Hate my new job.

[Out of Working Order]

I am hoping for some advice. I've recently moved into a new job, and I really hate it. My manager is pressuring me, and talking down to me in front of others. I am made to feel stupid. Best of all is that my new colleagues were laughing to themselves the last time it happened, and I honestly felt like I could have walked out there and then. It's a work environment where I feel there is very much a clique, and I am the odd one out.

Needless to say, I don't look forward to going in to work one bit, because I wonder how I will be spoken to the next day.

I want to leave, but I have no qualifications or university education or anything like that. I'd love to do something outdoors, work with animals perhaps, or something creative. I just don't know what my options are, or how to go about doing it. I do live with my parents though, so money wouldn't be an issue if I needed further education or time out to find new work.

Could I try to start my own business? Something in which I could be creative, and earn a living? Are there any apprenticeships for somebody my age (28)? UK, if that helps.

 

[Norns]

Do you not have an HR department?

 

[Kevtones]

Go to school.

 

[Dabanton]

What kind of job is it?

 

[daviyoung]

what do you do?

your workplace doesn't sound mature and is instead going through some new-kid initiation

 

[PlayALLtheGames]

If he's any sort of professional, you should be able to have a talk with him. And I don't mean, "You're being mean", obviously; I mean, "The way you talk to me is unprofessional and condescending."

 

[LiK]

Just deal with it for now and look for another job while you're there. Talk to HR if you need to.

 

[Out of Working Order]

What kind of job is it?

Driving.

Do you not have an HR department?

Yes, why?

 

[Edwardo]

If you really need the money then just stick with it for now while you apply for a new job. Apply to anything and everything you could possibly do.

 

[muse41]

If money isn't an issue then why are you still working at that job?

Quit and go get an education

 

[Norns]

Yes, why?

Speak to your supervisor first. If they continue to be a prick, contact HR.

Not a terribly difficult concept to grasp.

And yes, if you hate your job, you should try to find something else.

But, you can at least try to make it a little more comfortable at work while you look.

 

[backflip10019]

Yes, why?

Talk to them about it.

 

[daviyoung]

Driving.

Surely you're on the road most of the time anyway. This is going to sound harsh, but what have you been doing for the past 28 years of your life?

 

[taahahmed]

Get some sort of education. It'll open up a ton of opportunities to earn money.

 

[rtcn63]

Honestly, stick with it. Unless it becomes just so mentally unbearable, or you have evidence that it'll impede upward mobility in the company. And at least wait until you can find something better, then resign. I left a job after a seasonal stint because my supervisor yelled at and degraded me in front of the whole office on a daily basis. Like, he made it a habit to cut to the bone, so to speak. Oddly, I discovered later from another supervisor that he was lauding me behind my back, saying that I learned faster than most everyone he's trained, etc. But that he was just insane.

I'm unemployed. In hindsight, I should of just taken that shit, and brushed it off for the paycheck.

 

[kiunchbb]

Speak to your supervisor first. If they continue to be a prick, contact HR.

Not a terribly difficult concept to grasp.

Unless you have a really strong union, or don't care about the money from this job. I would suggest against this, unless you have enough ammunition to sue the supervisor, you will just make him hates you even more.

 

[Dark Octave]

Driving.

Yes, why?

I imagine your boss is a backseat driver and your coworkers laughing at you are on the same bus with cubicles in it.


You don't know what HR is and how they can help you?

 

[Out of Working Order]

If money isn't an issue then why are you still working at that job?

Quit and go get an education

I would like to. I am just trying to figure out what I want.

Speak to your supervisor first. If they continue to be a prick, contact HR.

Not a terribly difficult concept to grasp.

And yes, if you hate your job, you should try to find something else.

But, you can at least try to make it a little more comfortable at work while you look.

It's not really the job. I just feel incredibly uncomfortable around some of the co-workers and my manager's a dick.

Surely you're on the road most of the time anyway. This is going to sound harsh, but what have you been doing for the past 28 years of your life?

I am on the road most of the time, yes, but I have to deal with my manager multiple times a day as there are several return journeys to the depot. What have I been doing? Working in retail. It was a dead end job, but I was and still am dealing with depression, which isn't conductive to building a future or career for yourself.

Honestly, stick with it. Unless it becomes just so mentally unbearable, or you have evidence that it'll impede upward mobility in the company. And at least wait until you can find something better, then resign. I left a job after a seasonal stint because my supervisor was yelling at me and degrading in front of the whole office on a daily basis. Like, he made it a habit to cut to the bone, so to speak. Oddly, I discover later from another supervisor that he was lauding me behind my back, saying that I learned faster than most everyone he's trained, etc. But that he was just insane.

I'm unemployed, and in hindsight, I should of just taken that shit, and brushed it off for the paycheck.

I intend to stick with it to see how it pans out. I just don't think it will be for much longer. I'd hate to be unemployed myself - hope you can find work yourself soon.

 

[asvpxjad]

You'd be making a mistake not taking the manager to HR. Same exact thing was happening to my dad at work and he took her ass to HR and she never said another word to him again. The pressure and stress she would put on him was unreal.. He worked 70 hours weeks

 

[Norns]

Unless you have a really strong union, or don't care about the money from this job. I would suggest against this, unless you have enough ammunition to sue the supervisor, you will just make him hates you even more.

Don't listen to this guy. This is why abuses of power happen in the workplace.

 

[daviyoung]

Well, no. I have to deal with my manager multiple times a day as there are several return journeys to the depot. What have I been doing? Working in retail. It was a dead end job, but I was and still am dealing with depression, which isn't conductive to building a future a career for yourself.

