[Kwixotik]

I don't think Khalifa Jayy meant to insult Catholics. Was probably just a slip of the tongue.

[Dude Abides]

Soon to be an episode of COPS.

[The Hermit]

Shitstorm incoming.

I didn't get it either... I though it was the same.

[Socreges]

"I'm Christian she's Catholic" I do not understand that world. I have no help to give.

I've heard people say this before, that Christians are somehow a different denomination than Catholics. I still don't understand it.

I don't think Khalifa Jayy meant to insult Catholics. Was probably just a slip of the tongue.

I don't think it was. He's not the first to make that distinction.

[Nevasleep]

Atheists have to have a dig, as always.
I think the 'don't worry about it until the time comes' is the best option.

How did the ex know where to send the tulips?

[Hero]

Don't break up over stupid stuff.

[Deified Data]

This isn't really much of a response even though I agree. The community and emotional support of a church is not really paralleled in secular situations except maybe clubs and very close knit groups of friends. But there is rarely a central meeting place, fundraisers, events and all kinds of inclusive activities for such a large group and their children.

I won't reply next time, then.

If the difference between growing up alone and alienated versus enriched and happy is which denomination a child is raised in, the parents are doing something wrong. And didn't you say he shouldn't raise his kids in either sect, or were you just snarking for snark's sake?

[commedieu]

Way to let your beliefs get in the way of love. You guys should agree to disagree, come on. Find some compromise.

If you're in love, fucking work it out.

[narcosis219]

Christian/Catholic
"Amazing Sex"... you guys married? Does doing it raw feel amazing? Oh wait, sorry, I didn't realize you used condoms.

So many things wrong even before we get to your relationship issue.

[Devolution]

I won't reply next time, then. If the difference between growing up alone and alienated versus enriched and happy is which denomination a child grows up in, the parents are doing something wrong. And didn't you say he shouldn't raise his kids in either sect, or were you just snarking for snark's sake?

I said that as a way for neither parent to basically have control over their religious upbringing if it's that big of a deal. Just because I'm not big on religion doesn't mean I'm unaware of just how inclusive and communal that kind of thing happens to be.

[Duane Cunningham]

(I'm Christian she's Catholic).

Just so you're not confused why everyone is offended by this, "Protestant" is the correct term for a non-Catholic Christian.

"I'm Protestant, she's Catholic" is what you meant to say. You're both Christians.

[Copernicus]

I've heard people say this before, that Christians are somehow a different denomination than Catholics. I still don't understand it. I don't think it was. He's not the first to make that distinction.

All catholics are christians, not all christians are catholics.


There's also some catholics who think they aren't christian.

[Fritz]

Kinda makes you hope this talk will be about religion and not the ex.

[xxracerxx]

I hope the OP is spending time responding to some of this.

[Cubsfan23]

sounds like a blessing in disguise to me

[Socreges]

All catholics are christians, not all christians are catholics.

Yes, I know this. What I'm saying is that I don't understand why some non-Catholic Christians have a different conception of how it works.

[SouthernDragon]

:/ (I'm Christian she's Catholic).

Come on, bro, you're both Christian. Your differences are smaller than you think, you're just hitting a rough patch.

[salva]

Sorry to hear that, ese. Let's go grab a beer some time.

[cubanb]

Haha great thread backfire with the sex and condoms talk.

[Pagusas]

What I sense here based off limited information is she is looking for problems to justify her waning feelings and produce an exit strategy. No one wants to be "the bad guy" when a relationship ends, so maybe its her way of finding an issue to latch on to and say "this is why we wouldnt work, so i should end it, so I can go be with my ex", or what ever reason she may have (the ex seems to be the big one here)

As for the ex, I can tell you from experience going back to ex's rarely rarely works. I nearly lost something wonderful in my life because I left her to get back with my ex. Luckily the mistake was short lived and I have a very loving and forgiving gf.

There is a reason ex's are ex's, and those reasons always seem to come back.

[Fritz]

There's also some catholics who think they aren't christian.

Hu, why would they do that? Sounds interesting.

[Deified Data]

Kinda makes you hope this talk will be about religion and not the ex.

Let's hope OP doesn't spend all day preparing to be dumped when all she wants to talk about is something mundane. Or worse, break up with her before she gets the chance.

What I sense here based off limited information is she is looking for problems to justify her waning feelings and produce an exit strategy. No one wants to be "the bad guy" when a relationship ends, so maybe its her way of finding an issue to latch on to and say "this is why we wouldnt work, so i should end it, so I can go be with my ex", or what ever reason she may have (the ex seems to be the big one here) As for the ex, I can tell you from experience going back to ex's rarely rarely works. I nearly lost something wonderful in my life because I left her to get back with my ex. Luckily the mistake was short lived and I have a very loving and forgiving gf. There is a reason ex's are ex's, and those reasons always seem to come back.

My thoughts exactly. From what I've seen, religion probably isn't a huge part of her life, making her frustration seem fake. Would be interested in hearing whether or not she takes her faith seriously in any other area of her life besides hypothetical arguments with her boyfriend.

[Kipe]

Your hypothetical kid probably won't give a shit, he/she might even become an atheist. You guys should break up over having stupid as fuck arguments though.

[Az987]

My Buddhist chick didn't like my Tao beliefs so I told her one who is too insistent on his own views, finds few to agree with him.

The she punched me in the ribs.

[Ultima_5]

Is it just me or has girl age been spilling back out to the rest of GAF? Feels like the olden days before an OT

[tearsofash]

Why not just pick an entirely new religion instead of a compromise?

[Houston3000]

(I'm Christian she's Catholic)

I'd really like to hear this explained

...like somehow Catholics aren't Christians? Do you think Protestants are Christians?

