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Dating Age |OT7| Tough Love
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Advocatus Diaboli
Member
Well, that date was... okay. Not much physical chemistry on my part, but I think she was digging me. It's a shame, because I really liked aspects of her personality.
Of course, a part of me is like, "Well, maybe you should give her a chance." Another voice is saying, "You can't fix lack of attraction." And she was objectively okay, but I wasn't feeling it.
So yeah, most likely onto the next.
Of course, a part of me is like, "Well, maybe you should give her a chance." Another voice is saying, "You can't fix lack of attraction." And she was objectively okay, but I wasn't feeling it.
So yeah, most likely onto the next.
timetokill
Banned
What are you talking about. You can 100% fix lack of attraction. Its called a haircut or new clothes.
If she's great aside from that then maybe plan a completely different date where she will be dressed differently. If you still feel nothing you haven't really lost much. If there's more to her then you thought then the potential payoff is probably worth the risk.
Advocatus Diaboli
Member
I'm generally open to the idea, considering I agree that there's not much to lose. But I didn't feel any kind of spark; I don't think she's "great" -- she was nice enough. However, I fundamentally disagree that you can "100% fix lack of attraction" just with a haircut or new clothes.
I've been accused of being shallow before, and to be perfectly candid, I don't think I'm asking for too much.
Beren the Empty-Handed
Member
That'd be such a good story I wouldn't even mind. But we've been texting each other nonstop since and it's definitely her. She also wants to take me hiking and to a 70s bar. Still going on other dates though. But if the next couple go as well as the first I'll try to lock this down.
For what its worth i wouldn't say you are asking for too much. Wanting to date someone who you are attracted too/have good chemistry with is the point right. Thats the goal and thats 100% OK.
The thing is that this was an online date right? If it was then you had seen her picture before meeting her and thought she was attractive since there is not much point going on an online date that is doomed before it starts. So if there was something there initially to get you to ask her out and there was enough during the first date to make you question a 2nd then you may as well try something completely different thats inline with one of your specific interests see if there is anything there.
I know how to read.
PS. Someone being attractive can cause attraction though so... its sort of the same thing.
Attraction can grow when you see sides of people that you didn't initially think were there. Wether that is a new haircut framing their face in a different way, a different outfit changing their vibe or something personality related.
It can work in both positive and negative ways. IE Positive: when Jessica Alba died her hair blonde. Negative: When Britney Spears shaved her head.
LookAtMeGo
Member
Im definitely thinkin I'm starting to look old. I get a high percentage of matches from older women on the Tinder. Curse these genes and the baldness they come with. Time to start saving for some plugs. Maybe start investing in some Just For Men.
Messofanego
Banned
Isn't it interesting in how people react when they've been unmatched? Whenever I unmatch a girl and leave a goodbye text because she's been inactive and not responding to a text for a week or more, they suddenly become active to make a response. It's the typical excuses, sorry I was busy with work, family thing, blah blah. Uh huh, but if I were Brad Pitt you'd still find the time to respond. I don't know of any job even if it's 100 hours per week where you can't find the time to text back. I know you're not interested anymore, so I'm going to delete all whatsapp chat, media, and your phone contact, and move on. I'm sure guys act the same way. So glad I learned a year ago about the Brad Pitt rule, thanks ZackieChan and others for not making me waste my time investing.
Why would you even do that though? Are we talking about women you haven't met yet? I tend to cut women more slack if it's still in the messaging stages (within reason). Do you expect people to just drop everything for someone they don't even know?
I know no one wants to deal with people who aren't enthusiastic about you, but that seems really extreme. If they stop responding I send one follow-up and forget about it.
I know no one wants to deal with people who aren't enthusiastic about you, but that seems really extreme. If they stop responding I send one follow-up and forget about it.
Beren the Empty-Handed
Member
So just got done texting that girl all day. Funnily enough she was doing the same thing I did. She said she talked to everyone about what a great date she had but then was confused as to why I wasn't responding to what she sent me. She was hanging out with some friends tonight and she said they were laughing about it because "it's just the kind of thing girls try to convince themselves happened when it really didn't. Like oh his phone is broken." Her words. We've got a good story out of it now at least.
She's going out of town this weekend, so we're going out next weekend instead.
I'll be keeping a closer eye on my traitorous phone from now on.
She's going out of town this weekend, so we're going out next weekend instead.
I'll be keeping a closer eye on my traitorous phone from now on.
So I have the second date "locked up." Nothing specifically planned, just ideas because the girl is going on vacation from now until the 18th or so all of which shes said "Sure 
."
With the second date being minimum 3 weeks from now, I havent set anything specific. Being from a small town in Spain, the options are slim. First date was dinner, second date Im trying to do something like wine tasting or a "Scenic Train" through the countryside, no idea yet lol.
What should texting situation be like between us being we´ve only been on first date? Weve texted a few times after first date just to to tell her I had a good time and set up the second date but 2-3 weeks until next date dont know if I should try to continue contact, or just wait until she does it etc?
."With the second date being minimum 3 weeks from now, I havent set anything specific. Being from a small town in Spain, the options are slim. First date was dinner, second date Im trying to do something like wine tasting or a "Scenic Train" through the countryside, no idea yet lol.
What should texting situation be like between us being we´ve only been on first date? Weve texted a few times after first date just to to tell her I had a good time and set up the second date but 2-3 weeks until next date dont know if I should try to continue contact, or just wait until she does it etc?
This isn't a movie where the ugly girl puts down her hair and takes off her glasses and she's suddenly hot.
If there is no physical chemistry there, then a change of looks won't help.
