Dating Age |OT7| Tough Love

BIRD IS THE WORD

BIRD IS THE WORD

I agree.

I'm disappointed AD didn't use my mama birding gif.


Lifestyle Skyn is exactly what I was going to recommend. I have either the large or extra large because of fitting reasons. They're pretty damn good and worth the money. Can get a 24 pack off Amazon for 10 bucks or so.

"Fitting Reasons"

 
It's always too good to be true.
Tell me about it. I don't think I've ever had something be really good AND true 😂😂

Well the girl Ive been going out with still wants to go out again. I prefer to have the "so what's up?" Conversation in person. Gotta know if something's coming from this or if Im just wasting time. So next time we out I'm gonna have to see what's up. Now I'm not so sure what she's gonna say but I'm leaning towards a no.

Friendly reminder if a girl rejects you, try to be cool about it in the moment. Be mad at home or with the guys but please don't be a psycho about it. Some guys need to learn how to take L's.
 
Question for Gaffers, so I've been dating this girl now for three weeks and tonight will be our fourth date (I'm just going round hers tonight for us to watch some tv together).

Up until now we're just taking it as a date by date basis, but when exactly should I be asking to make things facebook official and if she wants to come to some of the stuff I do?

I don't want her to be left out, but I don't want to rush things before we're ready (there's my mates girlfriends birthday party in a couple weeks which I think may be a nice way for her to meet some of my friends but her not be the centre of conversation as it'll be a decently sized party).
 
You don't need to worry about being "Facebook official", just invite her to do things with you outside of a normal scheduled dates. You're going to Netflix and chill tonight, I'd say there's a good chance that you'll be sealing the deal.
Cheers, I'll make sure to phrase it as just doing stuff outside of dating :)

And I've stayed over at hers already ;)
 
Ran into my exes ex at the bar last night. We had a good chat about how she ruined us. Good times.

I was on point last night too. Chatting up a few lookers. But then I had a few too many and had to do the stumbly home.

Its not just the hangover talking but I'm taking a break for a while now. Summers over. Celibacy time.

(MAYBE!! GOD DAMMIT)
 
Hung out with kinda-racist girl yesterday. l want to talk to my therapist more about this, but I'm pretty damn sure I need to end things. The sex sucks (i've abstained from self-love for weeks, still can't feel a damn thing when I'm with her) and I don't see much long term potential.

I'm a non-practicing Catholic. I like the bible, lots of good lessons in there, but church does nothing for me. Twice yesterday she invited me to join her for mass. She also seems like an intellectual elitest...frequently referenced how stupid certain ex's were and/or how smart she was.

Oh, and how odd is it that she's okay with an ex having a sextape of the two of them...that he admits to watching every so often?
 
Hung out with kinda-racist girl yesterday. l want to talk to my therapist more about this, but I'm pretty damn sure I need to end things. The sex sucks (i've abstained from self-love for weeks, still can't feel a damn thing when I'm with her) and I don't see much long term potential.

I'm a non-practicing Catholic. I like the bible, lots of good lessons in there, but church does nothing for me. Twice yesterday she invited me to join her for mass. She also seems like an intellectual elitest...frequently referenced how stupid certain ex's were and/or how smart she was.

Oh, and how odd is it that she's okay with an ex having a sextape of the two of them...that he admits to watching every so often?
You're abstaining from masturbation for weeks? Was it because of this racist girl?

This church loving girl is into sextapes, too? lmao
 
You're abstaining from masturbation for weeks? Was it because of this racist girl?

This church loving girl is into sextapes, too? lmao
Not quite. We had sex for the first time a few weeks ago - couldn't finish. Excessive masturbation can make it harder to finish during sex, "death-grip syndrome" and all that. I've been abstaining willingly to try and reset things. So far, I still don't feel any stimulation during coitus. And at the risk of humblebragging -
Her mouth's too small to not use teeth accidentally during certain acts

I've dated Christians of the "let's wait to marriage" variety, athiests who only enjoy missionary, and Catholics who have a BDSM furniture guy on speeddial. People are as sexually adventurous as they want to be.
 
