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[wsoxfan1214]

Doesn't matter and should be none of his concern who she was with before.

 

[Vermillion]

Exactly nine.

 

[XenodudeX]

No such thing as too many if you're single. Let your freak flag fly I say.

As long as you're usising protection you should be good.

 

[Ataraxia]

How many sexual partners for guys is too many? It works both ways.

This is just not true. People like to say this is a major double-standard but it has to do with what men and women want, and sometimes they want different things. Women value sexual experience more than men do. For a lot of women, a guy who doesn't last long in bed or is simply not good in bed is a deal-breaker. Most men aren't bothered by women whose sexual skills aren't as good as his. Women are more likely to be turned off by virgins, especially if he's a virgin above a certain age. Men are more likely to be unconcerned by virginity.

So you can say it "works both ways" but in reality that's not quite true.

 

[shira]

Guys want to get laid.

Slut shame the women who get men laid.

Devo laughs and laughs and laughs.

How about unprotected sex partners? Is that a more useful metric?
It takes into account STI infestationability

 

[bud]

i would be much more concerned about the aesthetics and scent of her vagina.

 

[NoRéN]

No such thing as too many. For anyone.

 

[Nekofrog]

Who gives a shit? It's none of your business how many dudes a chick has been with.

edit: your = everyone, not OP

 

[freenudemacusers]

More than me = slut

Less than me = kinda slutty

A lot less than me = aww yess

 

[JohnDoe]

I really want to see how a moral code that says having a lot of sexual partners is amoral is justified in general. On what do they base that (barring STDs, which can be prevented with good judgement and proper protection)?

 

[ajim]

Who cares?

i don't think there is a thing as too many. As long as youre safe, and aren't hurting anybody else - go for your goddamn life!

 

[Timo]

It only matters how many of them were dead. Because that's gross.

Regular alive people are ok no matter the number as long as they are clean.

 

[anaron]

How about unprotected sex partners? Is that a more useful metric?
It takes into account STI infestationability

Well, we're assuming they're practicing safe sex so I'm not sure why we'd take that into equation unless something suggested it.

 

[The Librarian]

So my friends in a bit of a dilemma, which I think he's stupid for but would like some other opinions. He's been dating this girl for a couple months and he really likes her and she's pretty but he found out she'd slept with 30+ different guys in her life, mostly in college. She's 24. I think that's about average, if anything a little high, but nothing crazy, but he says he's thinking about breaking up with her. My wife has had more sexual partners than me but I'm not really bothered by that, if anything I think it's better because she got it out of her system.

LOL. It amazes me how so much of maleGAF thinks it's so easy for women to get sex that they have slept with over two dozen people by time they finish college.

As an answer to your question, the answer is none. As long as she's responsible, why does it matter?

 

[LuffyZoro]

30 seems like a lot, but it's not a dealbreaker or anything.

 

[ConradCervantes]

Who the hell cares? As long as they take the proper precautions so that they aren't crudded up by the time they make their way to you, er, your friend, then the number is irrelevant.

 

[Batigol]

Who even counts anyway? Why do people care about an arbitrary number?

People like sex.

 

[wenis]

For a lot of women, a guy who doesn't last long in bed or is simply not good in bed is a deal-breaker. Most men aren't bothered by women whose sexual skills aren't as good as his.

So you can say it "works both ways" but in reality that's not quite true.

I've dumped 4 women and 1 dude because they were bad in bed... so no. shit is a deal-breaker for anyone that knows what they like in the sack.

 

[FallingEdge]

don't matter. as long as they are clean and safe, then you do you gurllllllllllllllllll

 

[Sai-kun]

8-12 is too many for marriage material...................

welp

you can't be serious

This is just not true. People like to say this is a major double-standard but it has to do with what men and women want, and sometimes they want different things. Women value sexual experience more than men do. For a lot of women, a guy who doesn't last long in bed or is simply not good in bed is a deal-breaker. Most men aren't bothered by women whose sexual skills aren't as good as his. Women are more likely to be turned off by virgins, especially if he's a virgin above a certain age. Men are more likely to be unconcerned by virginity.

