DragoonKain
Neighbours from Hell
I'm kind of in that kind of a mental tug of war right now with a close friend of mine. A friend of mine who I've been super close with for a long time, someone who I have done an incredible amount for... more than most people would do for another person... and sacrificed a lot for since we've known each other, kinda did something to piss me off, and part of my brain kinda just wants to let it go since it's in my nature to let things slide, but there is the other part of my brain that keeps whispering to me "Stop letting people treat you every which way, you shouldn't let this slide. Don't let people use you."
Basically, I had surgery a handful of weeks ago, and not too long before my surgery, I had a serious family situation come up(since it's family I'm not gonna go into details) and this friend knew about both of them. I last talked to him 2 days before my surgery. He has yet to contact me and ask me how I've been doing. At first it didn't bother me. In fact, I didn't even think about it, I'm not of the sensitive nature, I'm not one of those "shower me with attention everyone, I'm not doing well" people. But it's been about 6 weeks now, and about a week ago it started to bother me. At first I was like "eh, he's probably just busy whatever" but when I log onto social media I see him posting. And then I start thinking that this friend went through very similar predicaments... having a medical issue and a very sick family member, and he was calling me all the time for support during this time. And I was there for him every time without fail. Last night I was trying to fall asleep and couldn't and then this situation crept back into my mind and thoughts started flooding and I kinda had an epiphany that I've done way more for those in my life than they've ever done for me. And that's fine, I'm a giver not a taker, but then I thought if this person was an actual friend and actually cared about me he'd have sent me at least one fucking text to ask how my family situation is going and if I survived the surgery.
Then today I found out through a mutual friend of ours, he'd texted this mutual friend just to shoot the shit. And then I went from a little annoyed, to questioning everything from our friendship. But then there's that "stop being a drama queen, do you want him to hold your little hand too???" part of my conscience kicks back in.
So I'm legit not sure if I should be annoyed by this or not. My nature is I'm a very lax person who doesn't let a lot bother me, but when I stop and analyze the situation that's when it kinda irks me and honestly I'm not sure if I can look at them in the same light again. Because you can't guilt people into caring about you. They either do or they don't, and their actions clearly show they do not.
Basically, I had surgery a handful of weeks ago, and not too long before my surgery, I had a serious family situation come up(since it's family I'm not gonna go into details) and this friend knew about both of them. I last talked to him 2 days before my surgery. He has yet to contact me and ask me how I've been doing. At first it didn't bother me. In fact, I didn't even think about it, I'm not of the sensitive nature, I'm not one of those "shower me with attention everyone, I'm not doing well" people. But it's been about 6 weeks now, and about a week ago it started to bother me. At first I was like "eh, he's probably just busy whatever" but when I log onto social media I see him posting. And then I start thinking that this friend went through very similar predicaments... having a medical issue and a very sick family member, and he was calling me all the time for support during this time. And I was there for him every time without fail. Last night I was trying to fall asleep and couldn't and then this situation crept back into my mind and thoughts started flooding and I kinda had an epiphany that I've done way more for those in my life than they've ever done for me. And that's fine, I'm a giver not a taker, but then I thought if this person was an actual friend and actually cared about me he'd have sent me at least one fucking text to ask how my family situation is going and if I survived the surgery.
Then today I found out through a mutual friend of ours, he'd texted this mutual friend just to shoot the shit. And then I went from a little annoyed, to questioning everything from our friendship. But then there's that "stop being a drama queen, do you want him to hold your little hand too???" part of my conscience kicks back in.
So I'm legit not sure if I should be annoyed by this or not. My nature is I'm a very lax person who doesn't let a lot bother me, but when I stop and analyze the situation that's when it kinda irks me and honestly I'm not sure if I can look at them in the same light again. Because you can't guilt people into caring about you. They either do or they don't, and their actions clearly show they do not.
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