorry, that's such a random thing to post in here. I guess I'm just in a wistful mood.

Once, when driving across the country in the middle of the night, I decided to stop the car and look up at the sky. It was so beautiful and amazing. Made me a little sad that I’ve only ever lived around large cities, and rarely get to experience it.

[leadbelly]

You know, stargazing is probably the thing I miss most about my hometown. Here in California, you can't see the stars unless you're in the middle of nowhere...it's a little eerie to me, coming from a city where you could look up and see the sky blanketed in stars every night sans telescope. I'm sorry, that's such a random thing to post in here. I guess I'm just in a wistful mood.

I would love to be able to see the stars without all the light pollution. There is nowhere near me where that is possible. I'd like to be able to see the milky way. :(

It blows my mind when I start thinking about it.



That is basically the centre of the galaxy. The whole solar system is revolving around that thing. So when you're looking at that at night you're basically seeing your location within the galaxy.

[Lucian Cat]

I couldn't imagine living somewhere I can't see the stars at night. Country living ftw. One night we went out with my telescope and found Saturn. That was so cool. You guys are missing out

[Professor Beef]

There were a few times in Sacramento where I looked up and saw the stars. Gotta say, it was pretty cool. Couldn't see them at all near the bay area.

[XiaNaphryz]

There were a few times in Sacramento where I looked up and saw the stars. Gotta say, it was pretty cool. Couldn't see them at all near the bay area.

Best bet in the Bay Area I've found personally is top of Mt Tam, especially if you look in the ocean's direction since there's much less lights that way.

[leadbelly]

Best bet in the Bay Area I've found personally is top of Mt Tam, especially if you look in the ocean's direction since there's much less lights that way.

Looking at that picture, it kind of gives me this feeling that you're in a bubble in space. If that makes sense. Seeing the galaxy like that gives you a sense of actually being in a vast universe.

[kisaya]

I remember the first time I saw a sky full of stars was when I was visiting people in Michigan. It's really rare for me to see stars here in NYC, but I always appreciate it whenever I do :P

[Devolution]

Best bet in the Bay Area I've found personally is top of Mt Tam, especially if you look in the ocean's direction since there's much less lights that way.

The best view of the stars you can get is probably up near the Bristlecone Pines outside of Yosemite.

Not mine, but I've been up there.

[dokish]

Hi Girl GAF. This is my first post here. Are boys allowed to post?

I need some serious advice. I started dating women really late. I'm 22. I'm usually shy, quiet, few-words-guy (I wouldn't say monosyllabic) and have hobbies that are quite hard to young people enjoy these days, like: 80s music, asian culture, foreigner movies and movies overall [I watch them almost daily], opera and jazz. I'm majoring in Psychology so I also enjoy smart women, women that can debate about religion, sex, capitalism, culture, the (evil) beauty industry, etc.

I don't show affection in public but in private I really like to please and interact with women. Funny enough, in my college, the most people that seem to enjoy talking to me are woman.

And that's the problem. I'm a really straight-forward guy that has no patience for games, bullshit, or what I call "the social theater of seduction". When I like a girl, I usually get to know her for a month and then I make my move. But then they say they aren't interested and is only interested in being friends.

That's the part that irritates me and confuses me. Since I don't have good "tact" with people, I don't know if they are interested or not. Women talk to me, smiles, touches a lot, laugh a lot, makes compliments, but then... they are not interested. Maybe this confuses me because that's something I would never do if I don't have interest in someone. Even a male friend (like, friendship). If I don't wanna know someone, I don't care much about this person. I'm not saying I'm cold, I'm just saying I won't have long conversations and "stick" with that person during my day.

SO, my question is... are women usually like this? All chatty, flirt, touching you everywhere, telling you their problems nonstop, seeking advice and comfort even they are not interested in you? I think I'm too old-fashion lol, because I only do this things with long-time and intimate friends. I don't open myself to people that I only see in college or at work.

Also, if they are this ambiguous, how can I know if she's interested?

