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(08-21-2012, 10:18 AM)
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So, again to make sure I'm understanding correctly, you know for certain that she will harm gay people without knowing if she's capable of any critical thinking? Many people within religions won't inherently agree with every aspect of what they're taught and will question aspects of the faith. In many churches this is even encouraged to help with self discovery and understanding. Again, though, you made it very clear that you think she is harming someone, otherwise your wording and selective bolding wouldn't make any sense at all. |
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Buttocks unclenched.
Now fill me in. (08-21-2012, 10:19 AM)
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I never got a chance to reconcile with my grandma, because she has alzheimers and we hide that I am Muslim (and my wife) from her. I am glad that you took it back more generally, but just consider your stance. With family the seperation is not easier than the slight annoyance of someone getting preachy. |
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In terms of dealing with it, the best thing you can do is be a patient, polite and hospitable person. Be the 'one good atheist' or whatever to her. It is a lot hard to believe that someone is inherently immoral and going to hell if you see them out and about being a good person. This will always put the brakes on extremism I find.
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I recently went to my friends house to check out his wii. I was generally impressed. It was larger than I expected though.
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From what he describes, I worry that his sister is going down a fanatical road.
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(08-21-2012, 10:25 AM)
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This sh!t needs to stop?
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Okay, two simple questions: 1) Is homosexuality a sin? 2) Does the pastor sound like someone who would preach about gays in a positive light? SIMPLY based off of what was written in the OP. Do you honestly think that from the quotes of the pastor, the apathy of her wanting to drop out of school; that this man is a person wishing to push a wholesome Christian message? |
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Now fill me in. (08-21-2012, 10:26 AM)
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(08-21-2012, 10:27 AM)
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1) Speaking on tongues. Yeah, that's typical with pentecostal circles, but some are more moderate and it isn't very apparent in the service. Not that it's wrong in itself, but it demonstrates an escapism and form of emotional manipulation. It's setting a contrived spiritual atmosphere that makes people more susceptible to accept whatever is thrown at them. 2) The "blueprint" concept of God's plan for your life and the "no questioning" aspect are very common among the more mentally controlling groups. It's only one of the many things you aren't allowed to question. 3) Purity ring is another sign of a manipulative and controlling group. The more weight they throw on to things like this, the more certain you can be that they use guilt trips as manipulation rather than a focus on God's grace being the motivator. 4) That perspective on natural disasters is again something common in the groups that use guilt and emotional manipulation to control people. I spent my whole life in Christian circles and I am very familiar with how the different ones operate. He shouldn't be too concerned for her safety unless they show some signs that they want to be controlling for some reason other than to be stupid together and get the pastor paid. However, he has every right to be concerned for her mental and emotional wellness and how it may lead her to make very foolish decisions with the course of her life. As I said, they work with guilt and emotional manipulation. There is a great deal of needless anxiety and strife that goes on. It is definitely oppressive to the individual and suppresses thinking and feeling what they actually do. If she chooses full commitment to "God's plan" for her life and does something stupid like drop out of school, it can be a costly mistake that has her working to recover from it for years if she ever changes her mind. I wouldn't be very concerned if she were at a Presbyterian church or something, but groups like the ones he described are awful for a person. Fuck off with your nebulous high horse you damn hippy. That's not how you address someone without knowing shit about their perspective.
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(08-21-2012, 10:30 AM)
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This sh!t needs to stop?
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Just realize that who she is today won't be the same person at twenty. People change a lot in that time. Just keep communication going and engage her in dialogue if you find that she's going "too far". Lots of people drop religion at around her age and later. Many also pick it up. Just monitor the wind really.
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Now fill me in. (08-21-2012, 10:32 AM)
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(08-21-2012, 10:33 AM)
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As for your question, I don't know enough about the situation at all to make any ridiculous assumptions, so I can't answer that. |
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This sh!t needs to stop?
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OP. What have your parents said about the matter? Do they know the crazy things being said/done or do they only think she's going to a "normal" Church? |
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(08-21-2012, 10:38 AM)
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Disregarding your personal experience, you're saying the majority of Muslims would accept one of their own completely escaping the religion completely and embracing a completely opposing philosophy?
