Your friends don't know you have a GF? Da fuck?
my friends have never met her. We've only been dating for a month.
Your friends don't know you have a GF? Da fuck?
So me and the girlfriend have been together for around 3.5 years now, and everything is just getting "boring", not in the sense that I want to break up or anything, but I just want to try and think of new activities/hobbies to do together. Lately all we do is just sit around and watch TV together since we're both exhausted by the weekend since she busts her ass at work all week and my weeks are consumed by law school.
I guess my question is, how do you convince the girl who really does't like to try new things to get out and try something new; to try and reinvigorate the relationship so to speak?
Any advice would be appreciated.
Edit: I also feel like I'm missing out since everyone in my class goes out on Fridays. I think I like going out and drinking but the second I get out with people I'm bored to tears lol. So am I just going crazy or is that normal for people who are 22-23 in serious relationships.
I'm proposing within the next 6-8 months, so I'm def. still into her and the feeling is mutual, I just want to get her out of the apartment a little more. Maybe she'll be more willing when it's not the middle of winter.
What do you bond over?Any advice would be appreciated.
Edit: I also feel like I'm missing out since everyone in my class goes out on Fridays. I think I like going out and drinking but the second I get out with people I'm bored to tears lol. So am I just going crazy or is that normal for people who are 22-23 in serious relationships.
So me and the girlfriend have been together for around 3.5 years now, and everything is just getting "boring", not in the sense that I want to break up or anything, but I just want to try and think of new activities/hobbies to do together. Lately all we do is just sit around and watch TV together since we're both exhausted by the weekend since she busts her ass at work all week and my weeks are consumed by law school.
I guess my question is, how do you convince the girl who really does't like to try new things to get out and try something new; to try and reinvigorate the relationship so to speak?
Any advice would be appreciated.
Edit: I also feel like I'm missing out since everyone in my class goes out on Fridays. I think I like going out and drinking but the second I get out with people I'm bored to tears lol. So am I just going crazy or is that normal for people who are 22-23 in serious relationships.
I'm proposing within the next 6-8 months, so I'm def. still into her and the feeling is mutual, I just want to get her out of the apartment a little more. Maybe she'll be more willing when it's not the middle of winter.
This might be out of order, but how about, while shes cooking, surprise her sexually. Whisper into her ear that she looks so sexy when shes doing that, while physically caressing her... or something in that line.
Excuse moi, if I have a one mind track but I just think you need to spice up your sex life. Try some roleplay. Ask/solicit her if she has any sexual fantasies she'd like to explore.
I think that the idea of holding onto the spark in your relationship, is to make everyday of your relationship feel like that day.... That first day you first met and fell in love.
Then again this is coming from a guy whose longest relationship lasted 5 months....
I dunno, do you sense she feels the same?
What do you mean?
So me and the girlfriend have been together for around 3.5 years now, and everything is just getting "boring", not in the sense that I want to break up or anything, but I just want to try and think of new activities/hobbies to do together. Lately all we do is just sit around and watch TV together since we're both exhausted by the weekend since she busts her ass at work all week and my weeks are consumed by law school.
I guess my question is, how do you convince the girl who really does't like to try new things to get out and try something new; to try and reinvigorate the relationship so to speak?
Any advice would be appreciated.
Edit: I also feel like I'm missing out since everyone in my class goes out on Fridays. I think I like going out and drinking but the second I get out with people I'm bored to tears lol. So am I just going crazy or is that normal for people who are 22-23 in serious relationships.
I'm proposing within the next 6-8 months, so I'm def. still into her and the feeling is mutual, I just want to get her out of the apartment a little more. Maybe she'll be more willing when it's not the middle of winter.
Like do you think she has the same thoughts about your relationship as you do? As in she feels "bored"?
How do you meet new peeps Dating-GAF?
Not attracted to anyone around me and it's time to make something happen.
What do you bond over?
I think there's the fear in young couples that doing the same thing = boring = "getting old".
You can definitely stagnate and lose a sense of romance and fun but at the same time I don't particularly buy that life needs to be "cranked to 10" 7 days a week.