Mr Solo Dolo
Member
Matched with this girl on Tinder a few months back. Talked for a bit, suggested going out but she said she had just came out of a relationship and was still living with her ex.
Kinda put her on the back burner because I didn't fancy being the rebound. Anyways we've not talked since.
Today she followed me on Instagram. Turns out she's an alt model and her page is full of lingerie pics
Too obvious to start messaging her again?
Kinda put her on the back burner because I didn't fancy being the rebound. Anyways we've not talked since.
Today she followed me on Instagram. Turns out she's an alt model and her page is full of lingerie pics
Too obvious to start messaging her again?
Take it from me, don't force it. Personality is important, but you're going to regret it if the butterflies aren't there.
It would be wrong NOT to message her if you're attracted to her.
PixelatedBookake
Junior Member
Okay so maybe I'm paranoid, but I was talking this girl, got her number, and immediately called her in front of her. This was just so she recognized it as my number later, but I can see where it might come off as paranoid. Was this a misstep or....?
I do that quite a bit, just tell her I'm giving her a one ringer so she can save my number, never served me wrong in the past.
I'm not doing it out of paranoia though, purely just so they have my number, I've never even thought how awkward it'd be if it was a fake number but I tend to know when a girl isn't digging the patter.
Blam
Member
What do you mean? She's a suicidegirl? If so get in on that she knows exactly why she followed you.
PixelatedBookake
Junior Member
I usually just text after we part ways but I dunno. I did make a dumb "is this Pizza Hut" joke that may contribute to that feeling. I was gonna ask her out after class but she had to drive to Florida. I'll try for next week and hope she's down. I'm getting (somewhat) mixed signals so I won't that surprised if its a no-go.
Naa, seriously though, I've made stupid comments like that a ton of times, they just slip out sometimes. Sort of thing I call my self stupid for when I'm lying in bed that night haha.
Seems like you've got the right frame of mind though, it might work it might not, fingers crossed for you.
Mr Solo Dolo
Member
She's not an official Suicide Girl, but yes she's heavily tattooed enough not to feel the need to put "tattooed" in her bio.
Blam
Member
Damn that's pretty dope, but you don't need to be an official SG to get on their site. You just need to upload to it that's all. Which I can only assume she's done a bit.
Mr Solo Dolo
Member
You're right.
I've just went through her Instagram pages and there's photos of her on the Suicide Girls website.
She's getting messaged. Tired of chasing after someone else.
Blam
Member
imo I'd go for it, and unless she's not your type I'd say you should as well.
I never intended my post to come across like this. I'm not trying to walk back what i said, i'm also not sure how to clarify what i meant without saying something stupid.
I guess if a film/TV reference was appropriate, then my brain was thinking about Matt and Julie's first date in Friday Night Lights. For those that never watched the show it goes very badly. Its a complete chemistry dud. yet everything works out in the end as they get to know each other a bit better and see sides of each other that neither planned to share on that first date.
Widdle Puppy
Banned
Chick invited me in for tea
And we have been touching a lot but its not been sexual touching. Much more innocent like hand holding.
Should i expect sex tonight?
And we have been touching a lot but its not been sexual touching. Much more innocent like hand holding.
Should i expect sex tonight?
Widdle Puppy
Banned
She's in the bathroom talking on the phone to her friend...
PersonAndStuff
Member
Never expect anything. You'll never be disappointed. Even if you're both naked and the condom is on. Because what if just then there is a terrorist attack. You'll both have to not fuck so you can check to see if any family members were horrible murdered.
Megalosaro
Banned
Lol good for you man! But now im just really curious about that post. Was it that bad?
Beren the Empty-Handed
Member
Always crazy bacon linked to it on the previous page, but the post itself is back a few pages.
It's only bad in the sense that I really like her after only one date and was getting my hopes up too high. It seems to be kind of mutual after all and I'm not running out to buy a ring or anything, so it just comes off now as gushy and delirious. It was a moment where my feet weren't on the ground lol. I'm still dating other women so I'm firmly planted again. She's still the one I'm most interested in at this point but we'll see how the second date goes. We're texting constantly since yesterday so things are looking good.
LookAtMeGo
Member
🍆🍆🍆💦💦💦
*pours a little beer out for gaiages*
Subpar Scrub
Banned
Okay, I see people talking about a culling, but havent found the thread that caused it yet. All I see is people saying Evilore was doing most of the banning. Anybody have a link?
Also, does anyone know how long Gaiages was banned for? (Or just post on Twitter if you read this G)
LookAtMeGo
Member
Screenjunkies dude getting accused thread. Starts around page 8 at 50ppp
Subpar Scrub
Banned
Fucking... wow. Umm, can we please get a dating age discord or something so that theres a backup place to chat with people who got/get banned? Anyone interested in organising that?
LookAtMeGo
Member
Only if I get to be a mod on there so I can ban crazy bacon when he quotes me saying im not going out anymore when I decide to go out.
Messofanego as well.
Messofanego as well.
Subpar Scrub
Banned
Im fine with that.
But seriously, saying fuck off dipshit would get literally anybody else banned. Last Ill speak of it here though, lest I get smited haha. Its not my forum to control.
But seriously, saying fuck off dipshit would get literally anybody else banned. Last Ill speak of it here though, lest I get smited haha. Its not my forum to control.
Advocatus Diaboli
Member
That's a fantastic idea. Someone set this up, and I'll add it to the OP.
LookAtMeGo
Member
I dont really know how they work with running it but you have to be invited to join right? Like if you just post the link to the group in the OP then its probably a recipe for disaster with random lurkers going in there to shit up the room for the lulz.