Tell me the difference.
You're the one who brought up raising children. Maybe you should start. I'm not the one having problems with letting adults choose whatever line of work they want.
Tell me the difference.
Very true, but she should also not feel bad about people disagreeing with those choices and/or refusing to talk/date her. Just because a person can do something doesn't mean everyone else has to see it as acceptable nor should they feel bad for not seeing it as acceptable.
I'm saying. I always feel like some of these people say stuff just for GAF but if this was them, they wouldn't adhere to their posts. There's absolutely no way I would be able to take an ex back if I found out she was a prostitute while we were on break. Lmao @ anyone that tries to shame a person for not dating a prostitute or an ex one.
Yeah, I'm picturing some bad shit over the course of her tenure.The fact she had sex for money means everything. Lmao, come on. I didn't read the entire thread, but are you automatically assuming she was an escort or something sterile/clean?
I love how OP knows her and she literally said it was a mistake, but here you are saying the exact opposite.
If I stick a knife in a wall socket I know its a mistake the first time, I don't continue to do it for two years.
He doesn't accept her in his life anymore. He still loves her. But the thought of dating an ex-prostitute is really disgusting to him. He's cutting her loose again and she's devestated by it... My brother doesn't even want me to hang out with her anymore wtf.
I dont believe some people can have these opinions. So if your daughter said she wanted to be a stripper when she grows up youd be all like 'wonderful decision, you should start practicing today.'
If my *adult* daughter has an Ivy league education, is consciously making a choice to do whatever profession of her choosing, and as long it falls within whatever legal boundaries there are, who am I to tell her that she should not?
The fact she had sex for money means everything. Lmao, come on. I didn't read the entire thread, but are you automatically assuming she was an escort or something sterile/clean?
So that matters to you? High paid escort = clean, street worker = filth? I made no assumptions about what environment she worked in. It really shouldn't matter, she's a human being, her past work as a prostitute shouldn't change how anyone views her now. It's sickening to me that so many people are so unforgiving.
Let's turn the whole 'if it was your Daughter' crap on its head. How would anyone who made that argument feel if their Daughter came away from that way of life and yet couldn't be accepted by anyone for the decisions she made in the past. I wouldn't want my Daughter to work in the sex industry, but then I wouldn't want her to work in a minimal wage job or for Tony Abbott. She'd still be my Daughter though, and I still wouldn't want people to judge her for what she does rather than who she is.
My brother broke up with his gf four years ago...
I have a good relationship with her. I hadn't seen her much after my brother broke up with her. But we always had this brother-sister relationship going on and I don't want that to end. My brother doesn't even want me to hang out with her anymore wtf.
So that matters to you? High paid escort = clean, street worker = filth? I made no assumptions about what environment she worked in. It really shouldn't matter, she's a human being, her past work as a prostitute shouldn't change how anyone views her now. It's sickening to me that so many people are so unforgiving.
Let's turn the whole 'if it was your Daughter' crap on its head. How would anyone who made that argument feel if their Daughter came away from that way of life and yet couldn't be accepted by anyone for the decisions she made in the past. I wouldn't want my Daughter to work in the sex industry, but then I wouldn't want her to work in a minimal wage job or for Tony Abbott. She'd still be my Daughter though, and I still wouldn't want people to judge her for what she does rather than who she is.
So that matters to you? High paid escort = clean, street worker = filth? I made no assumptions about what environment she worked in. It really shouldn't matter, she's a human being, her past work as a prostitute shouldn't change how anyone views her now. It's sickening to me that so many people are so unforgiving.
Let's turn the whole 'if it was your Daughter' crap on its head. How would anyone who made that argument feel if their Daughter came away from that way of life and yet couldn't be accepted by anyone for the decisions she made in the past. I wouldn't want my Daughter to work in the sex industry, but then I wouldn't want her to work in a minimal wage job or for Tony Abbott. She'd still be my Daughter though, and I still wouldn't want people to judge her for what she does rather than who she is.
Your brother should be ashamed. He abandonned her because he wanted
To make some money abroad. He chose money over her and left her behind while she was deeply in love with him.
While he enjoyed a priviledge lifestyle overseas, she fell in some bad times and was forced to resort to selling her body to eat.
Who is he to judge her? He succombed to the lust for money and abandonned her!
I bet she tried to contact him many times while he was gone and he ignored her. How was his sexual life while he was gone over there? Quiz him over it. I am sure he is not so clean. He obviously had no time for serious relationship, did he hire prostitutes himself?
He abandonned her and now he rejects her again? Disgusting and shameful.
Stay friends with her and hang out with her. Don't listen to him; he's obviously unfit to protip anyone about relationships, values and valors. Who knows, one day he might ditch you for a business deal.
I think you can still be friends with her and it sounds like she needs friendly support, but stay out of their relationship problems. That thing is done. That's his personal decision and I can't blame him for not getting over it. I know I wouldn't and probably wouldn't be in a relationship with a guy for the same thing.
Can you explain this better. Isn't what someone does part of who they are? Your actions and what you choose to do are a big part of you.
This has nothing to do with her being a prostitute and everything to do with how your brother feels.
Cut her loose. Family over friends always and you don't want to learn that the hard way.