A close friend and his wife love going to movies. They typically see one once a week and have a great time together.
Also what is your girlfriend passionate about?
I believe very strongly that the best way to get someone to do something outside of their comfort zone is to set the example yourself. If she sees you having new interests that show a real passionate dedication, then she will be immediately intrigued, and at least willing to humor the idea of trying.
Here are some things I've found useful:
1. Social media websites (ie yelp, foursquare, blogTO (if in toronto, or else city equivalent)). They usually come up with a ton of cool places to visit and things to do, with user reviews so you can figure out if it's for you.
2. Both sit down and create lists, like 'ten things I want to do in the spring' or something. It gets your minds thinking about what you'd like to do, and can be a fun bonding experience.
3. Think of places to go outside the city. Getaways don't have to be across the world, though they can be; go to a bed and breakfast for a weekend, do something that you share in common together.
4. Athletic activities, if you're both active people (or could be). Join a co-ed sports team, or pick up an activity. Do group sessions with a personal trainer (side benefit is she'll look better and have more energy for doing things together). If not, create activities together, like playing pool, going to coffee houses to grab a drink and listen to music, anything to get you out of the house. I have a friend who picked up rock climbing, and another one who got into going to concerts with his girlfriend.
5. Spontaneous ideas. Plan a romantic night and surprise her. Rent bikes and go biking somewhere. Find a beach. Learn to skate together. Take a cooking class.
Honestly, this depends a lot on the kind of person this is. If you're dating someone who isn't ever 'game' for anything, then honestly you should at least evaluate the relationship because you'll be locked into a lifetime of TV. Doing activities and getting moving only gets harder as you get older, have kids, have a lot of daily responsibilities etc. You don't want to be bored because your partner's a wet blanket.
Even small things can work. Make every Saturday 'cooking experimentation night', where you find a complicated recipe, go out to a market, pick up the ingredients and make an elaborate meal together. Even the mistakes will be a bonding experience, and you can laugh about it over a bottle of wine.
Basically, a relationship takes work to be interesting and fun as it goes on. You should both be putting a lot of effort into it to make things fun together. It's rewarding work. Hope these ideas help.
Ah, yea she isn't bored at all lol. I've talked to her about it and she assures me that she's fine just tired all the time since she's really overworked at her job and she's got some minor sleep disorder that won't let her get a good rest.
I think I'm just projecting and reading too much into things...
Is it unreasonable to be bothered by this?
Is it creepy that quite often I'm thinking that all I want to do with my first GF that I've been seeing for about a month and a half is just kiss and touch her all over.
(Im sure we'll get to the sex later as we both still live at home with the family)
Good answers, both. T. Hanks.
You already know the answer. StarCraft, bitches.Good point. I've always wanted to get into photography but I just don't have time with school. I'll figure out some type of hobby though, good idea.
So, are we allowed to ask questions about actually being in a relationship, and not just trying to get with the girl/guy?
I have one that makes me feel that way then does a 180 forty-five minutes later. Yay...lol.So I just dedicated a Drake song to my gfbut yea it just feels right being with her. I hope you guys get to have someone that makes you feel the way I'm feeling right nowlol wat
When you start doing whatever other people ask you to do and adjust your life based on what they ask you're being too much of a "nice guy". If you are using the definition I think you are, which is simply doing favors whenever asked by other people and it is a point of personal pride for you. This is something I've been working on getting past for a couple years now. I realized I was becoming these peoples' bitch and in many ways judging my own self worth by what these other people thought and the gratitude they had for me. I would adjust my own life at times so I could do what they asked me to do. Nowadays if it works out where I am or what I'm doing at the time I'll help the, but I won't go out of the way unless it is an extremely important issue.
Went to a salsa class for the first time in my life last night... and this is a gold mine, damn!
