[windz]

Also, my dad is Catholic and my mom is Jewish. It was never even an issue, my sister and I weren't raised to follow either religion. We celebrated both Christmas and Hannukah, but were never pushed to go to church or synagogue and my parents never fought over it

That's what reasonable, open minded people do. Good on your parents IMO :P.

[hoos30]

What the hell is going on with this site? I thought the Oprah Winfrey show was over????

[Loofy]

How many tenets are you allowed to lose before you stop being one?

I dunno, how many times can you litter before you cant vote democrat?

[xxracerxx]

I dunno, how many times can you litter before you cant vote democrat?

Horrible analogy.

[krioto]

Maybe you should both convert to 'holy shit - all this religion bollocks is just all make believe - let's get on with our lives free of interference from rubbish' and be happy.

Send me a cheque in the mail.

[Loofy]

Horrible analogy.

You arent a democrat if you hate the environment. Its true.

[Alebrije]

Well depending of the result I leave you this songs :

You break :

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a_Am4...eature=related

You stay :

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MK6TXMsvgQg

[-COOLIO-]

That same day her punk ass ex bf sent her a bouquet of tulips (her favorite) and a card saying he still loved her and all kinds of shit.

the man knows how to appeal to biological chemical reactions.

[malingenie]

Dude writes about how the girl's exboyfriend is trying to get up in his woman and gaf focuses on the religion aspect. Op has ony himself to blame for starting post with the religious argument, but damn it, the girl is probably playing the op.

[Foxix]

Huh that sucks to hear man =/

I'm catholic and my girlfriend is protestant, we've intellectually butted heads over it a couple time but never argued over it. Actually we tend to use our differences in that regard to try and explore each other and what we each believe. Then again we're both pretty open minded people.

I think most of it has been on my end. I tend to sort of end up confused and a little befuddled or frustrated with trying to understand her VERY independent protestant beliefs. Then again I think the same happens to her haha. We do our best to compromise and we fairly regularly attend each other's church. We generally understand each other though and use the problems we encounter with another's understanding as a chance to explain and get to better understand and bolster each of our faiths individually.

I really hope you guys can make it work out! Broadly speaking our similarities are greater than our differences. Depending on your denomination though the philosophical implications of what you each believe might be kind of a steep gradient to climb. I truly wish you guys the best of luck!

Then again challenges are part of any relationship, I hope you guys don't give up.

[Khalifa Jayy]

Small update: I've been working all day so I left my phone in the break room for a little while. I came back to about 6 texts from her wondering why I hadn't texted her all day. She sent these little sad faces too. When I finally wrote back she said she missed me "muchisisisisimo" (translator's note: muchisisisisisimo means a whole lot in Spanish) and to never do that to her again because she was going crazy...

Maybe its not as bad as I thought? Either way I get out of work at 615 and I'm going to the gym. You'll all have a solid update tonight around 10pm Pacific. Wish me luck.

[Veelk]

When I finally wrote back she said she missed me "muchisisisisimo" (translator's note: muchisisisisisimo means a whole lot in Spanish) and to never do that to her again because she was going crazy...

Did you ever happen to work as a translator on a certain deathnote episode?

[btrboyev]

Based off the OP and his latest update, there just seems to be a lot of immaturity in the relationship...and i don't mean that in a condescending way.

I think you two just need to sit down and have the talk. If religion is something that will be a deal breaker, then you must decide now rather than wait as it will only get worse and harder.

[shanshan310]

Maybe its not as bad as I thought? Either way I get out of work at 615 and I'm going to the gym. You'll all have a solid update tonight around 10pm Pacific. Wish me luck.

Hooray!

Good luck!

[CREMSteve]

Small update: I've been working all day so I left my phone in the break room for a little while. I came back to about 6 texts from her wondering why I hadn't texted her all day. She sent these little sad faces too. When I finally wrote back she said she missed me "muchisisisisimo" (translator's note: muchisisisisisimo means a whole lot in Spanish) and to never do that to her again because she was going crazy... Maybe its not as bad as I thought? Either way I get out of work at 615 and I'm going to the gym. You'll all have a solid update tonight around 10pm Pacific. Wish me luck.

How old is this girl?

[Kalnos]

Well depending of the result I leave you this songs :

In the meantime...