Things are still incredibly quiet for me on Tinder but I've managed to secure myself a date for this Friday at least.

Hopefully I start to get more matches again soon though... 🤔
 
There's a girl I'm dating since 10 months ago, I fell in love 3 months ago. So I asked her to be in a relationship but she said no. (3 times) so I decided to keep dating her but no feelings (we all know is hard) I talked to her about my feelings and she told me I'm not the kind of guy she is looking for. I'm 20 she is 25 idk if its because I'm too young for her or what. Well she told me that. But the problem is she acts like a girlfriend I mean, I spend more days sleeping in her house than mine. She take care of me a lot. She met my parents and I met hers. I'm so confused and I don't know what to do.

(sorry 4 my English) I'm from Spain hehe.
 
Have arranged date #4 for Friday (that's good right?) and looking for ideas of what to do from you helpful ladies and gentlemen.

#1: Met up for the first time, got drunk, went back to mine and watched TV with a bottle of wine.

#2: Went for a meal and then a drive in the countryside as the sun set.

#3: She came round after work, we cooked pizza, watched more TV, more wine.

#4? Feel like it should be away from my place. I like the girl and don't want her to think I've just got one thing on my mind.
 
There's a girl I'm dating since 10 months ago, I fell in love 3 months ago. So I asked her to be in a relationship but she said no. (3 times) so I decided to keep dating her but no feelings (we all know is hard) I talked to her about my feelings and she told me I'm not the kind of guy she is looking for. I'm 20 she is 25 idk if its because I'm too young for her or what. Well she told me that. But the problem is she acts like a girlfriend I mean, I spend more days sleeping in her house than mine. She take care of me a lot. She met my parents and I met hers. I'm so confused and I don't know what to do.

(sorry 4 my English) I'm from Spain hehe.

People don't learn to fall in love. She doesn't wanna be with you. I know it's hard, but you need to start distancing yourself because of the negative emotional stress.

She wants you in her life, but doesnt want to spend it with you. Don't let her have her cake and eat it too unless you are comfortable being her friend.

You are going to talk yourself into trying to be her friend, and if you do, you are going to go down a dark road.

Good luck buddy

Edit: Spare yourself the pain of seeing her sleep with someone else when she finds the one. You are holding her over til then.
 
I will never not read ACB's posts as Mike...

Anyway, on balance... weird weekend. I confirmed a dinner date with the Brazilian girl for next weekend, and I'm excited to see what our solo vibe's like. Now that I'm looking back with a clear head, she was definitely into me. She's very traditional, but I lucked into selecting a dinner spot that she's apparently been wanting to try. Gotta make a reservation tomorrow or Tuesday, though. I don't know if it's going anywhere, but she seemed really sweet and I want to get to know her better.

The attached Mexican girl showed up last night, and we leaned on each other, but no making out. Mostly because my friend was hammered to the point where I literally carried her home. The friend kissed me, tried to make out with me, and I'm standing there holding her aloft, locking eyes with the Mexican girl, mouthed "help?" and she smartly noped out of there. She texted me that she's sure we'll see each other again, though. But yeah, ended up putting my friend to bed and didn't mention what happened.

And, tomorrow I'll see the paralegal again, and I'm sure we'll talk about our weekends, and I will mention none of this to her (except maybe portions of the second story), and I'll see where it goes...

I think I am at the old white lady phase of my life where I'd be content with a cat and Chardonnay.
 
Holy shit Bacon, ever heard of multi-quoting?

Edit:

Little personal update thingy, feel free to ignore:
I'll be posting heaps in this thread over summer (Southern hemisphere represent), I've lost about 3kg since posting in here about wanting to improve and I'll keep improving towards summer, when I'll hopefully get one of my first tattoos done (Have three designs I'm messing with, one of which I'm definitely getting at some point... I kind of want to get all of them done though haha). Also will have completed my legal studies, so I'll actually have time to go to parties, develop my hobbies and social skills and... you know... actually date. Looking forward to it!
 
