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[NecrosaroIII]

I guess this is more of a question of with regards to pre-covid...

How much do you socialize with your coworkers? Would you consider them your friends? How much time do you spend with them?

For me, I have never really thought too much about socializing outside of work. I'm friendly with my coworkers. I chat with them and what not. I like them. But I have no interest in having outside of work friendships. I like keeping everything professional. I don't want them being invested in my personal life because I want to keep my work life and my home life separate. I don't want the two interesting too much.

 

[epicnemesis]

Never. Always friendly, always professional, always on topic. It’s not worth the potential headache of a misinterpreted comment or joke.

 

[ArtemisClydeFrog]

 

[Ionian]

Used to, few drinks or a lunch. Depended on what office I worked in and if we got on. Office nights, only if I had to, hated those.

Some became real friends which made our jobs easier. Kept in touch with them after they or I left and would meet up to bitch about other jobs.

 

[German Hops]

I depends on the vibe, but for the most part, I'm only spending off hours with female co-workers.

 

[MrS]

No chance. Only there for the dough not to be everybodies best pal. Fuck em all apart from the THOTS obviously

 

[Paasei]

A few, but everyone else I'm just friendly towards to get the job done and avoid any kind of bullshit.
I think it's mostly because there's no hiararchy here and neither do we want it. I think that's very common here in NL as a whole. Makes it a whole lot easier to be yourself at work.

 

[QSD]

A few, but everyone else I'm just friendly towards to get the job done and avoid any kind of bullshit.
I think it's mostly because there's no hiararchy here and neither do we want it. I think that's very common here in NL as a whole. Makes it a whole lot easier to be yourself at work.

hey another dutchie, it's almost easter!

Yes I socialize. I work in an assisted living home for people with psychiatric problems. We go through a lot of stuff together and we generally get along quite well so in a way we treat each other like a kind of family. Like the above poster there isn't a strong hierarchy as we all have the same function and salary, which helps IMHO.

 

[J-Roderton]

I keep it professional and friendly but never really share any personal shit or ask about theirs.

 

[Orpheum]

No. I get along with everyone but that's it. During events like the World Cup we sometimes go to a Beergarden to watch the games but aside from that i don't want them involved in my private life

 

[nush]

Never, most of them are only your "Friend" when it's convenient for them as you sit next to them 5 days a week. As soon as you change jobs they forget about you, stop replying to emails and stuff. You've left the team!

 

[German Hops]

 

[GamingKaiju]

Nope never have even work Christmas do’s I’ve never attended them. I have to work with them not be friends with them, I’m only there for money I’ll be professional and friendly at work but outside of my hours I’m not interested in work or my colleagues.

 

[Can't decide]

It depends on your job. When I used to work in nightclubs and a strip club in my early 20s, you bet I fucking did. I lived in a flat just a minutes walk from the strip club I worked at, so had the girls staying round and overnight all the time.

Being older and in a more professional working environment though? Not a chance, work and personal life should stay separated. I've had a couple of fellow audiophiles come around to check out my sound system since then but that has been all.

 

[Amory]

I used to at my old company. Now I work on a very small team and don't have much in common with my direct co workers so I don't see them outside of the office. Sometimes my boss will ask us to go for a beer after work, but it's a rare occurrence.

I do kind of miss having co workers that I can hang around with, but it's not a huge deal to me

 

[GamingKaiju]

It depends on your job. When I used to work in nightclubs and a strip club in my early 20s, you bet I fucking did. I lived in a flat just a minutes walk from the strip club I worked at, so had the girls staying round and overnight all the time.

Being older and in a more professional working environment though? Not a chance, work and personal life should stay separated. I've had a couple of fellow audiophiles come around to check out my sound system since then but that has been all.

Well if I worked in a strip club and had an empty flat round the corner you can bet that I would have done more “socialising” with my colleagues after work.

 

[cornonthecrobb]

Nope never.

I fucking hate people

 

[nush]

It depends on your job. When I used to work in nightclubs and a strip club in my early 20s, you bet I fucking did. I lived in a flat just a minutes walk from the strip club I worked at, so had the girls staying round and overnight all the time.

