Looking to get some opinions from others on this since I think don't really have an especially well founded position, it's more of a gut feeling that I just don't like plastic surgery on principle. But I think it's possible that this is merely down to been from a western culture (she's chinese) where we seem to place a lot of emphasis on "natural" beauty, perhaps unnecessarily, and maybe I should be being more open minded about it.
It's a self esteem issue for her. I have to be a little careful with how I word this because she probably will read it but her mother is....well in my opinion she's an awful mum, partly because she has been telling my gf her whole life that she if not pretty enough to find a husband, talking shit about her dad for giving her bad genes, etc. Objectively speaking she may not have supermodel good looks but she's beautiful to me and I don't need her to change a thing about herself.
I wish she could feel good about the way she looks now, but I can totally understand why she is insecure because of her mum, and if it is gonna be a help to her then maybe I should just be supportive? Then again I have the worry I could be a slippery slope where once you change one thing there'll always be something else you don't like and wanna change. Plus there is the chance of it going bad, but I really have no idea how common an occurrence that is.
It's a self esteem issue for her. I have to be a little careful with how I word this because she probably will read it but her mother is....well in my opinion she's an awful mum, partly because she has been telling my gf her whole life that she if not pretty enough to find a husband, talking shit about her dad for giving her bad genes, etc. Objectively speaking she may not have supermodel good looks but she's beautiful to me and I don't need her to change a thing about herself.
I wish she could feel good about the way she looks now, but I can totally understand why she is insecure because of her mum, and if it is gonna be a help to her then maybe I should just be supportive? Then again I have the worry I could be a slippery slope where once you change one thing there'll always be something else you don't like and wanna change. Plus there is the chance of it going bad, but I really have no idea how common an occurrence that is.