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[bodyofanamerican]

This was the weirdest blast from the past today. Mugglecast was like, the first podcast I ever subscribed to, and I was surprised to this story about one of the former hosts kind of going off the deep end, harassing this woman on Twitter.

Little more context:

Grace Spelman was minding her own business on Twitter when a man whom she'd Facebook-friended at age 14 during her Harry Potter fandom days decided that, after seven years, he wanted to interact with her. Ben Schoen had hosted a popular podcast called "MuggleCast," and is listed as a co-founder of the wildly popular Harry Potter fandom site MuggleNet. Spelman said she believes he saw her on the Daily Dot's list of funny women tweeters, and realized they were friends on Facebook.

A little over a week ago, he followed her and sent her a tweet initiating contact, which she politely favorited but did not respond to. He kept tweeting at her, and she didn't answer. But instead of taking the hint that she didn't want to talk to him, things escalated really, really quickly.

Is There Any Right Way to Reject a Guy?

Start with a couple tweets:

then move on to Facebook...

Get angry...

Then, apologize.

And finally, get angry again when you get called out (she's a writer for Buzzfeed)

Grace Spelman ‏@GraceSpelman Aug 17
The moral of the story is: When a guy starts to hit on you, never politely tell him you’re seeing someone else.

 

[bananafactory]

......holy shit

Is this guy real?

Who acts like this? It seems like he doesn't even know her

 

[PhoenixDark]

 

[Cow Mengde]

I don't get it. Who is Grace Spelman?

 

[spindashing]

bet he owns a plethora of fedoras

 

[commedieu]

thats rather pathetic.

 

[lord quas]

yeah... this guy needs help

 

[Slayven]

Moral of the story is savages will savage no matter what you do

 

[Zeyphersan]

Dude needs professional help

 

[Sou Da]

I don't get it. Who is Grace Spelman?

She writes for buzzfeed apparently. I think the Harry Potter dude wanted her for the magic puns.

 

[B-Dubs]

I don't get it. Who is Grace Spelman?

Apparently a "writer" for buzzfeed. She does lists and things.

 

[Lambtron]

......holy shit

Is this guy real?

Of course.

Who acts like this? It seems like he doesn't even know her

Lots of men.

 

[Dabanton]

These guys always start off nice, but under the surface...

Lots of men.

Holy shit.

 

[E the Shaggy]

He's currently having a meltdown on Twitter.

 

[ezrarh]

I couldn't finish reading that. Too cringey.

 

[Ninja Scooter]

I found a picture of him.

 

[Mammoth Jones]

thats rather pathetic.

Seriously.

 

[Strictly]

There's so much fish in the sea. What is wrong with guys like this?

Getting rejected is all in the game - why get mad? You're supposed to learn this when you're 16/17, smh.

 

[Corpekata]

Nice Guy incarnate.

 

[Ninja Scooter]

There's so much fish in the sea. What is wrong with guys like this?

Getting rejected is all in the game - why get mad? You're supposed to learn this when you're 16/17, smh.

Entitlement complex and a complete lack of social skills.. They think simply being nice and complementary of girls means said girls have to like or love them back.

 

[Zeyphersan]

He's currently having a meltdown on Twitter.

Oh man, he totally is

 

[Admiral Woofington]

Patheticus Totalus. What an asshole.

 

[BronsonLee]

Typical Hufflepuff

 

[Man Called Aerodynamics]

Wow, frightening. Dude is like the literal embodiment of every "entitled internet creep" cliche.

 

[ElectricBlanketFire]

Send her a bottle of Amortentia.

 

[Kama_1082]

How cringe worthy, holy shit.


If this is how he acts, I couldn't imagine the outrage he had if he was spoiled by finding out Snape killed dumbledore.

 

[Slayven]

He's currently having a meltdown on Twitter.

and he is going to end with making a vague threat of suicide.

 

[jtb]

holy shit... I can't stop cringing

 

[DoktorEvil]

bet he owns a plethora of fedoras

His response to the Daily Dot:

I have done more for the cause of advancing women's rights than any of the people who are criticizing me. This so-called crisis is manufactured by Ms. Spelman as a way to increase her profile as a social justice warrior. I grew up without a father and I spent years protecting my mother from scummy men and dealing with all of the difficulties that come with not having a male role model. Am I rough around the edges? Sure. Am I a predator? Absolutely not. If you read the email I sent Ms. Spelman it was not threatening and was filled with apologies. I even offered to connect her with people who could help her career. I had no interest in continuing contact with her afterwards since I was offended by the manner in which she ended our interaction. I represent no threat to her and her painting me into a villain and sending all of her sycophants after me is incredibly disappointing and immature. My attorney tells me I have a case already but I'm not going to go that route unless Ms. Spelman continues to attempt to unjustly tarnish my image."

If the fedora fits...

 

[Skellig Gra]

dude just stays failing.

 

[Ban Puncher]

You're a weirdo, 'Arry!

 

[LyleLanley]

She rejected him in possibly the nicest way possible and he still went absolutely crazy. There was no winning for her.

 

[bodyofanamerican]

and he is going to end with making a vague threat of suicide.

Well, he IS threatening to do a podcast with Charles "Chuck" Johnson. So, tomato/tomahto.

 

[Neuromancer]

If the fedora fits...

Yeah good luck with that lawsuit, pal.

 

[Cloud Strife]

Time to take a break, Ben.

 

[Hazmat]

This is just like when Ron asked Hermione to the dance but she was totally already going with Viktor Krum.

 

[RobbieNick]

What's a "listicle"?

 

[zeemumu]

You see, she went wrong when she didn't immediately fake her death.

 

[mcrommert]

Entitlement complex and a complete lack of social skills.. They think simply being nice and complementary of girls means said girls have to like or love them back.

Beware the "nice" guys...they are the scary ones

makes you almost prefer the guys who let you know up front how little they actually care about you

 

[commedieu]

He's currently having a meltdown on Twitter.

and a press conference? as all of the screenshots are some how, not telling the right story that hes a total nut.

 

[OricWindstar]

I bet every time they mention a love potion in Harry Potter, this guy gets hard.

 

[Sethista]

I would recomend he

Spoiler

masturbates

before sending any woman he likes a message. That should take the edge off I suppose.

 

[Siegcram]

He's currently having a meltdown on Twitter.

He's currently at the "false flag" stage of said meltdown:

benschoen ‏@benschoen 2m2 minutes ago
What is happening is not real life. This was a manufactured crisis by @GraceSpelman to raise her profile. She succeeded, congrats!

 

[ElectricBlanketFire]

His response to the Daily Dot:

 

[Sephzilla]

 

[Zeyphersan]

She rejected him in possibly the nicest way possible and he still went absolutely crazy. There was no winning for her.

Yeah, and that's the issue for a lot of women. No matter how you tell a guy "no," it makes no difference. They'll flip out anyway

 

[Strictly]

Entitlement complex and a complete lack of social skills.. They think simply being nice and complementary of girls means said girls have to like or love them back.

The best thing that happened to me and my friends at that age was the older college guys dropping knowledge that it is a numbers game. You say hello, she rebuffs, then you say have a nice day and walk away. Onto the next one.

Schools should start teaching a class for guys on this subject, lol

 

[BertramCooper]

Oh, MuggleNet.

Those were the days...

 

[Yaboosh]

I wonder if she saw Inside Out without him?

 

[thenexus6]