So you can say it "works both ways" but in reality that's not quite true.

When did I ask for you to tell me what my opinion was on sex? Don't speak for everyone, and definitely don't assume you understand exactly what women and men want. That isn't to say that you're wrong, because I guarantee there are people who are exactly like you describe, but then there are also men who value sexual experience more than some women, and guys who will dump girls who are bad in bed, dudes who care if the woman they're with is less experienced, women that are turned on by virgins, and men that are concerned with virginity.

 

[Burt]

I'm glad that I'm the type of guy that doesn't care.




And as soon as I wrote that, I thought, "well, 8000 is probably too many." So something between zero and that.

 

[GatorBait]

How ever many I've been with + 1.

But really, I prefer to go with "don't ask, don't tell" on this one.

 

[JohnDoe]

This is just not true. People like to say this is a major double-standard but it has to do with what men and women want, and sometimes they want different things. Women value sexual experience more than men do. For a lot of women, a guy who doesn't last long in bed or is simply not good in bed is a deal-breaker. Most men aren't bothered by women whose sexual skills aren't as good as his. Women are more likely to be turned off by virgins, especially if he's a virgin above a certain age. Men are more likely to be unconcerned by virginity.

So you can say it "works both ways" but in reality that's not quite true.

I don't see a single argument in your post that backs this up.

 

[Massive Duck. C.M.]

How ever many I've been with + 1.

But really, I prefer to go with "don't ask, don't tell" on this one.

This is the smart play. I'm still wondering how it came up for the OP's friend in the first place.

 

[User 100115]

Guys want to get laid.

Slut shame the women who get men laid.

Devo laughs and laughs and laughs.

Yep.

This is just not true. People like to say this is a major double-standard but it has to do with what men and women want, and sometimes they want different things. Women value sexual experience more than men do. For a lot of women, a guy who doesn't last long in bed or is simply not good in bed is a deal-breaker. Most men aren't bothered by women whose sexual skills aren't as good as his. Women are more likely to be turned off by virgins, especially if he's a virgin above a certain age. Men are more likely to be unconcerned by virginity.

So you can say it "works both ways" but in reality that's not quite true.

Everyone was a virgin at one time. What does it matter? It really does work both ways. Some men are turned off by female virgins too; cause it's too much work or something. Some women have virginity kinks. It works both ways, and woman shouldn't be judged by her amount of sexual partners any more than a man is.

 

[GabDX]

Exactly nine.

But the last one doesn't count because it was too small.

 

[ThLunarian]

And you base this on what exactly?

"This person probably really enjoys sex. Definitely wouldn't date. 1/10"

Nothing like arbitrary sex negativity. How many movies that I enjoy am I allowed to see?

There's nothing morally wrong with a high number of sex partners. It is, however, a factor to consider when deciding whether you're going to date someone. It's like any other factor that might cause you to break up. I'm sure each of you have broken up with someone for a reason that others would consider petty.

 

[Mobius 1]

"My friend".

Classic.

 

[Plywood]

There is never "too many" and that goes for both men and women. As long as you're STD free, it's irrelevant.

 

[Devolution]

There's nothing morally wrong with a high number of sex partners. It is, however, a factor to consider when deciding whether you're going to date someone. It's like any other factor that might cause you to break up. I'm sure each of you have broken up with someone for a reason that others would consider petty.

Nope.

Stop projecting onto others.

 

[Liu Kang Baking A Pie]

I'm sure each of you have broken up with someone for a reason that others would consider petty.

Sure, but it's been something that's happened after the relationship happened. Why would you dump or criticize someone for something they did before?

 

[Ryn]

There's no such thing as too many.

 

[shira]

I was expecting you be first post.

