GirlGAF |OT 3| Light the signal! We've got guyposts, guyposts everywhere!

#1


Welcome to GirlGAF OT 3. This thread has been revamped before OT2 reached post limit in order to wipe the slate clean and start fresh. Anyone is welcome to post here and there are no off limit topics but please do not bombard GirlGAF with questions or general douchy behavior. In fact, if you have questions for women on GAF, you can check out the new GAQ (Girls Answer Questions) thread.

This OT owes much to Devolution's OT 2, though I have made some updates.

If you're curious about the subtitle: it's a twofold reference: first, stop moving your guy posts in here! (see below), but also, we renamed "goalposts" in conversations "guyposts." You're welcome.

Read these rule guidelines before posting!

This kind of question should be asked in GAQ or of people you know or on reddit or something - it doesn't belong in the GirlGaf OT:

hey i have a question females:

if you found out a dude was a massage therapist would that be weird? like would you assume his intentions are one way or the other?
First, women are not a monolith; there's no one true woman answer that will address this in every situation. Second, it's devoid of context. Mostly, it's just here to take our space and time. Ask it in GAQ. Let us have our community thread. We're here to discuss random things in our community, not to serve as armchair therapists, relationship guides, or life coaches.

Now, this old post by ronito was considered a pretty good fit for real conversation in GirlGAF (and it's a good conversation starter) but even now, in the post-GAQ era, think about where posts should go! We're not trying to be exclusive. We're just putting some mild boundaries around our community thread.

And this mild bit of innuendo, while also relatively innocuous-seeming, could be construed as the douchy behavior we'd like to avoid:

If the cosplay looks anything like the lingerie being posted on this page i'm sure that will be real hard :p.

Edit: I might recommend that to my GF.
Guys, popping in to let us know how sexy you think a piece of discussed lingerie is is not only unnecessary, it can also cross the line from contributory posting (which, in a community thread, is loosely defined to begin with) into "generally douchy" behavior by drawing attention to the fact that there are male posters who hang around here with no particular perspective on feminine issues besides hot-or-not. If we're talking about lingerie, it's for us, not your potential boner.

Beyond that, for those who aren't toeing any particular line but are not a girl/woman/lady/female/fembot/femputer, I ask only that you try to avoid bombarding the thread with too much fluff chatter with no reference to the perspective of women beyond the occasional "my girlfriend thinks..." because again, while likely subconscious and unintentional, this behaviour is conspicuous and we do notice it. Posts consisting of nothing more than "hey girlz!" are a particularly egregious drive-by manifestation of this phenomenon.

In other words, we're not trying to tell you not to post here. We're just asking that you think about it before you do, just as you would with other community OT.

Thanks for reading! We appreciate your efforts to respect our OT.

Now onto topics, links and such. Brace yourself for a long and link heavy OP. (NOTE: again, much of this is from Devolution, but I did add some things and I removed all the dead links, I think. RIP old links.)

FASHION

Fashion Sites/Shops
ModCloth
YesStyle
eShakti (customize everything!)
ASOS
Premme (new and awesome plus size line)
Check out this Buzzfeed online retailer roundup for global flair


Second Hand Shops
Buffalo Exchange
Crossroads Trading Co (CA/Portland/Seattle)
thredUP
Poshmark

Fashion Blogs
Go Fug Yourself
Kyrzayda
The Budget Fashionista
Viva Fashion

Make-Up Links
temptalia
Bobby Pin Blog (vintage looks)
Cosmetic Breakdown by Arsenic Yellow
Makeup Alley

Cruelty Free Perfume (with vegan options)

Bra Stuffs

The subreddit A Bra That Fits is full of great information on bras and sizing and more!

Originally Posted by Lissar

Okay, here's one great site that has you measure yourself and then gives a variety of bras that might fit you well: Bratabase. It's nice since it goes beyond just general bra size as they've taken the exact measurements of each bra as well as breast shape into consideration when recommending you a bra.

How To Measure Your Bra Size Correctly
Another site giving specifics of bra measurements as well as clothing advice for those people who have wider bust/hip measurements.

Also might be interesting to post is the normal breast gallery (NSFW): http://www.007b.com/breast_gallery.php

It's a great site since it shows lots of different sizes and shapes of breasts in a non-sexualized way. (NSFW images of D and G-cups)

http://fullerfigurefullerbust.files....09/dd-cups.jpg

http://bfcidade.files.wordpress.com/...iusty_male.jpg!