[Leeness]

Ew no. Some weirdo from okcupid apparently kept my number because he texted me to wish me a "happy labour day".

:(((( This is why I'm just giving up on dating all together (not that there was any activity on that end anyway. Giving up on nothing lol). Only the creepers are actually interested in me :((((

[Zoe]

I wouldn't sweat it too much. There are some people who just text-bomb everybody in their contact list on holidays.

[Leeness]

But why did he keep my number when I said "wow no that's creepy as fuck, don't text me again please"? Lol. :(

[Sheik]

Hi Girl GAF. This is my first post here. Are boys allowed to post? I need some serious advice. I started dating women really late. I'm 22. I'm usually shy, quiet, few-words-guy (I wouldn't say monosyllabic) and have hobbies that are quite hard to young people enjoy these days, like: 80s music, asian culture, foreigner movies and movies overall [I watch them almost daily], opera and jazz. I'm majoring in Psychology so I also enjoy smart women, women that can debate about religion, sex, capitalism, culture, the (evil) beauty industry, etc. I don't show affection in public but in private I really like to please and interact with women. Funny enough, in my college, the most people that seem to enjoy talking to me are woman. And that's the problem. I'm a really straight-forward guy that has no patience for games, bullshit, or what I call "the social theater of seduction". When I like a girl, I usually get to know her for a month and then I make my move. But then they say they aren't interested and is only interested in being friends. That's the part that irritates me and confuses me. Since I don't have good "tact" with people, I don't know if they are interested or not. Women talk to me, smiles, touches a lot, laugh a lot, makes compliments, but then... they are not interested. Maybe this confuses me because that's something I would never do if I don't have interest in someone. Even a male friend (like, friendship). If I don't wanna know someone, I don't care much about this person. I'm not saying I'm cold, I'm just saying I won't have long conversations and "stick" with that person during my day. SO, my question is... are women usually like this? All chatty, flirt, touching you everywhere, telling you their problems nonstop, seeking advice and comfort even they are not interested in you? I think I'm too old-fashion lol, because I only do this things with long-time and intimate friends. I don't open myself to people that I only see in college or at work. Also, if they are this ambiguous, how can I know if she's interested?

Depends on the person, but in general, I find that girls are pretty open and affectionate. Touches that you might interpret as intimate aren't necessarily out of the ordinary for them. Playful shoves, hugs, etc. It can be really difficult to discern when a girl is interested or just friendly.

If you really can't tell, then you mine as well be direct. Also, if you don't want to be friendzoned, you might want to make your move sooner than a month in. Maybe try making your move within a week or two rather than a month.

[BladeWorker]

Ew no. Some weirdo from okcupid apparently kept my number because he texted me to wish me a "happy labour day". :(((( This is why I'm just giving up on dating all together (not that there was any activity on that end anyway. Giving up on nothing lol). Only the creepers are actually interested in me :((((

Some people just can't take a (direct, in your face) hint.

Hi Girl GAF. This is my first post here. Are boys allowed to post? I need some serious advice. I started dating women really late. I'm 22. I'm usually shy, quiet, few-words-guy (I wouldn't say monosyllabic) and have hobbies that are quite hard to young people enjoy these days, like: 80s music, asian culture, foreigner movies and movies overall [I watch them almost daily], opera and jazz. I'm majoring in Psychology so I also enjoy smart women, women that can debate about religion, sex, capitalism, culture, the (evil) beauty industry, etc. I don't show affection in public but in private I really like to please and interact with women. Funny enough, in my college, the most people that seem to enjoy talking to me are woman. And that's the problem. I'm a really straight-forward guy that has no patience for games, bullshit, or what I call "the social theater of seduction". When I like a girl, I usually get to know her for a month and then I make my move. But then they say they aren't interested and is only interested in being friends. That's the part that irritates me and confuses me. Since I don't have good "tact" with people, I don't know if they are interested or not. Women talk to me, smiles, touches a lot, laugh a lot, makes compliments, but then... they are not interested. Maybe this confuses me because that's something I would never do if I don't have interest in someone. Even a male friend (like, friendship). If I don't wanna know someone, I don't care much about this person. I'm not saying I'm cold, I'm just saying I won't have long conversations and "stick" with that person during my day. SO, my question is... are women usually like this? All chatty, flirt, touching you everywhere, telling you their problems nonstop, seeking advice and comfort even they are not interested in you? I think I'm too old-fashion lol, because I only do this things with long-time and intimate friends. I don't open myself to people that I only see in college or at work. Also, if they are this ambiguous, how can I know if she's interested?