 

[GeekyDad]

They make up most of my friends on Facebook. I consider most of them friends, but honestly, my wife and I have never gone out much, and when we do, it's usually just us and our kids. Never been social in that way: meeting for dinner, etc. But we've each occasionally met with co-workers on our own for lunch, coffee, etc. Being on medical leave, my immediate boss offered for he and his wife to bring us a pork-roast dinner recently.

I work with good folks. Though I'm not really close with any of them, I value them as friends.

 

[Radical Dreamer]

Go for a few drinks/beers once in a while but other than that? No.

 

[McHuj]

No. Prepandemic, I already spent ~50 hours in the office with them, why the hell would I want to spend my free time with them as well? I'd rather spend that time with family or away from things that remind me of work.

 

[Torrent of Pork]

The other drivers on my account and I rarely see each other, but we're always friendly with each other.

 

[Armorian]

I was always friendly with people at work but for the first time i have (female) friend right now in my current work. Other than my girlfriend (and mother obviously) she is the only person I'm actually interested in having contact with. I'm way more motivated to go to work knowing that she will be there.

 

[eddie4]

I work in IT, we don't talk to people. They're weird.

 

[Ikutachi]

No. It's easier to dismiss their misbehavior if you were never personal with them.

 

[Alright]

It's not worth being close. One wrong joke gets you fired, being too friendly with people you click with gets other jealous. Then you have the Billy bullshitters who try and get close to just to steal ideas and thunder.

Thinking about it, I hate work people.

 

[AJUMP23]

No. I will go to lunch but I rarely do anything outside of that with people I work with. I also never ad them to my social media until I have moved to a new job and no longer working with them. For the most part they are not people I build strong bonds with. I enjoy working and talking to them, but ultimately I have other relationships that matter more outside work.

 

[EverydayBeast]

There’s a reason social distancing is still a thing

 

[Fbh]

On my previous job I'd occasionally have a beer with some of them after work (usually after finishing a big project or heavy week), but not much else.
Though there was also this one job where I had cool coworkers I'd actually hang out with and still keep in touch with.

 

[Ten_Fold]

Yeah, I’m not a weird anti social guy. If we are working together of course, but it depends on the person. I’m not gonna talk to someone who looks like they don’t like to talk.

 

[*Nightwing]

All the time, if it wasn’t for dipping my pen in the company ink I’d be celibate

 

[RJMacready73]

Of course, not all the time but we have plenty of work night outings to go get a meal and a shit load of beers, some of my best night outs have been on internal work do's, usually cause we've roped some company into sponsoring the entire night out so it ends in a massive booze up.

 

[RJMacready73]

It's not worth being close. One wrong joke gets you fired, being too friendly with people you click with gets other jealous. Then you have the Billy bullshitters who try and get close to just to steal ideas and thunder.

Thinking about it, I hate work people.

The fuck sorta company you work for??? I dunno where you're from but over here in the UK/Ireland what happens on a work night out is usually forgotten about the next week unless you where a massive bell end, any of the companies I've worked for and been out with it's always been about drinking and having a laugh, v few arseholes and anyone that is/was previously doesn't get invited out

 

[Alright]

The fuck sorta company you work for??? I dunno where you're from but over here in the UK/Ireland what happens on a work night out is usually forgotten about the next week unless you where a massive bell end, any of the companies I've worked for and been out with it's always been about drinking and having a laugh, v few arseholes and anyone that is/was previously doesn't get invited out

I've worked for a few (I'm English) and the American companies are the worst for it.

I've lost tens of thousands in pay rises and promotions due to cunts stealing my ideas. But I can only blame myself for being naive in the past.

 

[RJMacready73]

Americans come across as dog eat dog sorta cunts tbf, it's all about getting one up on their fellow employees, that's what you get when you work/live in a capitalistic hellhole.. I'll stick to the socialism backwater commie hellhole that is the EU where we kinda look out for one another

 

[ThatStupidLion]

rarely

i really only can endure about .5 people at my place of work, so anytime theres socializing i typically choose to socialize with my family or actual friends.

company socializing can be so cringey and forced too.

 

[FreedomOfSpeech]

In NL I've had jobs in several fields, most IT related.

