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how do you justify watching porn to your SO

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Courage

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If she's not mature enough to realize that porn is just a fantasy that makes you feel better for a few minutes, then I think it's time to reconsider your SO.
 

LordCanti

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Why would I ever, and I mean ever, let her find out?

If she was weird about it, I'd just tell her to grow the fuck up anyway, but whyyyyy.
 

Steelrain

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I just tell my wife that she can't be around 24/7 and sometimes you gotta let one go to keep your day going right.

She doesn't care though because I keep her satisfied as well.
 

aku:jiki

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I justify it by not being 17 anymore. I'm a grown ass man and I don't have time for some immature girl who thinks porn is "like cheating" or whatever the fuck.
 

IHaveIce

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My girlfriend watches a lot of porn, after she has done, she gets in the mood to do all kind of kinky stuff.


Don't hide it.
 

xelios

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We both watch it now and then so it's not a big deal. I can't imagine it being a problem unless you get to the point you'd rather fap/watch porn than have sex with your partner.
 

sn00zer

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We both watch it now and then so it's not a big deal. I can't imagine it being a problem unless you get to the point you'd rather fap/watch porn than have sex with your partner.

This....honestly I cant imagine people's porn watching habits not being cut down significantly when they are in a relationship....if you are choosing porn over sex though there is likely a problem either with you or the relationships
 
She has no shame, so when I borrow her MacBook and enter something into the search bar, I'll find such lovely phrases like "BDSM" or "Abused Slave."
 

Sorian

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I watch porn when she isn't around and vice-versa, I don't see the issue.

justify my love.

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v1lla21

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She doesn't care. I told her I watched it. She looked at me and said, "doesn't every guy?" She doesn't like porn, but doesn't find it a problem.

I don't watch it as frequently anymore.
 
Not touching this topic with a ten foot pole.
Does so anyway.

OP: If your girlfriend gets jealous, discuss it with her. Does she wish for you to solely have sexual attraction to her, and no other women?
Or does she accept that you might feel attracted to other women, but doesn't want you to act out on it (e.g. masturbate to porn)?

If the above is the case, then you simply have to discuss things with her to determine how robust these attitudes of hers are. If you can't work something out (like, perhaps the two of you can make private "porn" for you to masturbate to when she isn't around to satisfy your sexual needs), then you might have to part.

It's also possible she feel like she can't compete with the women you masturbate to, which may lead to her self-esteem dropping. Perhaps she thinks that if you watch porn, she's simply not hot enough to pull in all of your attention.

If this is the case, then talk things over with her, try to explain to her your sexual urges and needs, and how you may be attracted to a wide variety of women and wish fulfill your sexual urges via fantasies (e.g. porn and masturbation), but that she is still the woman you wish to be with - and that you find her insanely attractive.
 
I think the real risk to a relationship is a lack of communication. You don't what the S.O. to feel like they are incapable or expected to meet unrealistic ideals. Just talk it out, explain yourself and listen to his or her concerns.

You do have medical reasons on your side:
As if masturbation didn't already provide enough of a payoff, a recent Australian study found that DIY sex may also help prevent prostate cancer.
The study of 2,338 men showed that the guys who masturbated five or more times a week were 34 percent less likely to develop prostate cancer by age 70 than those who handled matters less often.
"Seminal fluid contains substances that are carcinogenic," says Graham Giles, Ph.D., the lead study author. "Regular ejaculation may help flush them out."
And in case you're wondering, no, masturbating more than once a day won't offer more protection, and yes, straight-up sex works, too. But before you have unprotected nookie with your partner, be sure she's been tested for cytomegalo-virus, a type of herpes recently found in cancerous prostate tissue.
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This is just something that the two of you have to work out together.
 

wenis

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This hasn't come up with my current interest...

she did watch a porn with her roommates for fun tho. So I gotta think she's open to it.
 
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