8-12 is too many for marriage material...................

Depends how big the town is and who these people are.

Like if 7 of them are directly related to you could be a problem. Otherwise not really

 

[KissVibes]

There's no such thing as too many. Did she practice safe sex? If yes, then it doesn't matter if she slept with one person or 1000 people. If your stupid friend has an issue with how many partners she's had, he isn't ready for a relationship. She can do much better than him.

Most people who have an issue with this, especially men, are worried that they aren't good enough or as big as the ones before. Guess what jackass: There's a bunch of reasons why this person is with you. How about leaving it at that and let go of that bullshit ego garbage?

I was expecting you be first post.

8-12 is too many for marriage material...................

WOMEN WHO HAVE SEX MORE THAN 8-12 TIMES AREN'T FIT FOR MARRIAGE?

Jesus Christ.

 

[Yoritomo]

As many as SHE is comfortable with. If it has affected HER emotionally than it's a problem, but I wouldn't care provided she is honest and committed to our relationship.

 

[Vermillion]

But the last one doesn't count because it was too small.

If sexual activity lasted for at least 60 seconds, it counts.

 

[Amory]

It shouldn't matter. That said I'd be grossed out if I found out my girlfriend had banged tons and tons of dudes.

It's not exactly a question I jump at the chance to ask, though.

 

[TAJ]

Any number is too low if I'm not part of the tally. If I am, then it's just right, or possibly still too low.

 

[Gattsu25]

Probably over 200. By then I would start to get concerned.

 

[Sai-kun]

There's nothing morally wrong with a high number of sex partners. It is, however, a factor to consider when deciding whether you're going to date someone. It's like any other factor that might cause you to break up. I'm sure each of you have broken up with someone for a reason that others would consider petty.

If I was dating someone and it eventually came up that they had slept with 40 people, I'd probably be more jealous of that, than anything.

Also to the bolded, I literally haven't.

 

[GK86]

Unless she has caught something, who gives a shit.

 

[Devolution]

I'd be more concerned about someone who had an affinity for cheating, since that would mean we'd have to work on some trust there, or not wearing protection.

 

[Ties]

Why would it matter?

 

[commedieu]

Your friend is socially immature.

In what possible way does her gentlemen company matter in their current day relationship outside of his sad, sad, insecurities?

What do people that are afraid of their significant others past, fear? Considering most responsible adults have conversations about cleanliness/testing. If a person isn't infected with a disease, what more is there?

 

[Derwind]

Its pretty cool that GAF is all progressive about this but I've been around a whole lot of people with the same attitude as OP's friend to know this is still a pretty big issue. Its subtle but our response to men and womens sexual promiscuity is pretty ingrained. Not trying to derail or anything.

WOMEN WHO HAVE SEX MORE THAN 8-12 TIMES AREN'T FIT FOR MARRIAGE?

Jesus Christ.

Its cool, they're mistress material.

 

[FallingEdge]

I'd be more concerned about someone who had an affinity for cheating, since that would mean we'd have to work on some trust there, or not wearing protection.

cmon devo, everyone knows that if you have lots of sex, you will cheat on your man because you arent getting enough sex and need more sex outside of the relationship.

sex.

 

[wsoxfan1214]

OP: encourage him to break up with her for her sake. Anyone who would break up with a girl for the decisions she made in relationships that had nothing to do with him and in her life is probably going to end up being a controlling douchenozzle later in the relationship anyways.

 

[KmA]

I find it odd how people can have so many sexual partners without having an emotional attachment to the person. But that's just me, to each their own.

 

[shadyspace]

More than me = slut

Less than me = kinda slutty

A lot less than me = aww yess

are you ever not on point mac

 

[Liu Kang Baking A Pie]

A friend of mine just recently nailed her 4th dude. She was in a super long relationship with someone for a decade, so her tally never went up like it does for most people. I told her no man will want her now as a joke. I can't believe some of you would actually be serious, though.