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I have never met my fiancé's parents.
- Thread starter WeAreStarStuff
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Eh, I wouldn't lose sleep over it. It sucks that they're racist, but you're going to be marrying her, not her parents. Best you can do is to not let t get under your skin - if they ever want to reach out to you with an olive branch then go for it, but otherwise don't go out of your way for them. You don't owe them anything.
Having said that, your fiancée is beautiful. Congratulations! You two make a fantastic couple
Having said that, your fiancée is beautiful. Congratulations! You two make a fantastic couple
theignoramus
Member
Maybe theyll show up to oppose their holy matrimony.
I sincerely hope OP's life doesn't turn into a real life episode of If Loving You Is Wrong. Sorry you have to deal with this OP. That's always pretty rough.
I can relate, man. In fact, 3/4 of my serious relationships have revolved around that nonsense. I've even been threatened with a shotgun by a father.
The last one, which I truly loved most, took me to her parents' house as a response after hearing about my past girlfriends. She insisted that her parents would love me. I was hesitant, but deep down I wanted to believe her. And she was driving. While there was no weapons, her father stared into a newspaper like a statue. Her mom was cool; we were both teachers. Ultimately, my ex couldn't take the pressure, and honestly it kinda broke me on serious dating for a while.
Much love to you both because you look great together!
The last one, which I truly loved most, took me to her parents' house as a response after hearing about my past girlfriends. She insisted that her parents would love me. I was hesitant, but deep down I wanted to believe her. And she was driving. While there was no weapons, her father stared into a newspaper like a statue. Her mom was cool; we were both teachers. Ultimately, my ex couldn't take the pressure, and honestly it kinda broke me on serious dating for a while.
Much love to you both because you look great together!
sir_kevith
Member
Been reading a number of replies and honestly think it's better that you don't meet them if they are racist. Sounds like she's saving you from having to deal with some needless conflict and stress. Nobody needs that in their life.
WeAreStarStuff
Member
Update to this thread: I'm meeting them tomorrow morning. We'll see how this goes.....
Robot Carnival
Member
hopefully your fiance had changed their mind and they are more accepting of you now. good luck.
oh the other hand thou, in case if they're still racist A-holes, just get the whole deal over with and never talk to your fiance again about this matter. remember that you're marrying her, not her family and just endure through it.
oh the other hand thou, in case if they're still racist A-holes, just get the whole deal over with and never talk to your fiance again about this matter. remember that you're marrying her, not her family and just endure through it.
rokkerkory
Member
Best of luck man. You guys look really nice together tho!
darkinstinct
...lacks reading comprehension.
It will probably be perfectly fine. My experience is that racist people are mostly racist towards people they don't know. Once they think you are a decent guy that xenophobia disappears.
Earthbound64
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RastaMentality
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NoKisum
Member
Stay woke
They be creepin'
They gon' find you
Gon' catch ya sleeping
Oooh now stay woke
They be creepin'
Don't you close your eyes
SoldierOfLight
Member
It's really their loss OP. They want to hate another human being then that's on them.
My ex wife's parents never came to our wedding. Neither did any of her siblings. F em
My ex wife's parents never came to our wedding. Neither did any of her siblings. F em
Helen Keller the Musical
Member
Show them up by living well.
Martinski43
Member
Just drove by here to say that you are a lucky SoB and got a gorgeous fiancé.
Mexen
Member
Wishing you the very best, OP. The important thing at the end of the day is the love you share with your lady. Love is a powerful force and once they see it in you, it'll tug at whatever piece of decency they have.
Keep the love flowing and all the best in life. Keep shining.
I'm ashamed to say that this movie immediately came to my mind when I saw the update. LOL.
Keep the love flowing and all the best in life. Keep shining.
I'm ashamed to say that this movie immediately came to my mind when I saw the update. LOL.
Johnny Cage In The Shower
Member
Now we need the real update, how was the meeting how did things go?
I'll keep my eye on this thread.
I'll keep my eye on this thread.
RastaMentality
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I hope op is ok
Discourse
Member
My grandmother didn't want my mother to marry my father because he was Black with an afro but she did anyway. My father turned out to be a way better man than all the guys my aunts had to marry since their husbands all ended up alcoholics.
It's their loss. You can't change people, just live your life.
It's their loss. You can't change people, just live your life.
WeAreStarStuff
Member
They ended up canceling at the last minute, sigh. They gave a really lame excuse; this was actually the second weekend in a row that they've done this. If the meeting ever actually occurs I'll update this topic again. Sorry everyone.
You're probably better off really, as much as it sucks.
godhandiscen
There are millions of whiny 5-year olds on Earth, and I AM THEIR KING.
Brown Peruvian here. Don't mind the old people with the inferiority complex. Young generations find that embarrassing too.
Johnny Cage In The Shower
Member
You've been dating their daughter for 2.5 years, you're now engaged to her... and they've canceled TWICE to see and meet you in person? How busy are these people?
Sorry to say this OP, but these two have no respect for their own daughter, let alone you.
They seem socially inept and of course racist...
I have no idea what to say, but I wouldn't even want to live near these parents, they could try to manipulate and slowly fuck with your fiance's head, or at the least: annoy her, make her miserable any chance they get. (Canceling out on meeting you, being one of those manipulative tactics) My advice is, as soon as you get married, if you have the means, move out of town, don't live in the same town or even the country as the parent's. Separate yourself from them as far as you can.
They seem truly bad people( seed) I say out of sight, out of mind.
Don't waste your time with them ever again. Just take good care of your partner and enjoy your life together. Let them contact you whenever they are ready. Also don't let it bother you and your relationship will suffer and they will be the last once laughing. Move on
WinterIsComing
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The latest it'll happen is in the wedding day.
But from what i read, you're not missing much by not meeting them OP.
But from what i read, you're not missing much by not meeting them OP.
You can have my in-laws! HHEEEEYYYYOOOOO!!!!
But there loss, they'll come around eventually I think. Has your fiance ever 'torn into them' about it. I'd probably have blown up at my parents in a similar scenario. Good for her if she is still able to manage all this, and good on you for understanding this enough to be above it all.
But there loss, they'll come around eventually I think. Has your fiance ever 'torn into them' about it. I'd probably have blown up at my parents in a similar scenario. Good for her if she is still able to manage all this, and good on you for understanding this enough to be above it all.
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