I'll start with referring you to the advice thread, which IIRC is still open: http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=445417

That notwithstanding: if you like smart women who don't play games, and are into - by your own admission - out-of-the-ordinary or obscure hobbies as you are, then an academic crowd is a good place to look.

But, as others have said, you're waiting too long. Though you say you're not into the theatre of seduction, you seem quite comfortable in the theatre of platonic listening. Ya gotta break that habit.

Anthropologists have studied the behaviour of men and women for ages, and some have come up with the theory that women like to talk stuff out while men think stuff out. Some neurologists think there's some part of brain function that differs in men and women that accounts for it. Ultimately, the result is argued as follows: women will talk about their feelings to those who they think are receptive. We don't have to be in love with you to do it, we don't have to be best buddies to do it. Given the right stimuli, we talk.

And you're giving girls the stimuli - an interested, open audience.

As girls move farther into their 20s and into their 30s, some will become more...what's the word...discreet...with what they have to say to relative strangers. Others won't. But that's a fool's game trying to predict.

Girls flirt in different ways. It's like poker, we all have our tells, but sometimes you have to play a few hands to figure out who uses what.

Accordingly, the quickest and easiest way to know if she's interested is to ask for her number, and then to ask her out on a date. Don't wait to do this after she's dictated her autobiography to you - by then, there's no mystery. Do this after few - or a single - conversations. Remember: dating is about getting to know another person. Relationships - including friendships - are about bond formation.

Perhaps unwittingly, you're forming bonds before you get to know them (and vice versa). If you're not interested in leading someone on into friendship when you want a date, then be more forthright. Easier said than done, though, and there's hordes of advice out there to help with that part.

[Devolution]

Warning: don't read if you're having a good day

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=489891

[BladeWorker]

Warning: don't read if you're having a good day http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=489891

There are a couple of (accused) rapists running around my city and the best the mayor's niece can muster is a half-assed apology after tweeting that women shouldn't dress like whores to avoid being raped. Once upon a time, this same mayor's niece made a case for participating in the lingerie football league because it was "empowering".

All I am left thinking is that the world needs to stop this train, 'cause I want off.

[Platy]

One of the most popular politicians in brazilian history has a "famous" quote where he said about the criminal ratings of the city : "C'mon ! Rape but don't kill !"

edit : ...wow that thread didn't lasted much O.o

[Devolution]

There are a couple of (accused) rapists running around my city and the best the mayor's niece can muster is a half-assed apology after tweeting that women shouldn't dress like whores to avoid being raped. Once upon a time, this same mayor's niece made a case for participating in the lingerie football league because it was "empowering". All I am left thinking is that the world needs to stop this train, 'cause I want off.

What the fuck. I thought it's been well established that clothing has fuck all to do with assault.

[Emitan]

Warning: don't read if you're having a good day http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=489891

Most frustrating thing is that I can't reply to the stupid.

[Professor Beef]

Warning: don't read if you're having a good day http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=489891

Oh for FUCK'S SAKE.

[Leeness]

That whole thread, other than a few great people in there, was face palm.

[The Anti-Monitor]

While bad, nowhere near as bad as I imagined.

[shanshan310]

I see it as an opportunity to do a spring clean on people who think girls lie about assault for attention.

[BladeWorker]

What the fuck. I thought it's been well established that clothing has fuck all to do with assault.