She didn't need your relationship ever and she definitely doesn't need it now. A comforting hand is nice but never is it necessary.
"Family over friends" is some real bs.
Just because you share DNA with someone doesn't mean you should always take their side.
If OP has a good brother-sister relationship with this person, then they should help her move on and establish a healthier lifestyle independent of the brother.
That's kind of my thinking in this: you've got your family by way of blood, and family by way of choice (sometimes they are one in the same)."Family over friends" is some real bs.
Just because you share DNA with someone doesn't mean you should always take their side.
If OP has a good brother-sister relationship with this person, then they should help her move on and establish a healthier lifestyle independent of the brother.
why? He even said he didn't see her much after her brother broke up with her so it seemed like that brother-sister relationship stemmed solely on the brother and her dating. There's no reason for all of that. She's an adult and can establish a healthy lifestyle without OP.
I have a good relationship with her. I hadn't seen her much after my brother broke up with her. But we always had this brother-sister relationship going on and I don't want that to end. My brother doesn't even want me to hang out with her anymore wtf.
???
He said he wanted to keep in touch with her and it seemed pretty clear to me that OP wants to help her.
Obviously, trying to mend the relationship between his brother and her isn't the way to do that.
Did you even see the sentence before the one you bolded? If their relationship was that good, then why did he barely see her for four years? Sure, he wants to keep in touch and I'm sure they have a good friendship, but it seems to only be a thing when the brother is in the picture.
Someone here once actually said if her daughter wanted to be a porn star they'd encourage her. :lol
The stigma against sex workers is terrible and damaging.
It's cruel how people will hold the fact that she was once a prostitute against her for the rest of her life.
I would get her in touch with a support group for former sex workers. She isn't alone.
"Family over friends" is some real bs.
Just because you share DNA with someone doesn't mean you should always take their side.
If OP has a good brother-sister relationship with this person, then they should help her move on and establish a healthier lifestyle independent of the brother.
Yes, hilarious. Instead of supporting your child and helping her through whatever, just point and laugh and try and make her more into what you want. Oh, and disown her too since that seems to always work.
You should not judge her based on her choice of career (yes, career; it is a valid and common one).
"Family over friends" is some real bs.
Just because you share DNA with someone doesn't mean you should always take their side.
If OP has a good brother-sister relationship with this person, then they should help her move on and establish a healthier lifestyle independent of the brother.
I think sexual power is like a currency, and female sexuality is a highly desired currency as men are so proprietorial about getting it. Slut shaming by making a connotation between women having sex with different men has been a tactic to dissuade women for reacting on other mens sexual advances. Fear. Women are caught in the cross fire and becomes the punching bag as men can just helplessly fight each other over how to take down their sexual value as it is such an effective tool on men. Spiritual and cultural institutions have been used for thousands of years to control women.
So yes, I think it's immature. It's about as immature and short sighted of the big picture to stigmatize anything, but the really infuriating thing is not that they feel this way. It's that they don't know. I truly believe that many men are afraid of womens sexual power. Particularly in eastern europe / the middle east. They haven't had those reforms that we have had in the west, and the idea of a woman being able to go out and have sex with all these guys, while the men have to struggle to just get laid, is terrifying. Better bury these women with all their options behind a marriage or spiritual damnation.
You should not judge her based on her choice of career (yes, career; it is a valid and common one). If she doesn't have any diseases that you can't live with, you should treat her just as you would any other woman you like.
I think sexual power is like a currency, and female sexuality is a highly desired currency as men are so proprietorial about getting it. Slut shaming by making a connotation between women having sex with different men has been a tactic to dissuade women for reacting on other mens sexual advances. Fear. Women are caught in the cross fire and becomes the punching bag as men can just helplessly fight each other over how to take down their sexual value as it is such an effective tool on men. Spiritual and cultural institutions have been used for thousands of years to control women.
So yes, I think it's immature. It's about as immature and short sighted of the big picture to stigmatize anything, but the really infuriating thing is not that they feel this way. It's that they don't know. I truly believe that many men are afraid of womens sexual power. Particularly in eastern europe / the middle east. They haven't had those reforms that we have had in the west, and the idea of a woman being able to go out and have sex with all these guys, while the men have to struggle to just get laid, is terrifying. Better bury these women with all their options behind a marriage or spiritual damnation.
That's not how society works. Every decision that you take in life comes with consequences, it's just that some are more negative, and this is definitely one of them.You should not judge her based on her choice of career (yes, career; it is a valid and common one). If she doesn't have any diseases that you can't live with, you should treat her just as you would any other woman you like.
You're missing the point. This isn't about not respecting her, but dating her.You should not judge her based on her choice of career (yes, career; it is a valid and common one). If she doesn't have any diseases that you can't live with, you should treat her just as you would any other woman you like.
That's not how society works. Every decision that you take in life comes with consequences, it's just that some are more negative, and this is definitely one of them.
It's not always about being professional, but also having social and moral responsibility. Sleeping for money under any circumstances is not considered valid in any society.
That's not how society works. Every decision that you take in life comes with consequences, it's just that some are more negative, and this is definitely one of them.
It's not always about being professional, but also having social and moral responsibility. Sleeping for money under any circumstances is not considered valid in any society.