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Opinion Cringe I decided last night that I will never get married......ever.

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This may make me look and sound completely and utterly selfish and immature, but I believe marriage for someone like me isn't a suitable choice to make. It's a controversial thing to claim, but I'm hoping to hear some diverse opinions on the matter and don't hold back!
Like someone would actually say yes....


 

captainraincoat

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for those lads out there that have not found that someone special
There is someone out there for you but you just gotta adjust your outlook on what partner material is

There are some diamonds in stone out there and you also might be someones diamond
 

jadedm17

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  • I don't see myself raising a child in this current world that we live in
Agreed.

I dont have to work hard financially for anyone else
Disagreed.

I don't want to die alone.
Okay we all die /alone/

I think the sexiest thing is finding someone like this :


What better way to share the world than with a like-minded person with similar goals?
Yes I love this couple and want exactly that. <3
 
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GymWolf

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Marriage and love go together like a horse and carriage.
You can't have one without the other.
Bullshit of the highest order.

You can have a perfect relation even without a wedding.

The only thing a marriage does for love is that you have to pay money if you get separated so you try with all your will to stay together, even if this make you miserable.

A party where you spend a shitload of money, take a lot of pics to show to friends while promising to stay always together in front of a fairytale entity in a church doesn't make a couple better than a couple who only lives together.

The moment you think that you are forced to stay with a woman only because you married her it means that you really don't love her anymore, so even the "when you get married your feeling get stronger" narrative is complete bollocks.
 
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nkarafo

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Its mostly a financial matter for me. I earn barely enough money for one person. Not enough for a family. If i win a lottery or something i will reconsider.
 

Stiflers Mom

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Important point. Singleness might sound really good in your 30s and 40s; but for most people it's going to suck once you hit the 60s and 70s. By then it's probably too late to change.
How about just keeping a lot of good friends that actually want to be with you instead of a person you have a contract with?

Also, if you put all your "money on this one card", what will you do when she dies first and you didn't have any circle of friends built up over the years?
You will be a fucking wreck, man.

I did public service for a year when I was twenty, buying stuff for old people and cleaning their flats. The stories that I have heard and witnessed were not encouraging, I can tell you.
 
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iconmaster

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How about just keeping a lot of good friends that actually want to be with you instead of a person you have a contract with?
You could try. You're relying then on relationships of convenience rather than necessity. For example, what if you move?

And some of us are the kind of people others generally don't want to be with.

Also, if you put all your "money on this one card", what will you do when she dies first and you didn't have any circle of friends built up over the years?
You will be a fucking wreck, man.
Yeah, obviously spouses do die and this happens. But I think you're pushing me into a false dichotomy here. You can be married and still have other friends, of course. In fact, that's probably the ideal solution. But I wouldn't give up on marriage in the hope that friends will make up for a constant life partner. They most likely won't.
 
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Khalid M.

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Man the fuck up. You’re like a fat person who says they will never get fit and are okay with it, but if given a button that makes them fit they would surely press it. If you met the right person you would want to marry.

“I don’t want to get dicorced-raped” is a reason I’d be hard-pressed to argue against, but from what you said you sound like you have given up on being a successful man women would want to marry.

Also, I haven’t heard of any guy blaming their parents for bringing them into this world. It’s a shit place? Cry me a river, adapt and survive.

Don’t hate me, this is tough love homie
 
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Man the fuck up. You’re like a fat person who says they will never get fit and are okay with it, but if given a button that makes them fit they would surely press it. If you met the right person you would want to marry.

“I don’t want to get dicorced-raped” is a reason I’d be hard-pressed to argue against, but from what you said you sound like you have given up on being a successful man women would want to marry.

Also, I haven’t heard of any guy blaming their parents for bringing them into this world. It’s a shit place? Cry me a river, adapt and survive.

Don’t hate me, this is tough love homie
I'm banning you from the Hideo Kojima Community Thread.
 

Elektro Demon

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I think you made a good decision.
If you get married, there's a big chance you'll get divorced after a few years and women have a huge advantage in the eyes of the law. So you loose on that front as well.
Women are bitchy by nature so you won't have to put up with her crap.
Married vagina sex is overrated and too expensive when hookers are much easier. You fuck, you pay and you say goodbye. You don't have to cuddle and do that girly crap after sex.
Children. Overrated imo. You have to support them financially all of their life. Fuck that.
 
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I think you made a good decision.
If you get married, there's a big chance you'll get divorced after a few years and women have a huge advantage in the eyes of the law. So you loose on that front as well.
Women are bitchy by nature so you won't have to put up with her crap.
Married vagina sex is overrated and too expensive when hookers are much easier. You fuck, you pay and you say goodbye. You don't have to cuddle and do that girly crap after sex.
Children. Overrated imo. You have to support them financially all of their life. Fuck that.
Spoken like a true closeted homosexual.
 