FEMINISM

Blogs and Sites

Feministing
Reductress
Feministe
Skepchick
Stop Street Harassment
Camels with Hammers, Almost Diamonds, Butterflies and Wheels, Blag Hag, Crommunist, Pharyngula, Lousy Canuck, Greta Christina's Blog, Sincerely, Natalie Reed, No Country for Women
NYMG (feminism and video games)

Articles

American Manhood and Violence Against Women
Sexism in Nerdy Communities
Compulsive Heterosexuality and Rape Culture
Feminist Hypersensitivity or Male Obtuseness?
Rape in America: Justice Denied (Video)
Gender Equity: What Men Have to Do
Schrödinger's Rapist: or a guy's guide to approaching strange women without being maced
The Smurfette Principle
If Childcare and Housekeeping Were Important Men Would Do Them
Liberating the Chicana Feminist
Predator Theory
Gender and Race Roles Broken Down Into Difficulty Levels
The Artifice of Femininity
Why Are Teen Moms Poor
The Myth About Marriage
Feminism for Men
Intersectional Feminism 101

Books

Gender Trouble: Feminism and the Subversion of Identity by Judith Butler
Marriage, a History: How Love Conquered Marriage by Stephanie Coontz
For Her Own Good: Two Centuries of the Experts' Advice to Women by Barbara Ehrenreich
Sexing the Body: Gender Politics and the Construction of Sexuality by Anne Fausto-Sterling
Yes Means Yes!: Visions of Female Sexual Power and A World Without Rape by Jaclyn Friedman
Sexual Violence and American Manhood by T. Walter Herbert
Ain't I a Woman: Black Women and Feminism by bell hooks
Feminism is for Everybody: Passionate Politics by bell hooks
Feminism: From Margin to Center by bell hooks
Talking Back: Thinking Feminist, Thinking Black by bell hooks
The Gendered Society by Michael S. Kimmel
Dude, You're A Fag: Masculinity and Sexuality in High School by CJ Pascoe
Hey, Shorty!: A Guide to Combating Sexual Harassment and Violence in Schools and on the Streets by Joanne Smith
Sexual Harassment and Bullying: A Guide to Keeping Kids Safe and Holding Schools Accountable by Susan Strauss
Men and Feminism: Seal Studies by Shira Tarrant
The Second Sex by Simone de Beauvoir
Guyland by Michael S. Kimmel
Delusions of Gender by Cordelia Fine The Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity Is Hurting Young Women by Jessica Valenti
Sex and Punishment by Eric Berkowitz

FOOD

Shows
Top Chef
Hell's Kitchen
Great British Baking Show

Recipes

Dessert
Twix Cheesecakes
Nutella Shots
Pinata Cookies
Nutella Mug Cake
Slutty Brownies

Porn (Food) and Recipe Sites
Food Gawker
Epicurious
Joy the Baker
the kitchn

Skinnytaste (health-focused)
The Full Helping (vegan)
Nom Nom Paleo

If you wish to add something interesting to the OP don't hesitate to suggest it! On with the discussion.
 
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Let me anoint the first page with an amazingly stereotypically girly question:

Is anyone else here well-versed in the world of (to use reddit's extremely vague term) "Asian beauty"? Someone suggested a Japanese blush to me when I was 18 and I've been a convert ever since (It was a lot more pigmented than comparably priced US brands in similar colors and the formula was good.)

Anyway that was years ago and that blush was a long gone LE. Now I have a 6 step skincare routine and have to import 75% of it, but I'm back to needing blush. I was planning to get the canmake cream blush. People love it and it's quite cheap, but gel blushes can be so hit or miss. SO does anyone have any recommendations? (from anywhere)
 
#5
A spider crawls all over ur screen >:3
be careful, you are the only spider I like

Let me anoint the first page with an amazingly stereotypically girly question:

Is anyone else here well-versed in the world of (to use reddit's extremely vague term) "Asian beauty"? Someone suggested a Japanese blush to me when I was 18 and I've been a convert ever since (It was a lot more pigmented than comparably priced US brands in similar colors and the formula was good.)

Anyway that was years ago and that blush was a long gone LE. Now I have a 6 step skincare routine and have to import 75% of it, but I'm back to needing blush. I was planning to get the canmake cream blush. People love it and it's quite cheap, but gel blushes can be so hit or miss. SO does anyone have any recommendations? (from anywhere)
I am a convert to a lot of the kbeauty stuff but this is actually one thing I haven't converted to - I like tarte's amazonian clay blushes myself but I'd love to hear if anyone else has recs.

eta: also alert alert, free MAC liptsicks Saturday https://www.nylon.com/articles/mac-national-lipstick-day-giveaway
 
#6
be careful, you are the only spider I like



I am a convert to a lot of the kbeauty stuff but this is actually one thing I haven't converted to - I like tarte's amazonian clay blushes myself but I'd love to hear if anyone else has recs.

eta: also alert alert, free MAC liptsicks Saturday https://www.nylon.com/articles/mac-national-lipstick-day-giveaway
Oh, yeah, I like those a lot! I've had a couple of pinks and lately I've been using Paaarty, but I was looking for a more reddish color than they offer :(
 
#7
New thread, so I will post proof of my amazing shopping adventure at a closing JCPenney.