Brought to you by the same city where a 25-year-old cop sparked SlutWalks everywhere by saying "don't want to get raped? Don't dress like a slut".

It's like a disease, or something. Don't go out too much, you'll catch Stupid.

[Leeness]

Oh lawd, dat thread. That's something...special.

Glad I never have to deal with any of that.

[Fiction]

Warning: don't read if you're having a good day http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=489891

...

Though, I am happy at the amount of banned people and apparently deleted posts.

[Devolution]

Oh lawd, dat thread. That's something...special. Glad I never have to deal with any of that.

The "talking" one, yeah. The best part is how (to some people) we either lead men on or when we're straight forward we're a bitch. There's no winning with some folks.

[Leeness]

The "talking" one, yeah. The best part is how (to some people) we either lead men on or when we're straight forward we're a bitch. There's no winning with some folks.

I found it! Blog post I read a while ago about rape culture and "bitch".

http://fugitivus.wordpress.com/2009/...-about-rape-3/

[Devolution]

I found it! Blog post I read a while ago about rape culture and "bitch". http://fugitivus.wordpress.com/2009/...-about-rape-3/

Great piece.

[Leeness]

Great piece.

Yeah. And pretty true too. :(

[shanshan310]

The "talking" one, yeah. The best part is how (to some people) we either lead men on or when we're straight forward we're a bitch. There's no winning with some folks.

or you're just lying for attention! or you want to be cruel to poor helpless men by sending them to jail!

[The Anti-Monitor]

I'm not saying all women lie and are evil and just want the attention, but I'm going to defend that this particular woman in this particular thread is.

Also it's Devo's fault.

[Emitan]

Oh lawd, dat thread. That's something...special. Glad I never have to deal with any of that.

"Check your PMs, Leeness!"

[Dr.Palutena]

I found it! Blog post I read a while ago about rape culture and "bitch". http://fugitivus.wordpress.com/2009/...-about-rape-3/

That was a good read.

[Brian Griffin]

I found it! Blog post I read a while ago about rape culture and "bitch". http://fugitivus.wordpress.com/2009/...-about-rape-3/

Thanks for posting this.

Regarding the PAX thread, I feel like those kinds of threads are like forest fires. They hurt people and nobody wants them to happen, but after they are over the land is cleansed so new life can grow.

[soapypanda]

Wasn't a study done where they found that most rape victims wore normal conservative clothes?

By this logic you should wear the most revealing clothing possible to avoid rape.

[Loona]

Weren't there also studies saying that it was most frequent from family or aquaintances? By that logic it's safer to be a hermit or constantly on the move to avoid ties to people.

It might just be safer to keep concealed weapons handy and/or learn domething brutally efficient like krav maga for self-defense.

[Devolution]

Weren't there also studies saying that it was most frequent from family or aquaintances? By that logic it's safer to be a hermit or constantly on the move to avoid ties to people. It might just be safer to keep concealed weapons handy and/or learn domething brutally efficient like krav maga for self-defense.

Yeah but you can't become a hermit till you're 18 pretty much. (one of my friends was raped by an uncle).

[SmokyDave]

PS: This youtube channel is awesome.

...


huh.

[Devolution]

... huh.

Be sure to MUTE.

[SmokyDave]

Be sure to MUTE.

Discovering the Hannah Minx vs. Xenia Muller 'rivalry' has made my Friday morning. Being at work, it's mute all the way.

They're right in that age bracket that makes me feel like an old perv though :(

[The Anti-Monitor]

Discovering the Hannah Minx vs. Xenia Muller 'rivalry' has made my Friday morning. Being at work, it's mute all the way. They're right in that age bracket that makes me feel like an old perv though :(

No video? This was disappointing.

[Salazar]

They're right in that age bracket that makes me feel like an old perv though :(

It's not just the age though, is it, Dave. If you're honest.

[shanshan310]

They're right in that age bracket that makes me feel like an old perv though :(

She's over 18 so who cares :p

[Loona]

She's over 18 so who cares :p

http://xkcd.com/314/