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User33 · (08-20-2012, 02:49 PM)

Originally Posted by JB1981:

well if i had my way i'd see her again immediately. maybe i'll give her a call tonight, just to see how she is doing?

You can make plans with her when you call her if you want.

Just as long as you act because you genuinely like her and want to see her again, and not because you're worried about losing her/her finding somebody else or whatever, you'll be fine.

shagg_187 · (08-20-2012, 02:50 PM)

Originally Posted by JB1981:

call or text?

Call. Always call. Once you stick to texting, it always end up in texts. Start with a call. Tell her you are going somewhere and ask her if she would love to join you. Be specific.

User33 · (08-20-2012, 02:52 PM)

Originally Posted by bytesized:

I'd just advise you to not get too excited and procede with caution until you are super super super sure that she is not a crazy bitch full of issues.

Nothing from the OP gave that impression. Do you automatically assume every girl you meet is crazy, unless proven otherwise?

ErasureAcer · (08-20-2012, 02:52 PM)

Originally Posted by MmmSkyscraper:

What no Swingers?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2aN4w2AfkEY

But the end of Swingers goes against that advice.

shagg_187 · (08-20-2012, 02:52 PM)

Originally Posted by User33:

Nothing from the OP gave that impression. Do you automatically assume every girl you meet is crazy, unless proven otherwise?

Maybe every girl he has met is crazy, and when she isn't then he is the one who is the crazy one?

DoctorWho · (08-20-2012, 02:53 PM)

Originally Posted by shagg_187:

Call. Always call. Once you stick to texting, it always end up in texts. Start with a call. Tell her you are going somewhere and ask her if she would love to join you. Be specific.

I called my girlfriend of 8 months for the first time two weeks ago. It was strange.

monome · (08-20-2012, 02:55 PM)

Ok...

so you meet the girl.
you have a great time.
you sex the girl.
and now it is about the difficulty of getting in touch with her again?

I don't know shit about women, but in France when I put my penis into a girl's vagina, I feel ok getting to know what she does besides making me horny and thus I have no problem sending messages to her or calling to check on her.

Girls are human beings, it's weird to me you ask yourself such a question.
You're afraid she's gonna go away?
well, she might, but in the meantime just be sweet to her, she'll make it up to you a 1000x.

Now, if you post comprehensive pics or videos of the lady, I'm pretty sure GAF collective mind will be able to share more experience and give the best possible advices.

MmmSkyscraper · (08-20-2012, 02:55 PM)

Originally Posted by ErasureAcer:

But the end of Swingers goes against that advice.

Exactly.

subversus · (08-20-2012, 02:56 PM)

Originally Posted by JB1981:

call or text?

text

shagg_187 · (08-20-2012, 02:58 PM)

Originally Posted by subversus:

text

They already texted though. Text is good for the "are you going to start avoiding me" business. Call once you're over that.

ToxicAdam · (08-20-2012, 02:58 PM)

Originally Posted by JB1981:

The City of Dreams.

It really is a dump but it is also a lot of fun.

Any place is fun when you get laid.

Call her Tuesday and set up a date for the weekend. Just be warned that sometimes one-nighters are just that. You can never recreate the magic. It can be frustrating.

Ledsen · (08-20-2012, 03:01 PM)

Originally Posted by Emily Chu:

as a wise person once said at a GAF meetup

"there are no rules to this shit" (everything you hear is bullshit)

what may be right for one person is entirely wrong for another

and results may vary anyway

eh if it was meant to happen it'll happen anyway if not, simply try again

just do what feels right to you

Was this wise person... PXG?

RobertM · (08-20-2012, 03:04 PM)

There's a lot of trash at AC, I would be careful.

JB1981 · (08-20-2012, 03:07 PM)

Originally Posted by monome:

Ok...

so you meet the girl.
you have a great time.
you sex the girl.
and now it is about the difficulty of getting in touch with her again?

I don't know shit about women, but in France when I put my penis into a girl's vagina, I feel ok getting to know what she does besides making me horny and thus I have no problem sending messages to her or calling to check on her.

Girls are human beings, it's weird to me you ask yourself such a question.
You're afraid she's gonna go away?
well, she might, but in the meantime just be sweet to her, she'll make it up to you a 1000x.

Now, if you post comprehensive pics or videos of the lady, I'm pretty sure GAF collective mind will be able to share more experience and give the best possible advices.

well i have been with other women but have never had an experience quite like this one before. it was a minor miracle. she seemed like a really "good girl." she teaches kindergarten, has been for 10 yrs. She was really sweet and affectionate toward me. Just a cutie all around. I am 31 and have been single for a long time and I'm excited that I have met someone and just don't want to make any stupid mistakes.

bytesized · (08-20-2012, 03:11 PM)

Originally Posted by User33:

Nothing from the OP gave that impression. Do you automatically assume every girl you meet is crazy, unless proven otherwise?