DeepBreath87

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I think you made a good decision.
If you get married, there's a big chance you'll get divorced after a few years and women have a huge advantage in the eyes of the law. So you loose on that front as well.
So don't get divorced. Find somebody who also doesn't see divorce as an option.
Women are bitchy by nature so you won't have to put up with her crap.
Everyone is "bitchy" from time to time. Most people could use a little "bitchiness". Its not a bad thing to have someone show you where you need to improve. That's what a good partner does. The approach matters, but the idea that if someone gives you a little shit, they are a bitch, as opposed to you perhaps needing to get your shit together, speaks to your maturity.
Married vagina sex is overrated and too expensive when hookers are much easier. You fuck, you pay and you say goodbye. You don't have to cuddle and do that girly crap after sex.
Eh, meaningless sex gets old pretty quick too. You do you though. Which, unless you're willing to pay, is all you're likely to be doing.
Children. Overrated imo. You have to support them financially all of their life. Fuck that.
Maybe your parents are still supporting you, but generally speaking, you raise you kids to support themselves. My parents don't support anyone except themselves anymore. Kids are great thing. Hard work, of course, but nothing good comes without hard work.

This post is either written by a 17 year old boy or a neckbeard living at home with their parents.
 

TheMan

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Nah it's not selfish man. I think a lot of people underestimate the commitment it takes to raise kids- timewise, financially, and a complete change in priorities. It takes maturity to make a conscious decision not to engage in that if it's not what you really want.

Plus with the world heading in its current direction- the rise of trump, global warming, etc- you're sparing your theoretical kids future pain.
 
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hariseldon

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Nah it's not selfish man. I think a lot of people underestimate the commitment it takes to raise kids- timewise, financially, and a complete change in priorities. It takes maturity to make a conscious decision not to engage in that if it's not what you really want.

Plus with the world heading in its current direction- the rise of trump, global warming, etc- your sparing your theoretical kids future pain.
The rise of Trump, dear god that’s some TDS right there. Still, if you think the world is going to shit the best way to fix it is to bring up the next generation with the values you want to see in the world. Or you can be a nihilist and give up. I know which option I prefer.
 

Thurible

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Nothing wrong with the vocation of singlehood. Not everyone is called for marriage.

EDIT: But also be sure you are choosing your vocation for the right reason and you certainly can be open to many other callings.
 
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I didn’t plan to marry or get kids either.

my goal was oled 65 and a room.

but, well... my wife dont need any financial support from me lols. And as my family have history of cancer I’m kinda relieved she will take care of me, yay.

About the kid, I got it older age (37) first just in case I had to have a minimum $ before being a dad . I don’t need to worry about it now, And actually life was getting boring.

btw also she didn’t wanted any kid because of *world situation*, I told her the kid would be an awesome mad max.

Parents are a good point. I will devote myself when they get older. Luckily my wife support me and she also want to go back to my home country and take care of them.

saying that I don’t see a reason for marry or having a kid if you feel fulfilled, but I’m pretty sure you will enter a crisis again later on.
A kid is a good way to revitalize your life, I kinda understand now why old people like to see babies . 👶

and idk if u are trolling or not. This kinda stuff we don’t decide.
We can plan but God decide . Or better “shit happens”
 
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Tschumi

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Marriage shouldn't be obligatory.. it should just seem like the next thing to do once all the MGS themed sex dissolves into endlessly sustainable cuddling and cooking for each other. And sex. Let go of any pressure~
 

Northeastmonk

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OP sitting alone in a basement: „i will never get married“

I don’t always understand the stereotype of living in your parents basement. I lived in a ranch home where both parents had a few drinks, watched the tube, and went to bed around 8 during the week. This was out in the country, so you could hear the wind hit a couple dozen trees all at once. Not your neighbors taking out their trash cans or someone waking up at 5 to go to work. I could do what I wanted. I could get in my car at midnight and just go for a drive. I can’t exactly go out or drive to the store late at night as a spouse/father.

I dislike it when women think you’re going to the bar or a casino. My whole getaway would be to relax without any comments. If you’re married, you share your home with your family. That’s great sometimes, but it’s not if you don’t live in a huge house. At least in the parents basement there was a bar and I was paying rent. I had my own fridge and laundry room.

I’ve had times where my parents basement felt like a getaway.
 

diffusionx

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So don't get divorced. Find somebody who also doesn't see divorce as an option.
Nobody goes into marriage looking to get divorced, life happens.

Speaking from experience, divorce is one of the most awful things a person can go through, I wouldn't wish it on my enemy. I'm not quite that avoiding it is worth never trying, but knowing what I know now...

Anyway, I don't know what the future will hold but I don't see myself getting married again. It's still early though.
 
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DeepBreath87

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Nobody goes into marriage looking to get divorced, life happens.

Speaking from experience, divorce is one of the most awful things a person can go through, I wouldn't wish it on my enemy. I'm not quite that avoiding it is worth never trying, but knowing what I know now...

Anyway, I don't know what the future will hold but I don't see myself getting married again. It's still early though.
Yeah. I feel for you. Divorce seems like it would be horrendous. As a married guy, it’s hard to even imagine what it would be like.

There are circumstances where divorce is unavoidable. I don’t want to come across as judgmental. But I do think there are many times where people either guy in with reservations or start looking for the exits too quickly. It’s tough though. Good luck.
 

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My friend was always very casual when it comes to relationships.He had many girlfriends and didn't really bother to "settle in".His last gf had a kid and he met her few times but broke up quickly because he didn't like kids.Few months later he meets another girl and she has a kid too.Its like two years later and they built a house,she is pregnant and they getting married next year.I don't know what happened.He changed drastically.Maybe because he is getting older and feels the need to make this "white picket fence" life.He seems happy so i hope it will last.Maybe you will be like that too?Just saying.If not then thats perfectly fine.