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How many sexual partners for girls is too many?

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Angry Puppy

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The only thing that numbers affect is potential STD. That goes for both guys and girls. (But that isn't even the largest factor in STD's, which is responsibility.)

If she is STD free, what is the problem? Does he feel like he is inadequate now?
 

Jenga

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I actually know a ton of women who aren't attracted to men who date a lot of women for what I'm assuming are the same reasons as the OP's buddy

What does gaf think of them?

fortunately, I never posed a problem to them :3
 

Batman

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I find it odd how people can have so many sexual partners without having an emotional attachment to the person. But that's just me, to each their own.
Yeah I've never understood how people can do it either, it's just insecurity.
 

triplestation

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I like to think that women with less partners are more valuable and worthwhile but that's like serious relationship material

The kind that are more "outgoing" I wouldn't take srsly
 

maquiladora

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As long as it was safe sex every time there is no such thing as "too many".

What the hell difference does it make?
 

commedieu

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I find it odd how people can have so many sexual partners without having an emotional attachment to the person. But that's just me, to each their own.
People are diverse. Think about this, someone thinks that having sex is just sex, and isn't emotionally involved, as their norm.
 

Devolution

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cmon devo, everyone knows that if you have lots of sex, you will cheat on your man because you arent getting enough sex and need more sex outside of the relationship.

sex.
But what if you like have lots of sex within a relationship? WHAT THEN. I'm getting more sex than my single female pals. Uh oh.
 

Sai-kun

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I actually know a ton of women who aren't attracted to men who date a lot of women for what I'm assuming are the same reasons as the OP's buddy

What does gaf think of them?

fortunately, I never posed a problem to them :3
I think they're just as silly as dudes who wouldn't date a girl because of how many partners they've had. It's not some weird double standard a lot of us have. Some of legitimately don't have an issue with it.
 
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I find it odd how people can have so many sexual partners without having an emotional attachment to the person. But that's just me, to each their own.
It's way better and more fun in a committed, emotional relationship, but that doesn't mean it isn't worthwhile in its own way the other times.
 

TAJ

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I find it odd how people can have so many sexual partners without having an emotional attachment to the person. But that's just me, to each their own.
Do you have an emotional attachment to your hand? What do you like more, jacking off or fucking?
 

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I'll be honest though - I really don't care how many, but there are two caveats:

1) I don't want to know more than 10 of those people.
2) They should have learned lots of things from their experiences. :p
 

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It makes sense from a natural selection point of view to think someone had too many partners. Someone who has slept around a lot is more likely to have STDs. Your friend's reaction is understandable but not justified now that we have condoms and it's easy to get tested.
 

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I'm gonna throw out an arbitrary number based on absolutely nothing, but I'll say more than 15 is in questionable territory. Same for dudes. I just can't imagine many scenarios where a person would sleep with more than that unless they were straight up freaks or nymphos.
 

JohnDoe

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You want science? Here's a university study that finds differences in what males and females want in opposite sex partners. Quick conclusion: men are more likely than women to value chastity.
I don't see how you can build some sort of guideline/moral code on how many partners a woman is supposed to have based on that. Sounds to me like pressuring women to behave in a way that coincides with the wishes of men. Wishes that are rooted in insecurity and lack of critical thinking.
 

Symphonia

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I once slept with a girl, who was 21, who had slept with 72 guys prior to me. I made sure to double-wrap and get myself checked once the deed was done and she'd gone back home to Manchester. Never again.
 

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30+ at 24 indicates she was the drunk girl everyone had a chance to poke, I'm not saying I would break up with her in that situation but it would raise a ton of questions
 
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There's nothing morally wrong with a high number of sex partners. It is, however, a factor to consider when deciding whether you're going to date someone. It's like any other factor that might cause you to break up. I'm sure each of you have broken up with someone for a reason that others would consider petty.
A factor because of what? Whether a person has slept with a thousand people or 1, it has zero relation to how good they'll be in your relationship. STDs? Nope, because you would either date someone with an STD or not regardless of how many times it took them to get there. You're trying to make a morality argument not about morality and it ain't working.

30+ at 24 indicates she was the drunk girl everyone had a chance to poke, I'm not saying I would break up with her in that situation but it would raise a ton of questions
LOL! Sit down and show me on the doll where she friendzoned you.
 

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I find it odd how people can have so many sexual partners without having an emotional attachment to the person. But that's just me, to each their own.
Having sex with someone that you don't have an emotional attachment is usualy called "paying a prostitute"

You can have HUNDRETS of sexual partners and be emotionaly atached to each one at the moment of sex
 
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How is insulting people who say they'd prefer a significant other with less sexual partners any better than insulting shaming people for having a number of partners?

30+ at 24 indicates she was the drunk girl everyone had a chance to poke, I'm not saying I would break up with her in that situation but it would raise a ton of questions
Cot damn, dude
 

TAJ

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maquiladora

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There are only so many dicks a vagina can accommodate before it becomes irreparably loose (can be corrected with surgery of course).
Thats a myth. Vaginal looseness can happen as part of the aging process (muscle fatigue) and in younger women after multiple childbirths. Regular intercourse doesn't cause looseness.
 

ThLunarian

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Nope.

Stop projecting onto others.
Sure, but it's been something that's happened after the relationship happened. Why would you dump or criticize someone for something they did before?
If I was dating someone and it eventually came up that they had slept with 40 people, I'd probably be more jealous of that, than anything.

Also to the bolded, I literally haven't.
Well I'm glad that some of you are relationship pros who always manage to date people that conform precisely to what you're looking for in a partner every time, but some of us aren't that skilled, and occasionally we find something out about a partner that bothers us, and that we didn't know when the courtship started.

And as for me personally, I don't care how many partners my love interests have had. I've never thought to bring it up and I've never cared when she brought it up. However, for some people there is just a number that's too high, and I can't fault them for that.
 

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How is insulting people who say they'd prefer a significant other with less sexual partners any better than insulting shaming people for having a number of partners?
It's not insulting when it's the truth. You can get to good sex with a few partners but you'll have to wade through a lot of awful sex if you're both pretty inexperienced. No one is born good at the deed.
 

Forearms

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People who want their SO to have a low number of sexual partners, have fun with the awful sex.
What does the number of partners have to do with how good the sex is? Just because someone sleeps with 20 different people doesn't necessarily mean they're going to be better in bed. It's all about how open people are to experimentation regardless of the number of people they've been with.
 

TAJ

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Damn, so sex is jacking off using a person instead of a hand? lol
It's possible for it to be that, so that means it always is? Ok, bud.
 

JohnDoe

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Thats a myth. Vaginal looseness can happen as part of the aging process (muscle fatigue) and in younger women after multiple childbirths. Regular intercourse doesn't cause looseness.
I think he was being sarcastic. I hope so at least.
 

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Doesn't matter if you ask me.

But even for people who value that kind of thing, when you break down the numbers, 30 isn't even questionable. Really think about it. She even said it was mostly in college, so let's say she had sex with 28 guys in college.

That's four years.

That's seven guys per year.

Considering college is basically centered around hooking up with people at parties, that's not even once per month. It's almost once every two months. That's not really that often.

Tell your buddy to chill out. Does he like the girl? Does she like him? Hey, fantastic.
 
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