Just speaking from personal experience. I did not noticed until it was too late, just making sure OP is careful, that's all.

Tawpgun · (08-20-2012, 03:15 PM)

I just find it weird your charismatic enough to get this girl and obviously had a great time with her, but then you need to ask GAF what to do next?

Why didn't you consult us before talking to her? You're breaking all the rules.

User33 · (08-20-2012, 03:16 PM)

Originally Posted by JB1981:

well i have been with other women but have never had an experience quite like this one before. it was a minor miracle. she seemed like a really "good girl." she teaches kindergarten, has been for 10 yrs. She was really sweet and affectionate toward me. Just a cutie all around. I am 31 and have been single for a long time and I'm excited that I have met someone and just don't want to make any stupid mistakes.

Ironically, worrying about making mistakes is going to result in over-thinking, neediness and a lack of confidence in yourself once you start basing your actions on what you think she wants in order to not lose her.

Just relax man. Do whatever you want. Sure you might make some mistakes, but that's life. It's impossible to give you a set of steps that will 100% ensure you don't lose her, because there are so many factors that are out of your control. Again, relax and go with your instincts.

Jipan · (08-20-2012, 03:26 PM)

Originally Posted by Ledsen:

Was this wise person... PXG?

Sounds like something that number47 would say too. Although I'm pretty sure I heard it from PXG.

LeBrick James · (08-20-2012, 04:06 PM)

Hey man, it was my treat. I bought this time, you buy next time.

subrock · (08-20-2012, 04:14 PM)

I find it's good to have a reason to text. Maybe a funny situation you want to share or to ask her to a specific event, I.e. some friends and I are going to do (insert event) on (insert day) and I was wondering if you'd like to join.

clearacell · (08-20-2012, 04:19 PM)

if you really hit it off that well then it would not matter when you contacted her again, she would want to be around you all the time.

Jabo · (08-20-2012, 04:28 PM)

Originally Posted by BGBW:

Have you tried playing one of the other routes in this VN?

Tex117 · (08-20-2012, 04:32 PM)

Sounds like you really hit it off.

Call Tuesday, but be ready to set something up for a hang out.

PubbyMcbrosef · (08-20-2012, 04:35 PM)

It's a man. Or used to be.

fritolay · (08-20-2012, 04:37 PM)

Anything from here will be a let down. Never see or talk to her again, and let the memory be.

Or maybe meet again and go at it like rabbits and see how it lasts. But the first time maybe something that you never reach again like smoking crack I hear.

You can have one or the other, the red pill or the blue. Choose wisely.

JB1981 · (08-20-2012, 04:40 PM)

Originally Posted by fritolay:

Anything from here will be a let down. Never see or talk to her again, and let the memory be.

Or maybe meet again and go at it like rabbits and see how it lasts. But the first time maybe something that you never reach again like smoking crack I hear.

You can have one or the other, the red pill or the blue. Choose wisely.

the sex can definitely be better. i had a pretty bad case of whiskey dick. plus i started taking lexapro and i think this medication is fucking making me impotent or giving me some kind of erectile dysfunction disorder.

Messypandas · (08-20-2012, 04:42 PM)

wait. you had sex with a girl and you're asking US for advice?

JB1981 · (08-20-2012, 04:43 PM)

Originally Posted by Messypandas:

wait. you had sex with a girl and you're asking US for advice?

i didn't do anything special. just said hi to the girl on the dance floor and then everything flowed smoothly from there. my game is terrible.

bud · (08-20-2012, 04:44 PM)

jb, you're really overthinking this, dude. judging from your posts, both of you really seemed to hit it off well. just call her or text her. whatever. fuck this timetable bullshit, man.

Escape Goat · (08-20-2012, 04:45 PM)

GAF, I had sex. What do I do now?

bud · (08-20-2012, 04:46 PM)

Originally Posted by Teh Hamburglar:

GAF, I had sex. What do I do now?

masturbate to that!

JB1981 · (08-20-2012, 04:47 PM)

Originally Posted by Teh Hamburglar:

GAF, I had sex. What do I do now?

basically lol

CB3 · (08-20-2012, 04:51 PM)

Originally Posted by LeBrick James:

Hey man, it was my treat. I bought this time, you buy next time.

well done

GK86 · (08-20-2012, 04:51 PM)

How many STDs do you think you have now OP?

Gustav · (08-20-2012, 04:51 PM)

Originally Posted by JB1981:

Went to a bachelor party in AC. Met this girl at a club and we hit it off extremely well. Danced all night, hit a few different clubs, even up smashing. It was just an amazing night all around.

