It's really both, in a VERY general sense. For example, some men are just competitive. They would use money or anything they can get their hands on to prove they are better than the next guy, with or without women existing but I guess we have some sort of middle ground as far as societal expectations go and pressures to perform.
Tldr: I dunno if i entirely agree, but it's not NOT what you said either.
You keep seeing the truth in what I'm saying but then pivot to denying it without explaining why I'm wrong. I suspect your single mother / Silicon Valley history have filled your head with shit and, like a religious person, the dogma prevents you from addressing the cognitive dissonance.