I suggest looking at another courier, or going back to school

 

[Tenck]

Unless you have a really strong union, or don't care about the money from this job. I would suggest against this, unless you have enough ammunition to sue the supervisor, you will just make him hates you even more.

Yeah let it keep flying under the radar. Just wish it goes away at some point.

What awful advice.

 

[Into]

You sound so miserable, that chances of you staying there for a pro longed period of time seem slim.

So you have nothing to really lose by talking to this boss, 1on1, if that does not work contact HR. Reason you talk to him first, is to cover your ass for HR, because they will ask you "have you spoken to him about this?"

I had a boss who hated me, and tried to make fun of me infront of the rest of the office. I spoke to him without much success, typical "i am right i know better, stop being sensitive". Then i went to HR and they had a talk with him.

We never became best friends or even friends after that, hell he still had a hateful look at me once in a while but he stopped talking shit for 2 years until i left for greener pastures.

 

[Go_Ly_Dow]

If you live with your parents and want a change then do what I did (also UK).

Work part-time 2-3 days a week (retail/office etc...) And go back to college. Finish College 1-2 years later and then get the grades to go to University.

Just make sure whatever course you do has the right shit to get you in to Uni and you find interesting.

 

[Raiden]

Stand up for yourself? You got nothing to lose. So what if they fire you? Just dont let them talk to you like that.

 

[unholyrevenger72]

record the abuse and post to the internet. Public humiliation is a hell of thing.

 

[Camp Lo]

record the abuse and post to the internet. Public humiliation is a hell of thing.

He's in the UK though. US eats up that bullying type of shit.

 

[Fantasmo]

Don't listen to this guy. This is why abuses of power happen in the workplace.

Yeah let it keep flying under the radar. Just wish it goes away at some point.

What awful advice.

Well, he should try, but most managers have HR in their pocket.

I know a guy from a job like 3 years ago, who was fired from a newer job, because the boss was being a dick and pressuring him in manipulative ways to leave or get canned. This guy tried to bring the manager to HR and that was his nail in the coffin. I don't know how the manager did it, but he got him fired. Another guy on that same team brought the director into the mix after the firing. Still nothing, except this other guy ending up getting himself on the manager's shitlist himself.

So really it depends on how the company is run. Abuse is no big deal in some corporations. Money is far more important and details can be twisted unless you have serious ammunition in the form of evidence.

It did cause entertaining blowback though. 6 people on the team have left within a 2 month span. And the place is 24/7 and required to function and takes 3 months to hire people. The manager is pretty fucked.

I'm laughing as I'm crying because I ended up working at the same place he went to (although I started after this first guy was fired). It's literally hell right now because of a douchebag boss and one guy's firing leading to all this. Actually it wouldn't be fair to put any blame on the original guy. My boss is the worst dickhead ever so I get where OP is coming from.

 

[Indrid Cold1]

The social get a bad rep over here but they can really help you retrain. My brother earns great money pulling asbestos out of old buildings. The dole paid for his training course, Personal Protective Equipment, and found him the job. He had been in trouble before too so they managed all that despite him having a record.if you don't have a mortgage to pay or mouths to feed tell your boss to piss off and see what they can do for you down the job centre.

 

[Bilix]

Get some sort of education. It'll open up a ton of opportunities to earn money.

Don't believe this person's lies!

 

[Fantasmo]

The social get a bad rep over here but they can really help you retrain. My brother earns great money pulling asbestos out of old buildings. The dole paid for his training course, Personal Protective Equipment, and found him the job. He had been in trouble before too so they managed all that despite him having a record.if you don't have a mortgage to pay or mouths to feed tell your boss to piss off and see what they can do for you down the job centre.

Your post makes no sense. And that's a shame because it looks like there's supposed to be great advice in there.

 

[terrisus]

Sounds like you're out of working order.

 

[Extra Sauce]

If education costs are not an issue, go back to school in whatever field interests you most.

Unless you don't know what interests you, in which case think about it for awhile. Think about it every time one of these assholes talk down to you.

 

[jadedm17]

I have no words, I'm stuck feeling the same way : My manager that does scheduling is after buddies and stories more than actual workers, even to the point she (against policy I'd add) even drinks with some of the other employees, who just happen to get better schedules than me. I'm working about 12 hours a week presently while I look for a new job.

Consider your options and just keep searching, in the meantime making as much as you can; I've not learnt that dealing with shit and working 40 hrs is better than a great job you can only get 12 hrs at. Best of luck.

 

[Hellix]

I am hoping for some advice. I've recently moved into a new job, and I really hate it. My manager is pressuring me, and talking down to me in front of others. I am made to feel stupid. Best of all is that my new colleagues were laughing to themselves the last time it happened, and I honestly felt like I could have walked out there and then. It's a work environment where I feel there is very much a clique, and I am the odd one out.

I felt that way about my colleagues (not my manager) for the first half of the year in my new job, since I was relegated as the "new guy." I felt miserable during those first couple months, but I stuck it out, and it got better.

 

[milquetoast]

I agree about being careful going to HR; HR is there to solve problems to the company's benefit.. and if the best way to do that is to terminate the employee who brought up the complaint, they may decide to go that route.

 

[bonesmccoy]

OP, don't quit unless you have something else lined up. Reconnecting with the work-world is difficult at the best of times - and with depression to contend with it's that much harder.

And remember: HR departments exist to manage issues *for* the company, not the employee, and will almost always side with a manager unless there is gross misconduct. Only go to them if you have robust union protection.

You really just need to keep looking and applying for jobs elsewhere. Ignore qualifications, education requirements etc. Go into businesses that you'd like to work for and ask them about what they do. It will be hard work, but eventually something will come up.