She is a few years older than I am but we had unbelievable chemistry from the get-go. So into each other, making out all over the place. Even the sex was like we knew each other for years. She sent me a follow up text the next morning, asking me how I was. I told her I would love to see her again and she said I would love to see you again as well. This was Sunday and I can't stop thinking about her. My question to the GAF folk is, when do you think I should contact her again? How long should I wait? A few days? I was thinking of calling her Tuesday night after work to see how she was and see if maybe she wanted to set something up for the weekend or the weekend after. I don't want to wait so long where she already has plans but I also don't want to come across too forceful. Give me your thoughts?

What is this? Some kind of romcom?

Antagon · (08-20-2012, 04:52 PM)

So, you didn't follow any stupid pua rules when you approached her but just followed your instinct. Why do you think you need to follow rules now?

PS3GamerKyle · (08-20-2012, 04:53 PM)

to truly assess the situation, we'll need pics of this lady in question.

yn-neko hates a cat · (08-20-2012, 05:01 PM)

You put out on a first meeting?! I hope she knows you're not marriage material!

Neither is she :P

Nevasleep · (08-20-2012, 05:10 PM)

Congrats on the sex, shame you can't get the girlfriend.

Houston3000 · (08-20-2012, 05:18 PM)

I understand you OP

You're probably not a bad looking guy but you're kind of a loser, went to a night club with some friends and, amidst the dancing, alcohol, and loud music you hooked up with a drunk girl who was grinding with you. Turns out this girl is actually pretty hot and, now that you're both sobered up, this girl is contacting you and trying to determine if you were actually a good catch. You know you're not though, you know she just made a horrible mistake by having sex with you, but you liked it so much that now you want to try and convince her otherwise so she has sex with you again. So you're coming to GAF for advice on how to be less of a loser.

Like I said, I get it... just keep your cool and maybe she'll pity you or, at best, even find you endearing. Good luck!

Eggo · (08-20-2012, 05:39 PM)

Originally Posted by JB1981:

I am 31 and have been single for a long time and I'm excited that I have met someone and just don't want to make any stupid mistakes.

This is the wrong attitude to have. If you're inexperienced, you're going to make mistakes. Embrace that and learn.

fanboi · (08-20-2012, 05:41 PM)

Serious advice:

Do what feels right.
If it doesn't work, she wasn''t ment for you.

Messypandas · (08-20-2012, 05:43 PM)

Serious advice give her a tinkle tonight. I learned from a female friend that the 'coolest' time to call a prospective cotial interest is 22:20pm

Mackenzie 92 · (08-20-2012, 05:46 PM)

Just go with the flow, don't play any text games or bullshit like that. You're already past all that.

NinjaBoiX · (08-20-2012, 05:55 PM)

Originally Posted by JB1981:

well i have been with other women but have never had an experience quite like this one before. it was a minor miracle. she seemed like a really "good girl." she teaches kindergarten, has been for 10 yrs. She was really sweet and affectionate toward me. Just a cutie all around. I am 31 and have been single for a long time and I'm excited that I have met someone and just don't want to make any stupid mistakes.

Teaching kids is the most attractive female profession for me. It implies patience, compassion, empathy and a sense of fun.

Hope it works out OP, I know the feel about not wanting to screw up something like this when it's been a while. For what it's worth, keep things light and jovial, and suggest a date activity that's fun and memorable, something unusual. She'll apreciate the imagination, and won't forget it in a hurry!

Good luck dude.

diddles · (08-20-2012, 05:59 PM)

Originally Posted by JB1981:

well i have been with other women but have never had an experience quite like this one before. it was a minor miracle. she seemed like a really "good girl." she teaches kindergarten, has been for 10 yrs. She was really sweet and affectionate toward me. Just a cutie all around. I am 31 and have been single for a long time and I'm excited that I have met someone and just don't want to make any stupid mistakes.

yeah i'm sure this is "the first time she's ever done anything like this"

Originally Posted by JB1981:

the sex can definitely be better. i had a pretty bad case of whiskey dick. plus i started taking lexapro and i think this medication is fucking making me impotent or giving me some kind of erectile dysfunction disorder.

so you can't get a hard on and she still wants to see you again? she sounds desperate.

Imm0rt4l · (08-20-2012, 06:00 PM)

Dude you already fucked her, contact her whenever the fuck you feel like it. No need for games at this point.

fritolay · (08-20-2012, 06:01 PM)

After reading more of your replies, I think this was one night that is probably better left on a pedestal for you to remember.

DoctorWho · (08-20-2012, 06:01 PM)

Originally Posted by Imm0rt4l:

Dude you already fucked her, contact her whenever the fuck you feel like it. No need for games at this point.

Pretty much this.

Mikey Jr. · (08-20-2012, 06:02 PM)

Don't you guys hate it when your dick hurts from too much sex?