If someone said they were Baptist would you say they aren't Christian, they're Protestant? What if they were a Methodist or Pentecostal, do they even count?

[Osietra]

If only it was that cut and dry.

Like a circumcision.

[Ultima_5]

My Buddhist chick didn't like my Tao beliefs so I told her one who is too insistent on his own views, finds few to agree with him. The she punched me in the ribs.

Im agnostic and my exgf was an atheist and we broke up because we couldn't decide which religion to not raise our children in.

[Moral Panic]

Why is everyone so hung up on the Catholic/Christian thing?

[Felix Lighter]

Why not expose the children to both denominations? Outside of rituals and sacraments, I can't imagine the teachings are all that different in the scheme of things. If she was a Catholic and you were a Satan worshiper, I'd better understand the refusal to compromise.

[Plywood]

You're christian and she's catholic but you've had sex?

[narcosis219]

Why is everyone so hung up on the Catholic/Christian thing?

Because the OP and his gf are breaking up because of it? Frankly I don't really care, but I find it hilarious that this is even an issue.

[Al-ibn Kermit]

You mean the kids right? Just take the kids to both churches, switch between both every week. When they're old enough they can make up their own mind I guess.

No, no. Just no. Kids don't make up their own mind until they're in their late teens. At that point they'll either turn away from both Christian sects and won't look back or they'll just go with whatever is the most familiar.

The OP and his gf sound like pretty strict Christians outside of sex so they know this won't be an option.

My advice is to let the break up just happen. Acknowledge that what you had was fun but that it's best for both of you to just walk away from it, make it very mutual. Maybe later on one of you will change a little and can come to an agreement on what to do about children.

[SquiddyCracker]

You're christian and she's catholic but you've had sex?

He's a protestant and she's a catholic, and they have had amazing sex.
They're also either using some birth control, or just being really lucky.

What I sense here based off limited information is she is looking for problems to justify her waning feelings and produce an exit strategy. No one wants to be "the bad guy" when a relationship ends, so maybe its her way of finding an issue to latch on to and say "this is why we wouldnt work, so i should end it, so I can go be with my ex", or what ever reason she may have (the ex seems to be the big one here) As for the ex, I can tell you from experience going back to ex's rarely rarely works. I nearly lost something wonderful in my life because I left her to get back with my ex. Luckily the mistake was short lived and I have a very loving and forgiving gf. There is a reason ex's are ex's, and those reasons always seem to come back.

This sounds pretty plausible too.

[Socreges]

Im agnostic and my exgf was an atheist and we broke up because we couldn't decide which religion to not raise our children in.

Nice.

[Raitosaito]

I don't understand, she has feelings for someone else while with you and she said so.

That is pretty much a sign to run.

[macuser1of5]

Why is everyone so hung up on the Catholic/Christian thing?

Probably because they're catholic, the religion of nitpicking.

[Desmond]

Probably because they're catholic, the religion of nitpicking.

Oh, here we go...

[TheFightingFish]

I think GAF is mostly just going to tease you, and it does sound like there is more troubling the two of you than just religion. But I would say that if that is actually causing issues for you now then it's much better to find that out now and stop before you actually reach the point in a relationship where there is a marriage and possibly kids and things get really hairy. Breaking up is a nasty thing, but it's 100x easier to deal with at this point in the game. I'm honestly surprised at how many folks I know who have massive issues in their marriages (religion issues, kids vs no-kids, politics, you name it) and were well aware of the issues before hand. They just kinda ignored them, or assumed that they would work it out somehow. In all honesty many of them seemed to be just too afraid to go back into the dating pool and too into staying in a comfortable, but not ideal relationship. Then in the marriage work stress or life stress or kid stress pops up and all the issues that never got resolved before hand become huge deals and really stress the relationship.

So yeah, that's just my way of saying that it sucks and I feel for ya. But one of the whole points of dating (well for some I guess) is to find out if you can work out married to each other. And if serious stuff is coming up now then now is the time to find out.

[Socreges]

Because the OP and his gf are breaking up because of it? Frankly I don't really care, but I find it hilarious that this is even an issue.

Exactly.

My girlfriend insists on us eating carrots during dinner, but I believe we should do vegetables instead.

[DTLIONS1013]

This may happen to me this weekend too :( except the argument is even stupider than that of religion

[Cubsfan23]

here's a novel thought.....let your kids decide what faith they want to be instead of having pointless arguments......even more stupid when you don't even have the kids yet

[Devolution]

I don't know where some people in this thread have been the last year (or somehow missed the birth control debates) but plenty of Catholic women have sex before marriage.

[narcosis219]

Exactly. My girlfriend insists on us eating carrots during dinner, but I believe we should do vegetables instead.

Dude, it's over man.

Carrots and veggies just don't mix

[mjc]

Give it some time to breathe, but I'd nip that ex-bf stuff right in the bud. That's some bs.

[DTLIONS1013]

Also, my dad is Catholic and my mom is Jewish. It was never even an issue, my sister and I weren't raised to follow either religion. We celebrated both Christmas and Hannukah, but were never pushed to go to church or synagogue and my parents never fought over it

[Plywood]

I don't know where some people in this thread have been the last year (or somehow missed the birth control debates) but plenty of Catholic women have sex before marriage.

But protestant men do not.

[Borgnine]

Is the invisible child a girl? If so, I think you should definitely go with Catholic.

[Houston3000]

Why is everyone so hung up on the Catholic/Christian thing?

It was the most major issue he presented outside the ex-boyfriend thing... and by all accounts (not much obviously) it seems crazy. Maybe they were fighting over the ratification of saints or the pope? She's super Catholic and he's some crazy radical Seventh Day Adventist or a Quaker? Intriguing.