Plenty of beatiful girls and most of them pretty open to talk, teach the movements and dance with you. I'm a total newbie (and dance like a wooden stick) and the class was intermediate level so I was pretty lost but had a lot of fun (changing your partner in the wheel dance made for a lot of lol moments)
I have to warn you: dating a friend of your sister can get you in really awkward situations. How much time do they spend together? Chances are that the girl has to split her time to make both you and your sister happy.my sister's birthday is coming and there are going to be a lot of her female friends there. we're gonna go eat at a restaurant first and then clubbing later. what kind of advices can you guys give me? =)
Hahaha, literally got a sexy-ass girl's number without even trying tonight.
my sister's birthday is coming and there are going to be a lot of her female friends there. we're gonna go eat at a restaurant first and then clubbing later. what kind of advices can you guys give me? =)
Went to a salsa class for the first time in my life last night... and this is a gold mine, damn!
Plenty of beatiful girls and most of them pretty open to talk, teach the movements and dance with you. I'm a total newbie (and dance like a wooden stick) and the class was intermediate level so I was pretty lost but had a lot of fun (changing your partner in the wheel dance made for a lot of lol moments)
There was one bitc.. girl though that reproached me for not having enough level to dance with her. She didn't dance with me in the wheel dance and told me that I should go to Wednesday class because it's for beginners. I did apologise and told her "I'll come back another Tuesday and give you a dance that will make you change your underwear afterwards".
So tonight I'll go again and start doing my best to keep my promises ;P
For the people asking where to go to find/interact with women... go to salsa classes. Seriously.
Could probably use some talking out of this
Last semester there was a girl who seemed quite interested in me and ended up adding me on facebook. I asked her out three times but she bailed each time even though she sounded very enthusiastic about it all. Of course, this got really boring as I didn't get a real chance to get to know her and thus removed her from my friends list as I barely knew her at all. I didn't tell her off or block her, just a silent removal, as I have nothing against her.
We saw each other this Saturday for the first time in maybe three months and I tried saying hi from a distance as I walked home with another girl. It was pretty clear she wasn't thrilled to see me (a facial expression that said "Go away, jerk!"). I feel like I should contact her and explain what happened. Bad idea, right? :S We have a few friends in common but since I haven't run into her for three months, that's no big deal, nor a reason to try and "fix it". I don't really care if she's mad at me, but at the same time, it's not the nicest thing in the world to know someone got hurt either. Especially for the wrong reasons.
Could probably use some talking out of this
Last semester there was a girl who seemed quite interested in me and ended up adding me on facebook. I asked her out three times but she bailed each time even though she sounded very enthusiastic about it all. Of course, this got really boring as I didn't get a real chance to get to know her and thus removed her from my friends list as I barely knew her at all. I didn't tell her off or block her, just a silent removal, as I have nothing against her.
We saw each other this Saturday for the first time in maybe three months and I tried saying hi from a distance as I walked home with another girl. It was pretty clear she wasn't thrilled to see me (a facial expression that said "Go away, jerk!"). I feel like I should contact her and explain what happened. Bad idea, right? :S We have a few friends in common but since I haven't run into her for three months, that's no big deal, nor a reason to try and "fix it". I don't really care if she's mad at me, but at the same time, it's not the nicest thing in the world to know someone got hurt either. Especially for the wrong reasons.
You didn't hurt her. She's just jealous that you didn't play along with her games, and that other girls have your attention now.Could probably use some talking out of this
Last semester there was a girl who seemed quite interested in me and ended up adding me on facebook. I asked her out three times but she bailed each time even though she sounded very enthusiastic about it all. Of course, this got really boring as I didn't get a real chance to get to know her and thus removed her from my friends list as I barely knew her at all. I didn't tell her off or block her, just a silent removal, as I have nothing against her.
We saw each other this Saturday for the first time in maybe three months and I tried saying hi from a distance as I walked home with another girl. It was pretty clear she wasn't thrilled to see me (a facial expression that said "Go away, jerk!"). I feel like I should contact her and explain what happened. Bad idea, right? :S We have a few friends in common but since I haven't run into her for three months, that's no big deal, nor a reason to try and "fix it". I don't really care if she's mad at me, but at the same time, it's not the nicest thing in the world to know someone got hurt either. Especially for the wrong reasons.
If a girl says "I already have boyfriend" or "I just got out of a relationship" what is the best way to respond?
I'm still in no condition to be asking girls out but I just want some examples that I can fall back on when the time comes.