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From Vice

We all have that friend: the beautiful, intelligent, driven woman who—like Katherine Heigl in every rom-com—can't find a decent date. Every guy she goes out with is an asshole; she consistently dates "below" her league, and she's on the verge of giving up on a committed relationship altogether.

Not long after he turned 30, the writer Jon Birger realized he and his wife knew a lot of women like that. The couple didn't have a lot of single male friends left, but the many single women they knew all seemed to be buyers stuck in a seller's market. One of those friends, Birger told me, "had been dating a guy for a couple years. It certainly seemed like they were well on their way to getting married. She was in her late 30s, he was in his mid 40s. She really wants to have kids, get married, the whole [thing]. And she's amazing in every way."

One day at lunch, Birger casually asked her about her boyfriend. "Her whole expression changed," Birger recalled. They had just broken up. "They'd been dating for over two years and he said he 'just wasn't ready to settle down.'"

This got Birger, a former economics writer for Fortune and Money, thinking: How could a man of that age be so cavalier about casting aside such an amazing woman? And why do we all have similar stories of incredible female friends trapped for years in dating hell? Why are there so many great single women? Where are all the great single men?

Related: This Group of Straight Men Is Swearing Off Women Because They Hate Feminism
Using his background in economics and statistics, Birger sought out an answer. The result is his new book, Date-onomics: How Dating Became a Lopsided Numbers Game, a clever read with a sobering conclusion: There simply aren't enough college-educated men to go around. For every four college-educated women in my generation, there are three college-educated men. The result? What Birger calls a "musical chairs" of the heart: As the men pair off with partners, unpartnered straight women are left with fewer and fewer options—and millions of them are eventually left with no options at all.

I sat down for a long talk with Birger and found out why boys aren't graduating from college, why your best friend is single, and why more women should consider moving to Silicon Valley.

To read more click the link below provided by Warren Moon

http://www.vice.com/read/youre-single-because-there-arent-enough-men-253?utm_source=vicefbus

 

[Crud]

Men swearing off women what the fuck am I reading?

 

[shadyspace]

My girlfriend is so lucky.

 

[The Technomancer]

Men swearing off women what the fuck am I reading.

As...interesting as that topic is, I don't think its statistically significant. The college education thing is a much bigger deal

 

[FO-totality]

Where are all the great single men?

Here? ;_;

 

[Kinyou]

For every four college-educated women in my generation, there are three college-educated men.

As the men pair off with partners, unpartnered straight women are left with fewer and fewer options—and millions of them are eventually left with no options at all.

Sounds like there are plenty of options, just not when you want someone college educated.

 

[Weiss]

Now all those heartless bitches will rue the day they ignored such a nice guy like me to date all those douchebags instead!

 

[Panthalassic]

Good thing I'm not looking for a man.

 

[freeofgreed]

Men swearing off women what the fuck am I reading.

Haha yeah I saw that story the other day. Good luck to them.

 

[Dennis]

Time to leverage our scarcity, GAF!

 

[zbarron]

Wow. I didn't realize my worth when I got married. I probably could have had my wife's family throw in a goat or two. Live and learn.

 

[highrider]

I didn't go to college, therefore the whole article is just confusing me.

 

[Subpar Spatula]

Just start dating each other.

 

[jsnepo]

Sounds like there are plenty of options, just not when you want someone college educated.

This right here. Hollywood is really just making this ridiculous standards.

 

[Booshka]

Look for an honest, hard working guy without a college degree, that way he can pay off your college loan debt.

 

[BLACK AMERICAN PSYCHO]

Sounds like there are plenty of options, just not when you want someone college educated.

Yup, I read that no matter how successful a women gets, they still have the desire to date up. That must be hard as hell to do.

 

[commedieu]

Ladies.. please forms a lines...

 

[robotrock]

I'm A Great Guy

 

[BronsonLee]

I knew I was rare!

 

[Zeus Molecules]

Its good to know this college degree is worth something to someone.....finally

 

[ZackieChan]

I have FOUR college degrees, ladies.

 

[Kiever Sher]

unpartnered straight women are left with fewer and fewer options—and millions of them are eventually left with no options at all.

Looks like it's my time to shine, wish me luck lads

 

[entremet]

I had a similar thread a few weeks ago.

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1102745&highlight=

It's by the same dude.

If you're a single woman, it would make more sense to move to SF or Seattle if you want a professional dude.

It's not that there not a enough men, it's the eligible men.

Statistically, women are less likely to marry down. It's a behavior that sociologist have observed for quite some time.

Kinda crazy that the retarded MGTOW movement is making this worse. I hope it's only a drop in the bucket, though.

 

[Subpar Spatula]

Its good to know this college degree is worth something to someone.....finally

Yeah, but you have to be established and working at Starbucks with a Ph.D won't win you anything.

I wonder if it's explicitly the degree or the illusion of one, being the man is well off enough that he looks successful.

 

[Zornack]

The Department of Education projects that by the class of 2023, there will be 47 percent more women than men [graduating from college]. That's three women for every two men, essentially.

These numbers are crazy. Something needs to be done to get more men through college and more women into manual labor.

 

[Cagey]

For every four college-educated women in my generation, there are three college-educated men. The result? What Birger calls a "musical chairs" of the heart: As the men pair off with partners, unpartnered straight women are left with fewer and fewer options—and millions of them are eventually left with no options at all.

What a delightfully classist and elitist sentiment deserving nothing but ridicule and mockery.