You gotta realize that life is better when the gears are greased (not talking about bribes, but social lube), and work will also benefit greatly if you are just 'in the positive' with your coworkers.
In NL most companies also have friday-afternoon-drinks which is nice.

I'd say that when you start a job, you watch what the culture is and occasionally poke yourself into this new world, so you don't disrupt the status quo too much, it's not appreciated of newcomers usually.

With coworkers I've gotten drunk, gotten high, went abroad to snowboard the mountains, played vidya.

Why NOT let these people be a part of your life? You work for the same company, your fates are connected.

 

[NecrosaroIII]

In NL I've had jobs in several fields, most IT related.

You gotta realize that life is better when the gears are greased (not talking about bribes, but social lube), and work will also benefit greatly if you are just 'in the positive' with your coworkers.
In NL most companies also have friday-afternoon-drinks which is nice.

I'd say that when you start a job, you watch what the culture is and occasionally poke yourself into this new world, so you don't disrupt the status quo too much, it's not appreciated of newcomers usually.

With coworkers I've gotten drunk, gotten high, went abroad to snowboard the mountains, played vidya.

Why NOT let these people be a part of your life? You work for the same company, your fates are connected.

Like others said, here in the states you can be best friends with a co-worker one moment, then do something to make yourself a target and it's knives out.

 

[Peggies]

I depends on the vibe, but for the most part, I'm only spending off hours with female co-workers.

 

[Virt McPolygon]

Fuck no. I've been loving working from home.

Going to resist returning to an office for as long as possible.

 

[Rockondevil]

During work hours definitely socialise but very very rarely outside of work.

 

[AJUMP23]

Americans come across as dog eat dog sorta cunts tbf, it's all about getting one up on their fellow employees, that's what you get when you work/live in a capitalistic hellhole.. I'll stick to the socialism backwater commie hellhole that is the EU where we kinda look out for one another

Some are and some aren’t. I have certainly paid the price of someone else’s ambition. For the most part though most people will be genuine and honest, or professional. This also varies wildly based upon industry. I’m not in sales but coffee is only for closers. Don’t base what you know on American business culture from the movies either. The company I work for is run by a 70 something year old lady and is like working for your grandma. Good pay and bonuses.

 

[triplestation]

I depends on the vibe, but for the most part, I'm only spending off hours with female co-workers.

it is good to make

connections

so to

you can work better

in the workplace

 

[Cattlyst]

Pre-pandemic I went to a few socials at bars etc. I find most of my work colleagues to be pretty decent people to be honest. I live further away than most of them who seem to see each other outside of work quite regularly but that's because my employer is a big concern near that town so most people who live there also work there. But I live elsewhere. Does that make any sense whatsoever?

 

[MudoSkills]

A lot of people I would go for a drink with, not many actual friends - particularly at my current place.

Have been out of the office for over a year now, I haven't reached out anybody socially and nobody has reached out to me either.

 

[PendekarRajawali]

Is sleeping with coworkers included? If yes then I do socialize..

 

[12Goblins]

Is sleeping with coworkers included? If yes then I do socialize..

Dam bro. Hope that works out for you

 

[Dark Star]

Nope, not much beyond basic team work. And I’d like to keep it that way, especially with work from home COVID situation.

The only time of my life where I really socialized and was terribly, overly friendly with my coworkers was when I worked retail and restaurants in college.

Professional jobs post college? Heck no. I’ll chat about sports or whatever, maybe make some small talk, but nothing too personal. I definitely wouldn’t hangout with any of my coworkers unless I shared a lot of hobbies/interests with them, like going to metal concerts, or hiking/biking for example.

 

[PendekarRajawali]

Dam bro. Hope that works out for you

It does, we keep everything professional at work. We sometimes argue about work at the office since we have our own goals but it's a different story after hours especially in bed.

 

[BigBooper]

I'm friendly at work, but don't do anything outside work unless I have to. I had a company try to make me go to a mandatory fun day at the bowling alley one time. This was a supposedly mandatory event, unpaid because we were all salaried, and they were planning on covering pizzas and a game or something like that. I just blew it off and ignored their complaints and fortunately nothing came of it. Gotta admit, if that came up nowadays while I'm older, I probably wouldn't be so rebellious. It's such a huge pain changing jobs.