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(08-21-2012, 10:40 AM)
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So, you're telling me you can't actually explain your gay/minority comment beyond unfounded assumptions? If it'll make you listen to me more, I am an atheist so I'm not here to hurt anyone who's gay.
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Buttocks unclenched.
Now fill me in. (08-21-2012, 10:42 AM)
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Regarding homosexuality, I didn't hear her church's stance on it, it's probably not good, but my sis has always been pro-gay. I think I'll ask her about it though, I haven't in a while. |
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I recently went to my friends house to check out his wii. I was generally impressed. It was larger than I expected though.
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I see you have not read the atheist bible, gone to atheist church or pray to atheist god. You my friend are no atheist.
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(08-21-2012, 10:44 AM)
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I'm definitely wondering where PezDispenser read this this atheist rigid code. Possibly nowhere. |
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(08-21-2012, 10:47 AM)
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Someone has already brought it up to leave her alone.
To support that, how do you know you are not wrong about what you believe? Most common problem for religious discussions is the lack of common ground, hard to get any logical discussion out of it. On a darker side, even if you know 100% sure she is wrong in her thinking, but is she happier now? Will she be happier this way in the future? Swinging people from religion to religion or to none at all is a big change if you ever pull it off, For me, I would say lifetime happiness and sense of purpose for the other person is higher than my own "sense of right and wrong" most of the time. My mum is like your sister: she got deeply entrenched into religion ever since my dad passed away. A lot of things in the church I still disagree with, but I let her be if her life has more meaning that way. |
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This sh!t needs to stop?
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(08-21-2012, 10:48 AM)
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If you're an atheist then you have to follow the strict belief that everything in the bible is wrong. Its quite a detailed religion, its actually 1:1 as complicated as all other religions combined. =P
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Now fill me in. (08-21-2012, 10:49 AM)
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Oh that reminds me, the pastor also mentioned how atheist are different than agnostic. And that atheists think they know everything, and because they can't disprove god they can't know everything and aren't really atheist, or something like that.
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I recently went to my friends house to check out his wii. I was generally impressed. It was larger than I expected though.
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Hold on, let me get my atheist bible out, I will read you some verses.
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(08-21-2012, 10:54 AM)
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Wow, atheism sounds like a great and complicated religion! I'll donate my entire paycheque and start going to the atheist church down the street today! I think it's actually a gamestop though.
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(08-21-2012, 10:54 AM)
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In general I have found that extreme reactions to such things really depend on the way in which the person leaves the religion, and how extreme the people involved are. There are the gamut of reactions in general, I don't know of anyone who has been denounced or forced out of their families, but I don't know anyone who has gone nuts with it. In small communities there is a real sense that some people who leave the religion and publically attack it are betraying the community, because they feel vulnerable as it is. It is a different case in majority places, with varied reactions depending on the community in question, country, madhab, etcetera. |
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In the case of insulting prophet Mohammed, the punishment used to be death, but in the last few decades the government decided that a prison sentence should suffice. |
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I recently went to my friends house to check out his wii. I was generally impressed. It was larger than I expected though.
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So. Do you think the majority of practitioners of the Muslim religion in the world are accepting of those who completely leaving the religion? Yes or no?
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(08-21-2012, 11:07 AM)
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Are you a muhadith? |
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(08-21-2012, 11:09 AM)
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That's Somewhat disingenuous. Repeat of a quote from another thread. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Apostasy
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(08-21-2012, 11:12 AM)
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You asked me how I thought people more generally would react, I say 'you can't generalise because it depends on individual factors' to which your response is 'no! generalise!'.
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I recently went to my friends house to check out his wii. I was generally impressed. It was larger than I expected though.
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(08-21-2012, 11:34 AM)
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However, whether the government decides to enact it or not does not deny the fact that the punishment is part of the religion. What I'm talking about here is an Islamic principle, not a group of Muslims' adherence to it, hence my reference to "cherry pickers". As for your second question, no, I'm not a muhadith. But I've studied this subject thoroughly for the past few years and understand who are the trusted people in Isnad and the difference between hadith types based on the Sanad. I'm sure you are aware that if multiple hadeeths from Sahih Bukhari resonate with hadeeths from Sahih Muslim then there's no way around it, right? If you want I can provide the hadeeths here, as well as Islamic scholars' readings on them for further discussions.
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