Originally Posted by Secret Fawful
I think helping someone who is shy and insecure instead of enforcing his own self-defeatism by treating them like something "repulsive" is the better way, but apparently I'm wrong and the shy and insecure are just repulsive pussies, eh. That seems to be the prevailing opinion by most people in the world today. Don't help them work through it, just let them wallow in their own pity until they snap out of it (rare), commit suicide (50/50), or grow old and bitter (likely) or something.
Yeah, some people don't want help, but a lot of people do, and don't know how to ask. That's how I was in high school, and I was ripped apart by guys and ignored by girls. I snapped myself out of my social insecurities through logic and understanding humans, but it doesn't sound like many people do. And as someone who worked through that, I understand that those things were my fault. The problem I have is that most people enforce it on the shy and insecure. A lot of the people in this topic seem like the kind who would.
Spending time with naturally outgoing people helps. A lot.