 

[ItIsOkBro]

My name is ItIsOkBro and I have a Bachelor of Computer Science

/pick-up line

 

[Fat4all]

I'm a hot commodity.

Come get me, ladies.

 

[Cizeta-Moroder]

What a delightfully classist and elitist sentiment deserving nothing but ridicule and mockery.

Really?

 

[Soriku]

Maybe they should marry other college educated women.

 

[Cagey]

Really?

Yes, really.

There's plenty to say about the alarming statistics of men attending college, and plenty to evaluate the ramifications of affirmative action (statistically demonstrated to disproportionately benefit middle class white women the most).

But that statement? "No options at all" because a college degree is a requirement? No options? Awful.

 

[entremet]

What a delightfully classist and elitist sentiment deserving nothing but ridicule and mockery.

It has to do that the sexes aren't egalitarian in their desires. It's slightly asymmetrical.

Of course there are exceptions, but men tend to sway more toward youth and looks and women toward economic achievement and potential in terms of priorities. Picking men with college educations is the heuristic used here.

Personally, I think is a poor rule of thumb, but it's used a filter for eligible men.

Hundreds of surveys have noticed these asymmetrical tendencies. OKTrends probably does the best testing on these preferences.

At the same, we also tend to value more of the same things too. It's just the top level things that are a bit different amongst heterosexual men and women.

 

[Fancy Clown]

If it's for the betterment of society I will take on a second girlfriend. Third even, If necessary.

 

[Surface of Me]

He asks how a man could let go of such an amazing woman, then a few sentences later equates 1/4 of the male population for a generation as "Not an option."

 

[Damerman]

If it's for the betterment of society I will take on a second girlfriend. Third even, If necessary.

explain this to your partner... there is no way she could disagree.

 

[Noirulus]

Women want too much in a relationship, maybe that's why? They want a near-perfect guy and not every guy can provide that.

 

[$h@d0w]

Kinda crazy that the retarded MGTOW movement is making this worse. I hope it's only a drop in the bucket, though.

Wat?

From what I understood, MGTOW is about self development for the purposes of becoming a more successful individual, it has nothing to do with dating women.

 

[Cizeta-Moroder]

Yes, really.

There's plenty to say about the alarming statistics of men attending college, and plenty to evaluate the ramifications of affirmative action (statistically demonstrated to disproportionately benefit middle class white women the most).

But that statement? "No options at all" because a college degree is a requirement? No options? Awful.

None eligible.
Men exhibit the same elitism, albeit regarding different attributes.
Basically what entrement said.

 

[Enter The 36 Chambers]

Women want too much in a relationship, maybe that's why? They want a near-perfect guy and not every guy can provide that.

What the hell are you even basing this on?

 

[anaron]

yay classism

 

[DedValve]

I'm gay. My life is a cocoon of loneliness outside the hookups. ;_;

I feel your pain lonely women.

 

[More Fun To Compute]

Women are turned on by men who are incredibly hot or by men with a better career than them. The logic isn't hard with that assumption.

 

[K.Sabot]

I bet you the grass eating men syndrome is slowly creeping up on American men, not that I think that's a bad thing imo.

 

[John Kowalski]

i'm an option

Wat?

From what I understood, MGTOW is about self development for the purposes of becoming a more successful individual, it has nothing to do with dating women.

woosh

 

[oneils]

Wat?

From what I understood, MGTOW is about self development for the purposes of becoming a more successful individual, it has nothing to do with dating women.

Just google any of the various mgtow blogs out there. They are very similar to the red pill sites and blogs. Many of them are mysoginistic.

 

[andymcc]

Wat?

From what I understood, MGTOW is about self development for the purposes of becoming a more successful individual, it has nothing to do with dating women.

It's a bunch of baby men purposefully exiting the dating pool because of mean internet feminists.

 

[kadotsu]

This article seems pertinent to this dilemma:

http://www.theonion.com/article/woman-relieved-soulmate-turned-out-be-same-socioec-50946

 

[firebricks3]

I read articles like these, then I look at popular pay dating sites. Either I'm missing something, or it doesn't add up.

 

[Agnostic]

Time to lower your standards or become the cat lady.

 

[HariKari]

Similar, just as good articles:

Recent years have seen an explosion of male joblessness and a steep decline in men’s life prospects that have disrupted the “romantic market” in ways that narrow a marriage-minded woman’s options: increasingly, her choice is between deadbeats (whose numbers are rising) and playboys (whose power is growing). But this strange state of affairs also presents an opportunity: as the economy evolves, it’s time to embrace new ideas about romance and family—and to acknowledge the end of “traditional” marriage as society’s highest ideal.

All the Single Ladies

People used to meet their partners through proximity, through family and friends, but now Internet meeting is surpassing every other form. “It’s changing so much about the way we act both romantically and sexually,” Garcia says. “It is unprecedented from an evolutionary standpoint.” As soon as people could go online they were using it as a way to find partners to date and have sex with. In the 90s it was Craigslist and AOL chat rooms, then Match.com and Kiss.com. But the lengthy, heartfelt e-mails exchanged by the main characters in You’ve Got Mail (1998) seem positively Victorian in comparison to the messages sent on the average dating app today.

Tinder and the Dawn of the “Dating Apocalypse”


tl;dr economic stressors combine with new ways to be picky to screw over all but the most desirable.

I read articles like these, then I look at popular pay dating sites. Either I'm missing something, or it doesn't add up.

I think female participation in online dating really lags behind men, so it's not surprising.