[SolKane]

I'm Christian she's Catholic

Probably late to this, but.... what?

[The Mana Legend]

Small update: I've been working all day so I left my phone in the break room for a little while. I came back to about 6 texts from her wondering why I hadn't texted her all day. She sent these little sad faces too. When I finally wrote back she said she missed me "muchisisisisimo" (translator's note: muchisisisisisimo means a whole lot in Spanish) and to never do that to her again because she was going crazy... Maybe its not as bad as I thought? Either way I get out of work at 615 and I'm going to the gym. You'll all have a solid update tonight around 10pm Pacific. Wish me luck.

Are you in High School? Serious question.

[Ramblin]

How old is this girl?

11

[Raiden]

Your solution is the same solution as the majority of the worlds problems.


Dump your religions and start living for the things you actually should care about.

[Cousteau]

G is the seventh letter made.

Just tell her "We need unity in times like these."

Stand down for awhile.

Everything will work itself out

It always does.

[oneils]

:/ (I'm Christian she's Catholic).

I am drunk and this does not help you in the least. But, uh, newsflash, you are both Christian. She is catholic and you are probably of a protestant faith.

[Laughing Banana]

Whatever happens, if your gf still has feelings for her old bf and even admits it, you should consider that as a a very telling red flag.

[SamuraiX-]

'amazing sex' between unmarried christians and catholics? Is that even possible?

I fuckin' LOL'd

But seriously, the OP is really overreacting. I expected nothing less from a Lakers fan

You two are going to have a nice, constructive talk and everything's gonna be fine.

Whatever happens, if your gf still has feelings for her old bf and even admits it, you should consider that as a a very telling red flag.

We know nothing about the gf's history with previous said bf.

There really isn't anything wrong with getting a jolt of feelings/emotions when somebody like that from your past sends you a nice gift. It's called being human. A red flag would be if those feelings/emotions subsist past that immediate moment.

[Finn of Ooo]

Isn't premarital sex against both of your religions?

[DTLIONS1013]

Small update: I've been working all day so I left my phone in the break room for a little while. I came back to about 6 texts from her wondering why I hadn't texted her all day. She sent these little sad faces too. When I finally wrote back she said she missed me "muchisisisisimo" (translator's note: muchisisisisisimo means a whole lot in Spanish) and to never do that to her again because she was going crazy... Maybe its not as bad as I thought? Either way I get out of work at 615 and I'm going to the gym. You'll all have a solid update tonight around 10pm Pacific. Wish me luck.

Good to hear! Meanwhile my girl has ignored me all day :/

[pringles]

Small update: I've been working all day so I left my phone in the break room for a little while. I came back to about 6 texts from her wondering why I hadn't texted her all day. She sent these little sad faces too. When I finally wrote back she said she missed me "muchisisisisimo" (translator's note: muchisisisisisimo means a whole lot in Spanish) and to never do that to her again because she was going crazy...

The religious stuff is silly and all the business with her ex isn't good, but the above is much more terrible to me. You two are debating extremely minor differences in religions you don't even follow, and how to raise your imaginary children, but she goes crazy if she doesn't receive text messages from you in a few hours??

[Preachsuh]

Let it go man. Ain't worth troubling yourself over. Women come and go and you'll find someone who you like more and fit better with. Also lol 60% of the comments who read one thing about religion and suddenly couldn't comment about anything but that. Historically, that has precisely been the argument. Most Protestant schisms/reformations quite clearly denounced Catholicism, less for what Catholics did (ie, the Spanish Inquisition and the Crusades really weren't motivating factors to any split from the Church), and more to what Catholics believed -- the Primacy of the Pope, the veneration of Mary, and the importance of the Saints. Except of course for the Anglican split. That was over nothing but pussy.

The reign of the catholic church in european history, is precisely why i as a christian hold vigilantly to the separation of church and state.

But the beliefs of the catholic church are what make me not consider them christians in the traditional sense.
I believe the rending of the veil shrouding the holiest place of the temple is symbolic of what jesus death means, ie we pray in his name, as he intercedes on our behalf.
I can't understand the need to reinstall the high priest, when it was done to share the faith with the gentile.
Mary played an important part, but i'll not venerate her as a spirit of power.
Lol at the idea of the pope.