First page and I'm already bring receipts y'all.

 
#14
I wonder if we should request to be moved to Off Topic for a few months to gather more of the girls gaffers in hiding?

Though that comes with the double edged sword of more guys dropping in with the "Hey ladies..."
 
#15
Beef immortalized in the OP.

I don't know if community threads are ever placed on the main OT, but if so, moving it could be a good idea. It's the mods who have to deal with misplaced posting after all.
 
#18
Might not be a terrible idea! It didn't even occur to me to look for a GirlGAF OT thread until I saw the GAQ one.

How often do y'all shave? One downside to summer is wearing dresses to work because I have to stop being lazy and actually shave every few days. I have dark hair, too, so it's super noticeable if I don't shave for a few days. I hate it.
 
#20
New thread, so I will post proof of my amazing shopping adventure at a closing JCPenney.
First page and I'm already bring receipts y'all.

and the good gifs!

monkey, that IronGaf thread you linked to is old and closed.
Oh dang, I didn't check the recipe/food ones for whatever reason. on it!

I forgot that there was so much info on the OP...let's hope we get to OT4 before the decade is over!
LET'S ADD MORE

I am at work, but that awesome site that sells everything with pockets is not on the link section =O
Point me and I'll add it!
 
#26
How in the hell did you turn over $1000 to $100?
Everything was 95-99% off. I was picking up shit shuddering at the 60 and 80 dollar price tags even though I knew they were heavily discounted, and watched as they rang up for like $ 1.50. It was insane.

I got some skirts I need to find tops that match for though lol. I just went nuts and grabbed everything cute in my size that I could.

Edit: I pmed our den mother about possibly moving the thread to off topic temporarily. Still don't know if it's backfire on us though :/
 
#28
Let me anoint the first page with an amazingly stereotypically girly question:

Is anyone else here well-versed in the world of (to use reddit's extremely vague term) "Asian beauty"? Someone suggested a Japanese blush to me when I was 18 and I've been a convert ever since (It was a lot more pigmented than comparably priced US brands in similar colors and the formula was good.)

Anyway that was years ago and that blush was a long gone LE. Now I have a 6 step skincare routine and have to import 75% of it, but I'm back to needing blush. I was planning to get the canmake cream blush. People love it and it's quite cheap, but gel blushes can be so hit or miss. SO does anyone have any recommendations? (from anywhere)
I'm an old member of that sub, Korean skincare products are amazing! I had my 10 steps routine but I got out of it last year because I was traveling way too much and it became inconvenient to keep it up.

I don't have a blush to recommend from AB because I have been using the same brand for years and love it. It's called "bourjois coup de foudre"
 
#41
http://www.eshakti.com/

You can choose size for EVERYTHING and neck and sleeves and EVERYTHING HAS POCKETS but it is ok you can remove it if you want (why would you YOU MONSTER)
Oh, of course, I know eshakti! I can't believe I didn't think of it.

Also I got an adorable dress today with pockets and I'm so excited.

Never in my wildest dreams did I think I would be immortalized in a GirlGAF OT. Neat!
I live to serve!

Hey hey!
 
#43
I'm an old member of that sub, Korean skincare products are amazing! I had my 10 steps routine but I got out of it last year because I was traveling way too much and it became inconvenient to keep it up.

I don't have a blush to recommend from AB because I have been using the same brand for years and love it. It's called "bourjois coup de foudre"
Thanks Neverforget! I'll check that one out.

Also, 10 steps for skincare is like..All my spoons for the entire day. I try to keep it at 4 or 5 steps unless I'm using a mask or treatment, and I only oil cleanse at night (Unless I've been hanging out at home that day, and didn't have any sunscreen or makeup on)

I know a little about Asian beauty but unfortunately I don't know anything about blush, sorry. I don't use it at all. I imagine Japanese blush will be pretty nice.
It's always nicely pigmented! Igari style makeup isn't as popular as it once was, but since my skin is darker I found it really wearable and it was a game changer for me, haha.


Pockets are so important. My favorite dress with pockets is too large for me now, so I can't really wear it, but I'm always on the lookout of a replacement.
 
#44
Wow, THE SAVINGS! Too bad I hate JCPenny and shopping at the mall fills me with despair, unless they do some online deals I'll probably miss out on this one.

Re: Korean skincare, the little shop I go to now and then for weird toys has this whole wall of Korean skin care products. I have no idea what's good though :x
 
#46
Re: dresses too large: did you consider having it altered? I finally took the leap with one I loved that was just a little baggy and it was less than replacing it and they adjusted it in other ways, too. I'm a convert.
 
#50
Has anyone ever sent Tweezerman tweezers in to be sharpened? I heard you can but I dunno how long it takes. I have two sets but one is mini and I am distressed at being without the others for weeks.