When did "maybe next week" become the go to blow off?
I asked a girl out for this weekend but she said she was messaging me from the airport and was going to SoCal for the weekend. But she keeps texting me, so maybe that was actually happening. If she texts me again I'll see about this week, but I don't have my hopes up.
 
Nah, my time zone makes it annoying too. Also, I've never had it take more than like 10 seconds to single out the content I want and delete the remainder whilst on mobile, but I guess that experience can change depending on user efficiency. All g though

She said she was messaging me from the airport and was going to SoCal for the weekend. But she keeps texting me, so maybe that was actually happening.
Looks like you're keeping your expectations in check, so that's good. If you don't want to wait for the message from her just shoot her a text sometime during the week asking again for this coming weekend or something. If you get another deflection or she doesn't suggest a time, just drop it.

And wow, SoCal has the same population as my entire country lmao.
 
That's for 2 reasons, firstly because of my timezone there's always loads of posts when I wake up. Secondly, it allows the person that make the original quote to specifically respond to a post about their query. They don't need to slowly delete what's not relevant to them if they reply AND editing posts on mobile is a pain. Or if they don't even do that you're going to get a huge post requoted making it more difficult for everyone to read and scroll through.

Good enough for you?
Bacon doing his best to keep the greatness that is Dating Gaf ontop /salute
 
True that. I'm lucky that I'm wedged between two relatively close cities, otherwise online dating would be an absolute ghost town.
I'm just on the outskirts of the capital and it's pretty bad here tbh. It gets a shitload better in the city, but fucking hell it's pretty difficult to get any sort of online dating when it's all literally just teens looking to find someone to pay for their clubs.
 
I've heard of "height bigotry" before, but I've never experienced it - mostly because I've only ever met women in person and online dating is new to me.

I'm 5'10", not "short", but also not "tall", and below the magic 6-feet number.

So online, I become a number, and it's non-negotiable, while in person, it's not particularly noticeable (unless you're only into giants), and not at all an issue as I can be charming and personable (which I can't be online).

So yeah, some women, who I later noticed in their profile after ignoring me, that they said their man has to be over 6' tall, or just "tall", and I realized why I wouldn't get messaged back.

Meanwhile, I've dated plenty of women that liked me, who if pressed, would say that they'd only date "tall" men. But in person they can make an exception that they won't make online. Which I understand, but still, it's weird.
 
I understand it might be frustrating as you can't do anything about it, but height is a preference among others I think.
Women I've dated have usually said that they want to feel small and feminine, so they date taller guys.

Of course it's not nice if they express their preference somehow in a rude way.

Then again some women love beards but I can't grow a proper one, so I'm shit out of luck with those.
 
It will pick up next month, people are too busy in September.
Fingers crossed man 🤞

I need to get back into the game properly.

Im not really vertically challenged but I still wont respond to any "how tall are you?" First messages.
I've saved myself ever being asked by putting it in my profile.

I understand it might be frustrating as you can't do anything about it, but height is a preference among others I think.
Women I've dated have usually said that they want to feel small and feminine, so they date taller guys.

Of course it's not nice if they express their preference somehow in a rude way.

Then again some women love beards but I can't grow a proper one, so I'm shit out of luck with those.
It's not just the lack of facial hair for me, I'm barely hairy at all altogether.

Usually I'm smoother than whoever I'm dating...
 
It's not just the lack of facial hair for me, I'm barely hairy at all altogether.

Usually I'm smoother than whoever I'm dating...
This reminds me...

I once dated a girl who had hair growing from her cheek, I mean not the normal kind , but they were like cat whiskers except only on one side.
 
On that note, are there guys who only date small/short women?
I'm 5'11" but tend to prefer women who are under 5'7". Something about being able to easily pick them up and carry them turns me on. It's purely sexual.

5'4"-ish is like ideal. But I wouldn't disqualify anyone taller than my preferred "range". Nor would I make a habit of asking about height. Again, the height thing is purely a sexual one, and not the most important thing when considering who to date.