[Rockandrollclown]

Isn't premarital sex against both of your religions?

In my experience most people only follow the rules they find convenient/apply to someone else.

[mikelb7]

This may come off a little strong, but I'd like to share with you what I've been dealing with for a long time now, to shed some perspective on how much easier you have it: I'm Jewish, my parents and family are fairly observant - I'm not. My girlfriend is Armenian, who are typically Orthrodox Christians. Luckily, she's isn't observant or religious at all. But in the eyes of the older folk in my family (the more traditional ones who weren't raised here), the bottomline was that she's Christian. After 6+ years, I'm proposing to her next week. My parents have finally come to accept that simply put, I'm going to be with her. That's that. My parents have always liked her a lot, and aside from the religion gripe...they could never fault her for anything. But still, annoying uncles, aunts, grandparents, and random misc family members on my side made it difficult for me to just know what I wanted to do. Try getting over a religious hump as big as mine for 6+ years. Your Catholic and Christian issue is an ant hill by comparison. So you two need to put that BS aside and focus on each other. If one or the other can't at least make some sacrifices, the relationship isn't worth pursuing further. If you love her, and she loves you...do what feels right. And heck, feel free to use my story as a conversation piece when you have a talk with her tonight just to open her eyes up a bit. Best advice I can give.

Haha wow, we might be bizarro versions of one another. I'm Jewish too and dated an Armenian girl (pretty seriously) for two years. We broke up about four years ago for various reasons (I moved away and had some soul searching to do, we weren't the best fit for each other either etc) but I sort of let the whole religion/family thing get to me. Trust me (and AlphaSnake), the collective subtle guilt trip of an extended Jewish family can be unbearable. I didn't break up with her specifically because we weren't the same religion, but I did let it put a "this is what my family thinks I should do" stance on the "are we really a good fit?" inner decision. Best of luck with the engagement Alpha, I really admire the way you've stuck to your guns.

Almost 6 years after the relationship, I definitely feel bummed that I let something like religion and family pressure kind of turn myself against someone I truly loved. I'm pretty sure it wouldn't have lasted forever with her, but I can't help but wonder what things would've been like if we were still together (especially now, being much more of an agnostic atheist). It's interesting how AlphaSnake stayed true to his feelings while I worried about dumb shit like "how will we raise our kids?"

OP, if you guys enjoy each other's company as much as you say you do, you'll work out your differences. If she's still interested in her ex, you'll find out soon enough anyways. While religion and family are important, neither of them can really help you with the pain of losing someone you actually cared about.

[Dingotech]

If the arguement comes up again what should be said is that you want your children to decide their own faith! You give them the facts on all sides, then just leave them alone to think it all over.

The exboyfriend is a douche for sending flowers, I'd be damn tempted to find him and give him a good arse whooping for contacting your gf. Only problem with this is it would probably just push her towards him...

If she really misses you that much currently then tell her NO MORE contact with the ex, or you will 'deal' with him! >:(

[maomaoIYP]

Won't somebody please think about the feelings of the imaginary children? How could their young imaginary minds comprehend the split between their parents? How would they be able to learn the subtle differences between the Catholic and Christian stance on pre-marital sex?

[SMT]

OP, Catholic is Christian, the United-States must have a different view on the separate clans of Christianity.

[Pollux]

OP, Catholic is Christian, the United-States must have a different view on the separate clans of Christianity.

Only the crazies think that Catholics aren't Christians.

[davepoobond]

hmm...

i think its more about driving some sort of mutual wedge between you two to break up and go after the ex.

she is obviously not a strict catholic since you guys are banging.


Or maybe she has a dichotomy in her understanding of Catholicism and picks and chooses what she'll adhere to. I wouldn't be surprised if the ex is Catholic too.


the tulips thing should be a big hint that the ex is having too much interaction with her. She needs to absolutely have no contact with him at all if she is committed to being in a relationship with you.

[Mammoth Jones]

She told me she had some feelings rush back into her head and she felt horrible for it... but it doesn't change the fact.

That's code-word for "I might slip and fall on his dick".

[NaturalHigh]

That's code-word for "I might slip and fall on his dick".

What you tripped, fell, landed on his dick?

[Mammoth Jones]

What you tripped, fell, landed on his dick?

My conscious is clean :P

I just try not to fuck with woman that still have hangups for their ex's. He's sending her flowers? If she accepts that shit I'm done. Fuck that. Not going to come home and smile like a simp while she's blushing about getting flowers. Meeting for "coffee" so they "can talk". No fucking way, LMAO. He can have her. That's my opinion.

[Sho_Nuff82]

Catholics are so conflicted. Will fight tooth and nail to date outside their religion. Refuse to compromise on religion once in the relationship. Maybe I'm biased from going to a jesuit school.

[bangladesh]

What on earth are you doing with a girl not of the same faith????????????????

[Vodh]

Small update: I've been working all day so I left my phone in the break room for a little while. I came back to about 6 texts from her wondering why I hadn't texted her all day. She sent these little sad faces too. When I finally wrote back she said she missed me "muchisisisisimo" (translator's note: muchisisisisisimo means a whole lot in Spanish) and to never do that to her again because she was going crazy... Maybe its not as bad as I thought? Either way I get out of work at 615 and I'm going to the gym. You'll all have a solid update tonight around 10pm Pacific. Wish me luck.

That's good to hear. Well, things are certainly starting to look up. The next update better include a picture of a massacred face of that tulip asshole ex.

But first and foremost talk with your GF about that ex stuff. There are feelings and feelings, find out if she means that part of her wants to get back with him, or if she just felt some nostalgia upon receiving flowers, which would be pretty fucking weird if she didn't.

Also, the religion thing really shouldn't be a problem. But for the love of God, tell us which denomination are you? It's fucking killing me, I need to know!

[Dingotech]

My conscious is clean :P I just try not to fuck with woman that still have hangups for their ex's. He's sending her flowers? If she accepts that shit I'm done. Fuck that. Not going to come home and smile like a simp while she's blushing about getting flowers. Meeting for "coffee" so they "can talk". No fucking way, LMAO. He can have her. That's my opinion.

Sound advice IMO.

When I first started dating my wife I found out she was out bowling with a group of friends that included her ex. She got a straight up ultimatum, either stop hanging around him or I'm out of here. Fortunately she chose me and never spoke to him again.

[Riggs]

Gluck OP!! Keep your girl bro don't let religion get in the way. Only 1 god man, doesn't matter the religion.

[Mammoth Jones]

Sound advice IMO. When I first started dating my wife I found out she was out bowling with a group of friends that included her ex. She got a straight up ultimatum, either stop hanging around him or I'm out of here. Fortunately she chose me and never spoke to him again.

Yea, I feel you on that. I just can't deal with it. I mean she can do whatever she wants. She's a grown ass woman. But at the same time I can do as I please as well. I don't want that type of baggage in my relationship.

[Mammoth Jones]

Gluck OP!! Keep your girl bro don't let religion get in the way. Only 1 god man, doesn't matter the religion.

And this. I mean I don't personally agree with things in Catholicism but then again I don't agree with certain things about "my" religion that my Mother taught me. I figure if I have it wrong God can deal with it and accept my apology later, LMAO. As you can see I'm a deep theological thinker........

[UltraMagnanimous]

Gluck OP!! Keep your girl bro don't let religion get in the way. Only 1 god man, doesn't matter the religion.

There is no god.

[Riggs]

There is no god.

All good bro. Religion and god are seperate things in my mind. Religion is man made bullshit. God is just my way of knowing there is something good out there. And the devil is my way of knowing there is evil.

I don't pray. I don't read bible. I don't go to church. I just have to believe there is more out there then this. Religion can fuck off , its the reason for so many folks not believing in god. And frankly I cannot blame them.

Mammoth I feel ya man, only god can judge us in the end.

[krioto]

Gluck OP!! Keep your girl bro don't let religion get in the way. Only 1 god man, doesn't matter the religion.

Who is this god man you speak of?





It's Aquaman, isn't it?

[Mammoth Jones]

There is no god.

To each their own. But many people don't believe as you do and the religion of their partner is very important. Shit...many people believe EXACTLY as you do and the religion of their partner is important, LOL. My buddy is an atheist with an extremely devout Catholic wife....funny stuff but love is love.

[Riggs]

Who is this god man you speak of? It's Aquaman, isn't it?

Batman you idiot! Aquaman is a pussy cmon dude.